Cuckoldry: The First 6 Months

[bull4cuckolds]

Serious question for actual cucks (not wannabes): Within the first 6 months of your cuckold arrangement, which activities were you subjected to (check all that apply)?:

Thanks for taking the time to reply. And obviously, this poll question/discussion is centered on the typical beta cuck, not the rare and elusive Alpha cuckold.

ALSO, please feel free to add your thoughts about these activities, and how you learned to embrace them as a natural part of being cuckold. I'm trying to help an online friend to better understand and accept his submissive cuckold fate, and to learn to find joy in being the best little cuck he can be.

 

[screwher]

my wife...

If my wife started openly having sex with another man again, for me it would be none of the above.I just don't get the whole humiliation/feminization thing. If i'm going to hand my wife and bed over to another guy then both will damn well "respect me in the morning"! LOL

But to each their own. If this gets you off - go for it!!

 

[cuckoldbill]

None of those listed. But we did get into a few of them much later as we got further into the lifestyle.

In the early days we spent a lot of time talking and getting to know exactly how we felt about it. My wife was concerned that I might "go off" her. I spent my time showing her just how much I loved her and that I wanted her to continue. I also wanted to be sure she was happy and enjoying being with her lover and not just doing it because its what I wanted.
nearly 20 years later it is still a real buzz for both of us when she has a date.

 

[CompletelyAverage]

It's pretty unrealistic to expect any of these things in the first 6 months. There's a lot of communication and trust that needs to happen before any of this. It may take a couple years to get to that stage.

 

[SlutAddicted]

Accepting an alternative role as part of a fetish lifestyle is different from actually letting someone treat you like dirt. Some of these things can be fun but only after the bull has established himself as an open-minded participant and earned the trust of the other parties, including the cuckold. Unless all parties are very experienced, six months is too fast

 

[kucked2x]

Thanks for taking the time to reply. And obviously, this poll question/discussion is centered on the typical beta cuck, not the rare and elusive Alpha cuckold.

Whats an Alpha Cuck??




ALSO, please feel free to add your thoughts about these activities, and how you learned to embrace them as a natural part of being cuckold. I'm trying to help an online friend to better understand and accept his submissive cuckold fate, and to learn to find joy in being the best little cuck he can be.[/QUOTE]

Mostly I experienced orgasm reduction with her while she was seeing him, but I over compensated on my own.

 

[bull4cuckolds]

Thanks for taking the time to reply. And obviously, this poll question/discussion is centered on the typical beta cuck, not the rare and elusive Alpha cuckold.

Whats an Alpha Cuck??




ALSO, please feel free to add your thoughts about these activities, and how you learned to embrace them as a natural part of being cuckold. I'm trying to help an online friend to better understand and accept his submissive cuckold fate, and to learn to find joy in being the best little cuck he can be.

Mostly I experienced orgasm reduction with her while she was seeing him, but I over compensated on my own.[/QUOTE]

An Alpha cuck (if such an animal really exists) would be a cuck who still maintains control and power, might get to fuck the wife, etc. People can debate whether that is cuckoldry, or just wife-sharing. I'm not interested in having that debate, as my poll question focuses only on docile beta types who are being cucked.

 

[policywank]

alpha-cuck

Consider this gentlemen,

To the extent that a man is a bull it is generally because he is sexually superior specimen compared to other men.....not to women. Pretty much any woman with a bit of adjustment can take all the sex a bull can deliver then fuck all his friends. For such a sexually desirous woman, no one man not even a bull, is enough. And the only defining feature of a man who accepts his wife's promiscuity is the acceptance that the degree of her desire is such that she needs more than one man.

I regard "alphas" as men who are strong and secure in themselves. No man who fits that description needs to hide behind the delusion that he is the world's greatest lover. Whereas the world portraits cuckolds as weaklings based upon historical context many in the fetish world are quite strong.....much stronger than a man whose power comes from swinging his dick around. Strong and cuckold go together in my experience and the concept of an alpha cuckold is not at all contradictory.

If you wish to understand this fetish you have to look past the porn imagery and preconceptions about what makes a strong man.

 

[bull4cuckolds]

Consider this gentlemen,

To the extent that a man is a bull it is generally because he is sexually superior specimen compared to other men.....not to women. Pretty much any woman with a bit of adjustment can take all the sex a bull can deliver then fuck all his friends. For such a sexually desirous woman, no one man not even a bull, is enough. And the only defining feature of a man who accepts his wife's promiscuity is the acceptance that the degree of her desire is such that she needs more than one man.

I regard "alphas" as men who are strong and secure in themselves. No man who fits that description needs to hide behind the delusion that he is the world's greatest lover. Whereas the world portraits cuckolds as weaklings based upon historical context many in the fetish world are quite strong.....much stronger than a man whose power comes from swinging his dick around. Strong and cuckold go together in my experience and the concept of an alpha cuckold is not at all contradictory.

If you wish to understand this fetish you have to look past the porn imagery and preconceptions about what makes a strong man.

Thank you for that eloquent and detailed explanation. It was most informative. There are obviously many types and variations of cuckoldry, and one size does not fit all. However, my focus for this research is only in the context of the beta-type cuck.

 

[policywank]

Thank you for that eloquent and detailed explanation. It was most informative. There are obviously many types and variations of cuckoldry, and one size does not fit all. However, my focus for this research is only in the context of the beta-type cuck.

I understand.

In my observation the beta cuckold is somewhat more vulnerable and a good hot wife will need to help him adapt and accept his role. Getting a man to accept his own sexual inferiority is much more difficult than getting him to accept his wife's promiscuity. But it is critical that he know his place before things proceed too quickly. So as others have said 6 months is a bit too early to jump into the deep end.

I started constraining his ejaculations by about month 3 and served him his first cream pie about a month later, but the rest was well beyond the 6 month period.

 

[bull4cuckolds]

I understand.

In my observation the beta cuckold is somewhat more vulnerable and a good hot wife will need to help him adapt and accept his role. Getting a man to accept his own sexual inferiority is much more difficult than getting him to accept his wife's promiscuity. But it is critical that he know his place before things proceed too quickly. So as others have said 6 months is a bit too early to jump into the deep end.

I started constraining his ejaculations by about month 3 and served him his first cream pie about a month later, but the rest was well beyond the 6 month period.

I'm asking these questions, to better advise an online couple I've befriended, who have been exploring cuckoldry for 6 months. One issue I'm having with this particular couple I'm advising, is their age: they are mid 20's, which is traditionally a bit young to be involved in cuckoldry. I realize, of course, that what is most important is their sexual and emotional maturity, rather than physical age. But, they are still learning themselves, about how this will impact their lives long-term.

I'm looking to prepare the husband (cuck) for things that will be coming down the road, as the relationship matures. I want him to have time to mentally prepare himself, rather than have these things unexpectedly sprung on him, which I think would be cruel and counter-productive.

 

[SlutAddicted]

I'm asking these questions, to better advise an online couple I've befriended, who have been exploring cuckoldry for 6 months. One issue I'm having with this particular couple I'm advising, is their age: they are mid 20's, which is traditionally a bit young to be involved in cuckoldry. I realize, of course, that what is most important is their sexual and emotional maturity, rather than physical age. But, they are still learning themselves, about how this will impact their lives long-term.

I'm looking to prepare the husband (cuck) for things that will be coming down the road, as the relationship matures. I want him to have time to mentally prepare himself, rather than have these things unexpectedly sprung on him, which I think would be cruel and counter-productive.

I think it is helpful for them to know what is coming.

Perhaps a statement of the obvious but she will need to exercise a significant degree of control. There is a giant difference between the cuckold submitting to his wife's desires versus submitting to the first arrogant asshole she wants to fuck. She needs to take on a certain amount of responsibility and understand that it is incumbent upon her to choose lovers that are suited to them both. Think of it like BDSM - despite appearances the Sub must pick a Dom very carefully and everything that happens is on some level consensual otherwise it is just abuse.

As for the cuckold, it is helpful to know what is coming. But aside from the specific activities I would suggest considering three things.

Firstly, he is very fortunate to have such a sexually dynamic and desirous wife. Lots of men wish for this but few comprehend the implications. One man is not enough for her. It may start out with a bull providing a level of sexual pleasure that the cuckold is unable to provide which will leave him feeling like he has been traded in for a better model. But he will soon see her take on another lover and the another and so on. It never was realistic to expect her to be exclusive and he needs to see himself as one of the many men who offer her something unique and desirable.

Secondly, being submissive to her needs can be wonderfully liberating. He can stop trying to be who he thinks he should be or what he thinks she wants hm to be. Accept that neither he nor any man will be enough on his own and find his place. Just follow her lead and do as he is told and he will be playing his part to satisfy her desires. It will be difficult the first time he sees her fucking another man, but it is necessary for him to release his delusions and start to focus on her pleasure.

Thirdly, embrace his bi-sexuality. For cuckolds other men's cocks are an unavoidable part of life. Don't see them as something to be avoided but something to be explored. Even if the bulls have limited desire for this sort of activity, be ready. It is just a matter of time before he is called upon to clean off another man's cock or his wife needs help with more than one man. Few sexual activities are as tangible and rewarding as coaxing a thick load of cum from a big beautiful cock.

 

[Nubian_Legend]

I understand.

In my observation the beta cuckold is somewhat more vulnerable and a good hot wife will need to help him adapt and accept his role. Getting a man to accept his own sexual inferiority is much more difficult than getting him to accept his wife's promiscuity. But it is critical that he know his place before things proceed too quickly. So as others have said 6 months is a bit too early to jump into the deep end.

I started constraining his ejaculations by about month 3 and served him his first cream pie about a month later, but the rest was well beyond the 6 month period.

You ever kiss him with a mouth full of spunk?

 

[policywank]

You ever kiss him with a mouth full of spunk?

Yes many times. He enjoys it when I make him submit in front of the man whose cum I have on my lips.

 

[Nubian_Legend]

Yes many times. He enjoys it when I make him submit in front of the man whose cum I have on my lips.

Shit, I think I just blew my load. Nothing hotter than seeing your darling wife becoming someones whore. You enjoy it? Turning your boyfriend out to horny dominant men, real men? I need to borrow you for a second, give you a good fucking and facial then send you back to your hubby.

 

[policywank]

Shit, I think I just blew my load. Nothing hotter than seeing your darling wife becoming someones whore. You enjoy it? Turning your boyfriend out to horny dominant men, real men? I need to borrow you for a second, give you a good fucking and facial then send you back to your hubby.

And your ridiculous presumptions ensure that I would never let you get near me.

We have an alternative lifestyle that involves extra-marital sex. I am not a whore. I do not let men dominate me. I don't turn hubby out or expect him to let other men treat him poorly.

There is fetish and role play but as a part of an inclusive environment, which is why hubby is present and available to kiss me after I have given a bj (including to him).

Why must men equate being sexually active and non-traditional with being submissive, weak and stupid?

 

[irishblade]

And your ridiculous presumptions ensure that I would never let you get near me.

We have an alternative lifestyle that involves extra-marital sex. I am not a whore. I do not let men dominate me. I don't turn hubby out or expect him to let other men treat him poorly.

There is fetish and role play but as a part of an inclusive environment, which is why hubby is present and available to kiss me after I have given a bj (including to him).

Why must men equate being sexually active and non-traditional with being submissive, weak and stupid?

I was all in on this until you lumped every man into this backwards way of thinking. Not all men think this way....

 

[policywank]

I was all in on this until you lumped every man into this backwards way of thinking. Not all men think this way....

Fair enough. I am sorry to have lumped all men into this......just feels so often like few reflect any different view.

 

[wildchild24143]

Bump.

 

[Missingout]

Personally I believe there are different spinoffs to the actual definition to cuckolding, like there is in metal music.
One can jump right in and live the lifestyle to the fullest 24-7 right down to playing it out on occasion, say on ones anniversary only.
Every situation is different which makes it move at different paces. One couple could take months to reach some of those items in the poll. Some could check them off after the very first session.