Dating Standards?

[crazybbwgirl]

In the past 20 years of "bachoretteness" I've come up with the 'bare minimum" acceptable standards for dating. Here's mine - do you have any?

1. Must be employed
2. Must have a car
3. Must have a driver's license
4. Must not still be living at home with Mom (UNLESS mom is
ill and you're a caregiver.)

 

[SexyChele]

Fun thread, though I'm not seeing the connection between this and "How to..." Anyway...

1. Be employed

2. Must like to do more than sit on couch, drink beer, and watch sporting events. (Although it is fun once in a while)

3. Have hair on head.

4. Be taller than me. (Hey, I'm only 5'5", so how tough would you think that would be?)

5. Must be willing to try new things.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

damn - I'm in How To? oops......

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

1) must have all his teeth
2) must not be BALD

 

[HoHoBomb]

must have a backbone

i think it's strange how must women who do not like bald men
shave their pussies

i think i might post a poll on it.

I LOVE BALD MEN!

 

[Guest]

as a male, these are my requirements:
1. she has to keep herself clean
2. have a job
3. not talk about her ex-b/f constantly
4. not bitch about everything
5. not discuss our sex life w/ her friends
6. has to be at least 5'2 and over 18 y.o.

and yeah, she must have hair

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Teeth are important to me. So are manners, and an ability to not PISS ME OFF ALL THE TIME!

 

[crazybbwgirl]

must have a backbone i think it's strange how must women who do not like bald men shave their pussies
i think i might post a poll on it.
I LOVE BALD MEN!

BALD men rule!!! Once you go bald; you'll never go back! lol

 

[SexyChele]

must have a backbone

i think it's strange how must women who do not like bald men
shave their pussies

i think i might post a poll on it.

I LOVE BALD MEN!

Not having pussy hair to enhance the feeling of my partner's tongue is quite different than the inability for me to run my fingers through my partner's hair. But hey, it's just my quirk. After all, once ya hit 40, most men are losing their hair and the true prize is the man who still has his hair!

Oh, and I'm not talking about men who shave their heads. Those I'll never understand.

 

[sheath]

Rules for dating?

He has to be comfortable with himself.

Has to have a sense of humor...and irony...

When he smiles, it has to be more than just a passing thought...it has to light up his eyes.

A deep voice, preferably with a southern twang to it.

And of course, he must be compassionate and honest.

I can usually tell after one date...hell, one HOUR...whether or not he's up to par.

S.

 

[lovechild27]

guys gotta exercise...not just for his bod, but exercising actuallys ups your libido.

In my experience, if they get out and move and take care of themselves, they will take care of you too.

 

[HoHoBomb]

guys gotta exercise...not just for his bod, but exercising actuallys ups your libido.

In my experience, if they get out and move and take care of themselves, they will take care of you too.

ssoooooooo
true

 

[Cakegirl]

The dude's gotta be as smart as me, or smarter.
Haha in my town, this eliminates most people!
~Cakegirl

 

[ReadyOne]

I have found that (generally) the more intelligent a lover is, the fewer inhibations they have, the quicker they pick up on things, the more willing they are, and the more creative they are.

Not to mention the good wit and conversation...

But then again there's the poor girl who's uneducated, unexperienced, unable to figure things out, who only knows that she "should" be doing some (not exactly specified) thing because that's what others seem to be doing, or what girls are supposed to due just becaus they are girls...

{No, I'm not a preditor. While many would love to exploit them, I have a kind of soft spot and urge to take them under my wing and mentor them. Something about trusting innocence, and not abusing same...}

 

[Krypt_Mistress]

Hmm... minimum...

Seeing as I've went through my fair share of problem men in the last few months, here's my kinda minimum standards:

--> Mentally all there - no long term depression - no attempted suicides - no suicidal families - no dependency needs.

--> Driving is a plus, but not a need. If he doesn't drive, he must at least have enough money to contribute towards my petrol.

--> A love of animals, if you don't love them, I don't love you. I will choose my horses over a man, and the same goes for my cat and dog.

--> Similar interests so we have lots to talk about. The ability to in depth conversations and debates on different subjects, from mutual interests to politics and religion.

--> Literate.

--> Must like my friends and understand that he will be discussed in intimate detail with them.

--> Not a religious freak.

--> Must have a good sense of humour, and not think I'm strange.

--> Preferably some passing interest in roleplay.

... God you know, I could go on forever... there are reasons why I'm single (but saying that after Mr Suicidal, then Mr Depressed with the Suicidal Family and Mr Dependent all within a few months, I think I'd rather be Little Miss Single)

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

It appears that........

Rules for dating?

He has to be comfortable with himself.

Has to have a sense of humor...and irony...

When he smiles, it has to be more than just a passing thought...it has to light up his eyes.

A deep voice, preferably with a southern twang to it.

And of course, he must be compassionate and honest.

I can usually tell after one date...hell, one HOUR...whether or not he's up to par.

S.

Sheath and I have very similar preferences. I detest the word rules, so I'll stick with preference instead.
One exception though is I prefer a British accent first, but a Southern one is next best.
Hair is not a really a preference in that only I look for clean and neat. Of coarse if bald, this isn't an issue.
The biggest turn on is intellectual stimulation. If he doesn't have that capability, then I'm history!

-kym- looking to be intellectually stimulated and then some!

 

[Bandit58]

Damn.......I've broken all the rules......

I couldn't help it - I fell in love with someone who lives 5 hours away........who is married.....who is a poor unemployed student.....

But who has the most lovely smile, the kindest eyes, the gentlest hands, we laugh together and can talk about anything.....and the sex is wonderful......I miss him so much

I also have an older friend.....he's single, good in bed, has money and the time to be with me (he lives closer for a start), he's kind and generous, well travelled and intelligent (and bald ).......but I don't love him.

Love is a strange but wonderful thing......

 

[Native Alien]

yea what ya'll said, especially Krypt_Mistress. i have had enough of those to last a lifetime.

oh and one other thing, if he has to break a date then he lets me know as far in advance as he possibly can.

nothing worse than getting already and having a no show. without an explaination as to why.

 

[virginleo20]

funny

1. Must be employed
2. Must have a car
3. Must have a driver's license
4. Must not still be living at home with Mom (UNLESS mom is
ill and you're a caregiver.)



well im all of these thing and more and i couldnt get a date if i wanted to .... so much for being kind hearted and respectfull aswell.

This is yet again the "countroversy" over what women want and what they actually need.... and what reality has to offer to them .

Does living with ones father for "rental savings" convenience count as an egual consept to "living with mom"...?

(at $400 a week minus school expences i cant afford to live alone in San Diego)

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Re: funny

1. Must be employed
2. Must have a car
3. Must have a driver's license
4. Must not still be living at home with Mom (UNLESS mom is
ill and you're a caregiver.)



well im all of these thing and more and i couldnt get a date if i wanted to .... so much for being kind hearted and respectfull aswell.

This is yet again the "countroversy" over what women want and what they actually need.... and what reality has to offer to them .

Does living with ones father for "rental savings" convenience count as an egual consept to "living with mom"...?

(at $400 a week minus school expences i cant afford to live alone in San Diego)

No Sweetheart, living with your father to save money isn't the same. I assume that would apply to the guy who is in his 30-40's and still living with his mom.
Don't be too concerned V.L.; it sounds as if you may still be fine with the situation you're in and in a few years you'll be out and on your own.
Possibly with the date thing; if you relaxed and let your inner beauty shine, you'd attract that special girl. Smile lots and be fun to be around. And most of all Darlin, patience! Rome wasn't built in a day. ~~laughing~~ Perhaps I should take my own advise!
Best wishes V.L. and most of all......be happy!

-kym- Never liked those damned Romans anyway!

 

[emer]

My rules ... subject to change an any moment!!!

After 20 years of "wedded bliss" these would be my rules ... if I followed any:

1. Employed ... retired guys just seem to have too much time on their hands and can't understand my commitments to family and job.

2. Sense of humor! I'm not all that funny but if you can make ME laugh ... pants, errrrr ... hats off to you!!!

3. Share my love for Charlie Parker, Toby Keith, and Sarah McLachlan. (or at least know who they are)

4. Hair (or lack of) has NEVER been an issue ... so longs as it's clean! Guys who shave their balls make me giggle!

5. NO history of drug or alcohol abuse ... congratulations on being clean/sober but I'll admit I'm too "co-dependent" (gag-puke ... I hate that word!) to willingly get in a relationship like that again.

6. SAFE SEX !!! Sure, eventually I'll quit insisting on the condoms but not right away ... which leads to #7 which I will put into the "nice to have" category.

NICE TO HAVE ...

A vasectomy! (long ago in nursing school we had a discussion about the pro/con of vasectomy versus tubal ligation ... mans fear of impotence or risk of prostate cancer versus womans risk of surgery ... general anesthesia, blood clots, infection, etc ... if pressured I'll look for the research that was quoted but that will be another topic)

Definitely the Southern Drawl.

A Harley!

A dog or a cat ... (get your mind out of the gutter!) If my dog likes you, chances are so will I.

emer

( *** ho - hum ... still single. Demanding? Me? *** )

 

[virginleo20]

funny

MY-Sir's-k-

thanks for your reply and positive out look....


Im not really worried about any of those things

My post was merely a humorous self insulting commentary ( if that makes any sence)

Sometimes its kind of hard to pick up on.

My point of it was that all of those material things are just fine and dandy but being a kindhearted intelligent etc person with moral standars and integrity.... well is of very little value when looking at the "requirements" posted by sertain people.


Or maybe they just forgot about those things.

(Im a hopeless romantic and idealist so no preaching etc meant by that comment + i do have some money to spare... heck i just spent $400 on my wine collection)

oh and by the way even if i could affor living on my own.. im so frugar ( i think thats the term) that id still share the rent with my dad atleast he wont rob me blind when im not at home.
( bad roomie thing that might occur)

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

My requirements

for a woman I want to date, she needs to meet these criteria...

1. She must have really low moral standards,
2. Only thing lower than her moral standards must be her standards for men
3. She must have poor eyesight

Give me a woman that has these three things going for her and I am happy...

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Re: funny

MY-Sir's-k-

thanks for your reply and positive out look....


Im not really worried about any of those things

My post was merely a humorous self insulting commentary ( if that makes any sence)

Sometimes its kind of hard to pick up on.

My point of it was that all of those material things are just fine and dandy but being a kindhearted intelligent etc person with moral standars and integrity.... well is of very little value when looking at the "requirements" posted by sertain people.


Or maybe they just forgot about those things.

(Im a hopeless romantic and idealist so no preaching etc meant by that comment + i do have some money to spare... heck i just spent $400 on my wine collection)

oh and by the way even if i could affor living on my own.. im so frugar ( i think thats the term) that id still share the rent with my dad atleast he wont rob me blind when im not at home.
( bad roomie thing that might occur)

Gotcha V.L. Inflection is difficult to grasp with written word. I was unaware that you were being humourous and self insulting. But no matter.
I quite agree that its what's inside rather than what one has in their wallet that counts most, but allow me to say that after supporting several men; I have no desire to make that same mistake again! I work to support myself and therefore I expect them to be able to support themselves too. Its a two way street as far as I am concerned. Other than that? I'm fairly open minded.

-kym- getting ready to go into said job

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Re: My requirements

for a woman I want to date, she needs to meet these criteria...

1. She must have really low moral standards,
2. Only thing lower than her moral standards must be her standards for men
3. She must have poor eyesight

Give me a woman that has these three things going for her and I am happy...

hahaha - I must add those to my list too!