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skinnysinner said:
Interesting and challenging to my sensitivities even though I love my dom-lite side. Writing on tits and above pussy is a good thing, but this somehow seems slightly too personal and demeaning, weird thinking?? Mmm, wonder what response it brought in others??
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I posted it for a bunch of different reasons. I like her body. I like the innocent choker with the bell. The "dumb" struck me the same as you, skinnys... it is degrading.

For me, at times, I get off on this, but in the right context. I wrote about this in the humiliation thread. Sometimes my negative self talk will derail my best days. Everyone around me can tell me I'm smart, pretty, fun, funny but as along as that voice in my head says "bullshit" I'm never any of those things.

Being faced or forced to actually say the things outloud that are usually reserved for my fucked-up internal dialogue breaks the cycle. I was with a Dominant who knew this. He used degradation in such a way that the voice in my head finally fought back and said hey wait! I'm NOT dumb or fat or ugly. It was a process, for sure, but at the end of it, all cried out, cummed out, physically and mentally exhausted, there'd be a space for me to actually feel good.

I keep wondering if I just dragged my ass to the gym and pounded out a great workout every day, it might amount to the same kind of release?


Added: In looking at the pictures here in this thread - is having "dumb" written across my tits that much different than having a collar around my neck, attached to a leash so you can lead me around on all fours? Putting me in corner after having my ass flogged? Willingly having clamps biting in to my nipples, attached to a chain so you can hurt me even more?

Physical pain vs. emotional -- why is the first seemingly ok? Does it do less damage to my psyche??

Just wondering out loud.
 
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Emotional pain lasts longer than a flogging.

I like the Dumb with the Bell on the collar. Very cute.
 
cookiecat said:
I posted it for a bunch of different reasons. I like her body. I like the innocent choker with the bell. The "dumb" struck me the same as you, skinnys... it is degrading.

For me, at times, I get off on this, but in the right context. I wrote about this in the humiliation thread. Sometimes my negative self talk will derail my best days. Everyone around me can tell me I'm smart, pretty, fun, funny but as along as that voice in my head says "bullshit" I'm never any of those things.

Being faced or forced to actually say the things outloud that are usually reserved for my fucked-up internal dialogue breaks the cycle. I was with a Dominant who knew this. He used degradation in such a way that the voice in my head finally fought back and said hey wait! I'm NOT dumb or fat or ugly. It was a process, for sure, but at the end of it, all cried out, cummed out, physically and mentally exhausted, there'd be a space for me to actually feel good.

I keep wondering if I just dragged my ass to the gym and pounded out a great workout every day, it might amount to the same kind of release?


Added: In looking at the pictures here in this thread - is having "dumb" written across my tits that much different than having a collar around my neck, attached to a leash so you can lead me around on all fours? Putting me in corner after having my ass flogged? Willingly having clamps biting in to my nipples, attached to a chain so you can hurt me even more?

Physical pain vs. emotional -- why is the first seemingly ok? Does it do less damage to my psyche??

Just wondering out loud.
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Thanks Cookie, both for the insight into the way you get or got off and how someone clearly played to your strengths and knew how to get that final thrill. But also for bouncing back my comment. I agree it does feel odd, thinking that the words are wrong but the collar and the physical treatment are right somehow

It's not clear for me why I found it slightly degrading I a way that the other aspects aren't. Is it because it's insulting mental capacity, telling someone they are thick, stupid, dumb all seems to be an opinion on the way someone thinks. The physical clamping of nipples or flogging of pussy is something that a sub has given me consent to do, and whilst I may push that boundary the consent is given.

However, it did bring me up short when I read it, an ex sub only got really aroused if I insulted her, the worse names called the better they felt as well as being open to other humiliations. I think I am bdsm lite because I find I could not deliver the creative level of insult!

It's a great world that such diversity of views and kinks can be out there and enjoyed! Thanks Cookie, really appreciate this.
 
Farawyn said:
Emotional pain lasts longer than a flogging.

I like the Dumb with the Bell on the collar. Very cute.
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As I've gotten older, I gravitate more to emotional pain. Not sure why that is? The whole facing up to insecurity, fear, anxiety and getting to the other side makes me feel stronger. For sure it has to be done with someone you completely trust.

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Just something about this that really turns me on, probably her expression more than anything, it is as if she is truly enjoying what she is doing and can do this all day. or until he bursts.
 
MyNameIsNO said:
Man I dunno about all these mirrors.
*mumbles about body image issues*
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Well, technically mine features a window, but since it can be reflective, that is kinda redundant to point out.

I don't know you but I am sure that things are just in your head.....any which way, I hope that you find happiness and enjoy the beauty that is you.
 
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