Dear X:

[DeepGreenEyes]

Dear Doms,

What are you thinking???

Asking your sub to find you another sub is sure recipe for disaster.

First nobody will pick up the offer. Because let's face it, we subs are a bunch of jealous irrational possessive self centered head cases (yes, I'm been a bit sarcastic and self deprecating here) that do not like to share their Dom with other women. Honestly do you think your sub would have answered the ad of another sub to join in and be the third wheel? Even I that I'm indeed an emotional masochistic would have not.

Second, the existing sub is going to feel all kind of insecure: Am I not good enough? Will the other sub be better than me and take my place? Is this his way of dumping me? Making for a scared and worried and highly emotionally wreaked sub.

And then after going at the task unsuccessfully for a while, another sense of failure kicks in: I'm failing my Dom; I'm useless; I'm not providing the service required of me.
And of course you, the Dom, thinking to be helpful will pinch in with statement such as: You are not taking your task seriously; I gave you lot of responsibility and you need to step up to the plate; and other assorted supposedly "motivational" statements.

What the hell are you thinking? Women do not operate as men do. Sub do not operate as Dom do. If you want two subs you'll have to find them yourself. If you want your sub to find her, than make sure your first sub is either a switch wanting a sub of her own or a sub ready to try out being a Domme and then let them find a sub. If it works out, she might share her find with you.

A highly frustrated sub.

There's submission and there's bullshit. To me, this "assignment" is bullshit. This is, "If you're a worthy sub you'll move out of your house and become a meth addict for me. you'll kill your dad for me."

I think Mohegan is right. Dom up!

Or find him a skanky-ass sub with bad teeth and a hyena laugh.

 

[minx1]

And actually I have some grievance with other subs too at the moment

*hugs* you have done above and beyond hon, never feel a failure. Blimey you have done more than I would be ever able to do and into the bargain shown maturity, strength, loyalty and kindess.

As for the other sub...you can drag a horse to water but you cant make her drink yanno.

Of course not.

An s comes to her D and says, "Sir, you're fabulous, of course, but I've decided that I need an additional D. I therefore respectfully ask you to please find one that you consider suitable."

What would happen next? In the overwhelming majority of cases, the response would be the equivalent of: no fucking way, I'm not wired to tolerate that. If the s persisted, the ultimate response would be: adiós.

So true.

But made me giggle. Thanks JM

 

[rida]

Dear Rida,

With respect to your most fundamental needs and breaking point, I recommend thinking like a D.

JM

Dear JM,

I already have two Doms (sort of) ...

rida

There's submission and there's bullshit. To me, this "assignment" is bullshit. This is, "If you're a worthy sub you'll move out of your house and become a meth addict for me. you'll kill your dad for me."

I think Mohegan is right. Dom up!

Or find him a skanky-ass sub with bad teeth and a hyena laugh.

*chuckle*

Thanks for the out-pour of support but I did not want to start a "bang the Dom" campaign.

In my case I'm part responsible as it has been my dream too ... so I was just letting off steam and borrowing on chy-girl situation

*hugs* you have done above and beyond hon, never feel a failure. Blimey you have done more than I would be ever able to do and into the bargain shown maturity, strength, loyalty and kindess.

As for the other sub...you can drag a horse to water but you cant make her drink yanno.

Thank you

I could have done better. I could have done worse. And things will be the way they are supposed to be.

Sometime I just need to vent!



(PS. and next time I'm going to picture the other sub as a horse )

 

[CutieMouse]

Dear JM,

Comments like the one below make me totally you.

~M

Of course not.

An s comes to her D and says, "Sir, you're fabulous, of course, but I've decided that I need an additional D. I therefore respectfully ask you to please find one that you consider suitable."

What would happen next? In the overwhelming majority of cases, the response would be the equivalent of: no fucking way, I'm not wired to tolerate that. If the s persisted, the ultimate response would be: adiós.

JM

 

[PatchIsMe]

Dear You,
My heart is hurting. I am tired. I stepped outside my box. Perhaps my intentions in the beginning were not excatly what I was wanting. I dont think I really knew what I was wanting. Now I do and I don't think your interested. There are so many things I don't know. I want to be done and yet I don't. My heart races when I hear I have a message hoping it is you. I feel like a fool.

 

[minx1]

Dear x,

if I am ever uncertain again....I will just read that last text message over and over, since that says it all

 

[LearningSub]

deleted

 

[chy_girl]

Dear K,

I think I hate you just a little bit and I don't like how that feels.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Dear Doritos,

Thank you for taking snacking to a higher level.

Flavor Shots Blazin' Buffalo Rush?
Flavor Shots Atomic Chile Limon?
Collisions Enchilada and Sour Cream?

Future civilizations will marvel at our ability to add flavor to fried corn.

~Crunch.

 

[minx1]

Dear x,

Me

 

[Bustymagoo]

Bustymagoo
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Bustymagoo is online now
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Oregon, USA
Posts: 22
Dear S,

You broke my heart, and you never even cared about me. Fuck you, but thank you for teaching me to tuck my heart back up my sleeve. I guess I can forgive you now, by forgetting you ever existed...

Oh, and I hope you got herpes for Xmas.


Ps fuck... I miss you still

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Dear X,

Leaving for class, thinking of you (of course). I am working tomorrow.

Thinking of lunch...

Me

 

[unregistered]

 

[Homburg]

Dear K,

I don't know if you even post here any more, and I don't know if you read this thread. I never read it, nor do I post here usually, but, hell, I couldn't think of any other place to put this. You've changed your nic here a half dozen times and I don't know what you're using these days.

I was thinking about you just now. This song popped up on my iTunes, and I know how much you love Rufus. I can't help but associate him with you.

Anyway, I thoughtlessly hurt you. I'm sorry. The last time we spoke, things were looking better for you, and, god, I hope they kept up that way.

I will think of you fondly each time I happen to hear Rufus sing, and wish you, and your beautiful little girl, love, joy, and fulfillment.

-R.

 

[intothewoods]

Dear K,

I don't know if you even post here any more, and I don't know if you read this thread. I never read it, nor do I post here usually, but, hell, I couldn't think of any other place to put this. You've changed your nic here a half dozen times and I don't know what you're using these days.

I was thinking about you just now. This song popped up on my iTunes, and I know how much you love Rufus. I can't help but associate him with you.

Anyway, I thoughtlessly hurt you. I'm sorry. The last time we spoke, things were looking better for you, and, god, I hope they kept up that way.

I will think of you fondly each time I happen to hear Rufus sing, and wish you, and your beautiful little girl, love, joy, and fulfillment.

-R.

[hijack]
Love Rufus!
[/hijack]

 

[minx1]

Dear x,

Thankyou for trying so hard. I appreciate it so very much.

I thought I had told you, but realised it was my mum I had been telling! Right sentiment..wrong person.

I am so glad you met her...honestly it filled me happiness that day. I was extremely proud of you.

She likes you a lot and its good knowing that now when we talk about you, she knows who it is I am referring to.

Honestly, I look at the last few weeks and see everything you have done...not just timewise but the gift and expressions of love and the laughs and it makes me immensely happy.

Its not always easy I know , but we are giving it such a good go!

I know this could work out. I will do everything I can in that time, to try and make that happen.

Your very unsubtle me.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Dear X,

I do have one more simple request, one wish I'd like you to honor. If it gets to the point at which you need to cut and run, please don't just disappear without a word. Let me know.

Me

 

[PatchIsMe]

Dear X,
Fuck you. You hurt me and you don't care. That just makes it hurt worse. Why? I text and call you with no return. I knock on your door knowing full well you aren't going to answer. Gee it looks like I'm a freakin stalker. Thanks. I'll be here when you want me to be. Take care.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

M,

Don't get me wrong, I do love you. I wish I believed that things could work between us, but your reaction when I said that I was used to submissive women spoke loud and clear. The fact that you kept using subservient instead of submissive also made it too clear.

I feel torn, but I don't think I really am the one you want.
P

N,

Stop and think. You just want me to move nearly across the country to be with you. Thats all well and good, but what happens the first time I start pushing and you feel it's too far.

You have gottne over that damn lame ass word help-mate and realized that I am serious with the Master. However, I don't think you realize all that it entails with me.

P

 

[girlofurdreams]

you're such a silly boy sometimes... you know i love you more than anything.

you are my rock.

you keep my feet on the ground.

you are home.

you are my love.



you are everything to me... see you in the morning sugar xxx

 

[chy_girl]

Dear X, Y and Z.

I'm confused and don't know which to pick. One risks my heart, the other risks everything else.

Perhaps it's all too much too fast and the best way to go is full stop. That choice isn't very likable either, though.

*sigh*

It shouldn't be this complicated or painful. I hate feeling like I'm selling one part of who I am for the needs of another part of who I am. It feels cheap - like I'm being offered tarnished copper when I set out looking for a little bit of gold only the cost is the same.

me

 

[CutieMouse]

Dear Men who Answer My Personals Ad,

If you are 2" shorter than me, and 40# heavier... you are not of "average/medium" build. I'm just sayin'.

Regards,

~M

 

[BiBunny]

Dear Men who Answer My Personals Ad,

If you are 2" shorter than me, and 40# heavier... you are not of "average/medium" build. I'm just sayin'.

Regards,

~M

I have a corollary to that.

Dear Men Who Answer My Personal Ad(s),

My profile specifically says I'm looking for men who live within a couple hours' drive of [Town I Live In], Alabama. I'm not limiting my search simply to those who live in the same state as me because some guys who live in certain parts of Georgia or Tennessee may actually be closer than guys who live in the southern or western part of Alabama.

However, no matter which map you're looking at, Illinois, California, Kentucky, or New York will never be within a couple hours' drive of [Town I Live In], Alabama.

~Bunny

 

[~Haze~]

Dear Men who Answer My Personals Ad,

If you are 2" shorter than me, and 40# heavier... you are not of "average/medium" build. I'm just sayin'.

Regards,

~M

Ha.

Oh, this goes both ways.

I completely gave up online 'dating' a while ago after a few bad experiences.

The pictures women "show" should at least slightly resemble what you're going to look like in person.

I understand that people (women) want to send some of the more flattering pictures, but... at the very least, after looking at your picture, I should be able to pick you out of a line up IRL. Having no earthly idea what you really look like in person is not acceptable.

If my response at a real life meeting is "who are you?"... you did it wrong.

 

[chy_girl]

Dear Men who Answer My Personals Ad,

If you are 2" shorter than me, and 40# heavier... you are not of "average/medium" build. I'm just sayin'.

Regards,

~M

I have a corollary to that.

Dear Men Who Answer My Personal Ad(s),

My profile specifically says I'm looking for men who live within a couple hours' drive of [Town I Live In], Alabama. I'm not limiting my search simply to those who live in the same state as me because some guys who live in certain parts of Georgia or Tennessee may actually be closer than guys who live in the southern or western part of Alabama.

However, no matter which map you're looking at, Illinois, California, Kentucky, or New York will never be within a couple hours' drive of [Town I Live In], Alabama.

~Bunny

Dear Men Who Answer My Personal Ad(s)

"Strictly cyber or demands for immediate cyber/pics will be result in an end to the conversation" coupled with a profile that reads "Don't even ask to play, the answer is No. Again: No, No, No, and Hell No. Please drive through" is a fairly good hint that I'm not looking for cyber/online D/s. But thank you.

chy

(figured since it seemed to be a compilation I'd toss that in too.)