Degrading or hot?

[DirkCamacho]

A lot of porno blowjob scenes show a woman sucking a man’s dick, and he takes his hand on her head and forces her to choke on his cock. Literally he forces his dick down her throat and she makes choking sounds. I find that degrading and I won’t watch those scenes. It seems to be happening more and more in the last year or two. Do women like having that done to them?

Also I love cumshots, but on a lot of cumshots the guy cums on the girl’s face, and she tries to avoid it. It’s one thing if the girl likes it, but on so many facial scenes the girl is just wishing it to be over when the guy is splooging in her eye and up her nose. It’s not hot for me, but some people like that, I guess. Facials are only hot when the woman likes them IMO.

Lastly, sometimes you will see guys with huge cocks penetrating women who don’t seem to like it. They’re whining, not moaning. Their faces are pained, not happy. It looks painful and uncomfortable for these girls. They have their hand on the guy, trying to keep him away. Is that hot? The best big cock scenes are the ones where the woman is obviously into it, and can accommodate his huge tool.

Maybe all this stuff just makes me uber vanilla. Is it too weird to think that women should like whatever guys are doing to them?

 

[magicalmoments]

I agree with this sentiment. I'm a bisexual male. I enjoy giving blowjobs. If the guy I was blowing forced my head in that way he'd find he had serious teeth marks on his cock, he'd never do it again!

 

[Britva415]

Is it too weird to think that women should like whatever guys are doing to them?

Yeah, that is weird. Women and men should communicate about what they like, and respect when their partner says they don't like something.

Porn is an act. Those women you see crying and choking are doing it voluntarily. The tears might be involuntary (have you ever really choked on a dick?) but the rest of the act, whether they're looking like they like it or they don't, either way, it's all for the camera.Some directors will tell them to look like they like it. Some will tell them to look like they don't. From what you see on the screen, you can't draw any conclusions at all regarding whether they like it or not.

 

[DrHappy]

We think alike with this topic. I’d much rather see a girl enthusiastically devouring a cock over a guy grabbing her head and forcing it into her mouth. It’s the same for facials for me. I’d much rather see a girl begging for it than having it imposed on her. I love it when the girl grabs his cock after the facial, and then uses the tip of it to smear the cum over her face before taking it affectionately back into her mouth with a smile on her lips.

Regardless as to whether it’s an act, I’d rather see scenes that portray a couple that is enthusiastically participating in mutually consensual behavior. I get it that some women get off on being treated this way, but it’s not my thing. There is no shortage of non-vanilla activities that don’t involve forced behavior, whether it’s real or acting.

 

[DirkCamacho]

We think alike with this topic. I’d much rather see a girl enthusiastically devouring a cock over a guy grabbing her head and forcing it into her mouth. It’s the same for facials for me. I’d much rather see a girl begging for it than having it imposed on her. I love it when the girl grabs his cock after the facial, and then uses the tip of it to smear the cum over her face before taking it affectionately back into her mouth with a smile on her lips.

Regardless as to whether it’s an act, I’d rather see scenes that portray a couple that is enthusiastically participating in mutually consensual behavior. I get it that some women get off on being treated this way, but it’s not my thing. There is no shortage of non-vanilla activities that don’t involve forced behavior, whether it’s real or acting.

Thank you! It's good to know I'm not an outlier.

 

[gtnlynn]

Degrading. My wife would never allow that. She experienced it in college and was too inexperienced to make him stop. The next time he tried it, she threatened to use her teeth and he stopped.

 

[Escierto]

I love it when my girlfriend holds my head down on her groin as she skull fucks me. I like feeling that she is forcing me to suck her and use me as a human fleshlight. To me it shows she is dominant and I am her submissive cocksucker.

 

[Wylie3]

Much prefer when a young lady is in full control and enjoying the cock she is sucking with her eyes wide open showing her pleasure and not being held in place. And when that cock erupts she either takes it all in the mouth to play with before swallowing, or lets the cum coat her face and tits before sliding the cock back in her mouth to continue enjoying while her face is plastered, very erotic.

 

[BBTnS]

I’m bi and absolutely hate it when I guy tries to shove his cock too far down my throat… and I used to feel the same about it in porn… but my wife loves being “face fucked” (especially by other guys - I think because I’m too gentle!)
I think the fact that it is degrading that makes it hot…

 

[Yesok1]

My partner and I use toys. She can't feel the blow job I give. So we use it more for erotic play. It's a show I put on for her, and I take it so deep I have to release before I gag, it makes me form heavy drool which we use in our play.

She was very hesitant at first, but I've told her it's ok to force me. We communicated, now I know how to prepare us both so that we both have fun.

Before we met she never used toys, and was pretty naive when it came to sizes and their uses. She is now an expert and we both have fun.

When I was straight I never gave a man head, I didn't like it and it never appealed. I know why now.

With porn, I think a lot of that is acting. Pushing boundaries for more diverse views as people get more desensitised to the vanilla sex that's available.

These are just my views on the subject.

IRL communication
In porn it's acting for the camera

 

[LMWM321]

No... nothing wrong with preferring porn where both participants are enjoying what's going on. I'm in the same camp - it's the only porn I'll watch.

Restraining someone who is trying to pull away from giving head or forcing them down deeper than they'd like causing them to gag strikes me as rape - plain and simple. I'm not referring to the agreed upon rough-play that some couples engage in and mutually enjoy, I'm talking about the scenes in porn where the intended turn on for the viewer is watching someone being forced to do something they don't want to do.

For me to enjoy a porn scene it must be convincingly consensual and mutually enjoyed. ..I don't want to see force, fear, panic, degradation, etc.. It doesn't matter if it's just acting, those scenarios just make me wince.

 

[likitisplit]

i feel the same. it's getting harder to watch. i think maybe producers want it written that way at times to see what people think. the porn stars are paid to do what is said. most obviously don't like it.

 

[StrongMaster7]

Interesting question. I agree that porn is an act, a performance. The men and women are acting. Now, some are better actors than others. And I'm sure the actors enjoy some activities more than others.

In real life, no one should ever be forced to do anything they don't want to. In performance, an actor can pretend to enjoy or not enjoy an act. They may actually enjoy it or not. But that actor has agreed to do the act. So, porn is not (in most cases) rape.

I'm sure some actors endure acts they don't enjoy just like other employees.

Is porn that shows performers being 'forced' to do things degrading? That's your opinion. I'm sure porn is not the happiest industry, but it is a job.

In your personal life, of course you should only act with consent and regard for your partner's feelings.

 

[Islander55]

Unless it is an agreed upon scene and preferable one that the woman wants, it is degrading. I am not usually much into porn but I would find these type of scenes uncomfortable. Actually I simple would not watch them. I can enjoy watching good sex where both are into the scene but something that is forced would be a turnoff.

 

[DirkCamacho]

I love it when my girlfriend holds my head down on her groin as she skull fucks me. I like feeling that she is forcing me to suck her and use me as a human fleshlight. To me it shows she is dominant and I am her submissive cocksucker.

Your girlfriend knows you like it, right?

 

[DirkCamacho]

I understand porn is an act. The actors, if they are good, are showing what the director wants. Their real feelings are not on display. So the question remains, why do the filmmakers want to show degrading acts with uncomfortable partners? There are whole genres for that. If I want to see someone not enjoying sex, I can look for it. Is it too much to assume that, unless a scene is labeled otherwise, everyone on screen should be having fun? Why are filmmakers pushing this throat choking stuff?

 

[LMWM321]

Why are filmmakers pushing this throat choking stuff?

They push it b/c it sells - which is quite the sad commentary. There's no denying the incredibly wide-spread misogyny in porn. ...Throat choking, gagging, spitting in someones face/ mouth.. ..Ugh. It all gives porn a bad name.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

A lot of porno blowjob scenes show a woman sucking a man’s dick, and he takes his hand on her head and forces her to choke on his cock. Literally he forces his dick down her throat and she makes choking sounds. I find that degrading and I won’t watch those scenes. It seems to be happening more and more in the last year or two. Do women like having that done to them?

Also I love cumshots, but on a lot of cumshots the guy cums on the girl’s face, and she tries to avoid it. It’s one thing if the girl likes it, but on so many facial scenes the girl is just wishing it to be over when the guy is splooging in her eye and up her nose. It’s not hot for me, but some people like that, I guess. Facials are only hot when the woman likes them IMO.

Lastly, sometimes you will see guys with huge cocks penetrating women who don’t seem to like it. They’re whining, not moaning. Their faces are pained, not happy. It looks painful and uncomfortable for these girls. They have their hand on the guy, trying to keep him away. Is that hot? The best big cock scenes are the ones where the woman is obviously into it, and can accommodate his huge tool.

Maybe all this stuff just makes me uber vanilla. Is it too weird to think that women should like whatever guys are doing to them?

I only like stuff where everyone is having a good time.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

All acts that involve forcing someone to choke on a cock or choking a partner during sex is degrading, both in real life and in porn. For me it's a total turn off and akin to rape or sexual assault. It's all about domination and unfortunately that's what some guys like to do and like to watch. I believe that there are a couple of reasons for that: (1) It makes them feel superior, and (2) they have a deep-seated disrespect for other people.

I do enjoy watching facials and bukkake, but, as has already been said, I want to see the receiver enjoying or at least feigning enjoyment (if that's what they're being paid to do). I, too, want to see people enjoying and/or agreeing to sexual acts.

 

[PhiloDaddy]

One of my subs wears her hair long specifically so I can grab a fistful and make her choke on my cock. She loves it and I love whatever she wants me to do with her.

Another sub wants me to choke her on my cock but we haven't met IRL yet. Of course she enjoys degradation.

 

[Escierto]

Your girlfriend knows you like it, right?

Yes, she knows that I like it.

 

[Sunnyade]

I love it when my girlfriend holds my head down on her groin as she skull fucks me. I like feeling that she is forcing me to suck her and use me as a human fleshlight. To me it shows she is dominant and I am her submissive cocksucker.

I love it when I'm just a wet hole for his cock

 

[lil_jenni]

Just because it's degrading doesn't mean it can't be hot too.

Sometimes, I like porn like that, just like sometimes I like to be used like that. Of course, I trust my Hubby to have my best interest in mind. Then again, I'm the one who (sometimes) likes to be forced and he just goes along, so it's not hard for him to keep my best interest in mind. It could be very different if I didn't trust him the way I do, at least these days. When I was younger, I would have accepted it even if it was not what I wanted at the moment.

 

[J1biboi]

A lot of porno blowjob scenes show a woman sucking a man’s dick, and he takes his hand on her head and forces her to choke on his cock. Literally he forces his dick down her throat and she makes choking sounds. I find that degrading and I won’t watch those scenes. It seems to be happening more and more in the last year or two. Do women like having that done to them?

Also I love cumshots, but on a lot of cumshots the guy cums on the girl’s face, and she tries to avoid it. It’s one thing if the girl likes it, but on so many facial scenes the girl is just wishing it to be over when the guy is splooging in her eye and up her nose. It’s not hot for me, but some people like that, I guess. Facials are only hot when the woman likes them IMO.

Lastly, sometimes you will see guys with huge cocks penetrating women who don’t seem to like it. They’re whining, not moaning. Their faces are pained, not happy. It looks painful and uncomfortable for these girls. They have their hand on the guy, trying to keep him away. Is that hot? The best big cock scenes are the ones where the woman is obviously into it, and can accommodate his huge tool.

Maybe all this stuff just makes me uber vanilla. Is it too weird to think that women should like whatever guys are doing to them?

I couldn't agree more. If a girl or a guy can and wants to deep throat a big cock, that's great. But having one forced down your throat is just too violent. And I've never understood the cum on face thing, but I guess some people like it.

 

[lil_jenni]

Just because it's degrading doesn't mean it can't be hot too.

Sometimes, I like porn like that, just like sometimes I like to be used like that. Of course, I trust my Hubby to have my best interest in mind. Then again, I'm the one who (sometimes) likes to be forced and he just goes along, so it's not hard for him to keep my best interest in mind. It could be very different if I didn't trust him the way I do, at least these days. When I was younger, I would have accepted it even if it was not what I wanted at the moment.

To add to my comment, I was just writing above about the deepthroat stuff. I do get a bit squeamish/turned off when it looks like vaginal sex is painful. But that's because it used to be that way for me unless I was drunk, so it's nothing I like to watch. I know how it feels when every movement of a cock inside your pussy causes pain, and not a good kind.

On the other hand, I don't mind seeing some pain in anal porn, because I like that pain, at least if it's just at first... or if anal goes a long time and it's that gooooood ache...

I know, I'm weird... and contradictory. But weird is fun and the most interesting things in life come from contradictions.