collars

[CrimsonDom]

Do some Masters or Dom's out there use different collars for different situations. I have been considering getting my pet a collar for play/home time and then a dress collar or a really nice one she could wear out when we went out. What do you guys think. I am still a fairly new Dom/Master.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

Do some Masters or Dom's out there use different collars for different situations. I have been considering getting my pet a collar for play/home time and then a dress collar or a really nice one she could wear out when we went out. What do you guys think. I am still a fairly new Dom/Master.

There isn't a right way when it comes to collars. Some Dom's don't even use them so do whatever feels right for your relationship.

I would recommend that the going out collar be one that she can easily remove if needed though especially if she will be wearing it when she is not with you. It can be a bit worrying to know that someone can grab a locked on collar and you can't get it off or away from the person that grabbed it.

 

[CrimsonDom]

yes

Yes i agree with the easy to remove part. I would never want to endanger her at all. I also know that every Dom is different I am just looking for input and ideas. Thank you very much for your thoughts kiwi.

 

[LWulf]

I had one girlfriend who had a simple unadorned dog collar (or maybe it was a cat collar? It was very small and she had a very small neck) that fit rather snugly. She didn't like strangulation but liked the feeling of something lightly holding her neck.
She wore this, by choice when we went out, and I was rather new to the concept at the time.
Her reason for wearing it was she wanted guys to know she was with me. Ultimately she wanted me to get her a collar for her to wear at home as kiwi submissive suggested, but again, it was a new concept for me at the time.
Ah, youth.

 

[CrimsonDom]

Thanks for the input. I am kind of a late bloomer to the concept i guess. My wife actually introduced me to this site and to the Dom/sub life style.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

Discuss with her what type of collar/s she would prefer or feel more comfortable with.

Some people only like to have one collar as they don't feel a connection to a different one.

Also she might find different types of collars more comfortable for different things. I love metal collars because they don't make me feel like I am being strangled especially when sleeping and you can swim, have a shower etc in them and not worry about them causing skin reactions or having to remove them first.

 

[CrimsonDom]

All very good points that I wouldn't of thought about. Thanks again kiwi

 

[ecstaticsub]

My "collar" is actually a gold ring on my finger (not a wedding ring). It is the symbol of my submission. I have 3 different neck collars. He uses them on different occasions for different reasons.

 

[CrimsonDom]

examples

Would you be willing or able to give examples if what different reasons or occasions he would use different collars for? Also thank you for your input already.

 

[Salenku]

My view on this might be unusual, but does she WANT a collar? The commitment it seems to represent is beautiful, but I personally feel as if I'd be added to a collection of girls if offered one, and I'd even go so far as to say I'd be insulted by this. It's a risk to take much like thinking of proposing. I'd mention it in passing and watch her reaction closely.

How does SHE feel about it? Does she feel a collar around the neck too conspicuous for everyday life? Perhaps another piece of jewellery would be more comfortable for her.

 

[CrimsonDom]

her feelings

At first I could just say its about my wants, but I am not like that. We have talked and she has requested a collar. I did tell her that she would be required to earn hear collar it is not something I would just hand out. After she has shown her loyalty to me even though we are married. I mean the loyalty of a pet not of a wife then I would consider getting her a collar to wear daily.

 

[Catyrenee]

Collar

I had a Dom that used two collars. He had one he liked to use for our play sessions when we were together and I also wore a necklace for everyday.

 

[desertslave]

I had a Dom that used two collars. He had one he liked to use for our play sessions when we were together and I also wore a necklace for everyday.

This is true for us. We have a collar (actually a few different ones) for play, and I used to wear a necklace for everyday. It is broken right now (I've been wearing it for 12 years), but I've told Master that in the ways that matter (to me), my piercing is every bit as symbolic as a collar or anything else could be.

 

[CrimsonDom]

thanks

Thank you for all the input. I am gonna go tomorrow and buy a simple leather collar. She has earned that one for now. I have a Second question. I am thinking/planning on getting a tag made to put on it. It would be a strictly play time and at home one. Do you guys have any thoughts on tags being put on a collar?

 

[LittleSparks]

Are you asking about the tag itself or about what to get written on it? I think tags are really cute. Master has not given me a collar yet, but I know it'll have a tag on it with my nickname (he hasn't mentioned it but I know him too well). I can't think of a reason why someone would specifically dislike a tag, but maybe others on the board can.

 

[CrimsonDom]

tags

thank you or your input on the tag i was just wondering what people thought about the tag idea itself. I like the idea it self aswell.

 

[CrimsonDom]

I bought one

I bought her a simple leather collar dark brown in color. I had the tag made to read precious it a pink tag in the shape of a doge bone with gems on the edges. Thank you Lit community for your input and suggestions she was very excited about her first collar. She knows that there is alot more training in store before she gets the one to wear daily.

 

[Salenku]

Yay! I'm glad she was so happy. In the end though, you know her better than any of us. I suspect your instincts were correct.

 

[CrimsonDom]

Yes I know that I know her better than anyone. I am always looking for advice, input and i am always learning new stuff.

 

[gluttonne]

I was considering custom making collars with exotic or strong load-bearing materials. I may yet if there is enough interest.

 

[TildaS]

I have a thin jewlery chain I wear out that is personal to me but doesn't draw any attention at all.

I've been promised something else in the bedroom / round Master's house in the future but we'll see. Something 'more traditional' is all I know

 

[laurasunshinegal]

I had one girlfriend who had a simple unadorned dog collar (or maybe it was a cat collar? It was very small and she had a very small neck) that fit rather snugly. She didn't like strangulation but liked the feeling of something lightly holding her neck.
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obviously whatever works best for the original poster and his girl is their choice... but wow, do i agree with you LWulf! the feeling of something made for an animal... i find it very intoxicating. and the fact that it is appropriately snug is a constant reminder of the wonderful choice ive made to embrace my true submissive side... and the honor that i have for my husband to view me in the same way.

 

[UhlBWett]

Good for you sweet girl

I have a thin jewlery chain I wear out that is personal to me but doesn't draw any attention at all.

I've been promised something else in the bedroom / round Master's house in the future but we'll see. Something 'more traditional' is all I know

A good Dom has many collars for different occasions. I have several, some are purely for play with nametags that are appropriate to various sceanrios while others are for training, more formal and traditional...............

 

[KoPilot]

A good Dom has many collars for different occasions. I have several, some are purely for play with nametags that are appropriate to various sceanrios while others are for training, more formal and traditional...............

Of course that would make you a Good Dom by everyone's standards then.

Anyways, I have one made by Collar Factory that's pretty nice, but haven't gotten the chance to use it yet. I think we're both ambivalent about the whole idea still. I've thought about the idea of a necklace for every day wear, but frankly, I've got others I wear on certain days that are of greater significance than anything he could give me that were D/s related. Also the fact that I have metal allergies and can't wear chains for longer than an evening without getting a rash.