Dating Standards?

[asenath]

Okay...

He has to have decent teeth, smell nice, drive a decent car... like those big-ass Rams. I like those. He has to have an interesting job, he can't smoke... and he has to be agnostic or atheist.

Oh yeah.. he has to be witty and funny... and super kinky too.

I think that's everything.

 

[asenath]

Teeth are important to me. So are manners, and an ability to not PISS ME OFF ALL THE TIME!

Will you punish me if I piss you off?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Will you punish me if I piss you off?

Does it count as punishment if you like it?

 

[asenath]

Does it count as punishment if you like it?

You could make me do something I won't like.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

You could make me do something I won't like.

Hmmmmm...yes, I could do that. Something public, perhaps?

 

[asenath]

Hmmmmm...yes, I could do that. Something public, perhaps?

Hmm... I don't know about that.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Hmm... I don't know about that.

That's why it is PUNISHMENT!!!


LOL

 

[asenath]

That's why it is PUNISHMENT!!!


LOL

True. You wouldn't make me go through a drive-through with cum on my face... right?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

True. You wouldn't make me go through a drive-through with cum on my face... right?

Depends on how bad you are!

 

[MWG]

Well, I'm married now, so technically this thread doesn't apply to me, but my standards as they were-

1. Witty
2. Intelligent
3. Self-sufficient (not living at home with mama or sponging off mine or someone else's money)
4. Confident (hated guys who were always using false humility and putting themselves down to get sympathy)
5. Very nice (sometimes witty, intelligent, self-sufficient, confident guys tend to be assholes- so this one was a biggie)
6. Sexually adventurous
7. Sensitive
8. Commitment minded


I found all of these eventually. That's why I'm married.

 

[k_girl23]

I know I'll probably never find someone who fits all my wants but he's gotta fit some.
1. must be smart
2. must be employed
3. must have car and license
4. must be honest and faithful
5. must like to travel or understand that I am going to go without him
6. taller than me
7. have a kinky side and be into at least some of the same sexual things that I am
8. must have some meat on the bones (boney chest is not comfortable for me)
9. must be compassionate, caring
10. must want kids

 

[k_girl23]

i think i forgot
11. Must not live with mommy, or in parent's basement

 

[asenath]

Depends on how bad you are!

I'll behave.. Promise. *nods*

 

[jason_jenn]

For me, the standards have exceeded all of my expectations of what a woman should be. So much, that I don't remember what they were... In light of this, I guess I could only list the qualities I admire in Jenn

1. Confident (I don't mean cocky, or know it all) - She knows here limits, but pushes just outside of her comfort zone. She answers questions thoughtfully and accurately.
2. Smart - She knows what she wants and gets it. She can see all sides to a given situation or individual, and sees some good in most anything
3. Loyal - Friends that she makes she keeps.. she knows who to steer clear of, and who she can rely on. Her friends and family know that when needed, she is always there for them.
4. Patient - The fact she knows everything about me and can put up with my idiosyncrasies and is still committed to me, tells me she is near Saint status in this department.
5. Sexual - Before I met her, I was convinced that women didn't like sex all that much or even felt it to be a chore... I seem to have to keep up with her a lot of the time (No complaints, mind you ).
6. Charming - Anyone who meets her likes her right away.
7. Independent - She relies on herself more than she relies on others. At the same time, she makes me feel VERY needed.
8. Intimate - Not to be confused with sexual... She can confide in me with anything and everything. she is a big time cuddler and I get warm and fuzzies whenever she curls up beside me.
9. Trusting/trustworthy - Kind of mixes with loyalty and charm. she knows I have a less than perfect past, but knows where my heart is ( I guess that would be confident too).

And Finally:
10. Mine - As I am hers. I am so happy to have finally found the love of my life (And I honestly wasn't looking for it at the time). We met at a time in my life I had decided to go with short term relationships, because my track record with women hadn't been all that impressive. She really opened my eyes to what a real woman is about! Am I ever glad that she changed my point of view!!!


I love you, Jenn.

 

[TheSnowCrystal]

Before getting into a more detailed list of criteria.......as bad as that sounds, it's not really.......there's one thing that breaks the deal for me from the very beginning.

If you smoke, it ain't happening. If you're quitting, call me when you have quit. And I don't mean last week. Sorry, but it just nauseates me, and although I empathize with how addictive it is, it's just plain stupid.

 

[mrs.jeepman6]

as a male, these are my requirements:
1. she has to keep herself clean
2. have a job
3. not talk about her ex-b/f constantly
4. not bitch about everything
5. not discuss our sex life w/ her friends
6. has to be at least 5'2 and over 18 y.o.

and yeah, she must have hair

xxxxx

 

[sunandshadow]

What I want in a guy
1. must be skinny (not because I have any moral opinion about weight, just because skinny guys are my type)
2. must be intelligent
3. must be creative, preferably with similar esthetic tastes to mine. Brains are useless if he can't talk about subjects I'm interested in, which are mostly witing and art related
4. must not be sadistic, at all. I want a guy who goes Awww if I feel bad, I'm sick of guys who pinch me or steal my stuff just to get a reaction, I want someone who only wants positive reactions.

other strong preferences but not necessities:
5. should have long or punkish hair
6. should not care that I don't have a job (I do work-at-home/freelance stuff, but I haven't been able to find a professional job in any of my specialty areas. )
7. should want kids

If I could find a guy like that, who liked me... well, I think the world might end, lol.

 

[satindesire]

What I Need

Self sufficiant employment capable of paying the bills and a little extra left over for some fun.

Loves me for my brains AND my beauty. Apprecaites my desires, my fantasies, my goals and ambitions. Sees me with loving eyes.

Enjoys the same sexual kinks as I do, willing to be committed to a D/s relationship. Marriage-minded, monogamous, isn't into porn.

Highly Dominant.

Impeccible hygeine, teeth, nails, hair...a sort of all-encompassing cleanliness that won't extend to metrosexualness.

Highly intellegent, eloquent speaker and sympathetic listener.

A practicer of the Christian religion.

Chest hair.

What I Want

Very short, neatly-kept dark hair.

Speaks fluently in more than one language.

Tatoos, piercings, and/or black nail polish.

Plays some kind of musical instrument.

Well endowed.

Dark or tanned skin.

Beautiful white teeth.

The ability to make me laugh at any given moment, no matter the circumstances.

Humility and confidence juxtaposed to form a sort of quiet nobility that I find very sexy.

Deal Breakers

Addictions to alcohol or controlled substances.

Argumentative, hot-tempered, physically or emotionally abusive, forceful or aggressive.

Submissiveness.

Poor health choices...eating nothing but junk food, won't exersise, etc...

Poor hygeine. Especially dental hygeine.

Unwilling to be monogamous. Claiming to be faithful when he isn't. Lying about pornography or his sexual desires...won't communicate his kinks or fetishes with me.

Small hands or gross fingernails.

False Dominance...uses the ploy of being Dominant to boost his own poor self esteem.

Agnostic or Atheist.

 

[LoneOne]

Ok, my standarts:

We must be able to talk with each other and she has to be very open minded

She has to understand my love for books

She should be able to survive my family for at least 4 hours without complaining

I work in our family business, so she must be able to deal with this fact and the fact that I live and work at home with my parents (ok, i have my own floor with 128 square meters )

No depressed, sociopathic and/or suicidal nut cases, no drugs (this also includes smoking), not to much alcohol (I can't take this anymore)

She has to like her body, no no no... she has to love her body (in a non-narcistic kind of way)

She has to be a bit on the kinky site of life

A good personal hygiene and good manners are my minimum requirements in every case

Sometimes I think that this is to much to ask for

 

[Lovernotkiller]

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Male here, so if i am 18 and still live with "mommy" does that mean i gatta get a better job with an appartment to date girls who don't live with their parents?

My standards for girls

1. Weigh less than me and/or be nice
2. clean(dirt and mud is ok)
3. gatta "click" less its a one nighter

 

[KokopelliRises]

Hmm.... A lot of good answers. I will keep mine objective. These preferences apply to all the people I hang out with:

1. Non-smoker. Smoking anything is gross. Period.

2. Doesn't do drugs. I don't mind if you need your pain medication for an actual medical reason (no, medical marijuana does not count).

3. Can tell me I'm wrong when I am. Not strictly a dominance thing, but someone who can stand up to me. I am a stubborn, strong-willed woman and I want someone who tell me when I'm wrong and why, who won't back down when I assert myself.

4. Not homophobic. It just wouldn't work.

5. Is willing to respect my wishes with what I'm comfortable with, but can also me if I would be willing to do something completely new. Usually I'm up for it.

6. Respects what I do on my own. It is my "me" time. Sure you can ask me about it, but if I choose not to answer, it is my business. More often than not I'll tell you about it anyway because I like to talk.

7. Wants me for who I truly am. If you do not like who I am, tough. The only person I'll change for is me.