Defining Love

[midwestyankee]

are they.... the yankees rule!!!!

sorry MWY couldnt pass it up..but your post is very powerful I agree the 3 strongest words spoken for sure...

Nope.... count 'em: Red Sox Win!!

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by midwestyankee
Nope.... count 'em: Red Sox Win!!

Hmmmmm...now thats a post I can't leave unanswered..win what I wonder..a trophy for the team that can't get to the big dance??
I will hand it to you sox fans its tough to love a loser...

 

[midwestyankee]

Hmmmmm...now thats a post I can't leave unanswered..win what I wonder..a trophy for the team that can't get to the big dance??
I will hand it to you sox fans its tough to love a loser...

Maybe it's a sign of true love when you can love someone - or a team, I suppose - despite their failings and the many times they disappoint you.

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by midwestyankee
Maybe it's a sign of true love when you can love someone - or a team, I suppose - despite their failings and the many times they disappoint you.

As you wish yank.....

 

[midwestyankee]

All I know is that love overlooks with kindness.

 

[Cathleen]

All I know is that love overlooks with kindness.

Wow, you said so much there Yank.

 

[MT_Pitcher]

All I know is that love overlooks with kindness.

Sometimes it overlooks with blindness too. I wish that wasn't so.

 

[midwestyankee]

Sometimes it overlooks with blindness too. I wish that wasn't so.

MTP, I would suggest that when we are blinded in a relationship, it's not the love that is blinding us but our own needs.

 

[~Dream~]

Sometimes it overlooks with blindness too. I wish that wasn't so.

Sometimes we just Look for the Good ,when in Reality we have to accept the bad as well...ex..Rose-colored glasses....


True love is Not always kind ..sometimes it really does hurt ...I think its beacuse we try to change the other person way too much and Not accept them AS THEY ARE .....which was the original reason we fell in love with them in the 1st place..

 

[MT_Pitcher]

Sometimes we just Look for the Good ,when in Reality we have to accept the bad as well...ex..Rose-colored glasses....


True love is Not always kind ..sometimes it really does hurt ...I think its beacuse we try to change the other person way too much and Not accept them AS THEY ARE .....which was the original reason we fell in love with them in the 1st place..

I don't think there is ever such thing as the perfect person for each of us. There is always some small thing that we want to tweak. For those things In think it's better that we just learn to accept them, instead of changing who we did fall for. If those things are bigger irritations, maybe we made a mistake, or maybe we learn to compromise.
The whole idea of loving someone come to the art of compromise. The heart is it's own set of rose colored glasses. But sooner or later, that fades and reality sets in. True love requires falling in love with your heart and your mind and a clear look at your partner.

 

[~Dream~]

I don't think there is ever such thing as the perfect person for each of us. There is always some small thing that we want to tweak. For those things In think it's better that we just learn to accept them, instead of changing who we did fall for. If those things are bigger irritations, maybe we made a mistake, or maybe we learn to compromise.
The whole idea of loving someone come to the art of compromise. The heart is it's own set of rose colored glasses. But sooner or later, that fades and reality sets in. True love requires falling in love with your heart and your mind and a clear look at your partner.

I totally agree there hun ..and I feel the Only time we have a right to ask someone to change is when they are doing something that may harm themselves or others... and thats a Behaviour change ..Not them ,themselves.

 

[Shadowpaladin]

I totally agree there hun ..and I feel the Only time we have a right to ask someone to change is when they are doing something that may harm themselves or others... and thats a Behaviour change ..Not them ,themselves.

LOL. But beware dear Dream Girl, too many behavior changes cause a change in the person

 

[~Dream~]

LOL. But beware dear Dream Girl, too many behavior changes cause a change in the person

I would never ask for TOO many sweety as I am a very loving and forgiving type of gal ,however if it was Drugs or something that could potrentially cause problems for me or my Children then that dude best pack his bags LOL

 

[Shadowpaladin]

I would never ask for TOO many sweety as I am a very loving and forgiving type of gal ,however if it was Drugs or something that could potrentially cause problems for me or my Children then that dude best pack his bags LOL

On that point I agree with you dear Dream And I think from the chats we've had that I had sort of figured out that You are almost TOO forgiving

 

[~Dream~]

On that point I agree with you dear Dream And I think from the chats we've had that I had sort of figured out that You are almost TOO forgiving

yes indeed and you have been a very helpful guide in that dept dear man ...I am learning as we talk Not to allow myself to be too naive...

 

[Shadowpaladin]

yes indeed and you have been a very helpful guide in that dept dear man ...I am learning as we talk Not to allow myself to be too naive...

A very good and Important lesson to learn. As long as you can remember that you need to be conditional with the use of it

 

[~Dream~]

A very good and Important lesson to learn. As long as you can remember that you need to be conditional with the use of it

yes indeed...You are just Full of Good advice there arent ya babe?? hmmm I may have to.....nah nevermind...

 

[Shadowpaladin]

yes indeed...You are just Full of Good advice there arent ya babe?? hmmm I may have to.....nah nevermind...

LOL. You could always tell me that in private dear

 

[~Dream~]

LOL. You could always tell me that in private dear

are you Psychic also ?? hmmm?? exactly what I was thinking ... Interesting ...

 

[Shadowpaladin]

are you Psychic also ?? hmmm?? exactly what I was thinking ... Interesting ...

LOL

 

[Darkkitty]

Hilo all. Just here to say that for those of you who know Shoshi, go by Sho and Damsel's place and wish her a Happy 28th Birthday

 

[midwestyankee]

Patience

I've been thinking lately about patience.

Yes, it's a virtue and we could probably all benefit from having more true patience than we do at present. But what interests me right now is the role of patience in a loving relationship.

It's easy to say that love is patient and there ought not to be any bounds to our patience in love, but that's a plattitude and we all know it. What has been your experience with patience in love? Have you found yourself growing impatient and what happened as a result? Have you ever found yourself in the opposite condition, where you seem to have unbounded patience for or with your beloved?

Recently I was reminded of some ancient romances (Abelard and Heloise, for one) in which the partners held out love for each other over spans of decades though they rarely met if ever. I wonder how many of us in this age of instant messaging and cell phones could handle such a demanding relationship.

What do you think?

What is your best example of a truly patient lover?

 

[Shoshisexy]

Re: Patience

I've been thinking lately about patience.

Yes, it's a virtue and we could probably all benefit from having more true patience than we do at present. But what interests me right now is the role of patience in a loving relationship.

It's easy to say that love is patient and there ought not to be any bounds to our patience in love, but that's a plattitude and we all know it. What has been your experience with patience in love? Have you found yourself growing impatient and what happened as a result? Have you ever found yourself in the opposite condition, where you seem to have unbounded patience for or with your beloved?

Recently I was reminded of some ancient romances (Abelard and Heloise, for one) in which the partners held out love for each other over spans of decades though they rarely met if ever. I wonder how many of us in this age of instant messaging and cell phones could handle such a demanding relationship.

What do you think?

What is your best example of a truly patient lover?

I have been waiting for my Beloveds since October and December...and was just told I have to wait another week. I am TRYING to be patient...does that count?

 

[midwestyankee]

Re: Re: Patience

I have been waiting for my Beloveds since October and December...and was just told I have to wait another week. I am TRYING to be patient...does that count?

I would say so.

 

[~Dream~]

Re: Patience

I've been thinking lately about patience.

Yes, it's a virtue and we could probably all benefit from having more true patience than we do at present. But what interests me right now is the role of patience in a loving relationship.

It's easy to say that love is patient and there ought not to be any bounds to our patience in love, but that's a plattitude and we all know it. What has been your experience with patience in love? Have you found yourself growing impatient and what happened as a result? Have you ever found yourself in the opposite condition, where you seem to have unbounded patience for or with your beloved?

Recently I was reminded of some ancient romances (Abelard and Heloise, for one) in which the partners held out love for each other over spans of decades though they rarely met if ever. I wonder how many of us in this age of instant messaging and cell phones could handle such a demanding relationship.

What do you think?

What is your best example of a truly patient lover?

My own personal example of patience is this ....

The man I am currently 'in love' with is in Prison and doesnt know when his actual release date is for sure altho we are hoping for October...

He has to show overwhelming amounts of 'patience' due to his environment alone...he listens to my letters and phone calls with open ears and an open heart when all I do sometimes is Complain about my stressful day even..

I am able to 'Unload ,or Vent if you will all of my 'frustrations onto him when indeed he is feeling 'frustrations Of his own,he misses his Freedom ,he wants to be able to see and TOUCH me....he longs for companionship ,etc ...

I feel that James ,IS 1 Of the Most patient men I have ever met, however I also feel that getting in touch with his spiritual side has had ALOT to do with that....I know that as a parent I have come to find out that having patience is very rewarding indeed..

they say in the Bible ..'love is patient ,Love is kind ..etc ...I feel True love can withstand the pressures of Distance apart amongst other things ...OURS has ...