daddy ?

[Richard49]

What does the term daddy mean to you?

This seems to be another term I use to think I understood
in context of D/s but I may not

 

[alonelygal]

For me, in a D/s context, one day it slipped out. *shrugs* It felt right and He didn't say anything. i asked Him later if it was ok, since it felt ok to me, and He said it sounded good to Him, too. For me, i call Him Sir when i'm going to do what He asks or commands, but i'm being grumpy about it. i refer to Him as Sir in some of my writings and most of the posts i make that have any referrence to Him.

He and i don't do age play. It's just something that feels right to us.

But, again, this is just me...
j.

 

[Richard49]

For me, in a D/s context, one day it slipped out. *shrugs* It felt right and He didn't say anything. i asked Him later if it was ok, since it felt ok to me, and He said it sounded good to Him, too. For me, i call Him Sir when i'm going to do what He asks or commands, but i'm being grumpy about it. i refer to Him as Sir in some of my writings and most of the posts i make that have any referrence to Him.

He and i don't do age play. It's just something that feels right to us.

But, again, this is just me...
j.

so how would you "define" Daddy?

 

[snowy ciara]

watching with interest to see what a Daddy Dom is.. C'mon peeps, please answer the question. This is a whole new idea to me, "Daddy" in a bdsm thing never really occurred to me before now and I'm all curious...

 

[alonelygal]

so how would you "define" Daddy?

This is an essay i found before He and i knew each other. i'm not sure who wrote it, it wasn't me. It perfectly describes how i feel about Him, though, so maybe You could call this my definition. i'm sure that for others it may mean something different. i'm not fluent enough in the BDSM lingo to say this is the definition, it's just one that makes sense and appeals to me.

***I realize most think that Daddy/little girl involves a father/daughter relationship. That isn't quite true, Daddy/little girl is a much different level. I do not know if I can explain what I mean so I will simply talk about what a Daddy Dom is to me.

First I should say that in my relationship my Dom is not my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to replace my father. He is however my Daddy. We do not engage in age play specifically ( beyond the occasional school girl fantasy *s*) and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children. I am always all woman, and always a very independent woman. He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and itallows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals.

So..what makes a Daddy Dom? First and foremost he loves his little girl. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power
to hurt him.

Seeing her hurt however is not something a Daddy Dom wants. He sees it as his job to protect her, both from the outside world and herself. He may love to cause her great pain in a scene, but he hates to be the one to hurt her emotionally. It hurts him to have to punish her , but he knows it issometimes necessary.

This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control
her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be herconfidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.

A Daddy Dom knows the value of discipline, though at times his soft heart gets the best of him. He knows that in order for his little girl to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. He knows this hurts her, and that tears at his heart, but he also knows it is for her own good.

A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to hissubmissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her,everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn't matter. To him she is beautiful.

Many of you may be asking what separates a Daddy Dom from any other Dom. In most cases very little. Hopefully they all provide love, strength,protection, discipline, and acceptance. I have heard Daddy Doms described as a kinder, gentler, Dom. I like that definition though I know it won't apply to all. I guess when it really comes down to it I can't explain it.

There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.***

 

[WriterDom]

Sadly, many of the "little girls" who enjoy this type of activity were abused as children.

 

[Richard49]

There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.***

So it is a Dom who has a woman who feels like a little girl as a submissive?

 

[Richard49]

Sadly, many of the "little girls" who enjoy this type of activity were abused as children.

It is sad when any child is abused

WD care to expand on this
and to share how you see the "little girl" and "daddy dom"
fits those that were not abused?

 

[alonelygal]

So it is a Dom who has a woman who feels like a little girl as a submissive?

Again, it is only me that i speak for. i would never speak for a Dom or another sub, for that matter. As it seems that you are looking for a broader definition that i can provide, i will step back.

 

[meatflower]

a man deserving of upmost respect. who may tuck me in at night or nestle me in the crook of his arm while reading aloud. more intelligent than I am, encouraging but with an occasional condescending head pat. a man that, knowing me inside and out, also knows what is best for me. daddy things.

 

[Richard49]

Again, it is only me that i speak for. i would never speak for a Dom or another sub, for that matter. As it seems that you are looking for a broader definition that i can provide, i will step back.

I am not attacking you or asking you to speak for any besides you

I was asking if I read right
nothing more

 

[WriterDom]

It is just an observation.

I don't have anything against age play. I think any new Daddy needs to know the girl's history. You could bring some really ugly things to the surface.

 

[Richard49]

a man deserving of upmost respect. who may tuck me in at night or nestle me in the crook of his arm while reading aloud. more intelligent than I am, encouraging but with an occasional condescending head pat. a man that, knowing me inside and out, also knows what is best for me. daddy things.

so to you
how is this different from other Doms?

 

[Netzach]

I see it as an indulgent, more paternal Top. Someone who likes a playful submissive and gives his/her boy or girl a bit of latitude.... even cruelty has a playful and warm side to it in a Daddy/boy or girl relationship. More approachable than a Master...and a boy/girl has way more latitude for limits and self-determination than a slave.

Daddies are more flexible in the face of change, more cuddly in their discipline, less rigid, often.

 

[Richard49]

It is just an observation.

I don't have anything against age play. I think any new Daddy needs to know the girl's history. You could bring some really ugly things to the surface.

I agree

 

[Hajar]

For us Sir is Daddy more often that not, he intones the secure disciplinarian, also loving, nurturing male that every girl wants to be Daddy.
He does not replace my father, he has no wish to.
It's rather hard for me to explain futher, he's my husband and I loved him before we entered the lifestyle and now as my Dom he guides me, and because it's done in such a loving way with him, even with his sadistic streak, being loving and kind, in the mist of raining my ass with lashes, he is Daddy.
Always there with a kind word, when I do a perfect job, quick to guide me, trys his best to show me how not to falter and when I do, well I play the price.

Also I have nothing to refer to, so I may not be the best person to answer, as we are new to this, but I'm sure as time goes on Daddy might not remain Daddy as he experiments and allows his inner Sadist more leeway.

 

[Richard49]

I see it as an indulgent, more paternal Top. Someone who likes a playful submissive and gives his/her boy or girl a bit of latitude.... even cruelty has a playful and warm side to it in a Daddy/boy or girl relationship. More approachable than a Master...and a boy/girl has way more latitude for limits and self-determination than a slave.

Daddies are more flexible in the face of change, more cuddly in their discipline, less rigid, often.

That you for sharing
I was hoping you would stop over here

So we have a Dom
that has certain charator aspects
that make the Dom different from a "Master"
and this daddy dom has a submissve or slave
that is more "playful" than other submissives ?

 

[Richard49]

For us Sir is Daddy more often that not, he intones the secure disciplinarian, also loving, nurturing male that every girl wants to be Daddy.
He does not replace my father, he has no wish to.
It's rather hard for me to explain futher, he's my husband and I loved him before we entered the lifestyle and now as my Dom he guides me, and because it's done in such a loving way with him, even with his sadistic streak, being loving and kind, in the mist of raining my ass with lashes, he is Daddy.
Always there with a kind word, when I do a perfect job, quick to guide me, trys his best to show me how not to falter and when I do, well I play the price.

Also I have nothing to refer to, so I may not be the best person to answer, as we are new to this, but I'm sure as time goes on Daddy might not remain Daddy as he experiments and allows his inner Sadist more leeway.

Do you feel like a little girl?

 

[Netzach]

Yeah, that's pretty much it.

Maybe playful isn't really the right word, though the boys/girls I've known just about all are...I can't really put my finger on the flavor of submissive that's "boy or girl"

...it just is a flavor, that's all I know. LOL.

 

[Richard49]

Yeah, that's pretty much it.

Maybe playful isn't really the right word, though the boys/girls I've known just about all are...I can't really put my finger on the flavor of submissive that's "boy or girl"

...it just is a flavor, that's all I know. LOL.

Thank you

 

[Hajar]

Do you feel like a little girl?

I would not say that.
I am quite aware that I am a woman, and even if at times if I speak in a childish voice I am always aware of who I am, and my position.

 

[ownedsubgal]

my answer may be a bit different than most. my Master is also my Daddy. however, him being Daddy has absolutely NOTHING to do with our D/s relationship. He was Daddy from the start and will die being my Daddy. that is just the way it is. we do not role play, we do not age play, he does not baby me or treat me like a child. one day while speaking with him "Daddy" just slipped out, and it has stuck ever since.

my biological Father passed away when i was in my very early teens....we were very close, i adored him, he was my whole world. so to lose him, especially at that point in life, was devastating. so it makes sense that even at age 19, when i met my Master, i still needed a Daddy. i still needed that nurturing and unconditional love and guidance. and Daddy just naturally filled that role, without either of us realizing it. i feel almost as if my blood Father sent Daddy to me.

so yes, i call my Master Daddy. but it's not a D/s thing, not a bdsm thing, not a kink thing, not a sex thing. it's just what fits.

 

[Richard49]

it's just what fits.

thank you for sharing

 

[snowy ciara]

thank you for sharing

What he said!

Seriously, thanks for the discussion, folks. I never really thought of domliness in terms of daddy-ness in any form. And the first time it was mentioned to me, I did instinctively shy away from it. Not from a history of abuse, not from anything bad happening to me or my father, who is very much alive and whom I'm wonderfully close too.

The reason I went "whoa!" and backed away from it is cause I recently found out that my parents are "in the lifestyle." And yes, my father is the PYL, and mum's the pyl. So when it was brought up a few days later, I had a minor squick. It was more of an "I can't think of this right now cause I'm a bit overwhelmed by the whole thing with my parents." thing.

So anyway. I still don't know what I think about it. But I'm getting to the point where I can take the long view and your various inputs help.

 

[Learn Humility]

My submissive likes to, as she puts it, "go young" at times.

She is 39, quite petite, has never had children, and says that her body has not changed a bit since she was fifteen years old, which I find quite erotic.

She has very tiny breasts which I love, and she delights when I call them her "little titties" and when I refer to her as "little girl".

I require that she appear in public dressed in tiny little mini-skirts and no bra (she really doesn't need one), and take her shopping in stores that cater to teenage girls.

We'll be going shopping for "back to school" clothes next week, (we both can't wait), and I told her that I'll be buying her some new minis so "the boys will be able to look up under her skirt"

"Age Play", I guess.

Anyway, I will frequently tell her to "Cum for daddy", usually when she is performing for me by jerking herself off like naughty little girls are prone to do.

I'll have her post in this thread regarding what it all means to her.