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[rlaflamme]

I've been subscribed to this thread for a long time.

Just wanted to compliment you on the way you've continued to come back here and encourage people, even at times when there seemed to be little response to your efforts.

Because it can be damn hard on Lit. In fact, I'll say that as a male who has made some special connections in here over the years... It still feels like winning the Lottery when it happens. That is, not only do you feel incredibly, wondrously lucky... but when people move on, you still wonder how such a thing was possible, and if it ever can be again.

Every. Damn. Time.

And yet, I choose to believe that there are still fantastic people left to meet, and wonderful memories waiting to be made.

Because (to steal a line from "Highlander: The Series) the alternative is unthinkable.

Thank you

I try to stay positive and try to spread that a bit. I know that there will be times where little is on this thread other than my words, but sometimes it blows up as well. I can see it gets looked at so that is encouragement enough for me I guess.

Some time ago there was conversation in here about how it is more difficult for men to get a conversation than it is for women. Its a ratio thing for one, way more men than women, then adding in the amount of women that do not want to talk to men. It is hard. But, keep trying and keep your head up. There are lots of people here, and many of them are good people

Keep smiling

 

[Jada59]

Banned for... Wait! I'm lost! Wrong thread!

 

[rlaflamme]

Banned for... Wait! I'm lost! Wrong thread!

Haha! Yep, no banning here

 

[rlaflamme]

Go with the basics of a conversation, a hello and how are you? Tell them a little about yourself and what made you want to talk to them. Give them something to work from. I have heard so many people say they get messages with just a "hi." That gives them nothing to work with and is unlikely to get a response. You have to give a little about yourself to get something of them in return. So think of what you want to say, what you want to know and where you want it to go. Take your time and be respectful. You might find a friend you never thought you would have.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Look for people you can relate to, people that you have common interests with and share part of yourself with them. If you give a little of yourself you are far more likely to get a conversation going. Don't dread a non-response or a rejection, those are just part of life and you can learn from them. Keep trying and you will find a friend or two.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

A simple act of kindness not only makes the person you do it for feel good, but also makes you feel good. Knowing you can help bring a smile to someone is a wonderful thing. And the carry-on effect of it is caused by that simple act. You can start a chain of kindness and help several people without being directly involved. So be kind, be courteous, be respectful.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Spread some cheer, share some joy, offer a smile. The simple things can make someone else's day much better. Just a little gift of you.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

People come and go, not just on a site like this, but in life as well. We can take those that leave as a loss and dwell on that or we can take that time we had with the one who left and smile at the good times. So often we close ourselves off because we fear the pain of someone leaving, losing that conversation or contact. We have to take the good times and smile. We have to push on and look for others to talk to. If we don't we lose a bit of ourselves and that is the worst thing you can do to yourself. So make attempt to make connections and drive on.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Try to move forward after you feel like there is no hope of finding a decent conversation or friendship. It is not easy to find people, but it is well worth it when you do. Don't swell on the past, embrace it and learn from it. There are many people that will talk and although a good amount of them will only talk for a short while it is worth the time you spend with them.

Keep smiling

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Cheers , what a great thread. Posting in it to put it up into the ebb and flow of the river of current posts.

 

[rlaflamme]

Cheers , what a great thread. Posting in it to put it up into the ebb and flow of the river of current posts.

Thank you for stopping by and posting. I am happy to hear the thread is looked at and enjoyed

Every conversation and interaction is a chance for you to learn something, it may be about you or about somebody else, but it is something. And with that, a better knowledge of communication is learned as well. So many times we question what to say or how to say it, just be true to yourself, be you when talking. Use those things you have learned in life through the conversations and experiences you have had and bring those to another person. After all, it's just words for you to share.

Keep smiling

 

[Andrewlongcock]

Thank you for stopping by and posting. I am happy to hear the thread is looked at and enjoyed

Every conversation and interaction is a chance for you to learn something, it may be about you or about somebody else, but it is something. And with that, a better knowledge of communication is learned as well. So many times we question what to say or how to say it, just be true to yourself, be you when talking. Use those things you have learned in life through the conversations and experiences you have had and bring those to another person. After all, it's just words for you to share.

Keep smiling

Good stuff, you keep smiling too...

 

[mulehead61]

People come and go, not just on a site like this, but in life as well. We can take those that leave as a loss and dwell on that or we can take that time we had with the one who left and smile at the good times. So often we close ourselves off because we fear the pain of someone leaving, losing that conversation or contact. We have to take the good times and smile. We have to push on and look for others to talk to. If we don't we lose a bit of ourselves and that is the worst thing you can do to yourself. So make attempt to make connections and drive on.

Keep smiling

I’ve found this to be so true. I’ve had several changes of friends over the years, usually when interests develop in different areas that start taking up your time. One couple we were close with years ago, were in our wedding, we were in theirs. We had children, they didn’t but discovered scuba diving. When we’d get together they’d talk scuba diving, we’d talk raising children. Get togethers became less frequent and know I haven’t seen them in 25 years.


Lit is the same way. When I first came to forum in 2009, a really different group of people. I was gone from about 2012-2016...another group of different people. And now again, another group of different people. Some oldsters are still around but like life, it’s an everchanging cycle of people. However, I’ve always found people to connect with each time.

So yes...don’t give up.

 

[TunnelKing089]

https://i.imgur.com/Ja5l76T.jpg

 

[Chillygirl]

This is always a nice thread to visit for positive vibes. Thank you for maintaining this!

 

[TunnelKing089]

This is always a nice thread to visit for positive vibes. Thank you for maintaining this!

Agree I read it about every day.One of the best,if not the best thread here.

 

[rlaflamme]

This is always a nice thread to visit for positive vibes. Thank you for maintaining this!

Agree I read it about every day.One of the best,if not the best thread here.

Thank you I try to post something often, even though it gets away from me from time to time. I love seeing what others think as well as knowing the thread is being read. I believe that people need other people, whether we think we do or not. I think kindness is something we need to spread and if we do not initiate some form of it we are a contributing factor to the negativity. It doesn't take a lot to make someone smile, just a second or two of your time can make someone else's day brighter. When we share kindness, it is likely to be passed forward to another and the chain begins.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Keep trying to make connections, keep pushing on even when you think it is never going to happen. There is someone out there that will take you up on your offer to share some of your thoughts, life and experiences.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Be true to yourself when you try and find a person to talk to. It is never good to pretend to be someone or something other than who you are. When we pretend to be more or less than what we are we are only fooling the one we are trying to connect with and ourselves. This will eventually catch up to you and you will lose what might be a wonderful friendship.


Keep smiling

 

[HotChef1970]

Be true to yourself when you try and find a person to talk to. It is never good to pretend to be someone or something other than who you are. When we pretend to be more or less than what we are we are only fooling the one we are trying to connect with and ourselves. This will eventually catch up to you and you will lose what might be a wonderful friendship.


Keep smiling

I couldn’t agree more with this, everyone may give a sense of bravado in their public posting but if you really want to get to know someone then you can only be honest and be yourself, particularly if you are expecting the same in return

Sensible words as always and a mantra of mine to always follow

 

[rlaflamme]

I couldn’t agree more with this, everyone may give a sense of bravado in their public posting but if you really want to get to know someone then you can only be honest and be yourself, particularly if you are expecting the same in return

Sensible words as always and a mantra of mine to always follow

And when you pretend to be what you are not it breaks down, the stories blend and eventually you lose what you could have had.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Take some time to think of what you want to say to someone, look at what they have posted and see if there is something that you have in common. Look at what you write and reread it. Make sure you say something about yourself, something for them to reply to. And don't give up on finding a chat partner or two.

Keep smiling

 

[TunnelKing089]

Agree I read it about every day.One of the best,if not the best thread here.

Yep.

 

[rlaflamme]

Greetings everyone. I hope you all have been well and keeping a smile showing as much as possible. Keep trying to make the world a better place in your own way, spreading kindness as much as you can.

Keep looking for people to talk to, to share yourself with. Never give up

Keep smiling

 

[Jada59]

Greetings everyone. I hope you all have been well and keeping a smile showing as much as possible. Keep trying to make the world a better place in your own way, spreading kindness as much as you can.

Keep looking for people to talk to, to share yourself with. Never give up

Keep smiling