Cuckolding and Statistics

I definitely would have never thought I would EVER want to be a cuckold.
Once the fantasy started through unexpected revelations from my wife, it became an obsessive desire.
Now that it's been a few years, and knowing from past experience that sometimes reality isn't as hot as fantasy, perhaps it's just as well my wife hasn't taken me up on the "hall pass" I proposed to her a few years back.
Still enjoy the fantasy immensely.
 
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I honestly can not understand the term cuckolding in the head of this thread. Or perhaps I do not understand the term itself. Well, I've never been and never wanted to be caged or humiliated. But I'm happy to know my wife enjoys extramarrital sex from time to time. And I'm more than happy to hear her detailed stories about having sex with other men. I also wouldn't mind to see this process myself and probably join. Am I a cuckold?
 
Here are the results of a large scale survey conducted in 2021. The actual numbers are 58% of married men have that fantasy. Surprisingly, 33% of wives have that same fantasy, being with another man in front of her husband.
I'd love to know what the breakdown between men who are or fantasise about being cucks and men who are or fantasise about sharing their wives/swinging. Huge difference in outlook.
 
I honestly can not understand the term cuckolding in the head of this thread. Or perhaps I do not understand the term itself. Well, I've never been and never wanted to be caged or humiliated. But I'm happy to know my wife enjoys extramarrital sex from time to time. And I'm more than happy to hear her detailed stories about having sex with other men. I also wouldn't mind to see this process myself and probably join. Am I a cuckold?
Yeah, I'm not into the denial or humiliation, so when I think of the term, it's more in the sense that my wife could have another cock but I am only wanting her pussy.
Actually my biggest fantasy would be more a polyamory type thing, where she has one specific boyfriend/lover apart from me.
 
I think it cuckolding happens more than most people realize. It does not help that there are various names and definitions for it. Like to me there is a huge difference between "cheating" and "cuckolding", but that is just me. But then there is the term Poly Relationship, and Open Marriage, and the terms muddy the waters...
All very different things. Cuckolding generally means the guy is being 'cheated' on (with his knowledge) and enjoys the humiliation of the wife getting more, or better, pleasure elsewhere. In extreme cases the guy will no longer be allowed to fuck the wife at all. Cheating is usually without the other partner's knowledge or consent.

Poly relationships are about developing loving relationships with other people and is consensual. I know several poly people. One couple, as an example, are married but she has a boyfriend (and at one time a girlfriend as well) and he has girlfriends, one at a time, usually short term. They spend 2 days a week with their poly partners and everyone is happy.

Open marriages take several forms and may or may not be poly, but are, or should be, always consensual, and working within ground rules.

Akin to that is ENM (Ethical Non Monogamy), which is where I'm at. Me and my partner are a couple, we play with others both together and apart. We have a regular girlfriend (but we're not poly, as it's purely sexual, no romantic involvement) and she has two regular FWB, and we both fuck others as and when we wish, again working within agreed boundaries, as all relationships should be.

People who take umbrage basically need to fuck the fuck off, keep fucking off til they get to Fuckoffville, then fuck off a whole bunch more.

Any consensual relationship between adults is good all the time there are agreed boundaries and a huge degree of honesty. Nothing works without honesty. That's what fucked my marriage (a lack of) and that's what keeps my current relationships strong.

IF you have a strong relationship and enjoy playing with others, it keeps your own relationship fresh and alive. It's not for everyone, but if it works for you, go for it.
 
I honestly can not understand the term cuckolding in the head of this thread. Or perhaps I do not understand the term itself. Well, I've never been and never wanted to be caged or humiliated. But I'm happy to know my wife enjoys extramarrital sex from time to time. And I'm more than happy to hear her detailed stories about having sex with other men. I also wouldn't mind to see this process myself and probably join. Am I a cuckold?
no. you're normal (whatever the fuck that is).
 
Mine loves it. She likes seeing me have sex with men too.
I was in a open relationship with a woman that loved to hear about my escapades and got off on me telling her details while we fucked as it would help her climax more intensely.
It actually got to be a bit of pressure to come up with new stories for her to enjoy. 😊
 
Men, and women, you are not alone with your fantasy. Talk, listen and take the leap
When I met my wife in college I would have been the LAST person in the world to think that 20 years later I would be watching her have sex with other men AND being turned on by it.

But here we are.

We started slow.

After a few years of being married we started talking about her previous sexual encounters in detail one night in very explicit detail. It turned me on so much.

My wife was a bit taken aback by it at first.

But we slowly worked up. She told me more and more stories of her past lovers in more and more detail as I laid next to her jerking off. Most times I would cum before the story even ended.

This went on for years.

Finally, she agreed to meet with an old friend of ours. He was longtime divorced and someone she found attractive.

I nearly threw-up leading up to us meeting.

The two of them had coffee and lunch several times before the three of us got together.

The first time was akward for everyone but so erotic.

She only gave him a blow job that first afternoon together but she sucked his dick with more enthusiasm than she had sucked my dick with in years!

She devoured him.

He came quickly (I came almost immediately) she swallowed every drop of his cum and kissed me instantly after.

I was addicted.
 
I definitely would have never thought I would EVER want to be a cuckold.
Once the fantasy started through unexpected revelations from my wife, it became an obsessive desire.
Now that it's been a few years, and knowing from past experience that sometimes reality isn't as hot as fantasy, perhaps it's just as well my wife hasn't taken me up on the "hall pass" I proposed to her a few years back.
Still enjoy the fantasy immensely.
I feel the same way about it.
 
When I met my wife in college I would have been the LAST person in the world to think that 20 years later I would be watching her have sex with other men AND being turned on by it.

But here we are.

We started slow.

After a few years of being married we started talking about her previous sexual encounters in detail one night in very explicit detail. It turned me on so much.

My wife was a bit taken aback by it at first.

But we slowly worked up. She told me more and more stories of her past lovers in more and more detail as I laid next to her jerking off. Most times I would cum before the story even ended.

This went on for years.

Finally, she agreed to meet with an old friend of ours. He was longtime divorced and someone she found attractive.

I nearly threw-up leading up to us meeting.

The two of them had coffee and lunch several times before the three of us got together.

The first time was akward for everyone but so erotic.

She only gave him a blow job that first afternoon together but she sucked his dick with more enthusiasm than she had sucked my dick with in years!

She devoured him.

He came quickly (I came almost immediately) she swallowed every drop of his cum and kissed me instantly after.

I was addicted.
That’s a very erotic recounting of your beginnings. And re the encounter…what a wondrous and amazing baptism in cuckoldry that must’ve been!!!!
 
I have been in the swinging/ cuckold scene off and on over 18close to 19 years, it was his idea and choice, i wasnt keen at first but wanted to please him, fantasies and reality not always the same
 
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I think it cuckolding happens more than most people realize. It does not help that there are various names and definitions for it. Like to me there is a huge difference between "cheating" and "cuckolding", but that is just me. But then there is the term Poly Relationship, and Open Marriage, and the terms muddy the waters...

Myself, my experience has been bland compared to some on here, so I seldom bring it up. For my ex-wife and I, "cuckolding" was more of an indifference. I have no idea what clothes she wore for them, never did anything with humiliation for me, and really all I knew is I would get a call saying she would not be home and be spending the night with a married couple that were our friends. On my end of things, I didn't care, and hoped she had fun. When I was with others, I had fun, and she didn't care...

Was that an open marriage or cuckolding? I have no idea, but I know it happens far more than people realize.
Thats more of an open deal
 
I think it cuckolding happens more than most people realize. It does not help that there are various names and definitions for it. Like to me there is a huge difference between "cheating" and "cuckolding", but that is just me. But then there is the term Poly Relationship, and Open Marriage, and the terms muddy the waters...

Myself, my experience has been bland compared to some on here, so I seldom bring it up. For my ex-wife and I, "cuckolding" was more of an indifference. I have no idea what clothes she wore for them, never did anything with humiliation for me, and really all I knew is I would get a call saying she would not be home and be spending the night with a married couple that were our friends. On my end of things, I didn't care, and hoped she had fun. When I was with others, I had fun, and she didn't care...

Was that an open marriage or cuckolding? I have no idea, but I know it happens far more than people realize.
I thought poly was word for non married cuck behavior for some couples
 
I thought poly was word for non married cuck behavior for some couples
Poly, in my understanding, is more oriented to a full relationship between more than two people, rather than one main relationship in which one or more people has sex with others. Cuck is technically just a man whose wife fucks others, but has come to mean men like me, who like it when she fucks others. Humiliation seems to go along with the cuck label, but that's not really my thing... anyway, fuck labels, right?
 
I find that statistic very high (at least for hetero couples). The swinger’s statistics are around 4-5%, poliamory is less than 1%.

I find it statistically doubtful your numbers. As a fantasy, maybe 10-14% men and 3-4% of women.
The figures come from a survey of more than 4,000 (I think around 4,500 or more) Americans about their sexual fantasies conducted by sex researcher Justin Lehmiller at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. He published a non-academic book (as well as academic papers) about it, "Tell Me What You Want." So as far as it goes, these numbers are about the best we've got on this sort of thing to date.
 
Most men don't get it. If I get a thrill from my wife or gf outside sexlife is our business. Or me being bicurious, when she comes back to me I lick and 💋 her pussy. All the prior sex and his cum in her. She can even tell him
I think a lot of men share your desires. Most do not get to experience it but would like to. I love it when my wife announces that she has a date or is going to visit so and so.
 
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