Dear X:

[RawHumor]

Dear Sort of a lot of X's,

Sometimes in this human condition, selfishness reigns. That self-centered attitude will prompt a person to say whatever it is he needs to say to justify (to himself and those around him) whatever it is he feels like doing; and that it's not SO wrong. He's not really a bad guy. He just ______.

Unfortunately (or fortunately), some people are forgivers. Some people are enablers. Some people just want to believe. The worst part is, some of the awesomest, sweetest, smartest most wonderful people are among this group.

That doesn't make them any less awesome, sweet, smart, or wonderful.

 

[minx1]

Dear Sort of a lot of X's,

Sometimes in this human condition, selfishness reigns. That self-centered attitude will prompt a person to say whatever it is he needs to say to justify (to himself and those around him) whatever it is he feels like doing; and that it's not SO wrong. He's not really a bad guy. He just ______.

Unfortunately (or fortunately), some people are forgivers. Some people are enablers. Some people just want to believe. The worst part is, some of the awesomest, sweetest, smartest most wonderful people are among this group.

That doesn't make them any less awesome, sweet, smart, or wonderful.

*cough* ahem.

Am I one of those there sort of a lot of x's?

I just saw the saw the awsome, sweet, smart and wonderful bit and thought I might be

 

[Seurat]

Dear X,

It's coming up on a year since you left forever. Tomorrow marks the last three of the 'first year' events, and I still doesn't feel any easier to not have you here.

Me.

 

[minx1]

Dear self,

some people choose to believe stories and who cares...it's not your problem anymore. For some it's easier to do that than face the reality.

Just be glad you're not one of them.

Me

 

[chy_girl]

Dear Universe,

I know that you have everything taken care of and I can even trust that you'll take her were she needs to go to get what she needs to get. I can even trust that this is a learning opportunity for me too. But it really fucking sucks.

I'm lost. I don't know which way to go. My reality just shifted in ways I can't even begin to describe. And I feel totally without anchor right now.

Depression and self-doubt are inherent to this. But does the depression have to be so heavy or the self-doubt so encompassing.

I've already lost someone I loved because it was the right thing to do for her. I don't want to lose anyone else right now.

me

 

[Lady_Moldovie]

Dear family,

I don't think i can do this any more, my light at the end of the tunnel has gone, and i can see no way out.

I'm sorry i'm in an abusive relationship, and felt i could never tell you.
I'm sorry that my husband had an affair and i fell apart,
But most of all, I'm sorry that none of you knew that i felt this way..

x

 

[VelvetSin]

Dear family,

I don't think i can do this any more, my light at the end of the tunnel has gone, and i can see no way out.

I'm sorry i'm in an abusive relationship, and felt i could never tell you.
I'm sorry that my husband had an affair and i fell apart,
But most of all, I'm sorry that none of you knew that i felt this way..

x

The light at the end of the tunnel never truly goes out. It can just dim a bit so it becomes hard to see it right now. No matter how crappy life seems to go though, it does always brighten up somewhere down the line, I promise. Are you going to be okay?

 

[ShyVixen]

Dear X,

Four more days. Four more sleeps.

It's very hard but I'm being a good girl

I love you,

~ Me

 

[minx1]

Dear me,

When you feel like this, remember.....he didn't even know your middle name.

ps. and if that and court leave you in any doubt, remember that when you feel like you do now, you cant even call and take comfort from hearing his voice. because he took that away from you too.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Dear me,

When you feel like this, remember.....he didn't even know your middle name.

ps. and if that and court leave you in any doubt, remember that when you feel like you do now, you cant even call and take comfort from hearing his voice. because he took that away from you too.

And when you're thinking of things he took away, remember that he took something precious away from himself: you.

 

[minx1]

And when you're thinking of things he took away, remember that he took something precious away from himself: you.

Hell *soft smile*...you just made me cry....in a good way.

Thankyou Sir W

Sorry to be such a pain. I'm just feeling such pain lol

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Hell *soft smile*...you just made me cry....in a good way.

Thankyou Sir W

Sorry to be such a pain. I'm just feeling such pain lol

To feel pain is to acknowledge two things: that you are alive, and that that which causes the pain is a real thing. Being real, it cannot be avoided nor negated; therefore, acknowledging its reality is one of the first steps to moving beyond it, because we *are* alive.

So... don't apologize for feeling pain. Acknowledge it, accept it, even embrace it, because it's giving you the impetus to go on with your (new) life. And who knows what glories and joys that new life will bring? I turned 60 last fall, and began *my* new life... and I'm happier than I can remember in ... oh, since my first willing spankee?

 

[minx1]

To feel pain is to acknowledge two things: that you are alive, and that that which causes the pain is a real thing. Being real, it cannot be avoided nor negated; therefore, acknowledging its reality is one of the first steps to moving beyond it, because we *are* alive.

So... don't apologize for feeling pain. Acknowledge it, accept it, even embrace it, because it's giving you the impetus to go on with your (new) life. And who knows what glories and joys that new life will bring? I turned 60 last fall, and began *my* new life... and I'm happier than I can remember in ... oh, since my first willing spankee?

Thankyou for your encouraging words Sir W.

I'm hoping for lots of glories and joy this time round

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Dear X,

The past eleven months, being with you has reminded me, every day and every day, what it means to enjoy life and to look forward to each day - something I had pretty much forgotten for most of the last 20 years or so, if not longer. I think if I didn't have you, hadn't been able to get with and be with you, it's very possible that I wouldn't be alive right now, or if I were, wouldn't care. You've given me back the ability to feel young, to feel happy, to feel alive.

Thank you,

Forever yours,

Me.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Dear x,

Hang in there.

~Me

 

[YourCaptor]

Dear Minx

Hows it going?

 

[minx1]

Dear Minx

Hows it going?

Dear YC,

Thanks for asking after me. It's a bit of a roller coater ride at the moment and I'm pretty up and down; but consistently up and down is an improvement on consistently crap!

Am trying to write more stuff on livejournal than here and work through it that way. Plus I'm on chapter 3 of my book!

Had decided to not even think about another relationship until after christmas and give myself some me time and also use it to work out whether I will look for another D/s relationship or not. I have lots of questions in my head at the moment about my ability as a submissive plus now there's also a bit of a trust issue.

In a desperate attempt to rush the grieving process I almost broke this decsion and went on a date, but there was something not quite right about him (yes i know...when has that ever stopped me before ); he was a bit full on and we hadnt even met at that stage! Plus in all honesty I'm not over my ex. I think thats why I was rushing things really; because i know that he is getting on with his life.
But anyway people deal with things differently and I think this is the best course of action for me. Ive never been one to move from one man to another anyway. I like some time alone, to regroup and take stock and I think its a kinda healthy thing for me to do.

It's my birthday on Monday and I know I will find that difficult. Ditto for xmas, but thats just the way it is eh.

Someone on here whose opinion I really respect suggested I do something. So today I'm gonna buy me a box, put all the things in it that are connected to him (I havent moved them yet ), put the lid on and put it away.

And thats me in a nutshell. Not fantastic, but not doing badly either.

People have been lovely and supportive and once again it's made me realise how resilient I can be when i need to be. I told my mum I thought this might kill me, literally, and she said no, that she and I were made of stronger stuff and it would take something much more than this to ever break me.

Looks like she is right

Minx

 

[gypsy*seer]

And thats me in a nutshell. Not fantastic, but not doing badly either.

People have been lovely and supportive and once again it's made me realise how resilient I can be when i need to be. I told my mum I thought this might kill me, literally, and she said no, that she and I were made of stronger stuff and it would take something much more than this to ever break me.

Looks like she is right

Minx

We are stonger than we think.
Everyone is behind you, girl!

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Dear YC,

Thanks for asking after me. It's a bit of a roller coater ride at the moment and I'm pretty up and down; but consistently up and down is an improvement on consistently crap!

Am trying to write more stuff on livejournal than here and work through it that way. Plus I'm on chapter 3 of my book!

Had decided to not even think about another relationship until after christmas and give myself some me time and also use it to work out whether I will look for another D/s relationship or not. I have lots of questions in my head at the moment about my ability as a submissive plus now there's also a bit of a trust issue.

In a desperate attempt to rush the grieving process I almost broke this decsion and went on a date, but there was something not quite right about him (yes i know...when has that ever stopped me before ); he was a bit full on and we hadnt even met at that stage! Plus in all honesty I'm not over my ex. I think thats why I was rushing things really; because i know that he is getting on with his life.
But anyway people deal with things differently and I think this is the best course of action for me. Ive never been one to move from one man to another anyway. I like some time alone, to regroup and take stock and I think its a kinda healthy thing for me to do.

It's my birthday on Monday and I know I will find that difficult. Ditto for xmas, but thats just the way it is eh.

Someone on here whose opinion I really respect suggested I do something. So today I'm gonna buy me a box, put all the things in it that are connected to him (I havent moved them yet ), put the lid on and put it away.

And thats me in a nutshell. Not fantastic, but not doing badly either.

People have been lovely and supportive and once again it's made me realise how resilient I can be when i need to be. I told my mum I thought this might kill me, literally, and she said no, that she and I were made of stronger stuff and it would take something much more than this to ever break me.

Looks like she is right

Minx

Bring them to my house! We'll raid the wine rack and then go out onto the footy oval and set the box on fire!

 

[YourCaptor]

Dear YC,

Thanks for asking after me. It's a bit of a roller coater ride at the moment and I'm pretty up and down; but consistently up and down is an improvement on consistently crap!

Am trying to write more stuff on livejournal than here and work through it that way. Plus I'm on chapter 3 of my book!

Had decided to not even think about another relationship until after christmas and give myself some me time and also use it to work out whether I will look for another D/s relationship or not. I have lots of questions in my head at the moment about my ability as a submissive plus now there's also a bit of a trust issue.

In a desperate attempt to rush the grieving process I almost broke this decsion and went on a date, but there was something not quite right about him (yes i know...when has that ever stopped me before ); he was a bit full on and we hadnt even met at that stage! Plus in all honesty I'm not over my ex. I think thats why I was rushing things really; because i know that he is getting on with his life.
But anyway people deal with things differently and I think this is the best course of action for me. Ive never been one to move from one man to another anyway. I like some time alone, to regroup and take stock and I think its a kinda healthy thing for me to do.

It's my birthday on Monday and I know I will find that difficult. Ditto for xmas, but thats just the way it is eh.

Someone on here whose opinion I really respect suggested I do something. So today I'm gonna buy me a box, put all the things in it that are connected to him (I havent moved them yet ), put the lid on and put it away.

And thats me in a nutshell. Not fantastic, but not doing badly either.

People have been lovely and supportive and once again it's made me realise how resilient I can be when i need to be. I told my mum I thought this might kill me, literally, and she said no, that she and I were made of stronger stuff and it would take something much more than this to ever break me.

Looks like she is right

Minx

You know you didn't loose anything here. The relationship was gonna end anyway, that time just came now. So remember what you liked about it, and pick up the new beginning you have now.

Also I think you should screen your men much more rigorously.

Plus also, being single isn’t exactly horrible you know. You can do stuff, like whatever you want without someone getting pissed about it.

 

[minx1]

We are stonger than we think.
Everyone is behind you, girl!

awww thanks hon

Bring them to my house! We'll raid the wine rack and then go out onto the footy oval and set the box on fire!

*grins* sounds good! I'll be burning vibrators too....it seems wrong to reuse some things later with someone else. eeewwww.

Also I think you should screen your men much more rigorously.

Plus also, being single isn’t exactly horrible you know. You can do stuff, like whatever you want without someone getting pissed about it.

Lol, believe it or not YC I do screen the best I can. Shit happens. I mean look, I ''screened'' my ex husband and he still turned out to be a wanker.

And yeah I totally agree about the being sinle thing. I've chosen that a lot in the past over being in a relationship. I enjoy my own company and like doing my own thing....so single is good for now.

 

[copslut]

Dear X

I don't know how I feel about you taking me anymore. I don't think you deserve me.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Dear X

I don't know how I feel about you taking me anymore. I don't think you deserve me.

Any time you feel confused, lost, or just have questions, there are loads and loads of folks here who have wisdom and insight out the wazoo: CutieMouse, graceanne, and many others would likely be happy to "talk" with you via PM, etc., any time you want... just pick one you think you'll be comfy with and PM 'em.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Dear X,

Please kindly fuck right off with your 'bump bump bump' posts.

Yours sincerely,

Me.

 

[seela]

Dear X,

Please kindly fuck right off with your 'bump bump bump' posts.

Yours sincerely,

Me.

I was wondering why would anyone "bump bump bump" a thread, that's been posted to 20 minutes earlier.