Connect the dots.

[OscarTheGrouch]

Wife of 5 years ( been together 11) comes out as gay ( though we still have regular good sex)

she gets a girlfriend last fall

girlfriend moves in a few months ago


what are my odds here?

 

[OscarTheGrouch]

And no I’m not ‘angry’ per se, and no she’s not a bad person

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

Wife of 5 years ( been together 11) comes out as gay ( though we still have regular good sex)

she gets a girlfriend last fall

girlfriend moves in a few months ago


what are my odds here?

Man…I’m gonna say even money?!

Either way, looks like if you play your cards right…

 

[IARainman]

Guess it depends if you’re accepting supportive and communicative, or a Dick. Don’t be a Dick and your odds are pretty good they’ll invite you to play along. What do you know about the gf? Both personally and sexually?

 

[12oclocktales]

Keep a bag packed and be ready to hit the road, Jack. The clock is ticking.

 

[OscarTheGrouch]

Guess it depends if you’re accepting supportive and communicative, or a Dick. Don’t be a Dick and your odds are pretty good they’ll invite you to play along. What do you know about the gf? Both personally and sexually?

She lives with us so I know quite a bit.
Not a dick. Haven’t been a dick for the most part (occasionally something slips out but we are human)?

The three of us have gotten together and it’s bit weird - we both have the same target so to speak.

Oddly, sex is one of the things that hasn’t come up as an issue really

 

[IARainman]

She lives with us so I know quite a bit.
Not a dick. Haven’t been a dick for the most part (occasionally something slips out but we are human)?

The three of us have gotten together and it’s bit weird - we both have the same target so to speak.

Oddly, sex is one of the things that hasn’t come up as an issue really

Yes, wasn’t presupposing you were a Dick, just friendly advice not to be one. Sounds like you’re on the right path.

 

[OscarTheGrouch]

And for clarity, I’m wondering what my odds are of coming out of this still married

 

[Rob_Royale]

Wife of 5 years ( been together 11) comes out as gay ( though we still have regular good sex)

This statement has me just floored. Together six years, and then she marries you and now after 11 years, says she's a lesbian. Not bi-sexual or pansexual, but as a lesbian, and she still wants to be married to you as long as she gets her lover too. I'm not calling you a liar, but it's a hard thing to grasp.

Edit. If you have to compete with a woman for your wife's affection, and she is completely gay, you don't have much of a chance in that situation, In my opinion. I would suggest you find a lover of your own who is completely straight and move her into the home. What is good for the goose ...

 

[FL30]

Wife of 5 years ( been together 11) comes out as gay ( though we still have regular good sex)

she gets a girlfriend last fall

girlfriend moves in a few months ago


what are my odds here?

I'd start looking for a new place to live. The timer has started.

I had something happen that was somewhat similar.

Lived with my girlfriend for 2 years, then her sister moved to our city and in with us - "temporarily".

2 months later, she asked me to find my own place to live. However, she forgot that everything in the apartment was mine - furniture, washer/dryer, pot/pans, dishware, plates, everything except her clothes. So, on a day that I was off, and she had to go to work, I called a few friends over and we emptied out the apartment.

 

[OscarTheGrouch]

Well other than the state being one where everything is generally a 50/50 split in divorce, I’m definitely the more financially secure of the two of us, and the child is in my name. So I’m good there

 

[Justhappytobealive]

Well, she’s laying there servicing you, thinking about her…..

 

[DoctorSmith8]

Keep a bag packed and be ready to hit the road, Jack. The clock is ticking.

Although if he is the principal bread winner, they might keep him around.