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[rlaflamme]

I see people mention kik a lot, I don't have that, nor ever looked into it. Do people remember the old yahoo and msn chat platforms? I used to have both of those, not even sure if they exist anymore lol.

 

[rlaflamme]

Wow this gets buried fast!

Where did you all go? Okay, how long do you typically wait before you delete a conversation you had going that stopped?

Do you keep it for future reading or do you count it as a lost conversation and just remove it?

I had a long conversation a few years ago that I have recently deleted. I know she is still active on the boards, but our conversation died off and I figured it was best to remove it and not be to tempted to restart it again, I did message her and waited a week before I came to the decision though.

How do you handle it?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Wow this gets buried fast!

Where did you all go? Okay, how long do you typically wait before you delete a conversation you had going that stopped?

Do you keep it for future reading or do you count it as a lost conversation and just remove it?

I had a long conversation a few years ago that I have recently deleted. I know she is still active on the boards, but our conversation died off and I figured it was best to remove it and not be to tempted to restart it again, I did message her and waited a week before I came to the decision though.

How do you handle it?

Hi!

It depends on how close we were, and how things ended. I have kept messages for years. Usually, though, i will get in a cleaning mood when i feel as though I'm carrying around too much emotional baggage, and get rid of whatever doesn't seem to be benefitting me any longer.

Fyi, you can download PMs to save, although i generally just take a screenshot.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

The oldest message i currently have saved is from May 2014.
It's from someone who is still a close friend, although we don't see each other as frequently as before.

It's fun to see how our interactions have changed over the years, how we were so cautious and tentative back then, not wanting to offend. Whereas nowadays, i would just say 'Show me your balls!' without any worry that he might be scandalized beyond recovery.

 

[rlaflamme]

The oldest message i currently have saved is from May 2014.
It's from someone who is still a close friend, although we don't see each other as frequently as before.

It's fun to see how our interactions have changed over the years, how we were so cautious and tentative back then, not wanting to offend. Whereas nowadays, i would just say 'Show me your balls!' without any worry that he might be scandalized beyond recovery.

That sounds pretty interesting. I can imagine that over the years of a conversation the context would change quite a bit. Some must almost seem like a diary.

 

[rlaflamme]

People are dismissive. They are not always aware of the impact and traces they leave.

Years ago, I read 'The Little Prince'. At first glace it's a childrens book...but it has so many life lessons.

We should take better care of those we tame.

Love in friendhips is as deep as lustful love...Love is love, regardless of its form, and in the end we are responsible.

It is worth it to put yourself out there. You give yourself and yes sometimes you hurt, but you also get a lot in return.

To be open is to except that sometimes you'll get pouch in the stomach, but then again you'll also find a gentle hand to help you up and embrace you in your time of need.

Cheerish the good times and learn from the heart breaks. Keep putting yourself out there because you are worth knowing. You are worth someone taking the time to tame you.

Love is love

That is awesome! And I hope a lot of people get to read those words

Thank you for your insight.

 

[rlaflamme]

A true conversation can be about anything and everything. I think one problem here is people get messages that:

1) Are very clearly from people who never took the time to read your profile (provided you have one since that feature is a bit busted) or any of your posts.

2) Think they know you and can say any sexual thing they would do to you in their initial message.

3) Believe they are the ultimate Dom and can control anybody they want.

There are others as well, but these are three of the big complaints I hear. So, with those, does that make a person here less likely to bother even opening a new message? Even I have been told by men what they would do to my female parts. I can only imagine how many messages women get telling them the same.

 

[Ivy1979]

People are dismissive. They are not always aware of the impact and traces they leave.

Years ago, I read 'The Little Prince'. At first glace it's a childrens book...but it has so many life lessons.

We should take better care of those we tame.

Love in friendhips is as deep as lustful love...Love is love, regardless of its form, and in the end we are responsible.

It is worth it to put yourself out there. You give yourself and yes sometimes you hurt, but you also get a lot in return.

To be open is to except that sometimes you'll get pouch in the stomach, but then again you'll also find a gentle hand to help you up and embrace you in your time of need.

Cheerish the good times and learn from the heart breaks. Keep putting yourself out there because you are worth knowing. You are worth someone taking the time to tame you.

Love is love

I'm new at this and I put myself out there and I got burned by two people. Husband keeps telling me not to worry just keep going but the pain is too much some time

 

[rlaflamme]

I'm new at this and I put myself out there and I got burned by two people. Husband keeps telling me not to worry just keep going but the pain is too much some time

I can see the struggle at finding a conversation that lasts, one that means something beyond the basics. And I know how easily one can feel let down or burned. I think people leave here or take hiatuses because of those. Things out of our control and things that just burn us up. But, I guess, just trucking along, just keeping your head up and marching on is not only a goal here, but in life.

It is easier to walk away than to keep going, to keep trying when it seems that most people don't think about what they say or do has an effect on the other person. I think it is the world itself. I hear these worlds often, "The world is just an unkind and unhappy place." I wonder how much happier the world would be if people thought about a kindness they could do once a day, and something simple. Imagine if everyone that drove allowed another driver to enter the road in front of them or let them through traffic to get off the road just once a day, A million smiles of appreciation. Simple, yet effective.

And that kindness can go much further. An ear to listen, a shoulder to lean on. A conversation found here can open up so much. And it is so simple.

 

[Ivy1979]

Oh I know. The pain is raw and real. It's ok yo be a port, but weed the good from the bad.

You can be open, but still guard your heart. It's hard to do, I will admit. Especially when a connection is there.

I have come to expect that people will leave. Because they always do. It's hard for me. I get attached so quick.

I've learned that it is good to change perspective. Admitingly, it takes time to get to that point. You need to go through the pain to get to that new place where perspection is possible.

You are not alone.

PM me if you whish.



Thank you for that and I will PM you soon you seem to know what it like


Laflamme, in order to see others one needs to stop looking and focusing on their navel. I agree with you.[/QUOTE]

 

[Njhubby126]

So true

You have such a great point about this. I think a big part to the art of conversation has been lost and the online aspects make it easy to be rude.

I am always amazed when you start chatting with someone who claims to want conversation only to have them expect you to do all the work. For some reason people forget a conversation is a two way street. The other thing they find easy to do is just ghost you. They just stop trying to get to know you.

Anyway. If anyone would like to chat with a 53 year old gentlemen perv then reach out and let me know how to connect with you!!

Thanks

 

[rlaflamme]

You have such a great point about this. I think a big part to the art of conversation has been lost and the online aspects make it easy to be rude.

I am always amazed when you start chatting with someone who claims to want conversation only to have them expect you to do all the work. For some reason people forget a conversation is a two way street. The other thing they find easy to do is just ghost you. They just stop trying to get to know you.

Anyway. If anyone would like to chat with a 53 year old gentlemen perv then reach out and let me know how to connect with you!!

Thanks

Thank you for reaching out as well. Yes, conversations can quickly become one dimensional, and that is rough. Ghosting seems to be a huge thing, and it seems it is almost expected to happen here.

I wonder if some people ghost because it is getting "to real" for them. Or something similar.

I wish you luck in your search.

 

[rlaflamme]

Thats when you know you've hit weeds.

To be fair, this is Lit. Most people - people in the general sense - are here to get off.

It is lit, very true, most people just want the quick orgasm and someone to help it along. But it can be a great resource of friendship and leaning as well right?

 

[sangerin]

Random thoughts: Is finding a conversation worth it? You put yourself out there, and manage to find someone to talk to, you click, it's a friendship and you share your thoughts, ideas, fantasies and dreams. You open up and let them in, let them know who you are. You reveal your hopes and dreams. Then, poof, they are gone, and you are left wanting.

Is it worth it? Is it worth the time of putting yourself out there and risk opening up and being dropped? Does the ends justify the means? The "let down" is bound to happen, so, I guess my thought is, is it worth putting yourself out there when you know the risk?

Is it worth it? I think so. Any opportunity we have to make a difference in someone’s life is worth it. With that said, there are some real bottom feeders out there. So be careful.

If you need a friend I never poof and go. Kik, hangouts or here!

I can’t promise I won’t fail as a friend but I never intentionally let others down. None of us are perfect.

I do hope you have a beautiful day!

 

[rlaflamme]

Is it worth it? I think so. Any opportunity we have to make a difference in someone’s life is worth it. With that said, there are some real bottom feeders out there. So be careful.

If you need a friend I never poof and go. Kik, hangouts or here!

I can’t promise I won’t fail as a friend but I never intentionally let others down. None of us are perfect.

I do hope you have a beautiful day!

I tend to lean toward the it being worth it side. I mean you never know, as I put n here a bit ago, you know there is a needle in the haystack, you just have to find I. You never know, you may find several

 

[rlaflamme]

Of course! There's gems hidden everywhere. I found a few

Good people, good hearts and good conversations. The weeds eventually fades out and it's easier to see the flowers.

I've said this before: I dislike people in general, but like individuals.

There are definitely good people here, with great hearts and know what a conversation means. I have no doubt about that.

Thank you for posting here

 

[rlaflamme]

And just a thought about who might draw someone's attention.....

Does someone's profile pic effect your decision to start a conversation or respond to a message?

 

[rlaflamme]

I read something recently, it was a few ladies talking about receiving "dick pics" in an initially message from someone. I wonder how often that actually happens, and why they would do it. Seems a bit out there for me.

 

[runsilent]

I think starting out with dick picks is just dumb. Really? The most cognisant you have to say about yourself is I have a penis? What about saying a few things about yourself?

I don't got no thoughts in my head so here is a dick pic. Sad.

 

[rlaflamme]

I think starting out with dick picks is just dumb. Really? The most cognisant you have to say about yourself is I have a penis? What about saying a few things about yourself?

I don't got no thoughts in my head so here is a dick pic. Sad.

And your thoughts mimic my own. I thought it was quite odd to hear people send them, without request, without knowledge.

 

[runsilent]

And your thoughts mimic my own. I thought it was quite odd to hear people send them, without request, without knowledge.

Are dick pics a myth or real? Apparently you got them and I believe it. I'm wondering how many posters have gotten dic pics. Just say me too. Guys included.

 

[rlaflamme]

Do you find yourself scouring the personals looking for a connection? Or do you look through the playground and work on a connection through there?

Is there something you look for, or something in particular that draws your attention to attempt a connection?

 

[Image13]

I look through the posts and see if someone shares similar tastes

 

[rlaflamme]

I look through the posts and see if someone shares similar tastes

Similar to what I do. Research and learn a bit about them.

 

[Image13]

yes reconnaissance - aka observing before decisions are made