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[rlaflamme]

Good day Lit world. I hope all is going well for you all as we continue to move forward in these difficult times. We have been going through a lot this year and it is easy for us to slip into procrastination and depression. We have to strive to stay away from those things though so lets do that with spreading kindness, let us look out for one and anther and try to bring some joy to the world. Find a friend, an acquaintance that you can talk to about anything. Find someone you can vent to and that can vent to you. A basic conversation between two people can do a world of wonders. When out and about try to smile, try to show kindness and we can hope it spreads.

Keep smiling.

 

[Sweet_Lara]

Sweet thoughts, my friend. Be kind, world.

 

[MissJelaine]

Sweet thoughts, my friend. Be kind, world.

Agree! Those are some kind thoughts.... and in this day, we all could benefit from displaying and receiving more kind gestures.

 

[cole4258]

https://i.imgur.com/Ja5l76T.jpg

I just read this one.

So VERY True.

Just remember "Don't worry, Be Happy!!!"

 

[Vman55]

Well sweet mother, your last paragraph describes me! I can start with sex, jump all over the place, wonder how I got there and then jump right back into sex.

Same here^^^^^^^

 

[rlaflamme]

If you cannot remember the last time you showed an act of kindness you need to think about what you have shown. We live our lives in the fast lane and often forget the simple things in life, and one of those things is kindness. We are let the bad things overwhelm us and become more and more stoic to the things around us. So we have to actively try to show kindness from time to time.

Keep smiling.

 

[rlaflamme]

Take some time and check in on someone today, whether it is someone you know or it is someone on here. We all need a a little check in once in a while, a little "hello, hope all is well". It is amazing what you can do for someone just letting them know you are thinking of their well being.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Message someone new today, just a quick, "Hello, I hope all is going well for you and that your day is going well." Maybe give a little information about yourself or what made you choose them to reach out to.

It is amazing what we can do for one another with a basic conversation and those conversations cannot happen if one does not reach out. Though this site angles toward the erotic, your conversations do not have to be that way. We can find people that just want to talk or enjoy the simple things. Those simple conversations can help us through the day or a tough week. Just be real

Keep smiling.

 

[rlaflamme]

Smile and share that smile when you can. Smiles are infectious and that is a good thing. It is amazing what a little smile can do, such a simple thing can brighten someone's day.

Keep smiling

 

[Jada59]

Smile and share that smile when you can. Smiles are infectious and that is a good thing. It is amazing what a little smile can do, such a simple thing can brighten someone's day.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

See! Now others will smile as well

 

[rlaflamme]

Don't be afraid or nervous about striking up a conversation with someone, the worst that can happen is they don't continue it. Just be real and respectful. You might find a friend that you never would have if you didn't say hello.

Keep smiling

 

[HotChef1970]

Don't be afraid or nervous about striking up a conversation with someone, the worst that can happen is they don't continue it. Just be real and respectful. You might find a friend that you never would have if you didn't say hello.

Keep smiling

Wow so true and actually so powerful.

What happens when it doesn’t get continued? That feeling of rejection which then starts the cycle of not wanting to start up another conversation for fear of the vicious cycle

 

[rlaflamme]

Wow so true and actually so powerful.

What happens when it doesn’t get continued? That feeling of rejection which then starts the cycle of not wanting to start up another conversation for fear of the vicious cycle

I think that is what causes most people to not start up a conversation, the fear or worry that it will just end and they are left feeling rejected or forgotten. It is a risk that has to be taken though. you will not find new friends if you don't reach out and take that risk.

 

[rlaflamme]

Going along with the most recent posts, it is easy to get frustrated or withdrawn with conversation and trying to meet new people on a site like this. Messages go unanswered and people disappear. That is part of it though, it happens. There is no question that some people get so many messages that they just delete several of them that they never read. That could be caused by many things (to many perverted messages received, to many people they already talk to, they are shy, etc..) But don't let that stop you from reaching out to someone new.

I know this is an erotic site, but that doesn't mean everything you talk about has to be erotic. You can have a "regular" conversation with someone. You can gain a friendship, whether it is for a week or a couple years, it can happen. You can help someone through a dark time or they can help you through one. Yep, they may disappear, but the time spent talking is what mattered.

Keep smiling

 

[lonelyladyfl]

I want to share my experiences so far. I have connected with a few people that I really enjoyed talking to. there were a couple I even took the conversation off the site and we exchanged numbers to text or call. Inevitably though, the conversation stopped. In my cases, it was the other party who ended the friendship. I was in an abusive marriage so I think they got tired of hearing about it. I also struggle with my mental health so that doesn't make for a lot of fun times.

I find myself longing for the connection with those people again. They have all moved on to other friendships, I'm a distant memory.

I get very few pms now. I don't really even respond - some are just obligatory "i hope you are okay" after seeing some of my past posts. Others are clearly looking for a quick e-romp.

I still pop in from time to time but I no longer hope for finding anything more than just a bit of idle chit chat amongst strangers.

 

[rlaflamme]

I want to share my experiences so far. I have connected with a few people that I really enjoyed talking to. there were a couple I even took the conversation off the site and we exchanged numbers to text or call. Inevitably though, the conversation stopped. In my cases, it was the other party who ended the friendship. I was in an abusive marriage so I think they got tired of hearing about it. I also struggle with my mental health so that doesn't make for a lot of fun times.

I find myself longing for the connection with those people again. They have all moved on to other friendships, I'm a distant memory.

I get very few pms now. I don't really even respond - some are just obligatory "i hope you are okay" after seeing some of my past posts. Others are clearly looking for a quick e-romp.

I still pop in from time to time but I no longer hope for finding anything more than just a bit of idle chit chat amongst strangers.

Thank you for sharing. I think when we dig deeper into friendships some cannot handle parts of them or get lost in what to say, so they leave. It is a sad reason to stop talking, but when one doesn't know how to respond they avoid continuation instead of finding a question or a different way to continue.

I have also noticed that many people try to have just 1 friend they talk to regularly. And that works, but it does limit the conversations and they seem to move on quicker.

I hope you do find a friend or two on here, ones that you can talk to and reach out to. It is hard to open up face to face with people, this site gives us an opportunity to do so without really knowing the person.

Good luck to and keep your head up.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Keep trying to meet people, keep trying to have good conversations. The site and other places like it are full of interesting people. Yes, you risk the rejection and the ghosting, but if you don't try and go through those rough patches you will never get the good ones. It is all about never giving up and staying true to yourself.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Be sure to be kind whenever you can. Times are still rough and many people struggle to find a smile. You can be the one that helps them with a simple act of kindness. Be polite, courteous and respectful and the chain of kindness will grow longer and stronger.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Finding people to have a long term "relationship" with on the site can be difficult. It is a risk every time you send a message to someone, you may not get a reply, you may get a snarky reply and you may end up talking for a bit then be ghosted. But isn't that risk worth it if you are able to have a decent conversation with someone for even a short while?

Of all the risks we can take in life isn't seeing if someone is willing to talk one of the smallest risks we can take? It is just conversation, not marriage we are looking for after all. Take that chance and send someone a hello. you never know, they may have been wanting to send you a message all along.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Do you remember the last time someone made you smile just because they could? Or the last time you brought a smile to someone else just because you could?

It is one of those simple things we can do in life to improve someone's day, share a smile.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

Reach out and say hello to someone today. Look for someone you have been wanting to try and talk to and just send them a nice message. Tell them a bit about yourself and see what happens. It is a risk we have to take to get to know people and it could be well worth it.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

People come and go, whether on this site or in your everyday life, that is just how it works. But don't let that stop you from making a connection if you can. Don't stop trying to meet people because people have gone, but take the good times and good conversations to push you forward. There are plenty of people you can meet and talk to even if it is only for a short while. Take that time and enjoy it.

Keep smiling

 

[rlaflamme]

There are many people on here just looking for a person or two to talk to, just looking for some sort of connection that they can share part of their lives with outside of the "real world". Take some time and send someone a thoughtful message. Look at some of the things they posted and see if there is something there that can help you make a connection. Be real, be friendly, be kind. You might find that you have more in common than you think.

Keep smiling

 

[Blase]

I've been subscribed to this thread for a long time.

Just wanted to compliment you on the way you've continued to come back here and encourage people, even at times when there seemed to be little response to your efforts.

Because it can be damn hard on Lit. In fact, I'll say that as a male who has made some special connections in here over the years... It still feels like winning the Lottery when it happens. That is, not only do you feel incredibly, wondrously lucky... but when people move on, you still wonder how such a thing was possible, and if it ever can be again.

Every. Damn. Time.

And yet, I choose to believe that there are still fantastic people left to meet, and wonderful memories waiting to be made.

Because (to steal a line from "Highlander: The Series) the alternative is unthinkable.