Cuckold psychology

[magic_rat]

I don't mind a threesome but have no desire for humiliation or lowering my status in a trio. I think it's the subjugation that just doesn't fit with me.

Indeed and each to their own.

I've played the game before, it doesn't sit well with me any more. I'm a sexual being as it my partner. We work on 100% trust and honesty and our relationship is all the stronger for it.

But the cuckold and cuckqueans (female equivalent) are entitled to play the game their own way. You may not like the idea of being humiliated, but it's not your place to judge those that do. We all get off in the way that works best for us as individuals and couples.

Vive la difference? I respect your viewpoint and would never try to change it, any more than (I hope) you would ever want to change mine.

 

[YourSecretDesires]

Indeed and each to their own.

I've played the game before, it doesn't sit well with me any more. I'm a sexual being as it my partner. We work on 100% trust and honesty and our relationship is all the stronger for it.

But the cuckold and cuckqueans (female equivalent) are entitled to play the game their own way. You may not like the idea of being humiliated, but it's not your place to judge those that do. We all get off in the way that works best for us as individuals and couples.

Vive la difference? I respect your viewpoint and would never try to change it, any more than (I hope) you would ever want to change mine.

I didn't judge anyone. I just said it wasn't for me.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I love humiliation and knowing a woman or trans chick is being pleased by a bigger and better cock than mine, especially of another race, but I know it's human tendency to own things and take them away from people if they want them more. So no relationship in that case - I'll be just as free as them to fuck and get fucked by anyone else I like. I can help them with those fantasies if they'll help me with mine, or we'll have nothing to do with each other.

I think I love cuckolding fantasies because I'm somewhat feminine in body and nature and have a tiny clitty.

 

[VerbalAbuse]

Cuckolding is many things to many people. This makes it hard to put forward a quick, illuminating analysis. To many it ties into erotic humiliation -- though as pointed here, this is not a universal trait.

I think everybody can enjoy cuckolding fantasies/stories -- those who say otherwise just haven't stumbled upon the right one. It's just like with many other types of fantasies/stories -- just because you can enjoy them, it does not mean you want to live them. Heck, I enjoyed spending time in prison with Edmond Dantes when reading The Count of Monte-Cristo -- this does not mean I want to be in prison.

 

[Mike130]

Probably most of us had a time when they had a girlfriend cheat on them. I’ve had several, and in my twenties it made me angry and sad. Perhaps as we get older, the cuck fantasy reframes that trauma into a more positive experience.

When I was in my early 20’s, I had an older girlfriend who had hinted at a swap with another couple. I knew the girl, but she didn’t really excite me so I passed on the idea. Towards my late twenties I had evolved more emotionally and I would bring my new girlfriend to swingers clubs. At first it was to watch others, but maybe a half hour in, a guy positioned his hard cock inches from her mouth. She looked over at me, I must have nodded because she began sucking it, which I found to be incredibly erotic. Soon, she was on her back, him eagerly pumping his sperm into her while she gripped his ass with both hands, pulling him in tight! She fucked and sucked a few others that night, and so began our journey into the world of sex clubs. I didn’t partake as much, I enjoyed watching her more, for some reason. This continued for about 2 years.

At around that time I met my future wife. Very pretty, very young, and very married. But she was the one who initiated the affair with me. As pretty as she was, to me it wasn’t sexually exciting to be the bull in this relationship. There were plenty of single girls, less complex relationships, and besides, I had my sex club girlfriend.

Fast forward about a year. Future wife is divorced living with a female roommate, but we’re going out pretty exclusively (I thought), she confesses to an affair with another guy. I’m slightly more mature by this time. I’m not really mad, but this might be an opportunity to bring her to a sex club to see how she performs. That didn’t go well because she just rode me, while another guy about 10 feet away jerked off.

Anyways, after we got married, she admitted to fucking several other guys while we were dating and she had her apartment, one time even doing two at once. Telling me I’ve tasted the cum of other’s that have fucked her. I love it when she tells these stories and we fantasize about her doing another guy while I watch or participate, but, like many, she hesitates to do it in real life.

So what’s the eroticism in all this? What seemed so terrible in your 20’s is so desirable in later life.

Is it the excitement of seeing how my wife performs with another man? Perhaps with a cock much bigger than my 6”? She said she fucked a guy with a cock about twice as big as mine. That would have been hot to watch…

Maybe the thought that your wife is so desirable to other men that it hardens their manhood? They’re envious of you? That you have exquisite taste?

Is it a subliminal desire to see a cock pulse its semen into your pretty wife? Perhaps taste their combined nectar? Lick her cum from his cock?

Maybe it’s as simple as seeing the person you love being thoroughly pleasured by a good lover. .

I think the cheating part is definitely an issue because you can’t have a loving relationship without trust. But if the lies and deception are admitted, forgiven, and put aside, then you’re left with physical and emotional desire, and the ability to separate them. We all have had a physical lust for others, and our wives are no different. But when the physical desire crosses over to an emotional one, that’s where issues ensue, and marital love becomes nebulous. A rubicon best not to cross.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Probably most of us had a time when they had a girlfriend cheat on them. I’ve had several, and in my twenties it made me angry and sad. Perhaps as we get older, the cuck fantasy reframes that trauma into a more positive experience.

When I was in my early 20’s, I had an older girlfriend who had hinted at a swap with another couple. I knew the girl, but she didn’t really excite me so I passed on the idea. Towards my late twenties I had evolved more emotionally and I would bring my new girlfriend to swingers clubs. At first it was to watch others, but maybe a half hour in, a guy positioned his hard cock inches from her mouth. She looked over at me, I must have nodded because she began sucking it, which I found to be incredibly erotic. Soon, she was on her back, him eagerly pumping his sperm into her while she gripped his ass with both hands, pulling him in tight! She fucked and sucked a few others that night, and so began our journey into the world of sex clubs. I didn’t partake as much, I enjoyed watching her more, for some reason. This continued for about 2 years.

At around that time I met my future wife. Very pretty, very young, and very married. But she was the one who initiated the affair with me. As pretty as she was, to me it wasn’t sexually exciting to be the bull in this relationship. There were plenty of single girls, less complex relationships, and besides, I had my sex club girlfriend.

Fast forward about a year. Future wife is divorced living with a female roommate, but we’re going out pretty exclusively (I thought), she confesses to an affair with another guy. I’m slightly more mature by this time. I’m not really mad, but this might be an opportunity to bring her to a sex club to see how she performs. That didn’t go well because she just rode me, while another guy about 10 feet away jerked off.

Anyways, after we got married, she admitted to fucking several other guys while we were dating and she had her apartment, one time even doing two at once. Telling me I’ve tasted the cum of other’s that have fucked her. I love it when she tells these stories and we fantasize about her doing another guy while I watch or participate, but, like many, she hesitates to do it in real life.

So what’s the eroticism in all this? What seemed so terrible in your 20’s is so desirable in later life.

Is it the excitement of seeing how my wife performs with another man? Perhaps with a cock much bigger than my 6”? She said she fucked a guy with a cock about twice as big as mine. That would have been hot to watch…

Maybe the thought that your wife is so desirable to other men that it hardens their manhood? They’re envious of you? That you have exquisite taste?

Is it a subliminal desire to see a cock pulse its semen into your pretty wife? Perhaps taste their combined nectar? Lick her cum from his cock?

Maybe it’s as simple as seeing the person you love being thoroughly pleasured by a good lover. .

I think the cheating part is definitely an issue because you can’t have a loving relationship without trust. But if the lies and deception are admitted, forgiven, and put aside, then you’re left with physical and emotional desire, and the ability to separate them. We all have had a physical lust for others, and our wives are no different. But when the physical desire crosses over to an emotional one, that’s where issues ensue, and marital love becomes nebulous. A rubicon best not to cross.

Perhaps we turn negative experiences into positive ones as we get older.

I hate cheating and cheaters, so I hope I don't.

 

[Mike130]

Perhaps we turn negative experiences into positive ones as we get older.

I hate cheating and cheaters, so I hope I don't.

I agree. When my wife had sex with others while we dated, so did I, for a while but gradually tapered off. I was unbridled in those days and not really into commitment so I needed a period to settle down. And she married young so needed to sow her oats. Understandable. Since marriage though, we’ve both been faithful so it worked out, so far for almost 40 years.

But age, maturity and hindsight has given me the perspective that there is a difference between physical and emotional cheating. A physical affair wouldn’t be as big of a deal as an emotional one. I could understand, and actually be turned on by her fucking another guy if she told me about it. But I think if she said she loved another person, that would be emotionally devastating.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I agree. When my wife had sex with others while we dated, so did I, for a while but gradually tapered off. I was unbridled in those days and not really into commitment so I needed a period to settle down. And she married young so needed to sow her oats. Understandable. Since marriage though, we’ve both been faithful so it worked out, so far for almost 40 years.

But age, maturity and hindsight has given me the perspective that there is a difference between physical and emotional cheating. A physical affair wouldn’t be as big of a deal as an emotional one. I could understand, and actually be turned on by her fucking another guy if she told me about it. But I think if she said she loved another person, that would be emotionally devastating.

I agree. Both emotional and physical affairs would make me leave.

 

[Sgts19]

Probably most of us had a time when they had a girlfriend cheat on them. I’ve had several, and in my twenties it made me angry and sad. Perhaps as we get older, the cuck fantasy reframes that trauma into a more positive experience.

When I was in my early 20’s, I had an older girlfriend who had hinted at a swap with another couple. I knew the girl, but she didn’t really excite me so I passed on the idea. Towards my late twenties I had evolved more emotionally and I would bring my new girlfriend to swingers clubs. At first it was to watch others, but maybe a half hour in, a guy positioned his hard cock inches from her mouth. She looked over at me, I must have nodded because she began sucking it, which I found to be incredibly erotic. Soon, she was on her back, him eagerly pumping his sperm into her while she gripped his ass with both hands, pulling him in tight! She fucked and sucked a few others that night, and so began our journey into the world of sex clubs. I didn’t partake as much, I enjoyed watching her more, for some reason. This continued for about 2 years.

At around that time I met my future wife. Very pretty, very young, and very married. But she was the one who initiated the affair with me. As pretty as she was, to me it wasn’t sexually exciting to be the bull in this relationship. There were plenty of single girls, less complex relationships, and besides, I had my sex club girlfriend.

Fast forward about a year. Future wife is divorced living with a female roommate, but we’re going out pretty exclusively (I thought), she confesses to an affair with another guy. I’m slightly more mature by this time. I’m not really mad, but this might be an opportunity to bring her to a sex club to see how she performs. That didn’t go well because she just rode me, while another guy about 10 feet away jerked off.

Anyways, after we got married, she admitted to fucking several other guys while we were dating and she had her apartment, one time even doing two at once. Telling me I’ve tasted the cum of other’s that have fucked her. I love it when she tells these stories and we fantasize about her doing another guy while I watch or participate, but, like many, she hesitates to do it in real life.

So what’s the eroticism in all this? What seemed so terrible in your 20’s is so desirable in later life.

Is it the excitement of seeing how my wife performs with another man? Perhaps with a cock much bigger than my 6”? She said she fucked a guy with a cock about twice as big as mine. That would have been hot to watch…

Maybe the thought that your wife is so desirable to other men that it hardens their manhood? They’re envious of you? That you have exquisite taste?

Is it a subliminal desire to see a cock pulse its semen into your pretty wife? Perhaps taste their combined nectar? Lick her cum from his cock?

Maybe it’s as simple as seeing the person you love being thoroughly pleasured by a good lover. .

I think the cheating part is definitely an issue because you can’t have a loving relationship without trust. But if the lies and deception are admitted, forgiven, and put aside, then you’re left with physical and emotional desire, and the ability to separate them. We all have had a physical lust for others, and our wives are no different. But when the physical desire crosses over to an emotional one, that’s where issues ensue, and marital love becomes nebulous. A rubicon best not to cross.

If you had asked me shortly after I married that we'd actually have sex with others, I'd say you were crazy. Fast forward a few years and I realized how excited I'd get watching men follow her around and talking her up. Then down the line we started playing with our best friends, wow. I would be with his wife he'd be with mine often in different rooms often we had vid cameras set up to catch the action. Then years would pass and we tried the swinging life. I never saw her with any of these men but sure heard her several times. Spied but that's another story. I don't consider myself a cuck because I was always fucking their wife but really got off more when my wife was fucking someone else.

 

[Mike130]

If you had asked me shortly after I married that we'd actually have sex with others, I'd say you were crazy. Fast forward a few years and I realized how excited I'd get watching men follow her around and talking her up. Then down the line we started playing with our best friends, wow. I would be with his wife he'd be with mine often in different rooms often we had vid cameras set up to catch the action. Then years would pass and we tried the swinging life. I never saw her with any of these men but sure heard her several times. Spied but that's another story. I don't consider myself a cuck because I was always fucking their wife but really got off more when my wife was fucking someone else.

I would probably be the same if the opportunity presented itself. More excited to watch my wife fuck than to fuck someone else.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I would probably be the same if the opportunity presented itself. More excited to watch my wife fuck than to fuck someone else.

The voyeurism is so exciting.

 

[One_ping_only]

I would probably be the same if the opportunity presented itself. More excited to watch my wife fuck than to fuck someone else.

I included. I have no desire whatsoever to fuck another woman but dam to watch another guy or better yet guys fuck my wife hmmmmmmm!!!?? One day, maybe one day !!

 

[Ajoe207]

I included. I have no desire whatsoever to fuck another woman but dam to watch another guy or better yet guys fuck my wife hmmmmmmm!!!?? One day, maybe one day !!

Mmm there would be a line at your door if asked

 

[Matt3427]

We got into it by accident after she slept with a few men while I was overseas with work in our 20s for a couple of years. It's been part of our life ever since and has kept our sex life alive. We just use it as a form of escapism and turn on for all of us. More people do it than I realised years ago.