Defining Love

[midwestyankee]

Re: Love is many things

Right now, love is still feeling that ache when we hang up the phone, even though we've been living together for almost two years.

I find it ironic that we had the same aches of being apart, even before we met!

At least these trips bring him back home to me, and it's such a wonderful feeling to actually SHARE your love with someone.

Some people are just not capable of SHARING, and love becomes a tug-of-war and a painful experience.

I still love the man I felt I was in love with (for 8 years), but it is quite different than the love I discovered when Oman loved me in return!

Love changes, but so do people, and life in general. Love is not having to worry about it not being there, but growing along with both of you.

Does this make sense?

This makes perfect sense, Jenny. Welcome to the thread.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

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Love changes, but so do people, and life in general. Love is not having to worry about it not being there, but growing along with both of you.

This is the line that spoke to me the most. To me it speaks of security. When you feel secure with the one you love then it allows you to share more of yourself freely and without reservation. Unencumbered love can grow and flourish into something strong and steady.

Welcome Jenny

 

[~Dream~]

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Right now, love is still feeling that ache when we hang up the phone, even though we've been living together for almost two years.

I find it ironic that we had the same aches of being apart, even before we met!

At least these trips bring him back home to me, and it's such a wonderful feeling to actually SHARE your love with someone.

Some people are just not capable of SHARING, and love becomes a tug-of-war and a painful experience.

I still love the man I felt I was in love with (for 8 years), but it is quite different than the love I discovered when Oman loved me in return!

Love changes, but so do people, and life in general. Love is not having to worry about it not being there, but growing along with both of you.

Does this make sense?

I'm never far enough apart From Dracoa to miss him all that much!! LOL

I do Miss him terrible when he goes to work ,however I also love the feeling of Missing him ,because the Joy of seeing him return home is so wonderful,esp On friday nights when I am already fast asleep,and he just cuddles into bed beside me to wrap me into his arms..

Love is thinking of the other person's feelings and putting them ahead of your own...I still believe we all worry,no matter what anyone says ,it's just a natural thing ...at least for ppl who have been hurt before ,it is..

 

[~Dream~]

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I'm never far enough apart From Dracoa to miss him all that much!! LOL

I do Miss him terrible when he goes to work ,however I also love the feeling of Missing him ,because the Joy of seeing him return home is so wonderful,esp On friday nights when I am already fast asleep,and he just cuddles into bed beside me to wrap me into his arms..

Love is thinking of the other person's feelings and putting them ahead of your own...I still believe we all worry,no matter what anyone says ,it's just a natural thing ...at least for ppl who have been hurt before ,it is..

** Edited to add,I think maybe there are different levels of security we feel and maybe they increase with time GG, ya think that's possible?? For instance when Dracoa 1st came to live with me,I wasnt gonna let him just take off anywhere with my son,Till my son felt more comfy with him ,ya know??

 

[DLL]

Re: Re: Love is many things

Originally posted by GiveawayGirl
This is the line that spoke to me the most. To me it speaks of security. When you feel secure with the one you love then it allows you to share more of yourself freely and without reservation. Unencumbered love can grow and flourish into something strong and steady.

Welcome Jenny

good morning GG
welcome jenny strong words indeed....I have always admired you and O--- you two define love for sure...



heres a new poem i have been working on..here goes..sit down because its profound.....


Roses are black
black as stealth
Quick looking at me
and play with yourself

ahhh wipes the tear from my eye..its a masterpiece

 

[~Dream~]

I really dont know If any 1 couple can define love cause it's so profound ,however Jenny and O have been thru tough times ,as we all have ..that's for sure


welcome to the thread Jen

 

[DLL]

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Originally posted by ~Dream~
** Edited to add,I think maybe there are different levels of security we feel and maybe they increase with time GG, ya think that's possible?? For instance when Dracoa 1st came to live with me,I wasnt gonna let him just take off anywhere with my son,Till my son felt more comfy with him ,ya know??

yes i understand that completely Dream.... your thoughts pose a q in my mind..and here it is:

At the beginning of a relationship, do you trust your lover unless there is something specific to make you do otherwise, or do you withhold your trust until he/she earns it???

 

[GiveawayGirl]

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good morning GG
welcome jenny strong words indeed....I have always admired you and O--- you two define love for sure...



heres a new poem i have been working on..here goes..sit down because its profound.....


Roses are black
black as stealth
Quick looking at me
and play with yourself

ahhh wipes the tear from my eye..its a masterpiece

Mornin' DLL

I actually love this poem, can I borrow it sometime?

 

[Cathleen]

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Originally posted by JennyOmanHill
Love changes, but so do people, and life in general. Love is not having to worry about it not being there, but growing along with both of you.


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This is the line that spoke to me the most. To me it speaks of security. When you feel secure with the one you love then it allows you to share more of yourself freely and without reservation. Unencumbered love can grow and flourish into something strong and steady.

Welcome Jenny

Both of these posts seem so clear to me - to the point of hitting myself on the head and saying "gee it sounds so simple". I know it isn't simple but it is so basic and profound. Thanks to both of you.

I wonder just how one becomes so secure in their relationship, is it a letting go or a giving into that brings the security?

 

[GiveawayGirl]

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** Edited to add,I think maybe there are different levels of security we feel and maybe they increase with time GG, ya think that's possible?? For instance when Dracoa 1st came to live with me,I wasnt gonna let him just take off anywhere with my son,Till my son felt more comfy with him ,ya know??

I definitely agree Dream. I think security, like other components of love, grows with time. As with your situation with your son, security is dependent on trust.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

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yes i understand that completely Dream.... your thoughts pose a q in my mind..and here it is:

At the beginning of a relationship, do you trust your lover unless there is something specific to make you do otherwise, or do you withhold your trust until he/she earns it???

I personally think that if you withhold the trust, then the relationship cannot grow and mature.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

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quote:
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Originally posted by JennyOmanHill
Love changes, but so do people, and life in general. Love is not having to worry about it not being there, but growing along with both of you.


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Both of these posts seem so clear to me - to the point of hitting myself on the head and saying "gee it sounds so simple". I know it isn't simple but it is so basic and profound. Thanks to both of you.

I wonder just how one becomes so secure in their relationship, is it a letting go or a giving into that brings the security?

For someone who is so clear, I have to admit I have no idea

Mornin' Cathleen

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by ~Dream~
I really dont know If any 1 couple can define love cause it's so profound ,however Jenny and O have been thru tough times ,as we all have ..that's for sure


welcome to the thread Jen

as well as you and Brian define love too...





i am still working daily on my own definition of love

 

[midwestyankee]

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I wonder just how one becomes so secure in their relationship, is it a letting go or a giving into that brings the security?

I don't think it's one or the other, Cathleen. You have to let go of whatever is inside you that is blocking complete trust. At the same time, you have to give in to the sweet tension between fear and trust before you will find the unencumbered love that GG so eloquently described.

 

[~Dream~]

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quote:
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Originally posted by JennyOmanHill
Love changes, but so do people, and life in general. Love is not having to worry about it not being there, but growing along with both of you.


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Both of these posts seem so clear to me - to the point of hitting myself on the head and saying "gee it sounds so simple". I know it isn't simple but it is so basic and profound. Thanks to both of you.

I wonder just how one becomes so secure in their relationship, is it a letting go or a giving into that brings the security?

I .personally think it's a letting go of the fear,and thats Not an easy thing to do when one has a history of being hurt,let me tell ya ,but giving in to the love ya feel and concentrating on the Good ,is a very wonderful thing indeed

 

[DLL]

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Originally posted by GiveawayGirl
Mornin' DLL

I actually love this poem, can I borrow it sometime?

of course GG....play alittle sinatra while reading it to your S/O..perfect just perfect

 

[MT_Pitcher]

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good morning GG
welcome jenny strong words indeed....I have always admired you and O--- you two define love for sure...



heres a new poem i have been working on..here goes..sit down because its profound.....


Roses are black
black as stealth
Quick looking at me
and play with yourself

ahhh wipes the tear from my eye..its a masterpiece

Roses are red and
Attract many a bee
Stop doing that and
Come play with me

Another masterpiece......

 

[GiveawayGirl]

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Roses are red and
Attract many a bee
Sto doing that and
Come play with me

Another masterpiece......

Oh my, dueling ditties

Morning MT

 

[GiveawayGirl]

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of course GG....play alittle sinatra while reading it to your S/O..perfect just perfect

Thanks! I'll owe you the credit for enhancing my love life (or serious lack thereof)

 

[~Dream~]

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yes i understand that completely Dream.... your thoughts pose a q in my mind..and here it is:

At the beginning of a relationship, do you trust your lover unless there is something specific to make you do otherwise, or do you withhold your trust until he/she earns it???

at the beginning of a relationship ,I do trust my man ,to a certain extent tho, as the deeper trust IS EARNED ..For instance ,Brian is now On ,my savings acct at my bank so he has access to My money as well , and he has earned that ...when he 1st came here 2 yrs ago ,that would be a no-brainer...as far as my children or any personal info on me goes ,that's also earned ..My heart and feelings I give freely,however, fuck me over and have fun getting back in my 'Good ' graces,lol ..THATS what James did ,he messed with my heart and I trusted him ...after all we have been friends over 3 years,however I do Forgive him,But I wont forget being hurt....I think thats a matter of personal protection for me now...and I see and FEEL who makes me feel safe and loved ,until it develops over time tho,One never really knows ,I think the difficulties faced TOGETHER and shared are what makes the relationship stronger...Communication and Honesty are a MUST ..If anyone says they blindly just TRUST someone..they are only fooling themselves..IMHO ....I trust my kids and myself....Other than that ..It's earned..

 

[MT_Pitcher]

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Oh my, dueling ditties

Morning MT

Thought you said dueling something else...
Oh...... well then.....
Kind of like dueling banjos, but without the wit!

 

[~Dream~]

Roses are red
I dont really care
why dont ya just Come
take off my underwear??

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by ~Dream~
Roses are red
I dont really care
why dont ya just Come
take off my underwear??

LOLLLLLLLL

Roses are red
Violets are blue
I've got hayfever
Hatchooooooooo!!!!

 

[GiveawayGirl]

OMG....you guys are cracking me up. But I imagine poor Yank is having a coronary about now as he watches is well-intended thread take a nosedive

Just remember Yank, to know us is to love us!

 

[DLL]

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Originally posted by MT_Pitcher
Thought you said dueling something else...
Oh...... well then.....
Kind of like dueling banjos, but without the wit!

Hi MT you Mt i have been meaning to ask you ..I have travelled quite a bit in my day and I have never heard of that city in MI....