Couples....

[eivissa]

....have any of you got a third person involved?

My girlfriend knows full well that I would love another guy to f**k her while I watched, but have any of you done this and how did you go about it.

One more question is "who"? I dont know if I would like a friend or a stranger to do it, there are plus and minus sides for both. I know some friends who would probably oblige, but I dont know how to apporach the subject. I know the girlfriend would be well up for it after a few drinks, but I dont know "how many" drinks is enough to suggest it.

Any thoughts?

PS this is my first post!

 

[H0wl]

Better talk to her about it BEFORE she has a couple of drinks and discuss it with her then.

Think long and hard about it too, because if she IS interested and you go through with it, it will probably change your relationship in one way or another, not necessarily for the good.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[gr8dad2]

done it a few times.. you have to talk to your patrner talk talk talk.. and even then its chemistry it has to be the right person.. the right time.. the right mood.. so many variables... take nothing for granted .. have a safe word for a bail out.. be prepared to deal with the consequences of a 3 some.. some good some bad when its good its very good and when its bad its hell to pay

 

[jaded_lily]

as for the friend or stranger

i would choose the stranger, if you go with the friend it might ruin the relationship you have with that friend. but with a stranger you all know that it's no strings and that he goes home and you can choose to have no contact with him again, with the friend.....well i think we know the answer to this one.....lol, he's your friend you have to deal with him after everything is said and done.



talk to her about it don't get wasted and then talk to her about it, that just soooo not right, kinda sleazy actually, but see what her take on the situation is and ask her if she wants it to be the friend or the stranger, like everyone said and can't stress it enough talk to her.

*done with the lecture now*

 

[DuckLover]

Welcome to Lit!

The issue of whether and how to add a third person to your sexual relationship is probably about the most common topic on this board. Nearly all of the most active members of Lit have weighed in on the issue with their experience and advice.

Please take advantage of Blue Sugar's excellent service to the board-- the Blank Manual thread. It's at the very top of the list of thread topics. In it, you will find the best threads of the How-To board linked by category. Scroll down to the "Threesomes" category and start reading those threads. Feel free to add replies to those older threads; your post will resurrect the thread and likely spawn new replies.

Alternatively, if after reading the older thread you have a question that has not yet been addressed, then it would be appropriate to start a new thread.

I hope you find the answers to all your questions!

 

[kinkybrat]

....have any of you got a third person involved?

My girlfriend knows full well that I would love another guy to f**k her while I watched, but have any of you done this and how did you go about it.

One more question is "who"? I dont know if I would like a friend or a stranger to do it, there are plus and minus sides for both. I know some friends who would probably oblige, but I dont know how to apporach the subject. I know the girlfriend would be well up for it after a few drinks, but I dont know "how many" drinks is enough to suggest it.

Any thoughts?

PS this is my first post!

btdt

First part~ is to talk it over with her and make sure she's cool with the idea too. Discuss what types of things you both would want to see/do. Discuss the "what if's?" (and yes, there are quite a few of them to consider).

Second part is finding someone~ the times we've done it they have all been strangers. Our friends do know about our lifestyle choice it's just not something they are into(or will admit being into). There are several websites or call lines to find people who would be interested. Make sure you talk to the people who you are considering. Always, always meet in a public place with the agreement that nothing will happen unless both you and g/f agree on the person. If one person feels uncomfortable with the choice it usually won't work out. The first single guy that we met was very kewl, but he was only into it to get his "rocks" off.....i didn't enjoy him at all. The first cpl that we met (oh my lord) .....they sent us pictures and we emailed back and forth really getting into it. When we finally met them we knew they'd lied about everything.....they weren't married(they just worked together *puke*), the pic's they sent were like 10 yrs old and they lied about their ages BIG time. Be very very very very careful.

 

[Lady Tango]

Better talk to her about it BEFORE she has a couple of drinks and discuss it with her then.

Think long and hard about it too, because if she IS interested and you go through with it, it will probably change your relationship in one way or another, not necessarily for the good.

I totally agree - it might seem like a good idea but are you prepared for what might happen to your relationship?

 

[Minnions]

This is a great subject for couples. My wife and I have had third parties involves in the past. When these times have occured it was with the same individuals and have happened before and after we were married. You better have a terrific relationship a good one wont cut it. You also have to be very open sexually to make it work. The person you choose has to be the same in my experiences the man and woman were friends of ours who were looking for a good time. Because we knew them it made it easier but they also were similar to us in what they wanted from the experience. They knew it was going to be about sex and fun with nothing to do with love.

You must be certain you and your GF want the same thing and that you are strong enough to handle it. I can say if you are hear wondering about it you as a couple is not ready. Talk to her if she is interested you may have a shot but it is tough to change a persons mind about these things.

 

[soapstar]

My partner has the urge from time to time to watch me being fucked by another man. While the idea does nothing for me, it does turn me on to know that this is something that excites HIM. And because of this I comply. My rules are that the man doesnt see my face. He will find me face down when he arrives, he puts on a condom (we supply this so we know its not damaged/old etc) has his way, then leaves.

It is a huge turn on for my man. I dunno why.