D/s with disabilities and health issues

[Rrrosyn]

with every (failed) relationship a bit more of my dominant side comes out. i am thinking i need to study more about the balance that can be found in a D/s relationship.

i am reading and talking to people. i have learned much. one thing i am having problems finding is information on the disabled dom/me. i find articles and such involving disabled subs, but not the doms.

any personal experience would be most welcome.

i was informed being female made it harder to maintain my role, but it is being weaker medically and emotionally because of it that is the challenge.

 

[Richard49]

Some where on this BDSM board there is a thread
for and about disablity and BDSM.

I tried to find it and was unsuccessful
but then I have never been good at doing
searches

 

[Rrrosyn]

pixie found it... thanks

 

[Pixie Mischief]

I know of a story of a disabled Dom... want me to find it for ya??
its not a true story.. but you might get ideas from it.

 

[Rrrosyn]

I know of a story of a disabled Dom... want me to find it for ya??
its not a true story.. but you might get ideas from it.

Yes. *smiles* I know this is going to be a lot of research to keep it interesting for my sub.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

here ya go http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=24069

 

[Rrrosyn]

OMG I didn't realize that was the story you meant. (Author shared it with me a long time ago when I started admitting Domme tastes.)

Re-read time!!

 

[Pixie Mischief]

I talked to him over a year ago.. I should talk get back in contact with him.
He was interesting lol
I forget his yahoo id.

OMG I didn't realize that was the story you meant. (Author shared it with me a long time ago when I started admitting Domme tastes.)

Re-read time!!

 

[Rrrosyn]

Email from story. He never has his Yahoo on anymore. *smiles*

I hang in S&A on the chats here.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

I emailed. god I was still a virgin when I Talked to him LMAO!

S&A?

Email from story. He never has his Yahoo on anymore. *smiles*

I hang in S&A on the chats here.

 

[Rrrosyn]

S&A?

Stories and Authors. He's not there anymore either.
I miss him most... like scarecrow.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

Re: S&A?

reason I had sent him a message was because I liked that he had done a story involving a person in a wheelchair.
boy much has gone since I last talked to him.
LOL

Stories and Authors. He's not there anymore either.
I miss him most... like scarecrow.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Yuppers. *smiles*

Reason he shared it with me. I was going to write some this summer... romance about a guy who accepts a woman who isn't perfect and able-bodied. But, with the breakup (dumped between surgeries) it was too close to home. Now maybe not.

I want to tackle impotence like caused from MS too. *smiles*

 

[Pixie Mischief]

Do you realize sometimes you get what you ask for and arent sure if you like it?
I figured that out this year

 

[Rrrosyn]

Yea. Life is always trying to find balance with what we want and what we need. Ex was what I wanted... for a while. He was never what I needed.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

when I talked to Obscure..
I had been curious abouf bdsm..
I always thought I'd want a man who was forward sexualy.
anyway sometimes you get excatly what you ask for and you dont know if you like it LOL

Yea. Life is always trying to find balance with what we want and what we need. Ex was what I wanted... for a while. He was never what I needed.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Yes. I wanted tender and loving, but he never initiated. *sighs*

 

[Pixie Mischief]

vise versa here LOL
a few months ago well soon after he left here. anyway a few months later
he sorta got upset with me cause I hadnt initiated anything in ages.
he was saying how he just cant always be the one initiating.
that he just CANT.. makes him feel pathetic un wanted and ect.

Yes. I wanted tender and loving, but he never initiated. *sighs*

 

[Rrrosyn]

exactly how i felt. exactly. unwanted.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

*sighs* its not that I dont want to be more..... dominant..
its that its really hard for me. not meaning physically either.
I love him dearly.
and I guess I dont have much of a choice.
I'm starting to wonder why every men I draw to me tend to prefer or seem to prefer to be submissive in bed LMAO!
its weird....
bf claims he likes it 50/50.
the more it goes.. the more I think not.
LOL
I dont know what to do for his "birthday"
maybe see how many times he can cum in one evening?? LOL

exactly how i felt. exactly. unwanted.

 

[Rrrosyn]

I dont know what to do for his "birthday"
maybe see how many times he can cum in one evening?? LOL

Great pain leads to great empathy... makes being the dominant one a bit more difficult.

How long do you have to plan?

 

[Pixie Mischief]

well see.. I love him.. I worry about hurting his feelings.. I worry about doing something that might offend him..
LOL I worry..
if I told him that.. hed tell me I worry too much LOL

and I dont know.. till I'm done with him?? I guess?? LOL
I have till June 25th to plan.
I have his Valentines day to plan to.. grrr this is what he said when I asked him what he wanted..
(since we couldnt be together for v day.. we are dedicating a 2 nights for it.. one from him to me.. and vise versa)
": hmm i cant say exactly but, something where you are in complete charge (not domineering) more like giving.
: after all it is your present and your ideas
: hehe i am just the recipiant"

so I have both to plan.
for v day.. planning to smear honey on him and lickin it off hehe

Great pain leads to great empathy... makes being the dominant one a bit more difficult.

How long do you have to plan?

 

[Rrrosyn]

Sounds like you can come up with some fun stuff. *smiles*

D/s isn't about overpowering the submissive and being domineering to me. he gave me his submission. a gift I plan to cherish. *fingers crossed*

so you have your bf's submission for a time. it's for mutual pleasure. enjoy it.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

when he was here... one evening..
he was laying beside me... he told me that I could do whatever I wanted with him..
well pretty much said that. I sat and staired.. poor guy LOL but you just dont say that to someone whos practicly a virgin.

shit I could list several times something like this. this seems to be a reocuring theme for him.
its not that I dont want to. its that I cant.
I can try.. and I can try to be less shy and stuff. but I will never be how he wants me to be.
I cant be no one else but myself.
granted thought the fact that I've only had 27 days of ACTUALLY physical sexual experience doesnt help my case.
should go abit better this time.
but.. I have no idea what to do about his birthday
I think I'll have a glass of wine first!!!!!!!!

Sounds like you can come up with some fun stuff. *smiles*

D/s isn't about overpowering the submissive and being domineering to me. he gave me his submission. a gift I plan to cherish. *fingers crossed*

so you have your bf's submission for a time. it's for mutual pleasure. enjoy it.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Aye. Ex had similar problem. I was his first. *sighs* I am getting tired. Better go put in appearance on the chats... run the pain group... LMFAO I even run a small fetish forum.

*smiles* You'll think of something. I know it!