Confessions: What are yours? V2.

ICT that I am not okay.

I get by day to day just fine in the eyes of those around me. My wife is a sweet caring and loving person, my young-adult children are all doing well, my business is successful and more than adequately supports us, our home is comfortable and clean...

My father died earlier this year and it fucked with me in ways I am still beginning to understand, probably partly because of the dichotomy of our close yet incomplete understanding of eachother. Among other talents he was a jazz singer and musician and left a lot of material on youtube. I stumbled across some videos and watched them last night. It pains me that I didn't spend more time with him or visit him more with my family while my kids were young.

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ICT that I am not okay.

I get by day to day just fine in the eyes of those around me. My wife is a sweet caring and loving person, my young-adult children are all doing well, my business is successful and more than adequately supports us, our home is comfortable and clean...

My father died earlier this year and it fucked with me in ways I am still beginning to understand, probably partly because of the dichotomy of our close yet incomplete understanding of eachother. Among other talents he was a jazz singer and musician and left a lot of material on youtube. I stumbled across some videos and watched them last night. It pains me that I didn't spend more time with him or visit him more with my family while my kids were young.

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Hugs you tight! I'm so sorry!
 
ICT that I am not okay.

I get by day to day just fine in the eyes of those around me. My wife is a sweet caring and loving person, my young-adult children are all doing well, my business is successful and more than adequately supports us, our home is comfortable and clean...

My father died earlier this year and it fucked with me in ways I am still beginning to understand, probably partly because of the dichotomy of our close yet incomplete understanding of eachother. Among other talents he was a jazz singer and musician and left a lot of material on youtube. I stumbled across some videos and watched them last night. It pains me that I didn't spend more time with him or visit him more with my family while my kids were young.

😥
I'm so sorry, I can't even imagine how hard that would be. *Many many hugs* and sending love & peaceful thoughts :rose:
 
ICT that I am not okay.

I get by day to day just fine in the eyes of those around me. My wife is a sweet caring and loving person, my young-adult children are all doing well, my business is successful and more than adequately supports us, our home is comfortable and clean...

My father died earlier this year and it fucked with me in ways I am still beginning to understand, probably partly because of the dichotomy of our close yet incomplete understanding of eachother. Among other talents he was a jazz singer and musician and left a lot of material on youtube. I stumbled across some videos and watched them last night. It pains me that I didn't spend more time with him or visit him more with my family while my kids were young.

😥
This will probably sound strange, but it's what I do.

Honor his memory by continuing to play his music, make his favorite dish and offer it to him.🎶🕯
 
ICT that I am not okay.

I get by day to day just fine in the eyes of those around me. My wife is a sweet caring and loving person, my young-adult children are all doing well, my business is successful and more than adequately supports us, our home is comfortable and clean...

My father died earlier this year and it fucked with me in ways I am still beginning to understand, probably partly because of the dichotomy of our close yet incomplete understanding of eachother. Among other talents he was a jazz singer and musician and left a lot of material on youtube. I stumbled across some videos and watched them last night. It pains me that I didn't spend more time with him or visit him more with my family while my kids were young.

😥
Alex,

You have support here. Give yourself time, patience, forgiveness, and love to heal and process those feelings. But give trust to your wife and closest friends to let them know that you are struggling with your feelings. You don't have to heal by yourself. Your loved ones want to be there for you to help you.
 
ICT that I am not okay.

I get by day to day just fine in the eyes of those around me. My wife is a sweet caring and loving person, my young-adult children are all doing well, my business is successful and more than adequately supports us, our home is comfortable and clean...

My father died earlier this year and it fucked with me in ways I am still beginning to understand, probably partly because of the dichotomy of our close yet incomplete understanding of eachother. Among other talents he was a jazz singer and musician and left a lot of material on youtube. I stumbled across some videos and watched them last night. It pains me that I didn't spend more time with him or visit him more with my family while my kids were young.

😥
Dearest Alex,
At least you have good memories to remember him with. Treasure those. Share them with your family. You never know…one of your children may be inspired by him in those videos to release their talent. Because he’s your father, you think he’s the reason for your active creativity?
 
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ICT that I am not okay.

I get by day to day just fine in the eyes of those around me. My wife is a sweet caring and loving person, my young-adult children are all doing well, my business is successful and more than adequately supports us, our home is comfortable and clean...

My father died earlier this year and it fucked with me in ways I am still beginning to understand, probably partly because of the dichotomy of our close yet incomplete understanding of eachother. Among other talents he was a jazz singer and musician and left a lot of material on youtube. I stumbled across some videos and watched them last night. It pains me that I didn't spend more time with him or visit him more with my family while my kids were young.

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It sounds trite, but the death of a parent is always difficult and incomprehensible in ways that we're never prepared for. Even more so when the relationship was complex.

I made my peace with my father in a way, but my mother will always haunt me, probably, and sometimes it all comes back when I least expect it. And videos and such...I mean, they are treasures on one hand, and sometimes excruciating on the other.

Grief has its own timetable, and so much of the time we feel like we should just get the hell over things and be ok, and we think that we're boring other people with our sadness, especially because they feel helpless to fix it and thus do all sorts of dumb shit.

Sometimes it's ok to not be all right. :heart:
 
Thanks so much everbody. :rose:

My dad had a long and happy life. In spite of a few rocky issues that we eventually agreed to disagree about we got along well. He was always optimistic, was creative and fun the vast majority of the time. This illness that got him took less than year and he died at home in his own bed - if only everyone could be so lucky. I miss him more than I thought I could.

He left a trove of music I didn't know about, one of my son's found it and showed me several clips that he'd loaded from old film stock of him performing with some names I had no idea he'd played with. It's quite amazing to have that now.

Don't miss those opportunities to say I love you one more time.
 
I confess that I scammed a second piece of pie.

Even though it wasn’t a sure thing I admit that I knew it might work so I opened the possibility and then I took advantage of it. 😦

I ordered a drink ☕️ and got a piece of Dutch crunch apple pie 🥧 and found a table at a busy local bakery. It took a while for them to make my drink 🕰 so by the time they called my name the delicious slice of pie was almost gone! 😕

The busy busser was clearing the table next to mine, I could have told him I’d be right back but I didn’t 😲

Oh no! When I got back to my table my pie had vanished! 🙀

They apologized and gave me another slice. 😋

Am I going to 🔥 for this?
 
I confess that I scammed a second piece of pie.

Even though it wasn’t a sure thing I admit that I knew it might work so I opened the possibility and then I took advantage of it. 😦

I ordered a drink ☕️ and got a piece of Dutch crunch apple pie 🥧 and found a table at a busy local bakery. It took a while for them to make my drink 🕰 so by the time they called my name the delicious slice of pie was almost gone! 😕

The busy busser was clearing the table next to mine, I could have told him I’d be right back but I didn’t 😲

Oh no! When I got back to my table my pie had vanished! 🙀

They apologized and gave me another slice. 😋

Am I going to 🔥 for this?
That's not a scam... they didn't have to give you another slice.
 
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