Damage repair
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Keroin
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Hey KC, I want to throw my two pesos in here and some additional words of encouragement.
When I was very young, I married a man who would turn out to be an abusive alcoholic asshole. In a few short years he beat my self esteem into a bloody pulp.
The road back is long and frustrating but what others have said here is valid. One day at time. Focus on your achievements. Remind yourself, constantly, that you are worthwhile. I also found that making an effort to surround myself with people I respected helped - it gave me something to work towards, role models. Expect ups and downs, just don't linger too long in the downs. Don't ever be afraid to ask for help.
Fall down seven times, stand up eight.
Something else that worked for me, odd as it may sound...forgiveness. It took some time but eventually I forgave me and I forgave him. That brought me tremendous peace and allowed me to leave aside the anger that was eating at my insides.
You can choose who you want to be. I did. I've never looked back. You can do it too, I know you can. I have enormous respect for your decision to go back to school. Way to go!
When I was very young, I married a man who would turn out to be an abusive alcoholic asshole. In a few short years he beat my self esteem into a bloody pulp.
The road back is long and frustrating but what others have said here is valid. One day at time. Focus on your achievements. Remind yourself, constantly, that you are worthwhile. I also found that making an effort to surround myself with people I respected helped - it gave me something to work towards, role models. Expect ups and downs, just don't linger too long in the downs. Don't ever be afraid to ask for help.
Fall down seven times, stand up eight.
Something else that worked for me, odd as it may sound...forgiveness. It took some time but eventually I forgave me and I forgave him. That brought me tremendous peace and allowed me to leave aside the anger that was eating at my insides.
You can choose who you want to be. I did. I've never looked back. You can do it too, I know you can. I have enormous respect for your decision to go back to school. Way to go!
Essene
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KC, that's awesome. Keep going. And I'm all on board with what Keroin said about forgiveness.
I actually had a lovely Shadenfreude moment the other day with my ex. I was telling him of how I'm setting up this awesome job as a paralegal working with victims of domestic violence under the supervision of a great lawyer.
My ex sneered at me and said "I thought you were barely started in that program. How are you going to get a job like that?"
I said "well, paralegals aren't regulated here as of yet, so I can get a job at any time, and this school took most of my credits from my last school...and with the million course hours that I'm taking this summer, I should be done by December and into X Great School to finish my bachelors by the spring. Besides he already wants me to start interning with his current staff to see how I'll handle it."
I watched the smile fall from his face. It was priceless. If only to show his ass up, I will overload myself and get an A in every class. It felt so good. This same guy who told me that I'm only a house wife, and will never amount to anything will eat his words when I've made it into, and out the other side of law school.
I actually had a lovely Shadenfreude moment the other day with my ex. I was telling him of how I'm setting up this awesome job as a paralegal working with victims of domestic violence under the supervision of a great lawyer.
My ex sneered at me and said "I thought you were barely started in that program. How are you going to get a job like that?"
I said "well, paralegals aren't regulated here as of yet, so I can get a job at any time, and this school took most of my credits from my last school...and with the million course hours that I'm taking this summer, I should be done by December and into X Great School to finish my bachelors by the spring. Besides he already wants me to start interning with his current staff to see how I'll handle it."
I watched the smile fall from his face. It was priceless. If only to show his ass up, I will overload myself and get an A in every class. It felt so good. This same guy who told me that I'm only a house wife, and will never amount to anything will eat his words when I've made it into, and out the other side of law school.
Sir_Winston54
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You go, girl! And I'll bet that KC - and a bunch of other folks here - will be happy to give you a morale booster whenever things start to get a little tough (if they do).KC, that's awesome. Keep going. And I'm all on board with what Keroin said about forgiveness.
I actually had a lovely Shadenfreude moment the other day with my ex. I was telling him of how I'm setting up this awesome job as a paralegal working with victims of domestic violence under the supervision of a great lawyer.
My ex sneered at me and said "I thought you were barely started in that program. How are you going to get a job like that?"
I said "well, paralegals aren't regulated here as of yet, so I can get a job at any time, and this school took most of my credits from my last school...and with the million course hours that I'm taking this summer, I should be done by December and into X Great School to finish my bachelors by the spring. Besides he already wants me to start interning with his current staff to see how I'll handle it."
I watched the smile fall from his face. It was priceless. If only to show his ass up, I will overload myself and get an A in every class. It felt so good. This same guy who told me that I'm only a house wife, and will never amount to anything will eat his words when I've made it into, and out the other side of law school.
ZRT
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KC, that's awesome. Keep going. And I'm all on board with what Keroin said about forgiveness.
I actually had a lovely Shadenfreude moment the other day with my ex. I was telling him of how I'm setting up this awesome job as a paralegal working with victims of domestic violence under the supervision of a great lawyer.
My ex sneered at me and said "I thought you were barely started in that program. How are you going to get a job like that?"
I said "well, paralegals aren't regulated here as of yet, so I can get a job at any time, and this school took most of my credits from my last school...and with the million course hours that I'm taking this summer, I should be done by December and into X Great School to finish my bachelors by the spring. Besides he already wants me to start interning with his current staff to see how I'll handle it."
I watched the smile fall from his face. It was priceless. If only to show his ass up, I will overload myself and get an A in every class. It felt so good. This same guy who told me that I'm only a house wife, and will never amount to anything will eat his words when I've made it into, and out the other side of law school.
Rock on with your bad self.
FurryFury
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KC, that's awesome. Keep going. And I'm all on board with what Keroin said about forgiveness.
I actually had a lovely Shadenfreude moment the other day with my ex. I was telling him of how I'm setting up this awesome job as a paralegal working with victims of domestic violence under the supervision of a great lawyer.
My ex sneered at me and said "I thought you were barely started in that program. How are you going to get a job like that?"
I said "well, paralegals aren't regulated here as of yet, so I can get a job at any time, and this school took most of my credits from my last school...and with the million course hours that I'm taking this summer, I should be done by December and into X Great School to finish my bachelors by the spring. Besides he already wants me to start interning with his current staff to see how I'll handle it."
I watched the smile fall from his face. It was priceless. If only to show his ass up, I will overload myself and get an A in every class. It felt so good. This same guy who told me that I'm only a house wife, and will never amount to anything will eat his words when I've made it into, and out the other side of law school.
That's fabulous! Yay you!
Essene
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That's fabulous! Yay you!
Not to steal anyone's thunder, but thanks guys!
I appreciate it.
naxalite0906
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KC, that's awesome. Keep going. And I'm all on board with what Keroin said about forgiveness.
I actually had a lovely Shadenfreude moment the other day with my ex. I was telling him of how I'm setting up this awesome job as a paralegal working with victims of domestic violence under the supervision of a great lawyer.
My ex sneered at me and said "I thought you were barely started in that program. How are you going to get a job like that?"
I said "well, paralegals aren't regulated here as of yet, so I can get a job at any time, and this school took most of my credits from my last school...and with the million course hours that I'm taking this summer, I should be done by December and into X Great School to finish my bachelors by the spring. Besides he already wants me to start interning with his current staff to see how I'll handle it."
I watched the smile fall from his face. It was priceless. If only to show his ass up, I will overload myself and get an A in every class. It felt so good. This same guy who told me that I'm only a house wife, and will never amount to anything will eat his words when I've made it into, and out the other side of law school.
You were always going to amount to something, everyone who knows you would see that. But congratulations
You deserve a pleasant ride and hopefully this will be the start of something good.Hope you and the family are all well
bakedbeams
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KC & Essene,
Keep going, you are doing it, and you are doing it well.
I went and finished High School at 25, then went on to get a University Degree. Why?? because I wasnt allowed to finish school as I was just to stupid, well thats what my parents told me. I guess I wanted to show 'it' to them, and on the tough days thats what kept me going.
In 06 I was very ill, and last year decided that I needed a change, so at the age of 44 I went back to college and am studying to be a florist. This time its been harder, have memory problems caused by treatment, and at times difficulties with pain in my hands.
But being a florist has been my dream since childhood, and when I wake in the morning it puts a smile on my face. Its worth it!!!! Its worth the struggle, its worth the stress and its worth the fear.
At the end, you'll know YOU DID IT and no one will ever be able to take that away from you. Kudos to you both!!!!!
Keep going, you are doing it, and you are doing it well.
I went and finished High School at 25, then went on to get a University Degree. Why?? because I wasnt allowed to finish school as I was just to stupid, well thats what my parents told me. I guess I wanted to show 'it' to them, and on the tough days thats what kept me going.
In 06 I was very ill, and last year decided that I needed a change, so at the age of 44 I went back to college and am studying to be a florist. This time its been harder, have memory problems caused by treatment, and at times difficulties with pain in my hands.
But being a florist has been my dream since childhood, and when I wake in the morning it puts a smile on my face. Its worth it!!!! Its worth the struggle, its worth the stress and its worth the fear.
At the end, you'll know YOU DID IT and no one will ever be able to take that away from you. Kudos to you both!!!!!
SirLeo
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My Congrats
My congrats as well. It took me 13 years to get my degree, but I did it. Since then I have started 2 companies, made and lost and made lots of $$$, helped the earth's environment, and have a wonderful family. I just keep on setting goals and not stopping until they are achieved. Really pretty simple. Sounds like you have figured this out as well and my hat's off to you. Keep on going!
Leo
My congrats as well. It took me 13 years to get my degree, but I did it. Since then I have started 2 companies, made and lost and made lots of $$$, helped the earth's environment, and have a wonderful family. I just keep on setting goals and not stopping until they are achieved. Really pretty simple. Sounds like you have figured this out as well and my hat's off to you. Keep on going!
Leo
