Contracts

[Ebonyfire]

My toy and I have a signed contract...which was taken from the net and revised to suit our special needs. The exact concept as willow and Robuck executed with two copies...structured as it fit our reality and committment.

We did this to formalize a relationship that means every thing to us. It is a lifetime contract of submission to Domination. Clearly spelling out where Domination is not appropriate. This contract validates his right to see no interference in family, friends and work. He gives Me ownership of all he is and has that does not go under the umbrella of his profession.

I give him My control and My ability to bring out all the best in him. I give him My guidance, My honesty and My determination to ensure he excells in all areas of his life.

If this relationship runs its course he has the right and the responsibility to ask for a release and to retain My friendship.
If his reasons are valid I will go one step further than simply releasing him and will also help him to find the best replacement for Myself.~

The day the contractwas signed was a day of celebration, a new depth to our committment.

There is no right decision or wrong decision.

Again a clear and direct post.

Eb

 

[spankableBelle]

Re: Soron and Belle

My blessings to you both.

Thank you, red...your blessing means the world...~smile~

 

[spankableBelle]

Re: ty Soron

For letting me see that in a 'differnt" context .. and best of luck to you and " belle'

He does have a way of doing that...~smile~ and thank you, dream...

 

[James Blandings]

I've never been much of one for contracts, although I did enter into a verbal contract at one time for service for a specified period of time.
For some people they are helpful in determining the structure and rules of a relationship, as has been noted by several posters. Of course, it would be foolish to believe they are a cure-all for problems in the relationship or can cover every eventuality.
This question raises an issue that I think often gets shortchanged in BDSM discussion on the Internet, and that is that there tends to be an assumption that all, or nearly all, people involved in BDSM are looking for long term committed relationships. This is simply not true. many people in the BDSM lifestyle prefer to have multiple partners, or enter into serial monogamy type situations in which they chnage partners at regular intervals. Obviously this is not for everyone, but it is well established wityhin BDSM. In these type of situations, a contract can take on greater importance.

 

[morninggirl5]

I hadn't really thought about contracts before, but now i think the structure would be most welcome to me. The negotiations, the communication, the specifics necessary to detail each point, would, i believe, give me a tremendous amount of security in the relationship.

Feeling directionless, not knowing what's next is something that is very distressing to me. I view a contract as a road map of sorts, much like the rules and rituals discussed earlier.

 

[spankableBelle]

I've never been much of one for contracts, although I did enter into a verbal contract at one time for service for a specified period of time.
For some people they are helpful in determining the structure and rules of a relationship, as has been noted by several posters. Of course, it would be foolish to believe they are a cure-all for problems in the relationship or can cover every eventuality.
This question raises an issue that I think often gets shortchanged in BDSM discussion on the Internet, and that is that there tends to be an assumption that all, or nearly all, people involved in BDSM are looking for long term committed relationships. This is simply not true. many people in the BDSM lifestyle prefer to have multiple partners, or enter into serial monogamy type situations in which they chnage partners at regular intervals. Obviously this is not for everyone, but it is well established wityhin BDSM. In these type of situations, a contract can take on greater importance.

Thank you, James for taking a moment and adding your thoughts to this discussion. i have used part of this in another thread to further educate my mind...and satisfy my curiosity. ~smile~

 

[spankableBelle]

I hadn't really thought about contracts before, but now i think the structure would be most welcome to me. The negotiations, the communication, the specifics necessary to detail each point, would, i believe, give me a tremendous amount of security in the relationship.

Feeling directionless, not knowing what's next is something that is very distressing to me. I view a contract as a road map of sorts, much like the rules and rituals discussed earlier.

mg...wonderfully stated! you mention here exactly why i desire a contract. i hate feeling that i have no direction, no purpose, no goal...floundering in the wind. For myself, i need the structure, rules, boundaries...

Thank you so much ~smile~

belle