Dear X:

[minx1]

Dear x,

Just been crying yet again at work.

I hope you have a really shit day and ditto for the future.

How could you do this to someone you said you loved and someone you wanted a future with.

You disgust me.

 

[minx1]

One last thing...

You are a liar.

I ended it you. Remember that part? It was me not you. It was me who gave you the ultimatum after I learnt what you'd been doing.

She told your leaders not me.

You offered me ''a gift'' as you refer to it in a text.when you came and fucked me again to get me pregnant, you text afterwards and said you wanted me to feel loved.
No fucking blackmail there.

You tried to end it many times? oh that will explain then how every time I asked if I should leave you said you didnt want me to go.

Hell she must be desperate to overlook everything.

You know if you hadnt have come and have sex with me again and and then have the audacity to accuse me of blackmail and if she hadnt named me on a public fourm and lied about me, I would never have felt the need to defend myself and tell the truth about us.

So If you want to blame someone...look to yourself.

You know it could be worse...I might not have just fallen in love with a liar and cheat...I could be married to one.

I'm almost tempted to go all the way....public hearing. Lets see how the lies stand up then.
I offered an undertaking and you know what, it was easy. After this why the hell would I want anything to do with you?? Plus it will save me some money and as my lawyer pointed out I can get you out of my life much more quickly, but as I leave here this morning....I'm not so sure. Maybe after all this I'dlike a hearing.

The fact that you have done this to me is disgusting. You should be ashamed.
You are no man and certainly no Dom.

 

[satindesire]

Dear Minx,

As much as you're suffering right now, if you stop talking to him and remove yourself from the situation, you'd save yourself a lot of heartache. You prolong the pain by continuing to have contact with him, and you're putting off healing by still being connected to him.

A lot of us here are worried about you and we care about you. This advice is only coming from a loving place in me so please don't take offense to this. You will feel better sooner if you leave him alone, block his number, change your lock, and block his email. REMOVE HIM from your life completely, forever and ever, and start mourning. The longer you put it off, the more you suffer unnecessarily. You really don't want to suffer, do you?

With all love and respect in the world,

Me

 

[justnoldfriend]

___________

 

[FreakMyWhatNow]

Dear X,

It's "she".

She needs to tell him.

She falls to her knees because she feels like that is her place. That is what feels natural. The same way as it feels natural to open her mouth to him. Waiting at the door is where she belongs now.

Yes, she should know her place, but the place is different with each person and she needs to keep learning it over and over again. The obedient slave is a work in progress, but she always will be. She needs to learn and grow. It will always be this way.

Bringing herself so close to orgasm and then stopping herself becomes more about relinquishing control, than about controlling her own body. She follows cues and obeys instructions, rather than thinking about how best to stop herself from coming. It’s only difficult if she tries to control it herself. It becomes easier each time, because she knows what to expect. Learning how to keep herself like that, on the edge, is only for him. If she knows it pleases him, then she wants to do it for him.

He inspires her obedience. She wants to learn what pleases him. The desire she feels demonstrates nothing but her willingness to submit to him.

If she plays because she is told to, if she stops because she is told to, if she comes because she is told to, then it isn’t about what she is doing. It is about what he is doing to her. Opening her mind up to the possibility that another person could help her to control those primal instincts is difficult. It’s a surrendering in itself.

The trust she is required to demonstrate can be frightening, but it only makes her more determined to overcome the fear. After the fear and the insecurity, comes the true submission- the submission of her body and of her mind.

Instinctively, she moves to please him. Without hesitation, she obeys his commands.

She didn’t expect this. She is open to it all.

x she...

 

[satindesire]

Dear Satin,

You never heard that shared pain is lessened?

Let Minx blurt what she needs to blurt, it kinda helps yanno...

me

I fully understand and support her right to post, and that 'message' to her was not intended to get her to stop posting. You've either misunderstood the entire message or you're being obtuse. Either way, Let Satin Blurt what she needs to blurt.

 

[justnoldfriend]

..........

 

[satindesire]

After your Dear X post I doubt she will blurt here ever again..



I just wonder how could someone ever call you smart.

One "smart" post of yours.


It sounds as it was writen by a blonde, not someone smart. Or maybe by someone obtuse?

Wow, you're a right bitch, aren't you? You're all hot to defend her right to post what she likes, at the same time complaining about my posts? If that doesn't strike you as hypocritical, I can't imagine you understanding the fact that Minx isn't going to find offense to my OBVIOUSLY affectionate and loving message to her because of your extremely limited ability to comprehend the English language.

There's an ignore feature on the forum. If you find me so offensive I would advise you to use it.

Edited to add:

http://freedomofphiladelphia.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/05/stfu.jpg

 

[Kikori]

After your Dear X post I doubt she will blurt here ever again..



I just wonder how could someone ever call you smart.

One "smart" post of yours.


It sounds as it was writen by a blonde, not someone smart. Or maybe by someone obtuse?

Between someone who's been here for years, has been established as an intelligent, caring soul, and only offensive enough to trolls to warrant a removal from a topic (i.e. Satin) and a completely new to the forum derptard who's trying to mimic a holy crusader for the weak (you), I wonder who Minx is going to take seriously.

Dear Minx...

While Satin is right about you needing to remove yourself from the problem before the pain can start getting better, you're still not alone. The anti-troll society will be here to hug you down the road, too. <3

-Kikori

 

[satindesire]

Derptard.

My new favorite word. I will use that correctly in a sentence many times today, just for you KiKi. *highfive!*

 

[justnoldfriend]

.............

 

[satindesire]

Nice pic! You should read it every day to yourself.

Thanks! I do, actually, that's why I don't post anything stupid. It's really good advice. You should try it.

 

[justnoldfriend]

...........

 

[satindesire]

I am not the one with 10.000 posts here so...

I have way more than 10 posts there, Books. Funny how you're calling me stupid but can't manage the difference between a comma and a period.

 

[justnoldfriend]

.............

 

[Seurat]

Dear X

I'm just tired of it all. Weary. Don't expect a whole lot, 'cause I ain't got a whole lot left.

 

[satindesire]

That suposed to be funny?

I've called you blonde. Stupid and obtuse was your words. You should read your own posts better and also think twice before you start calling someone you dont even know obtuse.

Smart? Smartass maybe.

No, it wasn't supposed to be funny to YOU, but I can promise you to everyone else, it was hilarious.

Not that you have any sense of social interactions, clearly, my explanations are lost to you. Again, if you find me offensive, please feel free to go about your business and not waste your 'precious' time online with me. I'm sure all the other lovely people on this forum will find it a relief.

I take pride in being a smartass. Clearly you do too. Perhaps you should remove the plank before trying to help me with my speck, eh?

 

[ultramarineblue]

That suposed to be funny?

I've called you blonde. Stupid and obtuse was your words. You should read your own posts better and also think twice before you start calling someone you dont even know obtuse.

Smart? Smartass maybe.

Perhaps others should do this as well? If you lurk or post regularly, you would know that both are regulars of this forum. I have no idea if they are friends but at the least they are aware of one another since this is a pretty small forum. Without knowing the history of interaction between the two, you can't really know if the advice is welcome or not. On the other hand, if a person that isn't a regular on the boards offered the same advice, it wouldn't go over well. Both have developed reputations as posters here and since you don't know their reputations, you wouldn't have a way of knowing where either of them was coming from.

You obviously care for others who are in pain and want to help people when they're down or can't help themselves. Those are very good traits. Stick around and get to know people and let others get to know you by contributing thoughtful and respectful posts.

 

[Kikori]

Derptard.

My new favorite word. I will use that correctly in a sentence many times today, just for you KiKi. *highfive!*

Very late *highfive!* back.

 

[minx1]

Dear self,

I think the thing or rather one of the things you are having trouble dealing with, isnt so much that he said he was the one who ended it. I get why he had to say that. Its what he wrote about trying to end it with me so many times, but claimed he were too scared too.
And now you keep going over it in my head. All the times you offered to leave him to it. All the times you threatened to go and all the times he told you he wanted you and he wanted you to stay.
You know he meant it, but now you keep picturing those words; as he wrote them that day and you are almost starting to doubt the reality.
You know he told you there was no choice; it was you. Yet you still see those words.
Its now obvious that he must have denied that in order to salvage things; just as he said he would have to.

You know he always said he needed to control how it was done and you took that away.

And now you dont even have the ability to talk and ask the questions you need to. Thats why its so hard.

Me

 

[shewolf3003]

Dear X,

How could you abandon your children for an alcoholic prick? They are your flesh and blood. You are pushing your daughter away from you and creating a hatred in her for all men. Can you not see the distress and emotional harm you are putting them through? All for what? Some man with no job, who drinks constantly, who tells you to leave after every fifth is gone? You work two jobs to support him, but your children must fend for themselves? You pawn them off on anyone who will keep them so "Jr." won't get angry? How could you? I will take them once again. But this time, you will not get them back. I will love them and care for them. It's not like when they were little. Now they are teenagers, they can see for themselves who and what you value most in life, and it certainly isn't them. I am already a single parent with no support from anyone else, yes it will be hard. We will get by somehow, struggling together, but they will be loved. I don't/won't speak ill of you to them. They have formulated their own opinion of you. Remember, you reap what you sow. When you are alone and destroyed because the scum you have chosen over your own children is gone, I wonder will it have been worth it?

Disgustedly,

MM

 

[NomadLady]

Dear Sir...

Dear X,
As previously said, you've made a profound impact in my life. What you also did was open the BDSM "pandora's box" with me....and then left it open on the table. You got me to where all I can do now is crave being a sub and with no one to Dom me....I don't think there were words to explain how that feels.....I am miserable.

Everything we discussed prior to meeting about communication, teaching me how to be a good sub, etc was just put aside. We have actually had TWO phone conversations since July 2. I've had emails ignored for days and text messages ignored. I had asked and given you every opportunity to end this but you say it's not over....

I just don't understand sir but I have learned that sub does not mean doormat sir. Reading and studying like I have since we first started chatting at the end of May has been very beneficial but as I've told you, I feel as though I've made a significant emotional investment here and now I feel like something very special and precious has been taken away.

When you can't even take a minute to reply to text like the one I sent yesterday and just say "no"...but I see you online on AFF, please tell me what I supposed to think? Jealousy is not what this is about but I do feel like when you cultivate a relationship with someone, having others in your life is fine as long as you don't ignore your previous ones. If you are on AFF persuing new women then I guess it is time for me to bow out with some dignity intact.

Below is the email I sent to you on August 10th that is still unanswered. You acknowledged the email, said you would reply that night or the next day and I never heard back from you. That is why I have asked, even begged for you to please refrain from making statements to me that you will do something then it never happens. I've explained to you on more than one occasion that I am very literal and hold someone to their word. I can't imagine that you are not a man of your word in the business world....I just wonder why I keep getting left behind.


"I try not to dwell on missing you, not seeing, talking to you etc....the more frustrated I seem to become lately. This is not at all what you said would happen for us and even though you said it isn't over......I just don't see how it can stay alive like this.
I need to know what you expect from me at this point......."

I still need to know what you expect..

(this email is coming from weeks of frustration sir....I never thought I'd crave someone to dominate me like I do now)

the woman who misses so badly being your pet......

 

[Keroin]

Dear Ocean,

Thanks so much for...everything. And my apologies for the human race.

I love you.

K

 

[EmpressFi]

Dear X,

I'm so sorry that you've found someone so insecure that he feels you have to cut yourself off from everyone you've ever spoken to in the past - even platonic friends. How pathetic he must be.

Me

Dear X,

You had over a year of feeling you were no longer in love with her. Over a year of banging at least 4 other women, including this last one who makes you feel young and alive again - even though you look worse now than you have in a while. However, when your wife asked you what was wrong, and she knew something was wrong, you told her nothing, that she was imagining it, that it was all in her medicated head. Then, 4 days before her birthday and a week before your wedding anniversary, you tell her it's over and that there's someone else.

She bravely, and without saying a bad word to anyone of us in your family, packs up her things and plans to move to Nebraska so she can heal with her family. The day before the move, you beg her to stay, tell her you'll try to make it work. She cancels the movers, unpacks the car. The next morning, you dickhead, you tell her that you tried but it's impossible. You cant bear the thought of giving up the 28 year old.

When your wife writes us to say good bye, she shares her pain and confusion and a little bitterness at the dreams she gave up to stay with you. The biggest for me was the dream of having children. She would have been a great mom, but you told her that you didnt want any and to be with you, she had to not want them either. How cruel of you to not even listen. Are you going to do it to the new girl too?

When your parents agreed that you'd been harsh, you told them to never call you again.

You disgust me. At first, I gave you the benefit of the doubt because I'd been where you were, or so I thought.. then I saw you post pictures of your new "love" on facebook and saw your status messages..all before your wife had even moved out.. there where she and her friends our friends could see them. How tactless and cruel you are to someone who loved you enough she would have and did give up everything important to her.

I dont know how to be civil to you. You're not the person I met. I dont want you near my son but my husband loves you.

Your sister in law,
me

 

[CutieMouse]

Dear X,

Sometimes I miss you.

~M