D/s vs voyuerism

[roosterado9]

Can a person that constantly feels insecure in romatic relationships alos have switch characteristics? Or is the huge intrest in this subject merely voyuerism?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Only you can answer this for you. It may take some exploration, finding what works for you and what doesn't. Try to approach it with an open mind so you do not trick yourself into feeling one way or the other and see where it leads you.

Catalina

 

[trodas]

I don't label it as voyuerism - I will better did not label it at all...

...and you maybe need to accept the hard truth, that says "nothing is forever"

Once you accept it, you will maybe live easier. Not to mention your girlie will like when you stop acting like stressing about losing her.


PS. never show a women how much you depend on her. She use it against you...

 

[curiousjen]

PS. never show a women how much you depend on her. She use it against you...

You've been depending on all the wrong women, mate. I've never heard such bad advice in my life!

Or at least today, anyway.

 

[Softouch911]

You've been depending on all the wrong women, mate. I've never heard such bad advice in my life!

Or at least today, anyway.

LOL.

Ditto.

 

[SweetDommes]

PS. never show a women how much you depend on her. She use it against you...

You've been depending on all the wrong women, mate. I've never heard such bad advice in my life!

Or at least today, anyway.

Not to mention that some guys like the thought that it might be used against them

In a good relationship though, both partners should be able to stand on their own, but choose to lean on and support one another.

 

[curiousjen]

Not to mention that some guys like the thought that it might be used against them

In a good relationship though, both partners should be able to stand on their own, but choose to lean on and support one another.

Lol! Agreed, what a good way of putting it!

 

[AAkasha]

Can a person that constantly feels insecure in romatic relationships alos have switch characteristics? Or is the huge intrest in this subject merely voyuerism?

A person who feels constantly insecure in romantic relationships will have difficulty in ANY relationship -- sub, dom, or vanilla.

What attracts *you* to bdsm?
What kind of relationship do you imagine as being ideal for you?

Answer those questions first.

Akasha

 

[shy slave]

I don't label it as voyuerism - I will better did not label it at all...

...and you maybe need to accept the hard truth, that says "nothing is forever"

Once you accept it, you will maybe live easier. Not to mention your girlie will like when you stop acting like stressing about losing her.


PS. never show a women how much you depend on her. She use it against you...

My first reaction was like yours Jen, 'what bad advice.'

But reading it again, it sounds as though trodas has been through a difficult time and is still at that uneviable stage of figuring out what happened.

Most of us have been there either in vanilla or D/s, sometimes we never work out what happened. You just focus on the belief that not everyone treats people like that.

Some people never get over it but they do manage to live with it.

Not all people use knowledge tohurt us, and of those that do its only a small proportion that intended that harm.

But I am an optimist and a cynic, I want to work at it, and believe it will last forever; if it doesn't, at least I get all the duvet to myself again.

 

[curiousjen]

My first reaction was like yours Jen, 'what bad advice.'

But reading it again, it sounds as though trodas has been through a difficult time and is still at that uneviable stage of figuring out what happened.

Most of us have been there either in vanilla or D/s, sometimes we never work out what happened. You just focus on the belief that not everyone treats people like that.

Some people never get over it but they do manage to live with it.

Not all people use knowledge tohurt us, and of those that do its only a small proportion that intended that harm.

But I am an optimist and a cynic, I want to work at it, and believe it will last forever; if it doesn't, at least I get all the duvet to myself again.

*Nods at shy's wise words*

 

[roosterado9]

TY for all the good feedback Its good food fot thought