Daddy's Little Girl - Fourth Edition

[FrenchLopBunny]

Everyone is different. Good luck in your journey. Sorry I got so long- winded here.

Don’t apologize for being informative. You gave me a lot to think about. That’s what I wanted!

 

[Chloe_Harper]

A question for the Littles here

Is spanking part of your dynamic?
It is not part of mine because of my history with domestic violence. My Wolfie actually brought it up as a hard limit before me. He will not engage in any “pain play” until both myself and my therapist are on board. He said it would be okay with him if I never allowed it.
I have scheduled a Valentine getaway for us and I want to bring up the conversation with him. He has never pressured me, and my therapist is okay with trying it. This is something I want to gift to him. I don’t feel that I have completely submitted to him yet. He is experienced with spanking , so I’m not concerned about him being too rough.
I’m thinking of getting a soft flogger, I’d really like to try that. And of course his hand would be amazing.
Thoughts? Am I overthinking? Things to expect from my first spanking?

Anxious little bunny girl

I agree with what the other girls already said. It's all about what it means for you in the dynamic. It sounds like you want it to enhance your play and your submission. Definitely a soft flogger would be fun, but the bare hand for a first go I think is safer.

You can decide if you need to go harder or softer. He can give you caresses and rubs in between. Doing little check-ins to make sure you're ok in between spanks or counts. It should be something that elevates the relationship. If at anytime it feels too triggering, you're already in position to be cared for and nurtured with over the knee bare handed spanks.

Have fun with it, but be open about your feelings throughout the process. It sounds like he already understands your past and vulnerability in this situation, so I'm sure he'll be as careful with your bum as he is with your heart. Just make sure you're being just as careful by communicating honestly.

So happy that you feel ready for this step. I hope it goes well for you. Never let your trauma make you feel inferior in your submission though it looks different for everyone.

 

[Coyote100]

Hopefully you don't mind me surreptitously coming into your lair again, just to listen. Your conversation regarding spanking is fascinating. It is neither for the oppotunity to share my views, nor for a guide for my future behavior. Rather, it is an enlightening experience as to see how you all share differing ideas on this one subject. Thank you again for letting me listen. l will let myself out.

 

[cascadiabound]

I knew this was somewhere around here.
For your reference

A comprehensive guide to spanking.

 

[Strixaluco]

A question for the Littles here

Is spanking part of your dynamic?

No, not in any form.

I'd actually be curious about spanking with bare hand OTK but... I'm hypersensitive to pain. So my experience would likely be totally different from what e.g. Cas describes - one without the good sides.

I might be able to manage one single spank that functions as a warning, or owning me on the go (I'll look for one meme here if I can find it). But my D hasn't wanted to try even that.

For his own reasons my D doesn't do bare hand spanking at all. I think he said something about not wanting to make something he could do whenever. He has got equipment for spanking from before, but was actually very happy to pack them away, he doesn't miss that type of activity at all. And he hates bruises... Previously he hasn't been there soon enough to see them, but we see twice a week. I bruise easily even in everyday life, and he'd always want to cover them from sight.

 

[Strixaluco]

I can do without spanking, but occasional swatting in this meaning would be nice...
Meme posted in a previous DLG thread by @HeavyBalls

 

[barefootgirl69]

Hopefully you don't mind me surreptitously coming into your lair again, just to listen. Your conversation regarding spanking is fascinating. It is neither for the oppotunity to share my views, nor for a guide for my future behavior. Rather, it is an enlightening experience as to see how you all share differing ideas on this one subject. Thank you again for letting me listen. l will let myself out.

You aren't the first to just sit back and read and learn something. Many people do.

I was thinking earlier how we seem to circle a question from different angles, and how it gives a well-rounded view to someone who is asking a question. I rather like that.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

No, not in any form.

I'd actually be curious about spanking with bare hand OTK but... I'm hypersensitive to pain. So my experience would likely be totally different from what e.g. Cas describes - one without the good sides.

I might be able to manage one single spank that functions as a warning, or owning me on the go (I'll look for one meme here if I can find it). But my D hasn't wanted to try even that.

For his own reasons my D doesn't do bare hand spanking at all. I think he said something about not wanting to make something he could do whenever. He has got equipment for spanking from before, but was actually very happy to pack them away, he doesn't miss that type of activity at all. And he hates bruises... Previously he hasn't been there soon enough to see them, but we see twice a week. I bruise easily even in everyday life, and he'd always want to cover them from sight.

We all need to be ourselves, and I can understand many reasons for not including spanking. In my case, I was afraid it would trigger me. One of my friends in our IRL DD/lg support group has issues with blood clots and takes medication every day to thin her blood. Any impact play that risks bruising is a hard limit for her for medical reasons. It could put her life at risk.

I've talked this over at length with my therapist, and she's okay with trying this if it's what I want. I've been making great strides in my healing process lately. I trust Him. and the comments here (and image, thanks Cas and Strix) have given me much to think about, and to talk over with Him. I know He will have many questions when I bring this up. I have a lot of thinking to do because right now I'm not sure I can put my feelings into words to answer some of the questions he may have.

Maybe I'll change my mind as I work through this. I need to get to the source of this desire to be spanked. Once I can answer that question, my therapist wants to speak again. And once I get to that answer, maybe the rest of the answers will be relatively easy.

Thank you all for your input, you are a special group

 

[BiBunny]

Daddy and I do spanking, but it's strictly a playtime fun thing for us. We don't really have a punishment dynamic.

He enjoys it. I can take it or leave it. But I don't mind it, either. I'm just particularly sensitive in the area of my butt, so I can't play super-hard with it. I'm much better being spanked on my boobs or my pussy.

 

[Strixaluco]

I'm iconvalescent (or ill or whatever, don't even know anymore).

But Daddy is here, finishing the cleaning that was too much for me, and will soon help me cook

It's a long, long time since anyone has done this for me.

 

[cascadiabound]

I'm iconvalescent (or ill or whatever, don't even know anymore).

But Daddy is here, finishing the cleaning that was too much for me, and will soon help me cook

It's a long, long time since anyone has done this for me.

So sorry you are so ill, little owl. So happy to hear your Daddy is taking such good care of you

 

[cascadiabound]

Putting this here especially for my friend @barefootgirl69

 

[barefootgirl69]

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I love it, Cassie!

 

[Endless_Night]

I like being spanked because it arouses me. It can function as foreplay. I like that it makes me feel more "little". I like feeling his bare hand spanking my bare ass. I like the intimacy of it. I like that it warms my ass. It warms his hand too. And OTK (over the knee) spanking also means that my pussy is easily accessible to him. He can switch between spanking me and stroking me. He can check and see if the spanking is making me wet (yes it does... every.single.time) and he can easily feel how I'm doing. Is my body tensing? When/where is that point when I just relax and give in to him, to the experience, to the pain? When do I cry? Does that feel scary or cathartic? (scary imo not okay; cathartic = okay)

A little late to the game here, but this speaks so well.

The feeling of helplessness. The catharsis. I'll add that pleasing, if it's something he enjoys, is arousing.

 

[Endless_Night]

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That's pretty freaking adorable.

 

[barefootgirl69]

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Some days, I just need the comfort he gives to me.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Some days, I just need the comfort he gives to me.

It’s going to be a cold, gray day here. Thanks for the inspiration for Sunday snuggles!

 

[barefootgirl69]

Someone needs to make me stop watching videos about mini goats!!

My cousin just got another goat on his land in TN, and I think I'd rather have a goat than a dog.

 

[Strixaluco]

Someone needs to make me stop watching videos about mini goats!!

My cousin just got another goat on his land in TN, and I think I'd rather have a goat than a dog.

"If you haven't got enough/other worries, get yourself a goat. Or why not two." (aoold saying from Southwest Finland.)

I mean.... You'd have to adult a VERY bratty animal that's easily bored and into mischief...

 

[barefootgirl69]

Yeah.
No idea who you are or the video, so I'll pass.

I've been thinking a lot about quilting today, specifically piecing them. My aunt gave me a huge amount of books and magazines years ago that gave me all kinds of ideas and instructions. Long before Pinterest and YouTube, or my knowledge of them. She passed yesterday and I'm so thankful to have something that she taught me, something that I've passed down to my own daughters.

Sewing and coloring are the two things I do when my mind is all over the place.

 

[barefootgirl69]

"If you haven't got enough/other worries, get yourself a goat. Or why not two." (aoold saying from Southwest Finland.)

I mean.... You'd have to adult a VERY bratty animal that's easily bored and into mischief...

Maybe that's why I think they're cute. They remind me of myself.

 

[TXRafe]

Yeah.
No idea who you are or the video, so I'll pass.

I've been thinking a lot about quilting today, specifically piecing them. My aunt gave me a huge amount of books and magazines years ago that gave me all kinds of ideas and instructions. Long before Pinterest and YouTube, or my knowledge of them. She passed yesterday and I'm so thankful to have something that she taught me something that I've passed down to my own daughters.

Sewing and coloring are the two things I do when my mind is all over the place.

my grandmothers and a few aunts and a few cousins all got into quilting. i have the last quilt my grandmother ever made that she gave me for my high school graduation. before she gave it to me, she made me memorize the name, "tigers are popping out everywhere, go get them". i also have one my other grandmother made. ive moved around so much and discarded so many things, but i still have them.

 

[TXRafe]

Maybe that's why I think they're cute. They remind me of myself.

i hear there is a whole room for brats...

 

[barefootgirl69]

i hear there is a whole room for brats...

I don't count myself as a brat, though. I'm just sassy and into mischief.

 

[TXRafe]

I don't count myself as a brat, though. I'm just sassy and into mischief.

there is plenty of that too...i think they all mostly just make fun of me and kiss each other