Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

[LostGirlTink]

They said it went well! Just have to check her incision sight every day and take her back in two weeks to get her stitches out

I’m glad I’ve got the next two days home with her

Does she have to wear a cone? My furbaby hated the cone

 

[HeavyBalls]

They said it went well! Just have to check her incision sight every day and take her back in two weeks to get her stitches out

I’m glad I’ve got the next two days home with her

Good to hear.

 

[cascadiabound]

Brief Daddy Essay

There seem to be some good insights here and I appreciate the writer's reflections on his evolution from being uncomfortable with the term "daddy" in a sexualized setting, to embracing it.

What kind of journey have you had on this continuum? Did it squik you out at first? To be called daddy, or to want to call someone daddy? What stuff is in your own head that you needed to come to terms with to embrace it? Or was it obvious and easy, slipping out between your lips before you knew what you were saying in the heat of the moment?

*******************

I never thought I'd enjoy being called Daddy.

When I first came into the kink community, the prevalence of women calling their partners Daddy was staggering and shocking to me. I didn’t understand it or know what to make of it. It honestly grossed me out a bit because of my ignorance of the meaning behind that title and those types of dynamics.

I most certainly knew at the time I didn’t want to be called Daddy or be a Daddy Dom, even though I was constantly told that’s what I actually was and would be a good one.

Just as with any aspect of the Bdsm community, Daddy/babygirl dynamics are vast and will be different for each respective relationship. But on a whole, one of the biggest misconceptions I had and why someone calling their lover, Daddy, freaked me out is because I thought they were sexualing their feelings for their own father.

That’s not the case in the majority of people who fall under that style of dynamic. Instead, they are taking a classic and even comforting power exchange template, that of a father figure and his precious little girl and turning it into a healthy, robust kink dynamic.

It’s no different than someone playing cop/prisoner role play. Except with the Daddy/babygirl dynamic, it’s not roleplay, it’s about having roles that loosely define how you’ll interact and the style of your dynamic you’ll reside in. No different than any other kink dynamic you want to engage in. Master/slave, Owner/pet, Dom/sub, Predator/prey and the list could go on. You don’t just have to have one style either, we weave in and out of multiple styles. But Daddy/babygirl is our foundation emotionally and Sadist/masochist is our foundation kink wise.

We all understand the power of that dynamic between a father and his daughter. What a Daddy/babygirl relationship tries to do is not replicate that relationship, replace it or sexualize it, but rather create a dynamic that understands that bond and unique exchange and recreate that style of a power dynamic relationship, in a loving and kinky manner to create a very special bond between you both.

With my current dynamic, I wear a lot of hat’s and titles. I’m her Sadist, Top, Best friend, her Primal beastly lover and her Daddy. I’m not only okay when she calls me Daddy, I absolutely love it.

When she calls me Daddy, it’s a sign of respect, love and admiration and it makes me smile and feel special when she does. I love being her Daddy and more importantly, I love having her as my sweet and precious baby girl.

*****

Written by Innermind @ fetlife

"When she calls me Daddy, it’s a sign of respect, love and admiration and it makes me smile and feel special when she does. I love being her Daddy and more importantly, I love having her as my sweet and precious baby girl."

This resonates with me from both sides of the slash. Yes, it is a sign of respect and love and admiration - it should make him feel special to be called "daddy" and ideally it reinforces the special connection between Daddy and baby girl.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

There seem to be some good insights here and I appreciate the writer's reflections on his evolution from being uncomfortable with the term "daddy" in a sexualized setting, to embracing it.

What kind of journey have you had on this continuum? Did it squik you out at first? To be called daddy, or to want to call someone daddy? What stuff is in your own head that you needed to come to terms with to embrace it? Or was it obvious and easy, slipping out between your lips before you knew what you were saying in the heat of the moment?

*******************

I never thought I'd enjoy being called Daddy.

When I first came into the kink community, the prevalence of women calling their partners Daddy was staggering and shocking to me. I didn’t understand it or know what to make of it. It honestly grossed me out a bit because of my ignorance of the meaning behind that title and those types of dynamics.

I most certainly knew at the time I didn’t want to be called Daddy or be a Daddy Dom, even though I was constantly told that’s what I actually was and would be a good one.

Just as with any aspect of the Bdsm community, Daddy/babygirl dynamics are vast and will be different for each respective relationship. But on a whole, one of the biggest misconceptions I had and why someone calling their lover, Daddy, freaked me out is because I thought they were sexualing their feelings for their own father.

That’s not the case in the majority of people who fall under that style of dynamic. Instead, they are taking a classic and even comforting power exchange template, that of a father figure and his precious little girl and turning it into a healthy, robust kink dynamic.

It’s no different than someone playing cop/prisoner role play. Except with the Daddy/babygirl dynamic, it’s not roleplay, it’s about having roles that loosely define how you’ll interact and the style of your dynamic you’ll reside in. No different than any other kink dynamic you want to engage in. Master/slave, Owner/pet, Dom/sub, Predator/prey and the list could go on. You don’t just have to have one style either, we weave in and out of multiple styles. But Daddy/babygirl is our foundation emotionally and Sadist/masochist is our foundation kink wise.

We all understand the power of that dynamic between a father and his daughter. What a Daddy/babygirl relationship tries to do is not replicate that relationship, replace it or sexualize it, but rather create a dynamic that understands that bond and unique exchange and recreate that style of a power dynamic relationship, in a loving and kinky manner to create a very special bond between you both.

With my current dynamic, I wear a lot of hat’s and titles. I’m her Sadist, Top, Best friend, her Primal beastly lover and her Daddy. I’m not only okay when she calls me Daddy, I absolutely love it.

When she calls me Daddy, it’s a sign of respect, love and admiration and it makes me smile and feel special when she does. I love being her Daddy and more importantly, I love having her as my sweet and precious baby girl.

*****

Written by Innermind @ fetlife

"When she calls me Daddy, it’s a sign of respect, love and admiration and it makes me smile and feel special when she does. I love being her Daddy and more importantly, I love having her as my sweet and precious baby girl."

This resonates with me from both sides of the slash. Yes, it is a sign of respect and love and admiration - it should make him feel special to be called "daddy" and ideally it reinforces the special connection between Daddy and baby girl.

CB, thank you so much for sharing this. It resonated with me so much! I’m extremely grateful for this thread, and fir the thoughtful comments and content that you personally provide. This is a learning experience for me, and people like you make the journey so much more meaningful.

 

[cascadiabound]

CB, thank you so much for sharing this. It resonated with me so much! I’m extremely grateful for this thread, and for the thoughtful comments and content that you personally provide. This is a learning experience for me, and people like you make the journey so much more meaningful.

thank you Smoothshavendad

it is a good thing for us to learn from each other, to expand our understanding of ourselves as we see bits of our own journey reflected in others. It helps us feel less alone in our proclivities, helps us to accept the unique wonderfulness about ourselves and gives us insight into things that would otherwise be obscure.

cb

 

[cascadiabound]

https://66.media.tumblr.com/6d05cbd3846333c69c04c2b2b78d3ed7/tumblr_nfusicJhRS1qjuse9o1_400.jpg

his kitten

 

[DarkSimian]

To me, nothing says summer like pie ala mode. Enjoy!

http://img2.timeinc.net/health/images/slides/apple-pie-la-mode-400x400.jpg

 

[PWilton]

I never thought I'd enjoy being called Daddy.
When I first came into the kink community, the prevalence of women calling their partners Daddy was staggering and shocking to me. I didn’t understand it or know what to make of it. It honestly grossed me out a bit because of my ignorance of the meaning behind that title and those types of dynamics.

Apologies for barging in…

These posts are beginning to speak to me.

As I have entered into several Lit chat, Forum p.m., and Google Hangouts sessions with women, I was also surprised at first at the number who want to call me Daddy. And, at first, I did not like the idea. But as things have progressed, I have become more comfortable with it.

I think it is partly because I am quite a bit older than the ladies I chat with, and partly that I tend to take the lead in the conversation. I spice up the chat with relevant erotic images and my partners really like that. Some of my chat partners are quite young (20’s) and some are 30-40 or so. At the moment, I am confining my interaction with just one lady as my focus.

They enjoy it when I address them as ‘my little girl’, and pay them compliments “Daddy is proud of you”, etc. Because that is how I am actually feeling toward her. And I am warming to the role. And responding as ‘Daddy’. Yes, I realize it is ‘only’ in this make-believe world of internet chatting, but it is growing on me.

Not sure how far to take it; got to get more comfortable with the idea of segue-ing into assuming the role as a ‘Dom’, but that is the direction it is headed. I may ask for more advice here as time goes on.

Thanks.

 

[barefootgirl69]

There seem to be some good insights here and I appreciate the writer's reflections on his evolution from being uncomfortable with the term "daddy" in a sexualized setting, to embracing it.

What kind of journey have you had on this continuum? Did it squik you out at first? To be called daddy, or to want to call someone daddy? What stuff is in your own head that you needed to come to terms with to embrace it? Or was it obvious and easy, slipping out between your lips before you knew what you were saying in the heat of the moment?

cb,
This is such a wonderful, thought provoking post! I'll have to come back to it when I can think.

CB, thank you so much for sharing this. It resonated with me so much! I’m extremely grateful for this thread, and fir the thoughtful comments and content that you personally provide. This is a learning experience for me, and people like you make the journey so much more meaningful.

I agree! That's why I admire her so much!

Apologies for barging in…

These posts are beginning to speak to me.

No need to apologize! Come in, lurk, post... make yourself at home here.
Just one comment about age. Even though E is older than me, that hasn't always been the case. For me, I never feel older, and the way they carry themselves and lead, I think, makes it easy to be guided by them.
~bfg~

 

[barefootgirl69]

To me, nothing says summer like pie ala mode. Enjoy!

http://img2.timeinc.net/health/images/slides/apple-pie-la-mode-400x400.jpg

*lays out forks for everyone and contemplates how to divi it up*

 

[cascadiabound]

cb,
This is such a wonderful, thought provoking post! I'll have to come back to it when I can think.
~bfg~

I’m going to get to your insightful post from earlier at another time

I look forward to your thoughts.

Apologies for barging in…

These posts are beginning to speak to me. [snip]

Not sure how far to take it; got to get more comfortable with the idea of segue-ing into assuming the role as a ‘Dom’, but that is the direction it is headed. I may ask for more advice here as time goes on.

Thanks.

No need to apologize! Come in, lurk, post... make yourself at home here.
~bfg~

agreed - no apologies necessary. glad that you are finding ideas of interest here that help you on your journey. I look forward to hearing more from you.

 

[Nzerxx]

https://66.media.tumblr.com/6d05cbd3846333c69c04c2b2b78d3ed7/tumblr_nfusicJhRS1qjuse9o1_400.jpg

his kitten

OMG CB

 

[DarkSimian]

ok, since BFG thinks I'm not bringing enough snacks, here's some peach cobbler (and there's more in the oven). Enjoy!

http://food.fnr.sndimg.com/content/dam/images/food/fullset/2010/6/8/2/FNM_070110-Tyler-4th-Of-July-006_s4x3.jpg.rend.hgtvcom.616.462.suffix/1382539329904.jpeg

 

[barefootgirl69]

ok, since bfg is the sweetest lil' thing ever never ever , here's some peach cobbler (and there's more in the oven). Enjoy!

http://food.fnr.sndimg.com/content/dam/images/food/fullset/2010/6/8/2/FNM_070110-Tyler-4th-Of-July-006_s4x3.jpg.rend.hgtvcom.616.462.suffix/1382539329904.jpeg

*nom nom nom*

I love cobbler! *licks sticky lips*

 

[Smoothshavendad]

cb,
This is such a wonderful, thought provoking post! I'll have to come back to it when I can think.



I agree! That's why I admire her so much!



No need to apologize! Come in, lurk, post... make yourself at home here.
Just one comment about age. Even though E is older than me, that hasn't always been the case. For me, I never feel older, and the way they carry themselves and lead, I think, makes it easy to be guided by them.
~bfg~

You are pretty darned admirable yourself!

 

[barefootgirl69]

You are pretty darned admirable yourself!

Awwwww thanks!

 

[cascadiabound]

You are pretty darned admirable yourself!

Indeed you are bfg.

 

[DarkSimian]

I know it's after lunch, but here's some dessert if y'all would like some....

https://www.chef-in-training.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/IMG_8339-2.jpg

 

[cascadiabound]

That was a bit rambling and I probably talked in circles but that’s my $0.02 worth

Not rambling at all. Thanks for your thoughts.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I was thinking it would be fun to have a BDSM(D/s)-themed charm bracelet.

What would you put on yours?

 

[barefootgirl69]

I was thinking it would be fun to have a BDSM(D/s)-themed charm bracelet.

What would you put on yours?

A heart that says "Daddy's girl"
A teddy bear
A tiny lock
A crayon
A book
Wristwatch
Belt
Key
Teacup
Tiara
Bondage rope
Handcuffs

Lol... I like this game!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

A heart that says "Daddy's girl"
A teddy bear
A tiny lock
A crayon
A book
Wristwatch
Belt
Key
Teacup
Tiara
Bondage rope
Handcuffs

Lol... I like this game!

Haha! I'm glad. i like the tiara!

Some of the ideas I've had:

Mermaid
Anchor
Compass
Kitten
Padlock
Key
My initial
Moon
Star(s)
Celtic heart/love knot
Swan
Wolf

I'd want a book and a teacup, too, of course!

And depending on who my partner was, I'd want charms to represent him in some way.

 

[Moochienanu]

There seem to be some good insights here and I appreciate the writer's reflections on his evolution from being uncomfortable with the term "daddy" in a sexualized setting, to embracing it.

What kind of journey have you had on this continuum? Did it squik you out at first? To be called daddy, or to want to call someone daddy? What stuff is in your own head that you needed to come to terms with to embrace it? Or was it obvious and easy, slipping out between your lips before you knew what you were saying in the heat of the moment?

*******************

I never thought I'd enjoy being called Daddy.

<snip>

Just as with any aspect of the Bdsm community, Daddy/babygirl dynamics are vast and will be different for each respective relationship. But on a whole, one of the biggest misconceptions I had and why someone calling their lover, Daddy, freaked me out is because I thought they were sexualing their feelings for their own father.

That’s not the case in the majority of people who fall under that style of dynamic. Instead, they are taking a classic and even comforting power exchange template, that of a father figure and his precious little girl and turning it into a healthy, robust kink dynamic.

<snip>

When she calls me Daddy, it’s a sign of respect, love and admiration and it makes me smile and feel special when she does. I love being her Daddy and more importantly, I love having her as my sweet and precious baby girl.

*****

Written by Innermind @ fetlife

This resonates with me from both sides of the slash. Yes, it is a sign of respect and love and admiration - it should make him feel special to be called "daddy" and ideally it reinforces the special connection between Daddy and baby girl.

First off, I’ll chime in with a “thank you” to CB for sharing the thought-provoking essay and your thoughts. You make such great observations and posts.

The bolded part pretty accurately describes my position (in reverse of course) of the first time someone asked me to call him ‘daddy.’ I was not new to BDSM, like the writer was, but I had somehow skipped the education behind DD/lg roles at the time because I have a personal aversion to anything incestuous (which is a whole other story I don’t want to get into), so I tend to avoid any play situations or stories that even hint at it. When that first person asked me, I flat out refused. It didn’t make sense to associate him with my father.

Then my inquisitive mind took over. Why did he want to be called that? Had he had other people call him that? Was he into incest play and I didn’t know? I did a little researching and fortuitously, I saw this thread pop up to the top of the playground one day and I read through its entirety (and its preceding thread). With time I started putting pieces together about the role and dynamic surrounding ‘Daddy’ and the whole thing opened my eyes to the fact that I am a little girl. I had no clue before.

With time, I brought up calling that first guy what he wanted and he emphatically agreed that he would like it. What I didn’t realize is he just wanted to be called ‘daddy’ without the responsibility that goes along with it. I tried to explain what I had learned about DD/lg to him, about what it meant to be my Daddy, but there was too large of a gap between what he wanted and what I needed, so we parted ways. Lessons were learned on both sides and I’ve grown.

For a while, I thought I would just not have or find someone who would fit the other side of my slash. I was resigned to be a lonely little girl... and then He showed up. My Daddy. I still remember the first time it slipped out of my mouth and how it felt so right. I also remember the first time He called me His Good Girl (and I asked Him to repeat it ). When I call Him Daddy, we both know what it means to us.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

First off, I’ll chime in with a “thank you” to CB for sharing the thought-provoking essay and your thoughts. You make such great observations and posts.

The bolded part pretty accurately describes my position (in reverse of course) of the first time someone asked me to call him ‘daddy.’ I was not new to BDSM, like the writer was, but I had somehow skipped the education behind DD/lg roles at the time because I have a personal aversion to anything incestuous (which is a whole other story I don’t want to get into), so I tend to avoid any play situations or stories that even hint at it. When that first person asked me, I flat out refused. It didn’t make sense to associate him with my father.

Then my inquisitive mind took over. Why did he want to be called that? Had he had other people call him that? Was he into incest play and I didn’t know? I did a little researching and fortuitously, I saw this thread pop up to the top of the playground one day and I read through its entirety (and its preceding thread). With time I started putting pieces together about the role and dynamic surrounding ‘Daddy’ and the whole thing opened my eyes to the fact that I am a little girl. I had no clue before.

With time, I brought up calling that first guy what he wanted and he emphatically agreed that he would like it. What I didn’t realize is he just wanted to be called ‘daddy’ without the responsibility that goes along with it. I tried to explain what I had learned about DD/lg to him, about what it meant to be my Daddy, but there was too large of a gap between what he wanted and what I needed, so we parted ways. Lessons were learned on both sides and I’ve grown.

For a while, I thought I would just not have or find someone who would fit the other side of my slash. I was resigned to be a lonely little girl... and then He showed up. My Daddy. I still remember the first time it slipped out of my mouth and how it felt so right. I also remember the first time He called me His Good Girl (and I asked Him to repeat it ). When I call Him Daddy, we both know what it means to us.

That's lovely

 

[DarkSimian]

You and BFG both have great ideas for charms!!

I’d probably start out with
A heart
A lock
Tiara (sorry BFG it’s too good not to steal the idea!)
A mandolin
Collar

...wonder if I can get a tiny vibrator charm...hmm

Do you say you're from Druidia? That's funny, you don't look Druish