Dating

[Juspar Emvan]

I'm not good at it, or maybe just not experienced.

I was wondering today, what makes a good date to you? Not some mythical 'perfect' date, just a good date.

Me, when I magine dating, it goes something like this:

I pick her up and we head off to dinner. A small pleasant restuarant, nothing exotic or too classy, just romantic and comfortable. We leave dinner and head off for some cultural entertainment. Perhaps to see some theatre, or to the museum, or planetarium. Cap the evening with a wander along the beach under the stars, holding hands and talking. Kissing her good night tenderly on her doorstep.

OR

I pick her up and we head off to dinner. Some gaudy trendy restuarant, full of beautiful people and laughter. After dinner we go out for some entertainment, perhaps a movie. Then on to a nightclub, bodys pulsing to the beat. Dancing till the sweat runs down our bodies, hips together, legs entwined, never looking away from each other's eyes. God knows where we end up, but he'd be the only one to care 'cause we were fucking each other's brains out.



Actually as much as I love to dance, the first would be my preference.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

hummm don't know, i've never been on one, so would this be one of those wishful fantacy dates?

Movie/food/walk at the river. that would be a good date. for a friend or someone you want to get to know better.

 

[lilminx]

Either one sounds great to me, as long as it's with the right person and we were both comfortable. It really depends on the tastes of the people involved, and their interaction with each other.

My problem is that I rarely meet men who I truly like. I rarely meet eligible men in my profession (where I work, there are only two men- one is gay, the other is an alcoholic). When I'm out, i detest smokers, so that leaves out about 3/4 of the men I meet. The rest just want to fuck me, or are totally socially inept.

I've been doing the online personals, and it's pretty much hit or miss there. Lately it's just been miss. I went out on a date with a guy I had met at one of the sites, and while he seemed like a nice enough guy, he was just SO STRAIGHT. Not as in not being gay, but as in not being adventurous, I couldn't imagine him even thinking about tying me up- lol.

I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm tired of being lonely- I guess that makes two of us who aren't too good at dating.

(Btw, I hope you don't mind my long post to your simple question- I just needed to get that out).

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

lilminx... I keep telling you.

I'm right here girl

 

[MissTaken]

Dating sucks

I always want to skip dating and get right down to it. I want to know you within the first 20 minutes and know whether or not you will be spending any part of my life with my by the end of the first hour!

I have no patience for the "getting to know you" game. Which is exactly why most of my dates start through the internet.

Anyway, my vote is the first. A casual dinner, with an unwritten agenda for the rest of the evening. You can talk or, if you don't get on well, drive by her house, open her door from the inside of the moving vehicle and roll her out!

Ack! Bad joke! I must be tired.

Take care and good luck, Juspar,
Miss T

 

[Caria Knight]

Hmmm A real date...

It's been so long since I've been on one but here's something I'd like.


A jeans and Tee Shirt night (not the slob type though). He'd pick me up early and we'd drive to the shore (yeah, I'm from Jersey and we call it "The Shore" here). That would allow for plenty of time for good conversation. We'd spend a long afternoon on the boardwalk, laughing and playing boardwalk games and maybe go on a few rides. Then we'd go to diner at a resturant with a view of the beach then take a long stroll, hand in hand along the same stretch that we had been admiring. After that would be more good conversation on the car ride back.

This night would require conversation that lets us get to know each other better, plenty of subtle compliments (from both of us) and gentle touches like brushing hair from my eyes or a light squeeze on the shoulder, ect.

 

[nasty]

They'd pick me up, because, I don't drive. And, we'd just do Dinner & a movie. Although, we'd take our time with dinner, and, get to know each other.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Just so you know that there are people out there . . .

My problem is that I rarely meet men who I truly like. I rarely meet eligible men in my profession (where I work, there are only two men- one is gay, the other is an alcoholic) I'm eligible, straight and don't often drink. When I'm out, i detest smokersditto, so that leaves out about 3/4 of the men I meet. The rest just want to fuck me damn, or are totally socially ineptdamn, again.

I've been doing the online personals, and it's pretty much hit or miss there. Lately it's just been miss. I went out on a date with a guy I had met at one of the sites, and while he seemed like a nice enough guy, he was just SO STRAIGHT. Not as in not being gay, but as in not being adventurous, I couldn't imagine him even thinking about tying me up- lol I own cuffs.

I just don't know what to do anymore Well, I've yet to start, but I'm lost already. I'm tired of being lonelyditto- I guess that makes two of us who aren't too good at dating.

(Btw, I hope you don't mind my long post to your simple question- I just needed to get that out)my thread is your thread, feel free anytime

This is a game that people on both sides play, all you can do is keep trying, it's a numbers game.

 

[Cherry]

Not to change the subject, but...

Juspar, that is the most beautiful picture of you and the baby.

First time I noticed it was today. Is that your daughter?

Precious

 

[nasty]

You could move to Geneva, NY, Minxy.

 

[lilminx]

Juspar, I know that there are men like that out there- it just seems that they're not in NY or none of them want me. And there's nothing wrong (IMO) of occasionally going out for some drinks, but coming in to work shitfaced to teach little kids is a problem (referring to one of my male coworkers).

You're right- it is a numbers game, but it just seems that lately I've been batting .000.

(I also have a set of cuffs- lol).


Nasty- You want to watch a woman take a shit- while I do admit that that would be considered adventurous, it's not something I desire to have someone watch me do.

 

[Ice Cold]

Dating... ugh.... all the people I know are either married, have children, or their attracted to losers. Makes fir a mighty slim pool of eligibles out there.

Usually I just prefer a nice dinner and walk with good conversation, not the pleasantries, but where you can really get to know the person.

 

[zantac666]

I like to take women to a nice place for dinner and drinks and to just talk and get to know them. I tell them when i pick them up that i'm not expecting sex or even a kiss i will leave it up to you. That way they can relaxe and have a good time. I enjoy having a women to talk to. Yes i do like sex but it's not on my top list good company is better.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Re: Not to change the subject, but...

Juspar, that is the most beautiful picture of you and the baby.

First time I noticed it was today. Is that your daughter?

Precious

Yup me and mine. A couple of years old - she was 15 mths then. Quite a departure for me. Time I put up something a little more suggestive I think.

 

[Wiggles]

I don't really care where I go on a date. To be considered a good date, I have to be comfortable, and have a good time.

I need someone that likes to laugh and be playful. If they guy doesn't take himself to seriously, I'll have a good time.

I usually don't want to do anything to fancy though, especially on the first date.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

I tell them when i pick them up that i'm not expecting sex or even a kiss i will leave it up to you.

Women - is this a good thing? I think the attitude is good, and I would expect nothing less from myself. But is stating it helpful?

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Perfect date ... comfortable conversation ... somewhere near the water ... where the stars can be seen for miles. Nothing to be heard of but the sound of the lapping waves and his warm breath on my neck.



Morgy

 

[nasty]

Nasty- You want to watch a woman take a shit- while I do admit that that would be considered adventurous, it's not something I desire to have someone watch me do.

Well, perhaps after a case of Manhatten, you'd feel different.

 

[Wiggles]

Women - is this a good thing? I think the attitude is good, and I would expect nothing less from myself. But is stating it helpful?

Actually I don't think I would like it. I would rather have all that go it's natural course.

I don't need promises, that should be standard.

But I suppose in todays world some girls would need that reassurance.

 

[Jacqline]

I like to take women to a nice place for dinner and drinks and to just talk and get to know them. I tell them when i pick them up that i'm not expecting sex or even a kiss i will leave it up to you. That way they can relaxe and have a good time. I enjoy having a women to talk to. Yes i do like sex but it's not on my top list good company is better.

Zantac.........you are sounding better and better all the time........hmmmm

 

[zantac666]

Women - is this a good thing? I think the attitude is good, and I would expect nothing less from myself. But is stating it helpful?

For me i find it makes he women more relaxed this way they can have more fun than to worry about the end of the date. Some women may not like it but for me i see a lot more at the end of the date than i expect.

 

[Cherry]

Re: Re: Not to change the subject, but...

Yup me and mine. A couple of years old - she was 15 mths then. Quite a departure for me. Time I put up something a little more suggestive I think.

You might want to reconsider that move for a little while longer ... this one shows a very appealing side of you.

You know what they say about babies and dogs being "chick magnets", right?

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[kiwiwolf]

Juspar, it seems like us Kiwi guys are assembled along similar lines. I have just started dating again after a 7+ year absence from the scene. What a fucking nightmare. I was lucky though, in that the lady in question asked me out and planned the whole thing. It would have been a real nightmare if it had been left to me.

One handy hint though if I may. It is advisable not to trip over the said lady's pet on your way out the door and fall backwards down her stairs. Mairangi Bay has lots of houses with long flights of stairs.

Keep the AV... it shows the real Juspar man.

Shane

 

[justforhelltoo]

Women - is this a good thing? I think the attitude is good, and I would expect nothing less from myself. But is stating it helpful?

Nope, its NOT helpful and just makes me at least think that you ARE thinking about it already. I am 43 years old and have been sexually active since I was 17 and I just absolutely DETEST when a man meets me through one of my personal ads, which are all clean and "normal" and even state on them all that I am not looking for a one niter, but I hate it when a guy immediately brings it up - that just tells me right there that is all he is intersted in. ANd yes, I have met some men from online with just that thought in mind, as long as we were both in agreement, then why not? But I do not need for any man to tell me that we arent kids anymore and that sex is an imporant part of a relationship, I mean, hell, where do they think I have been ?? Mars ?? As a result of finding this crap time and time again when trying to establish a real long term relationshiop I took all my ads down and am now not even trying. Too bad to, I would make a great mate for some lucky guy, but men just want to rush it, I am sure there are women too, and they will blow any chances of getting to know me if the state it up front. Hell I have even had a couple of men, within the first half hour of a FIRST meeting tell me that they are going to get laid or at least a blow job that nite - I just usually laugh at them and say, yeah, well, maybe, but it wont be from me !! And I leave them sitting there - alone - watching me walk out of the restaurant