Defining Love

[GiveawayGirl]

Maybe if you're a gorilla!!!
Ok, that does include me

No way MT....I think of you more as a cuddly koala most of the time

 

[midwestyankee]

That defines unconditional love for me.....which I reserve solely for my children. I have to draw the line somewhere!

I think one of the truly great dangers in a developing love is to draw too many lines. Lines are imaginary and generally run from a useless point to a meaningless point in the space of a relationship.

It is only when one erases the lines (another way to describe letting go and giving in, I think) that the relationship can have access to the nourishment it needs to grow into forever.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

I think one of the truly great dangers in a developing love is to draw too many lines. Lines are imaginary and generally run from a useless point to a meaningless point in the space of a relationship.

It is only when one erases the lines (another way to describe letting go and giving in, I think) that the relationship can have access to the nourishment it needs to grow into forever.

I do agree with you to a point Yankee, but consider this:

Without those lines to cross, how does one truly know if their love is growing and maturing or becoming stagnant?

 

[MT_Pitcher]

I do agree with you to a point Yankee, but consider this:

Without those lines to cross, how does one truly know if their love is growing and maturing or becoming stagnant?

Maybe instead of drawing lines, we should think of them as waypoints, giving directions on how to proceed.

 

[midwestyankee]

I do agree with you to a point Yankee, but consider this:

Without those lines to cross, how does one truly know if their love is growing and maturing or becoming stagnant?

Some lines are built into our psyches and personalities. When we see that we are willing to cross these lines, we can tell that the relationship is maturing and growing.

It's when we draw up artificial lines that we endanger the relationship.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Some lines are built into our psyches and personalities. When we see that we are willing to cross these lines, we can tell that the relationship is maturing and growing.

It's when we draw up artificial lines that we endanger the relationship.

But a good deal of the time those "artificial" lines, which I consider to be more "self-imposed" lines, serve a purpose. Without the safety that they may bring a partner, the relationship may not ever grow at all because the partner is not ready to grow the relationship as quickly as another might be.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Maybe instead of drawing lines, we should think of them as waypoints, giving directions on how to proceed.

Waypoints are probably more accurate MT. In my mind's eye I see them as lines simply because I imagine the journey as a path and I am moving to and beyong the lines, like mile markers.

 

[MT_Pitcher]

But a good deal of the time those "artificial" lines, which I consider to be more "self-imposed" lines, serve a purpose. Without the safety that they may bring a partner, the relationship may not ever grow at all because the partner is not ready to grow the relationship as quickly as another might be.

Some lines are good and necessary..
It's when you turn them into walls that you have problems.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Some lines are good and necessary..
It's when you turn them into walls that you have problems.

Even walls are not insurmountable with enough patience and enough work to bring them down. I think it again comes back to comfort and security.....having them allows you to take the risks necessary to progress.

 

[MT_Pitcher]

Even walls are not insurmountable with enough patience and enough work to bring them down. I think it again comes back to comfort and security.....having them allows you to take the risks necessary to progress.

Walls CAN be brought down with enough time and patience.
But if you leave them up too long, they can get awfully strong and very hard to break. My own inner wall has been there for many years, far too many, and is just beginning to show the cracks now.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Walls CAN be brought down with enough time and patience.
But if you leave them up too long, they can get awfully strong and very hard to break. My own inner wall has been there for many years, far too many, and is just beginning to show the cracks now.

There are days that I think mine may be built of granite. There are definitely cracks in mine but the frightening part is that I am not sure I want them to come down. I still remember what caused them to be built and it was too much work, I don't want to do it again. They are finely constructed, what a waste it would be to destroy them.

 

[midwestyankee]

But a good deal of the time those "artificial" lines, which I consider to be more "self-imposed" lines, serve a purpose. Without the safety that they may bring a partner, the relationship may not ever grow at all because the partner is not ready to grow the relationship as quickly as another might be.

You're right.

 

[MT_Pitcher]

There are days that I think mine may be built of granite. There are definitely cracks in mine but the frightening part is that I am not sure I want them to come down. I still remember what caused them to be built and it was too much work, I don't want to do it again. They are finely constructed, what a waste it would be to destroy them.

Therein lies the problem...
They get too comfortable.. If all you seek is comfort, then you can live with the walls. But don't you just wonder, is there more??

 

[GiveawayGirl]

You're right.

OMG......mark it down DLers.......Yank made a typo and said I was right about something in the same day!

Seriously Yank, thank you.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Therein lies the problem...
They get too comfortable.. If all you seek is comfort, then you can live with the walls. But don't you just wonder, is there more??

I know there is more MT. I've had it, I've felt it, and when it was gone, it broke me. Perhaps just knowing it exists and having experienced at some point is enough.

 

[midwestyankee]

OMG......mark it down DLers.......Yank made a typo and said I was right about something in the same day!

Seriously Yank, thank you.

My vision is not so poor that I can't see brilliance.

 

[MT_Pitcher]

I know there is more MT. I've had it, I've felt it, and when it was gone, it broke me. Perhaps just knowing it exists and having experienced at some point is enough.

I wish I could remember.....

 

[GiveawayGirl]

My vision is not so poor that I can't see brilliance.

Why thank you.........and here I thought I was the only one who saw it

 

[GiveawayGirl]

I wish I could remember.....

Maybe you cannot remember because, in its truest sense, it has yet to come to you.

 

[MT_Pitcher]

Maybe you cannot remember because, in its truest sense, it has yet to come to you.

It is possible......
Or just so long ago my senilty has lost it

 

[GiveawayGirl]

It is possible......
Or just so long ago my senilty has lost it

I vote for better things yet to come to you.

 

[MT_Pitcher]

I vote for better things yet to come to you.

How about for both of us??

 

[GiveawayGirl]

How about for both of us??

I've had my chance MT. I think some things remain profound because of their uniqueness.

 

[MT_Pitcher]

I've had my chance MT. I think some things remain profound because of their uniqueness.

Sweetheart, even lightning really can strike in the same place twice!! That doesn't mean that each strike isn't unique!

Keep your dream alive and never quit.
(or you'll find yourself across my lap!!!)

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Sweetheart, even lightning really can strike in the same place twice!! That doesn't mean that each strike isn't unique!

Keep your dream alive and never quit.
(or you'll find yourself across my lap!!!)

I quit, I quit, I quit, I quit, I quit, I quit, I quit