Cuckold psychology

[magic_rat]

I don't mind a threesome but have no desire for humiliation or lowering my status in a trio. I think it's the subjugation that just doesn't fit with me.

Indeed and each to their own.

I've played the game before, it doesn't sit well with me any more. I'm a sexual being as it my partner. We work on 100% trust and honesty and our relationship is all the stronger for it.

But the cuckold and cuckqueans (female equivalent) are entitled to play the game their own way. You may not like the idea of being humiliated, but it's not your place to judge those that do. We all get off in the way that works best for us as individuals and couples.

Vive la difference? I respect your viewpoint and would never try to change it, any more than (I hope) you would ever want to change mine.

 

[YourSecretDesires]

Indeed and each to their own.

I've played the game before, it doesn't sit well with me any more. I'm a sexual being as it my partner. We work on 100% trust and honesty and our relationship is all the stronger for it.

But the cuckold and cuckqueans (female equivalent) are entitled to play the game their own way. You may not like the idea of being humiliated, but it's not your place to judge those that do. We all get off in the way that works best for us as individuals and couples.

Vive la difference? I respect your viewpoint and would never try to change it, any more than (I hope) you would ever want to change mine.

I didn't judge anyone. I just said it wasn't for me.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I love humiliation and knowing a woman or trans chick is being pleased by a bigger and better cock than mine, especially of another race, but I know it's human tendency to own things and take them away from people if they want them more. So no relationship in that case - I'll be just as free as them to fuck and get fucked by anyone else I like. I can help them with those fantasies if they'll help me with mine, or we'll have nothing to do with each other.

I think I love cuckolding fantasies because I'm somewhat feminine in body and nature and have a tiny clitty.

 

[VerbalAbuse]

Cuckolding is many things to many people. This makes it hard to put forward a quick, illuminating analysis. To many it ties into erotic humiliation -- though as pointed here, this is not a universal trait.

I think everybody can enjoy cuckolding fantasies/stories -- those who say otherwise just haven't stumbled upon the right one. It's just like with many other types of fantasies/stories -- just because you can enjoy them, it does not mean you want to live them. Heck, I enjoyed spending time in prison with Edmond Dantes when reading The Count of Monte-Cristo -- this does not mean I want to be in prison.

 

[Mike130]

Probably most of us had a time when they had a girlfriend cheat on them. I’ve had several, and in my twenties it made me angry and sad. Perhaps as we get older, the cuck fantasy reframes that trauma into a more positive experience.

When I was in my early 20’s, I had an older girlfriend who had hinted at a swap with another couple. I knew the girl, but she didn’t really excite me so I passed on the idea. Towards my late twenties I had evolved more emotionally and I would bring my new girlfriend to swingers clubs. At first it was to watch others, but maybe a half hour in, a guy positioned his hard cock inches from her mouth. She looked over at me, I must have nodded because she began sucking it, which I found to be incredibly erotic. Soon, she was on her back, him eagerly pumping his sperm into her while she gripped his ass with both hands, pulling him in tight! She fucked and sucked a few others that night, and so began our journey into the world of sex clubs. I didn’t partake as much, I enjoyed watching her more, for some reason. This continued for about 2 years.

At around that time I met my future wife. Very pretty, very young, and very married. But she was the one who initiated the affair with me. As pretty as she was, to me it wasn’t sexually exciting to be the bull in this relationship. There were plenty of single girls, less complex relationships, and besides, I had my sex club girlfriend.

Fast forward about a year. Future wife is divorced living with a female roommate, but we’re going out pretty exclusively (I thought), she confesses to an affair with another guy. I’m slightly more mature by this time. I’m not really mad, but this might be an opportunity to bring her to a sex club to see how she performs. That didn’t go well because she just rode me, while another guy about 10 feet away jerked off.

Anyways, after we got married, she admitted to fucking several other guys while we were dating and she had her apartment, one time even doing two at once. Telling me I’ve tasted the cum of other’s that have fucked her. I love it when she tells these stories and we fantasize about her doing another guy while I watch or participate, but, like many, she hesitates to do it in real life.

So what’s the eroticism in all this? What seemed so terrible in your 20’s is so desirable in later life.

Is it the excitement of seeing how my wife performs with another man? Perhaps with a cock much bigger than my 6”? She said she fucked a guy with a cock about twice as big as mine. That would have been hot to watch…

Maybe the thought that your wife is so desirable to other men that it hardens their manhood? They’re envious of you? That you have exquisite taste?

Is it a subliminal desire to see a cock pulse its semen into your pretty wife? Perhaps taste their combined nectar? Lick her cum from his cock?

Maybe it’s as simple as seeing the person you love being thoroughly pleasured by a good lover. .

I think the cheating part is definitely an issue because you can’t have a loving relationship without trust. But if the lies and deception are admitted, forgiven, and put aside, then you’re left with physical and emotional desire, and the ability to separate them. We all have had a physical lust for others, and our wives are no different. But when the physical desire crosses over to an emotional one, that’s where issues ensue, and marital love becomes nebulous. A rubicon best not to cross.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Probably most of us had a time when they had a girlfriend cheat on them. I’ve had several, and in my twenties it made me angry and sad. Perhaps as we get older, the cuck fantasy reframes that trauma into a more positive experience.

When I was in my early 20’s, I had an older girlfriend who had hinted at a swap with another couple. I knew the girl, but she didn’t really excite me so I passed on the idea. Towards my late twenties I had evolved more emotionally and I would bring my new girlfriend to swingers clubs. At first it was to watch others, but maybe a half hour in, a guy positioned his hard cock inches from her mouth. She looked over at me, I must have nodded because she began sucking it, which I found to be incredibly erotic. Soon, she was on her back, him eagerly pumping his sperm into her while she gripped his ass with both hands, pulling him in tight! She fucked and sucked a few others that night, and so began our journey into the world of sex clubs. I didn’t partake as much, I enjoyed watching her more, for some reason. This continued for about 2 years.

At around that time I met my future wife. Very pretty, very young, and very married. But she was the one who initiated the affair with me. As pretty as she was, to me it wasn’t sexually exciting to be the bull in this relationship. There were plenty of single girls, less complex relationships, and besides, I had my sex club girlfriend.

Fast forward about a year. Future wife is divorced living with a female roommate, but we’re going out pretty exclusively (I thought), she confesses to an affair with another guy. I’m slightly more mature by this time. I’m not really mad, but this might be an opportunity to bring her to a sex club to see how she performs. That didn’t go well because she just rode me, while another guy about 10 feet away jerked off.

Anyways, after we got married, she admitted to fucking several other guys while we were dating and she had her apartment, one time even doing two at once. Telling me I’ve tasted the cum of other’s that have fucked her. I love it when she tells these stories and we fantasize about her doing another guy while I watch or participate, but, like many, she hesitates to do it in real life.

So what’s the eroticism in all this? What seemed so terrible in your 20’s is so desirable in later life.

Is it the excitement of seeing how my wife performs with another man? Perhaps with a cock much bigger than my 6”? She said she fucked a guy with a cock about twice as big as mine. That would have been hot to watch…

Maybe the thought that your wife is so desirable to other men that it hardens their manhood? They’re envious of you? That you have exquisite taste?

Is it a subliminal desire to see a cock pulse its semen into your pretty wife? Perhaps taste their combined nectar? Lick her cum from his cock?

Maybe it’s as simple as seeing the person you love being thoroughly pleasured by a good lover. .

I think the cheating part is definitely an issue because you can’t have a loving relationship without trust. But if the lies and deception are admitted, forgiven, and put aside, then you’re left with physical and emotional desire, and the ability to separate them. We all have had a physical lust for others, and our wives are no different. But when the physical desire crosses over to an emotional one, that’s where issues ensue, and marital love becomes nebulous. A rubicon best not to cross.

Perhaps we turn negative experiences into positive ones as we get older.

I hate cheating and cheaters, so I hope I don't.

 

[Mike130]

Perhaps we turn negative experiences into positive ones as we get older.

I hate cheating and cheaters, so I hope I don't.

I agree. When my wife had sex with others while we dated, so did I, for a while but gradually tapered off. I was unbridled in those days and not really into commitment so I needed a period to settle down. And she married young so needed to sow her oats. Understandable. Since marriage though, we’ve both been faithful so it worked out, so far for almost 40 years.

But age, maturity and hindsight has given me the perspective that there is a difference between physical and emotional cheating. A physical affair wouldn’t be as big of a deal as an emotional one. I could understand, and actually be turned on by her fucking another guy if she told me about it. But I think if she said she loved another person, that would be emotionally devastating.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I agree. When my wife had sex with others while we dated, so did I, for a while but gradually tapered off. I was unbridled in those days and not really into commitment so I needed a period to settle down. And she married young so needed to sow her oats. Understandable. Since marriage though, we’ve both been faithful so it worked out, so far for almost 40 years.

But age, maturity and hindsight has given me the perspective that there is a difference between physical and emotional cheating. A physical affair wouldn’t be as big of a deal as an emotional one. I could understand, and actually be turned on by her fucking another guy if she told me about it. But I think if she said she loved another person, that would be emotionally devastating.

I agree. Both emotional and physical affairs would make me leave.

 

[Sgts19]

Probably most of us had a time when they had a girlfriend cheat on them. I’ve had several, and in my twenties it made me angry and sad. Perhaps as we get older, the cuck fantasy reframes that trauma into a more positive experience.

When I was in my early 20’s, I had an older girlfriend who had hinted at a swap with another couple. I knew the girl, but she didn’t really excite me so I passed on the idea. Towards my late twenties I had evolved more emotionally and I would bring my new girlfriend to swingers clubs. At first it was to watch others, but maybe a half hour in, a guy positioned his hard cock inches from her mouth. She looked over at me, I must have nodded because she began sucking it, which I found to be incredibly erotic. Soon, she was on her back, him eagerly pumping his sperm into her while she gripped his ass with both hands, pulling him in tight! She fucked and sucked a few others that night, and so began our journey into the world of sex clubs. I didn’t partake as much, I enjoyed watching her more, for some reason. This continued for about 2 years.

At around that time I met my future wife. Very pretty, very young, and very married. But she was the one who initiated the affair with me. As pretty as she was, to me it wasn’t sexually exciting to be the bull in this relationship. There were plenty of single girls, less complex relationships, and besides, I had my sex club girlfriend.

Fast forward about a year. Future wife is divorced living with a female roommate, but we’re going out pretty exclusively (I thought), she confesses to an affair with another guy. I’m slightly more mature by this time. I’m not really mad, but this might be an opportunity to bring her to a sex club to see how she performs. That didn’t go well because she just rode me, while another guy about 10 feet away jerked off.

Anyways, after we got married, she admitted to fucking several other guys while we were dating and she had her apartment, one time even doing two at once. Telling me I’ve tasted the cum of other’s that have fucked her. I love it when she tells these stories and we fantasize about her doing another guy while I watch or participate, but, like many, she hesitates to do it in real life.

So what’s the eroticism in all this? What seemed so terrible in your 20’s is so desirable in later life.

Is it the excitement of seeing how my wife performs with another man? Perhaps with a cock much bigger than my 6”? She said she fucked a guy with a cock about twice as big as mine. That would have been hot to watch…

Maybe the thought that your wife is so desirable to other men that it hardens their manhood? They’re envious of you? That you have exquisite taste?

Is it a subliminal desire to see a cock pulse its semen into your pretty wife? Perhaps taste their combined nectar? Lick her cum from his cock?

Maybe it’s as simple as seeing the person you love being thoroughly pleasured by a good lover. .

I think the cheating part is definitely an issue because you can’t have a loving relationship without trust. But if the lies and deception are admitted, forgiven, and put aside, then you’re left with physical and emotional desire, and the ability to separate them. We all have had a physical lust for others, and our wives are no different. But when the physical desire crosses over to an emotional one, that’s where issues ensue, and marital love becomes nebulous. A rubicon best not to cross.

If you had asked me shortly after I married that we'd actually have sex with others, I'd say you were crazy. Fast forward a few years and I realized how excited I'd get watching men follow her around and talking her up. Then down the line we started playing with our best friends, wow. I would be with his wife he'd be with mine often in different rooms often we had vid cameras set up to catch the action. Then years would pass and we tried the swinging life. I never saw her with any of these men but sure heard her several times. Spied but that's another story. I don't consider myself a cuck because I was always fucking their wife but really got off more when my wife was fucking someone else.

 

[Mike130]

If you had asked me shortly after I married that we'd actually have sex with others, I'd say you were crazy. Fast forward a few years and I realized how excited I'd get watching men follow her around and talking her up. Then down the line we started playing with our best friends, wow. I would be with his wife he'd be with mine often in different rooms often we had vid cameras set up to catch the action. Then years would pass and we tried the swinging life. I never saw her with any of these men but sure heard her several times. Spied but that's another story. I don't consider myself a cuck because I was always fucking their wife but really got off more when my wife was fucking someone else.

I would probably be the same if the opportunity presented itself. More excited to watch my wife fuck than to fuck someone else.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I would probably be the same if the opportunity presented itself. More excited to watch my wife fuck than to fuck someone else.

The voyeurism is so exciting.

 

[One_ping_only]

I would probably be the same if the opportunity presented itself. More excited to watch my wife fuck than to fuck someone else.

I included. I have no desire whatsoever to fuck another woman but dam to watch another guy or better yet guys fuck my wife hmmmmmmm!!!?? One day, maybe one day !!

 

[Matt3427]

We got into it by accident after she slept with a few men while I was overseas with work in our 20s for a couple of years. It's been part of our life ever since and has kept our sex life alive. We just use it as a form of escapism and turn on for all of us. More people do it than I realised years ago.

 

[Illgiveitatry1]

We got into it by accident after she slept with a few men while I was overseas with work in our 20s for a couple of years. It's been part of our life ever since and has kept our sex life alive. We just use it as a form of escapism and turn on for all of us. More people do it than I realised years ago.

That's so hot I would love to hear details.

 

[Cubby4D]

I always liked bondage way back into my teenage years but I never would have thought I’d love the idea to be cucked. I truly feel like it had to do with my ex wife and her affairs.
My ex wife was assertive regarding her privacy. I managed to hack into her phone. No matter what I discovered I never confronted her. Things most men would have been pissed about instead I discovered they turned me on.
Looking at the nude photos she’d send her boy toys and videos of her playing with her pussy id send them to myself and I would save them. My ex wife had a thing for younger guys for sure. I knew she’d like to have sex with her boy toys typically after work because she’d get out late and that was her time window before she went home. She thought I was asleep resting for work but I just couldn’t knowing she was out. Her location pinged her in the parking lot in front of her and sometimes for a brief moment at some nearby apartments. My imagination would run wild. I would always wonder if her boy toy had her pinned in the back seat or if perhaps she was riding him at his place.
I could have confronted her at any point but I never did. I just enjoyed knowing my wife was out getting fucked by a younger guy with a bigger cock.
I’ve learned to enjoy the position of being cucked in my relationships. I’m more open about it with my current wife. Although I have the ok to fuck other women I’m completely content with having another man fuck my wife instead.

 

[Cob083]

I have noticed that cuckolding is often times a very common kink with a lot of white guys. I dont find it very common with black or Latino guys. Id even go as far as saying its not common with Asian men aside from probably East Indian men (have had convos with Indian cucks who like watching their wives and girlfriends getting fucked).

You know I have always wondered why but I think it has to do with the porn consumption in America and how most of porn's viewers happen to be white men of a certain age.

Im white anglo what have you and personally this isnt something im very into. Im a man who likes to be in an advantageous and in control position with women and seeing my women fuck other men does absolutely nothing for me but hey to each his own I guess.

 

[Mike130]

Perhaps it’s the ultimate selfless expression of love.
You love your wife, you want her happiness above all else. She has a libido, just like you. As beautiful as your wife is, there are also beautiful redheads, Asians, Indians, blacks, etc. Why wouldn’t she think the same about other guys? Or girls?
If you truly want your wife happy, you wouldn’t be jealous. You would share her happiness. You would strive to make her happy. Different women have different needs. She may be perfectly happy with just you. Or she may want the thrill or adulation of a threesome or gangbang. Or the satisfaction of a BBC. In any case, the desires of your partner supersede your own.

 

[Luganis]

I have noticed that cuckolding is often times a very common kink with a lot of white guys. I dont find it very common with black or Latino guys. Id even go as far as saying its not common with Asian men aside from probably East Indian men (have had convos with Indian cucks who like watching their wives and girlfriends getting fucked).
…

I think it has much more to do with the ultra-feminism in the West (specially America), which has permeated more in the psyche (guilt feeling) of white men than in the black and latinos. Latinos identify far less with ultrafeminism, making more “inmune” to this kink (and consequently lifestyle). Also, while latinos & blacks, like any men are worried about their penis size, have less sense of inadequacy because they are still centered in their sexual satisfaction than their partners.

They don’t kink as you say, might also be far more correlated with porn…

Also, in Latin America cheating is far more common, than giving “permission” to cheat

 

[BlueChamisa]

IDK. The cuckold thing is not something I understand or want to understand. I guess I'm traditional. I can't get over the idea that any man would think it's cool to watch his partner with someone else and get off on it. It's more of a boundary issue. What's yours, you protect and respect. When I was editing Lit stories there was a Lit author who tried to talk me into editing his stories, which were all cuck/bad wives stories. I flat out told him no. He couldn't understand. Anyway, do what you want, but respect those who just aren't into what you're into is my motto.

"What's yours" — I take issue with that.

My wife is not "mine." She is not property, therefore it's not possible for me to "share" her.

But she does have freedom to have sex outside our marriage. She likes it. I like it.

We all have our yeses, nos and maybes. I'm not at all interested in CD, fem, sissy, for example. But I don't really feel a need to campaign against something that's not my business and doesn't affect me in the slightest.

 

[BlueChamisa]

Perhaps it’s the ultimate selfless expression of love.
You love your wife, you want her happiness above all else. She has a libido, just like you. As beautiful as your wife is, there are also beautiful redheads, Asians, Indians, blacks, etc. Why wouldn’t she think the same about other guys? Or girls?
If you truly want your wife happy, you wouldn’t be jealous. You would share her happiness. You would strive to make her happy. Different women have different needs. She may be perfectly happy with just you. Or she may want the thrill or adulation of a threesome or gangbang. Or the satisfaction of a BBC. In any case, the desires of your partner supersede your own.

It's often labeled with the neologism, "compersion" — taking joy in the joy of another.

Incidentally, the Buddhist concept of metta (in the ancient Pali language) means just that: Sympathetic joy, being joyful because of another's happiness.

 

[BlueChamisa]

I didn't judge anyone. I just said it wasn't for me.

Why comment at all?

 

[YourSecretDesires]

Why comment at all?

Because I wanted to.

 

[usse]

For me and maybe some others it’s similar to not wanting to smoke weed and get high but we don’t get out of the car either knowing what will happen.

 

[Dearelliot]

I think for me it's the dominance aspect...My fantasy wife is in charge and wants to flaunt it...She fucks who she wants when she wants, and to show me that I am subservient to her, she has me clean her up after. The ultimate humiliation, licking up another man's cum. Sometimes she sucks him off and comes into the next room to spit in my mouth...She threatens to make me suck him while she watches...but hasn't yet...carried this out, but she reminds me that a good husband sucks cock if his wife tells him to. She hasn't made me watch, but she does describe his cock in detail and comments on how much she likes it in her mouth. All fantasy, as my real wife isnt anywhere near that kinky.