Defining Love

[~Dream~]

Development Of Love...

You can not appreciate what you do not recognize. Be receptive to love. With open arms allow love to flow in and out. With closed arms you hold only yourself.

Perfect love gives and does not expect. When love expects pain results since our human response to love will be imperfect.

Love is patient. Each person has a different capacity to love based on their experiences. Love risks rejection - but love is worth giving even if it is rejected.

Love is spontaneous, shows emotion, can cry, laugh, hug; love is a great human emotion.

As a loving person you do not need to be perfect -- just human. Recognize the needs of others and admit your own need to love and be loved. Accept others as real people even if you do not like some of their actions.

Love is not jealous but desires the best for the other even if that hurts us.

To Love is to be real, to be human and to be fully alive !!



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[~Dream~]

and even MORE thoughts on Love ...

Love and intimacy is a deep human hunger and necessity God gave us for our best gift to one another. Without love we are often very lonely in life.

Maximum love is a learned skill, a growing process in a relationship of Trust, honesty, respect and kindness.

Trust is knowing another will not hurt or reject me if I reveal my deepest weakness but will try and be actively involved in my growth.

Love invites, encourages, smiles, makes each other feel good about ourselves. We can go out in the world and do what we wish and have the courage to be all we can be. Results in accepting ourselves when we fail, knowing we are still loved which brings us the self confidence to try again and not be overcome with fear of failure.

Emotional responsibility is the loving response to the vulnerability in openness to each other. The more one is able to say "Hey, this is me, I don't have to hide or pretend", the more there is true love.

Sometimes we reject a loving friends advice because we don't want to hear the truth. With love we can still be friends and discuss the concerns of life and share each others visions from their perspective and respect their views. We must listen with an open mind. We must desire honesty in others and stop the games we often play.

Love is sharing when passing through pain to deeper understanding. When we get to a hard place in life, full of pain, we want to go around it not through it. We want to ignore the problem. The energy we want to spend on escaping can instead be used on revelation -going through the problem finding solutions and becoming stronger because of the tough times of life.

A loving person is sensitive and looks for wounded hearts around us. A hurting person often needs a loving arm around the shoulder, or a sincere hug and "How are you really? Want to talk ? A hand held out, an invitation to join in, into love, into a loving group, into sharing, into involvement and growth.

In a loving friendship giving sexual pleasure can be a wonderful expression of love. In true love sex is not selfish, which is lust. Loving sex is when both are emotionally ready to share this deepest and most fulfilling level of intimacy and is not just physical passion.

In love we must each still maintain our own unique individuality. Loves does not control or dominate a person but seeks what's best for the other.

There is no such thing as perfect love because we are all imperfect people. We will not be perfect, we can only work on growth.

Only those who feel good about themselves can experience the best of love. We should help each other build confidence in our self image. When we are down on ourselves what we see in the mirror becomes distorted - we are unable to see the beauty in ourselves that is truly there.

The best gift we can share with another is the experience of love, in a friendship, casual relationship or in marriage. When we give love we usually receive even more love . Love doesn't need to be saved, it is like knowledge, the more we share the more we get by interacting with others. When we give love away, we don't have less but more.


Never ever Give Up On love~
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[too shy89]

Development Of Love...

You can not appreciate what you do not recognize. Be receptive to love. With open arms allow love to flow in and out. With closed arms you hold only yourself.

Perfect love gives and does not expect. When love expects pain results since our human response to love will be imperfect.

Love is patient. Each person has a different capacity to love based on their experiences. Love risks rejection - but love is worth giving even if it is rejected.

Love is spontaneous, shows emotion, can cry, laugh, hug; love is a great human emotion.

As a loving person you do not need to be perfect -- just human. Recognize the needs of others and admit your own need to love and be loved. Accept others as real people even if you do not like some of their actions.

Love is not jealous but desires the best for the other even if that hurts us.

To Love is to be real, to be human and to be fully alive !!



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absolutely beautiful! you are so right! accepting others for who they are and not wanting them to change (you wouldn't love them as much, right?)there is no perfect person, couple, set, whatever. Perfect is a figment of your imagination and fantasy. I wouldn't change my man for anything, even though I know he does things I don't necessarily agree with.

 

[midwestyankee]

Dream, it's so good to see such a thoughtful pair of posts here. I think you've done a great job of capturing the many facets of love. It truly is a many-splendored thing, as you have shown us.

 

[~Dream~]

Dream, it's so good to see such a thoughtful pair of posts here. I think you've done a great job of capturing the many facets of love. It truly is a many-splendored thing, as you have shown us.

thanks Yankee!! Not bad for someone who needs to get her ass back to bed..lol ( Flu)

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by midwestyankee
Dream, it's so good to see such a thoughtful pair of posts here. I think you've done a great job of capturing the many facets of love. It truly is a many-splendored thing, as you have shown us.

Love is a many splendid thing......wow yank thats a good song title....

and Dream that was beautiful what you wrote...i tend not to be a serious person but that derserved my compliments....Kudos to you

 

[midwestyankee]

Love is a many splendid thing......wow yank thats a good song title....

and Dream that was beautiful what you wrote...i tend not to be a serious person but that derserved my compliments....Kudos to you

Curses, foiled again!

Yes, "Love is a Many Splendored Thing" was the title song to a 1955 movie with William Holden and the song was given the Oscar that year.

This, from the guru of unrequited love.

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by midwestyankee
Curses, foiled again!

Yes, "Love is a Many Splendored Thing" was the title song to a 1955 movie with William Holden and the song was given the Oscar that year.

This, from the guru of unrequited love.

1955..when the Dodgers were still in Brooklyn....
i dont know that movie never watch love stories ....(is secretary a love story)

 

[midwestyankee]

1955..when the Dodgers were still in Brooklyn....
i dont know that movie never watch love stories ....(is secretary a love story)

Right again. They moved to L. A. for the 1958 season. In fact, 1955 was a very good year for the Dodgers, as they won the World Series that year. It's such a shame that NYC won't enjoy such sweetness this year.

BTW, what ever happened to that promise that you wouldn't post here again until the Yankees won the WS? I don't recall any World Series victory last night.

And Secretary was definitely a love story. A real slapper of a love story, in fact.

 

[midwestyankee]

Recently I witnessed several acts of love here in Lit. Someone who would have preferred to stay in the background came out swinging when others attacked a dear friend with innuendo, insults, and lies.

Sometimes it is in subjecting ourself to harm that we most clearly show the strength of our love.

 

[midwestyankee]

Amazingly enough, I could repeat my previous post to describe the actions of an entirely different person.

Anyone who spends any time at all in the How To forum here in Lit, knows of Sheath and her very difficult breakup with the man she called The Music Man. He was, apparently, quite abusive (though not physically) and the breakup was precipitated by the onset of some deeply personal demons that took over his life. To say that she was angry and that many of us shared her anger toward him is understatement even for this yankee.

But love resurrects sometimes. And it redeems.

Last night, The Music Man posted to Lit for the first time in nearly a year to defend Sheath's honor when others had attacked it viciously. If anyone had a reasonable motivation to join in the attack, it might have been him. If anyone who knew her had a reasonable motivation to stay away from the fight, it would have been him. Instead, from a position of unimpeachable understanding of her character he posted an eloquent and persuasive defense.

I was moved by this display of love. For what else could have motivated him to bare himself before the very people to whom he had been excoriated at length for months on end? I say it was love.

As I said in response to his post, Music Man, I salute you.

To risk showing your love under those circumstances is a noble thing.

The Music Man's post

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by midwestyankee
Amazingly enough, I could repeat my previous post to describe the actions of an entirely different person.

Anyone who spends any time at all in the How To forum here in Lit, knows of Sheath and her very difficult breakup with the man she called The Music Man. He was, apparently, quite abusive (though not physically) and the breakup was precipitated by the onset of some deeply personal demons that took over his life. To say that she was angry and that many of us shared her anger toward him is understatement even for this yankee.

But love resurrects sometimes. And it redeems.

Last night, The Music Man posted to Lit for the first time in nearly a year to defend Sheath's honor when others had attacked it viciously. If anyone had a reasonable motivation to join in the attack, it might have been him. If anyone who knew her had a reasonable motivation to stay away from the fight, it would have been him. Instead, from a position of unimpeachable understanding of her character he posted an eloquent and persuasive defense.

I was moved by this display of love. For what else could have motivated him to bare himself before the very people to whom he had been excoriated at length for months on end? I say it was love.

As I said in response to his post, Music Man, I salute you.

To risk showing your love under those circumstances is a noble thing.

The Music Man's post

nothing like more lit drama....

 

[Ammo44]

nothing like more lit drama....

It frustrates me that so many people bring their real life baggage to a site......can't we just escape and play for a change?

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by midwestyankee
Amazingly enough, I could repeat my previous post to describe the actions of an entirely different person.

Anyone who spends any time at all in the How To forum here in Lit, knows of Sheath and her very difficult breakup with the man she called The Music Man. He was, apparently, quite abusive (though not physically) and the breakup was precipitated by the onset of some deeply personal demons that took over his life. To say that she was angry and that many of us shared her anger toward him is understatement even for this yankee.

But love resurrects sometimes. And it redeems.

Last night, The Music Man posted to Lit for the first time in nearly a year to defend Sheath's honor when others had attacked it viciously. If anyone had a reasonable motivation to join in the attack, it might have been him. If anyone who knew her had a reasonable motivation to stay away from the fight, it would have been him. Instead, from a position of unimpeachable understanding of her character he posted an eloquent and persuasive defense.

I was moved by this display of love. For what else could have motivated him to bare himself before the very people to whom he had been excoriated at length for months on end? I say it was love.

As I said in response to his post, Music Man, I salute you.

To risk showing your love under those circumstances is a noble thing.

The Music Man's post

Yankee what amazes me here is that you talk about being noble when it comes to love yet you yourself hide behind a wall of armour when it comes to love....just a innocent observation from a friend.....

 

[Ammo44]

Yankee what amazes me here is that you talk about being noble when it comes to love yet you yourself hide behind a wall of armour when it comes to love....just a innocent observation from a friend.....

Some people are a deep as puddles........shallow if you will. You gotta walk the walk when you talk the talk. Enough defining....act on it!!

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by Ammo44
Some people are a deep as puddles........shallow if you will. You gotta walk the walk when you talk the talk. Enough defining....act on it!!

 

[Ammo44]

ammo44 amen to that.....lets get naked now and define love together...

Ahhhhh DLL.......I never know when to make passionate love to you......or choke you .......

 

[Peteslaw2]

Ahhhhh DLL.......I never know when to make passionate love to you......or choke you .......

Actually I've done both, at the same time.

 

[Screech]

'Ere! you lot be nice to DLL!

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by Peteslaw2
Actually I've done both, at the same time.

and well i might add....

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by Screech
'Ere! you lot be nice to DLL!

hi Screech LTNS!!!


how r you????XXX

 

[Screech]

Ah, DLL! I'm quite well thank you! I don't think i've told you, but i'm this close to getting engaged to a lovley lady from Siloam Springs

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by Screech
Ah, DLL! I'm quite well thank you! I don't think i've told you, but i'm this close to getting engaged to a lovley lady from Siloam Springs

oh congrats!!!! that will be the start of many happy days ahead for sure...XXooXX my advise for the ring...you can never go wrong with too big....

 

[Cathleen]

I haven't posted here in a long while, for a few reasons but one is that I have been struggling with love. Specifically love and addiction. I know that I have spent many years running from love - romantic love - because of past issues. And those issues are past I know this now. But there still seems to be a core problem with my thinking.

I still seem to have a problem with letting people in, to the real gut wrenching area - that place where fear lives. The place where the soul knows everything and strives to grow in love and harmony. The struggle between my personality and my soul. Personality not in the common sense but of what I am in my head or show in my behaviors - the kind of personality that holds onto the fears, addictions and insecurities.

The fear, addiction and insecurity hold me back - from the growth of my soul. I am seeing this clearly but have not been able to take concrete action to overcome them. There is a part of me that wants love but the fear and insecurity have more power then the place in my soul that is searching for the light of love.

Knowing this is hard - just like an alcoholic is not comfortable with a belly full of beer and a head full of AA - they can't exist together in peace and harmony. My intentions are being underminded by my personality. I think I've tried to find a way to have both for most of my life and now know its not possible. Now that the cover is off it no longer can be replaced.

Love is life - I really believe that but my actions are not congruent with my thoughts. That really ticks me off about myself. I've known this for sometime and would think I would have been ready to deal with it all so long ago - but I keep myself stuck. I let the less enlightened part of me have the power of the soul and the kicker is that I know the soul knows all this.

So, why or how can the soul, which knows that love is life, let the personality keep the power? I know its not in our nature to want to change but I am not inclined to buy that so simply. I try to ask myself those questions such as "Will this be helpful to my enlightenment, or helpful to my soul on this earth or any life that may come next?", and I do pray for the tempations to be removed and for old behaviors and reactions be taken from me.

Recently I was - for lack of a better word - "invited" to do something that has been so tempting - physically and perhaps emotionally too. I have struggled with the matter and looked at similar behaviors from my past and the behaviors in my life now and find so much that doesn't add up.

So I think this post is for a few reasons, perhaps someone can relate (and I aplogize for being a bit vague on the above paragraph but its personal) or perhaps someone has experienced this struggle, as one of the most important things for me is to remember that I am not the only one in this world with complexities and I am not alone.

I am humbled right now and feel this is the best place for me to be to allow growth to occur.

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by midwestyankee
I was moved by this display of love. For what else could have motivated him to bare himself before the very people to whom he had been excoriated at length for months on end? I say it was love.

....

To risk showing your love under those circumstances is a noble thing.

Actually I have to agree with you Yank...I was impressed..