I have placed a few posts but I must confess that most of them were dreamed up in my imagination. The truth is that I guess it was my way of trying to deal with the fact that I havn't had the "balls" to decide what to do about a wife that "swings" (sleeps around). I first suspected, then I knew, but I never said or did anything about it. Later my wife knew I knew about other lovers but I still remained silent, she never said anything and I never asked. I wrote stories wondering what would go on if I was a part of my wife's sexual adventures. I'm sorry ladies for asking for advice from lies. Some of my story is true, I still can't believe it but for some unexplainable reason I still love her. I still think she is one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen, she's 5' 5" 34-28-35, with a tight muscular build, she still turns me on. The other part of the truth is that I really believe that one of the main reasons that she is with other men is what I brought out in the stories, that is her desire for penis size for lovemaking. I do confess that my penis is just 4" erect and just 3" around the shaft (with head of course circumcised just a little larger). Cassandra (and all the other women I have ever gone to bed with) has never really displayed pleasure when I fuck her (she absolutely loves my oral sex, inwhich she moans feverishly). Sex started to be frustrating for us as I knew she wasn't being satisfied. Maybe if I had talked about it, it wouldn't have gotten to this point, but it's SO HARD to talk about penis size when your so small, it really is hard to talk about. For a guy pleasing a woman during intercourse is SOOOO important, that it's hard to even confront yourself with the fact that the woman that you literally worship, you are not able to fulfill her sexual desires. Well the truth is I am struggling, I know that there must be women out there that have a small tight vagina that would love someone my size, but unfortunately I'm not married to that woman. And I am married to a girl I still love, I can't please completely and I still am convinced that as the saying goes "size matters". I am living it and I wish I could make love to a woman that would moan with ecsatacy when I make love to her. That is my confession, and I don't know where to go, my wife was out last night, my imagination continues as to who she layed last night. I know it's both our faults for our marrage to be where it is.
Confession is good for the soul
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Okay you need to talk to her about this now. If you can't just print this out and give it to her. Even if she desired it, that doesn't mean she should of done it. She should of sat you down and talked to you about it, or incorportaed a dildo into your routine. Something. Cheating on you is definitly not the answer/
BTW - intrigued you never answered my PM's
BTW - intrigued you never answered my PM's
peachykeen
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Your wife isn't "swinging". Swinging is something you two would have agreed upon. What your wife is doing falls into the category of "screwing around", at first behind your back, now with your knowledge.
Why on earth are you not talking to her about it right this minute, intead of typing it up an a board? Seems to me you guys can work out some sort of amicable situation that preserves your marriage and lets you both find satisfaction.
Why on earth are you not talking to her about it right this minute, intead of typing it up an a board? Seems to me you guys can work out some sort of amicable situation that preserves your marriage and lets you both find satisfaction.
mritsme
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wow that is a big confession and to know that she knows you know and continue on. She prob will not stop doing it if you are quiet to her it prob means it is ok with you as long as things are left unsaid which if it is alright with you than you can let it be cause she comes home to you and has married you and must love you or she would not have.
Or maybe you can talk about it maybe try 3 somes or more toys or couple action that way your both getting in the action and doing it together might even make it more intense, but that is something to think about.
You can always just confront her (calmly) and see how she feels and try and get her to stop doing it you never know maybe she does it for reasons other than what you feel she is.
Best wishes to you hope you figure it out and good luck.
Or maybe you can talk about it maybe try 3 somes or more toys or couple action that way your both getting in the action and doing it together might even make it more intense, but that is something to think about.
You can always just confront her (calmly) and see how she feels and try and get her to stop doing it you never know maybe she does it for reasons other than what you feel she is.
Best wishes to you hope you figure it out and good luck.
SamEyeAm
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Rough situation. You're assuming that it's about your penis size, but it may not be, after all. You don't know what's motivating her behavior until you talk to her. I suggest that you do that rightr away and that you urge her to go into counseling with her. I'm sorry that it seems like your relationship with her has deteriorated pretty far, over a pretty long period of time now. Please, don't let things get worse!
Best of luck.
Best of luck.
You two have to talk, period. This is escalating to this point because there has been no communication, and can be no resolution without communication, unless allowing it to end is the resolution sought. If so, you're on your way.
Penis size cannot be changed, but everything else in this picture can be changed. You have to gather every ounce of courage you have and put your feelings into words, even if only writing it in a letter. Your pain is so intense that I am fighting tears...if you don't let this out, it is going to damage you further. Just look at what has happened to your relationship so far, and how do you think it got to this point? You know how....
You need to think very hard about how far you are willing to go to give her pleasure, and how much you are willing to "settle for" in return from her. And until she is giving YOU HER ALL, you are settling.
In closing, you can make love to your wife and have her moan with esctacy, small penis and all, quite simply. It starts in the mind, flows into the heart, and the body follows....see? Talk to her, get down to it, you will be suprised beyond belief what can happen when that mental/emotional connection happens....it can be the most beautiful, satisfying lovemaking, and your penis size has little to do with it. Your penis only reaches one place of signifance with regard to size...your body and mind reaches everywhere.....
Penis size cannot be changed, but everything else in this picture can be changed. You have to gather every ounce of courage you have and put your feelings into words, even if only writing it in a letter. Your pain is so intense that I am fighting tears...if you don't let this out, it is going to damage you further. Just look at what has happened to your relationship so far, and how do you think it got to this point? You know how....
You need to think very hard about how far you are willing to go to give her pleasure, and how much you are willing to "settle for" in return from her. And until she is giving YOU HER ALL, you are settling.
In closing, you can make love to your wife and have her moan with esctacy, small penis and all, quite simply. It starts in the mind, flows into the heart, and the body follows....see? Talk to her, get down to it, you will be suprised beyond belief what can happen when that mental/emotional connection happens....it can be the most beautiful, satisfying lovemaking, and your penis size has little to do with it. Your penis only reaches one place of signifance with regard to size...your body and mind reaches everywhere.....
I feel for you....
When I read of your situation, two things came to mind. 1) The blatant disregard for your feelings by your wife, and 2) how horrible she must feel. To know that you know about her escapades, and she still continues....well, it borders on cruelty as I see it. Just from what you wrote, I can see the "not knowing" is driving you crazy...not knowing who she is with or what she is doing at any given time must be hard on you and hurt like hell. I cannot imagine. Then, my thoughts turn to your wife. She's turning to other men for physical fulfillment, but I wonder how she feels about herself when it's over. I would imagine that she would feel pretty empty inside without the emotional attachment from her partner(s). Maybe I'm too old-fashioned, but having affairs is NEVER the answer. I've seen so many couples fall apart because one or both spouses decide their individual desires are more important than the couple's desires. When one mate gets greedy and selfish and refuses to try to incorporate their spouse into what's going on, many times, the problem is so far gone it can't be repaired.
You have to talk to her. Sit down and hold her hands and tell her everything you have told us. Do it without anger. Do it in the loving, honest way you did it here. Give her an opportunity to tell you why she does this. I bet you it has nothing to do with the size of your penis. I imagine she feels inadequate in a way herself.
Best of luck to you. My thoughts will be with you both.
Arwen
When I read of your situation, two things came to mind. 1) The blatant disregard for your feelings by your wife, and 2) how horrible she must feel. To know that you know about her escapades, and she still continues....well, it borders on cruelty as I see it. Just from what you wrote, I can see the "not knowing" is driving you crazy...not knowing who she is with or what she is doing at any given time must be hard on you and hurt like hell. I cannot imagine. Then, my thoughts turn to your wife. She's turning to other men for physical fulfillment, but I wonder how she feels about herself when it's over. I would imagine that she would feel pretty empty inside without the emotional attachment from her partner(s). Maybe I'm too old-fashioned, but having affairs is NEVER the answer. I've seen so many couples fall apart because one or both spouses decide their individual desires are more important than the couple's desires. When one mate gets greedy and selfish and refuses to try to incorporate their spouse into what's going on, many times, the problem is so far gone it can't be repaired.
You have to talk to her. Sit down and hold her hands and tell her everything you have told us. Do it without anger. Do it in the loving, honest way you did it here. Give her an opportunity to tell you why she does this. I bet you it has nothing to do with the size of your penis. I imagine she feels inadequate in a way herself.
Best of luck to you. My thoughts will be with you both.
Arwen
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Hello lilhubby, I don't think we've ever interacted before and I certianly don't know your whole story but...
I stumbled into your thread and happen to have a set of close friends who were where you are right now about 4 years ago.
She was cheating, he knew it (and she knew that he knew), he was confused about it and blamed several things including his own "sexual inadequacy". The only problem was that the only thing they weren't doing is TALKING which is EXACTLY what was irking her. While he was complaining of feeling inadequate she was complaining of feeling lonely and she got to the point of hating him because he wouldn't confront her about her cheating.
Intrigued hit the nail on the head. You HAVE to stop the escalation. Is communicationg tough? YOU BET! Is it uncomfortable sometimes? OH YEAH! Sometimes it just downright sucks and it can be embarrassing. But if you love this woman and don't want to see her packing her bags you had better get going on it. No time like the present.
Good luck!
I stumbled into your thread and happen to have a set of close friends who were where you are right now about 4 years ago.
She was cheating, he knew it (and she knew that he knew), he was confused about it and blamed several things including his own "sexual inadequacy". The only problem was that the only thing they weren't doing is TALKING which is EXACTLY what was irking her. While he was complaining of feeling inadequate she was complaining of feeling lonely and she got to the point of hating him because he wouldn't confront her about her cheating.
Intrigued hit the nail on the head. You HAVE to stop the escalation. Is communicationg tough? YOU BET! Is it uncomfortable sometimes? OH YEAH! Sometimes it just downright sucks and it can be embarrassing. But if you love this woman and don't want to see her packing her bags you had better get going on it. No time like the present.
Good luck!
