cunnilingus

[Noor]

forget it, boring, why would I want only oral from someone I wasn't sexually involved with in other ways as well? If you want sex with me that is different, but a specific sex act with no interaction other than you as giver and me as receiver seems rather dull.

 

[shy little fairy]

spelling

sorry, i'm just in a picky mood, so...
it's CUNNINGLUS, not other ways. and if i spell stuff wrong, feel free to correct me people.

oh, and i don't think i could allow this either, not to say i wouldn't HIGHLY consider it as i've yet to experience the receiving and not just giving end. mmm... i think about that a lot more than i do vaginal sex in fantasies - it just seems so erotic. that said, it's probably best w/ someone who you have a romantic interest in in the first place.

and as for the comment of "i just see you as a friend" being a way of saying you're not attractive, etc - i don't believe that is true at all. i can think of quite a few of my male friends who i think are cute, but i have absolutely no romantic interest in them. my current crush is cute, but not nearly as much so as some of my other friends - so if one of my other friends expressed interest in me, i could one hundred percent honestly tell them "i just don't see you that way," and it would not be any kind of cover.

 

[EvelynMidnight]

It seems to me that starting a conversation regarding the woman's feelings about "friends with benefits" might get you an answer regarding how she would react to your question without having to ask it. If you can work it into the conversation naturally, i.e. talk about something you heard or saw (or make something up that you heard or saw) and say, "Man, I'm just not sure how I feel about that. I mean, sex is sex and I'm all for it, but do you think you can detach sex and emotion?" If she says anything approaching the affirmative, you've at least got a shot.

Oh, and have the conversation after enough drinks to loosen inhibitions, but not so many as to render any decisions made nonconsensual.



p.s. I had a friend who begged for this very thing when I was younger. One of my biggest regrets in life is that I said "no."

 

[knight88]

Opening

TP you might try taking a bit of time, let her know she smells wonderful, if there is no negative reaction, let her hear you say; you look delicious.. if there is no rebuke take it from there letting her know you truly want to "taste" her.. Good luck

 

[teacherspet]

Thanks for all the input, people! Interestingly, some of your responses gave me an idea for a new thread! "How do you discreetly introduce the topic of sex into the conversation with people you hardly know (to see if they might be interested in having sex with you)?" Please post your replies in the new thread..."Sex talk"

Shy Little Fairy...FYI, the spelling is CUNNILINGUS and not CUNNINGLUS. Not really particular about spelling just as long as i get my idea across but since you asked to be corrected...

 

[slave to pain]

Just wondering if you ladies out there would take offense if one of your friends or acquaintances propositioned to do cunnilingus on you and nothing else. No vaginal intercourse, no anal sex, ...NOTHING ELSE! The reason I ask is that I've been wanting to go down on one of my lady friends but have been very timid to ask her. Do you have any suggestions on how a guy like me can discretely ask this lady friend of mine without things blowing up in my face?

Let me be the first to tell you this is possible. But it is very contingent on certain factors.

How long have you been friends?
What kind of friendship do you have? Can you talk about everything under the sun?
Is she attached to anyone? And if so, is she happy? That could be the deal breaker.
Is there any mutual attraction that you know of?

The reason I ask these questions is because I once had a "friends with benefits" situation, only I'm now married to him. And happy. It was a mutual move, though.

We were friends that worked together, we were both already attached, but hating it, and we goofed off every chance we had-grabbing each others ass and what not. We were more attracted to each other than we knew. But I wasn't "asked". I drove him home one day after work. We sat in the car and talked awhile, and before he got out, he leaned over and kissed me. I was back that afternoon for some fun. We agreed to keep it platonic. That didn't last, on both sides.

So, if you're serious, take all these things into mind before making a move. I think if you have a really good friendship, even if she says no, you should be able to stay friends. It's all in the approach. It would help you greatly if you could somehow find out if she is remotely attracted to you.

But be forworned, women are more easily attached by emotion. Be careful what you wish for. I wish you the best and good luck. I'll check back to see how you're doing.

 

[Lukie]

agreed

yes, talk it over outside of the bedroom!!!!! over fun stuff....and lead into it...say - that you have the desire to try and that is it...
See her reaction...I have found that women usually don't trust a man at first...a promise that it is all you desire...may get her to think about it!

 

[manofsteel52]

The funny thing is..... if the roles were reversed - I'll bet I could talk about 90% of the men out there into allowing me to perform oral on them?!?! lol What's up with that????

I'd estimate it to be more like 99.999%

 

[Nackereia]

Re: Opening

TP you might try taking a bit of time, let her know she smells wonderful, if there is no negative reaction, let her hear you say; you look delicious.. if there is no rebuke take it from there letting her know you truly want to "taste" her.. Good luck

Now, call me silly, but if some guy told me I looked delicious, I'd immediately assume he was a cannibal

 

[ReadyOne]

What's the probability of finding a guy who is so motivated by seeing/helping/causing a women to get off that he can keep his dick in is pants?

Women seem to think those men few and far between if not entirely mythical.

Men officially think that it is crazy to keep one's pants on -- they'd be drummed out of the old boys/young mens association.

Privately, I've heard from many guys who claim they could/would stay interested in only the girl's pleasure, and forgo any attenthin to their dick.

I've sincerely made the same claim, and upon occassion, actually held myself to it.

Being a guy to guy conversation, their statements have more credibility.

How much more may be debated, but I'm sure a girl could find a guy who would honor his commitment to not take his dick out.

Problem is how to tell before the test...

Maybe we have an equal footing here -- guys don't know if a woman is going to sleep with them (first time) until she does. Women don't know if the guy will stay dressed until after the feast is over.

 

[acamstar]

I actually asked a friend to do this for me, because my boyfriend at the time practically refused to do it. My friend willingly obliged, and it didn't really change anything between us, except we had a naughty little secret. hehe
thank god my new fiance LOVES giving me head.