Defining Love

[CuriousNude]

Life tends to lead you off track...just remember that sometimes...that is life's way of leading you to the -right- track.

You may be on the right track there !

 

[midwestyankee]

Life tends to lead you off track...just remember that sometimes...that is life's way of leading you to the -right- track.

And sometimes it's life's way of making you decide to get the heck off the track before that big light in the center of the track gets any closer.

The journey of love is far more like going a-wandering along the little strands of a spider's web than any road journey.

 

[redrider4u]

The journey of love is far more like going a-wandering along the little strands of a spider's web than any road journey. [/B][/QUOTE]

what..........please explain yankee.

 

[midwestyankee]

The journey of love is far more like going a-wandering along the little strands of a spider's web than any road journey.

what..........please explain yankee.

I just meant that it's not a very straight path; not even like taking a road trip on the blue roads from the road maps. It's a lot more like the disorganized wandering that would happen if you followed a pattern like a spider's web - where every turn seems to be the same but isn't at all.

 

[redrider4u]

I just meant that it's not a very straight path; not even like taking a road trip on the blue roads from the road maps. It's a lot more like the disorganized wandering that would happen if you followed a pattern like a spider's web - where every turn seems to be the same but isn't at all.

Or like my fishing line today.........every which way. You never know where the rambunctious road where lead...........

 

[Cathleen]

Life tends to lead you off track...just remember that sometimes...that is life's way of leading you to the -right- track.

I have come to belive that when I am off balance there is a certain "correctness" to my actions.....suppose its because my will has been removed....or something like that....just feels like being off balance, although an odd feeling, seems right... beats me!

 

[Cathleen]

And sometimes it's life's way of making you decide to get the heck off the track before that big light in the center of the track gets any closer.

The journey of love is far more like going a-wandering along the little strands of a spider's web than any road journey.

So nice to see you back at your home Yank!! Yay for us!!

and dang it....I agree with you..... now this can not keep happening!

 

[Shoshisexy]

Whether wandering, stroling, or walking, life -is- a journey...different for everyone, and even those walking side-by-side see different things. The nice thing is knowing that when you reach out a hand, there will be one for you to hold on to, whatever the relationship. I know we are always talking about romantic love on this thread, but personally, although I love my Beloveds to distraction (literally ), there are times when reaching out and finding my Mom's hand or my Aba's hand is comforting as well. For those hit hard in the love game...sometimes those hands take on whole new meanings.

 

[Cathleen]

Whether wandering, stroling, or walking, life -is- a journey...different for everyone, and even those walking side-by-side see different things. The nice thing is knowing that when you reach out a hand, there will be one for you to hold on to, whatever the relationship. I know we are always talking about romantic love on this thread, but personally, although I love my Beloveds to distraction (literally ), there are times when reaching out and finding my Mom's hand or my Aba's hand is comforting as well. For those hit hard in the love game...sometimes those hands take on whole new meanings.

I agree there Shosh....the kinds of love are vast. The love I give and receive from my nieces and nephews is so sweet and real....totally honest. No games, no insecurity, no doubts. That is priceless. Love is a way of life, or should be.

 

[Shoshisexy]

For me...love is a way of life. I give love to all of the people in my life to some degree or another. Whether they return it...that is their decision. My love is given freely. I am not saying I never get hurt when it is rejected...but I am learning that loving someone doesn't hurt me...expecting them to love me back does. Now that I know (most of the time) that I am lovable...it is easier. But it has taken me a long time to get here. And I still backslide sometimes.

 

[redrider4u]

For me...love is a way of life. I give love to all of the people in my life to some degree or another. Whether they return it...that is their decision. My love is given freely. I am not saying I never get hurt when it is rejected...but I am learning that loving someone doesn't hurt me...expecting them to love me back does. Now that I know (most of the time) that I am lovable...it is easier. But it has taken me a long time to get here. And I still backslide sometimes.

Jumping in......for me..unconditional love is really hard. I guess.....once burned, you develop a wall..........that is slow to come down. It just takes time.

 

[Cathleen]

For me...love is a way of life. I give love to all of the people in my life to some degree or another. Whether they return it...that is their decision. My love is given freely. I am not saying I never get hurt when it is rejected...but I am learning that loving someone doesn't hurt me...expecting them to love me back does. Now that I know (most of the time) that I am lovable...it is easier. But it has taken me a long time to get here. And I still backslide sometimes.

That is excellent Shosh....I know I am tough to love, not unlovable, but being closed off makes it difficult. Giving certain kinds of love is natural to me.....but intimate love is just so much more risky and fearful for me. I keep working on it....get burned but I do keep working on me.

Thanks for those words...making me think!!

 

[Shoshisexy]

Jumping in......for me..unconditional love is really hard. I guess.....once burned, you develop a wall..........that is slow to come down. It just takes time.

It does take time...it probably helps that mine was knocked down by a battle van And then the pieces were swept up in a whirlwind before I knew what was happening.. Beyond that...being open to others is all I have left. If I am not open, then I am going to grow old before my time. And I don't want that. I want to remain youthful and loving all of my days. It may have helped that a lot of bricks were knocked out of the wall watching my Mom find someone to truly love and love her....watching my Grandfather take care of my Grandmother the last eight years of her life...and seeing the bitterness in my StepGrandmother.

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by midwestyankee
And sometimes it's life's way of making you decide to get the heck off the track before that big light in the center of the track gets any closer.

The journey of love is far more like going a-wandering along the little strands of a spider's web than any road journey.

Feeds my soul to see you posting here again Welcome home.

 

[midwestyankee]

Jumping in......for me..unconditional love is really hard. I guess.....once burned, you develop a wall..........that is slow to come down. It just takes time.

It's a myth that broken hearts heal.

It's a myth that time will heal everything.

Broken hearts may scar over perhaps, but when your heart breaks a part of you will ache for the rest of your life.

Life is hard and suffering is a natural part of life. If we do not allow ourselves to suffer we will never be able to know joy.

 

[Cathleen]

It's a myth that broken hearts heal.

It's a myth that time will heal everything.

Broken hearts may scar over perhaps, but when your heart breaks a part of you will ache for the rest of your life.

Life is hard and suffering is a natural part of life. If we do not allow ourselves to suffer we will never be able to know joy.

Time only helps, it does not make it right. We learn to go on without the person lost. We learn to accomodate in our minds. Time helps, but it does not make it right. * heavy sigh*

 

[kayte]

For me...love is a way of life. I give love to all of the people in my life to some degree or another. Whether they return it...that is their decision. My love is given freely. I am not saying I never get hurt when it is rejected...but I am learning that loving someone doesn't hurt me...expecting them to love me back does. Now that I know (most of the time) that I am lovable...it is easier. But it has taken me a long time to get here. And I still backslide sometimes.

{{{{{{{{Shoshi}}}}} You summed that up so well...."I am learning that loving someone doesn't hurt me... expecting them to love back does" is so true. It took me so long to learn that. I am so glad for you!!!

 

[Shoshisexy]

It's a myth that broken hearts heal.

It's a myth that time will heal everything.

Broken hearts may scar over perhaps, but when your heart breaks a part of you will ache for the rest of your life.

Life is hard and suffering is a natural part of life. If we do not allow ourselves to suffer we will never be able to know joy.

Very true, MWY! Sad, but true.

 

[Shoshisexy]

{{{{{{{{Shoshi}}}}} You summed that up so well...."I am learning that loving someone doesn't hurt me... expecting them to love back does" is so true. It took me so long to learn that. I am so glad for you!!!

Thank you, Kayte! As I said...I backslode, sometimes still, though. I try to keep it in mind, though.

 

[DLL]

Originally posted by Shoshisexy
Very true, MWY! Sad, but true.

 

[Peteslaw2]

I totally disagree with that....Now want to buy a bridge???

You have permission to post in here?

 

[TantaLiza]

I just meant that it's not a very straight path; not even like taking a road trip on the blue roads from the road maps. It's a lot more like the disorganized wandering that would happen if you followed a pattern like a spider's web - where every turn seems to be the same but isn't at all.

Truer words were never typed....

 

[midwestyankee]

I totally disagree with that....Now want to buy a bridge???

Each to his own.

Now about that bridge...would it be into a borouogh of New York that lost its baseball team in the 1950's?

 

[midwestyankee]

You have permission to post in here?

All are welcome here; some just use their welcome in different ways.

 

[midwestyankee]

Truer words were never typed....

I'm sure plenty of people wish it were not so. Others, not having examined their own lives, are sure it's not.