collars as gifts

[CrimsonDom]

My pet has been with me for almost 4 years 2 years as my loyal pet. She has been collared for a little over a year. She is currently in training. Here is my question how many masters or doms would consider giving another collar as a gift? Something more fancy or decorative that could be worn outside the house or 24/7.

 

[eastern sun]

I have many collars. I have a leather play collar with chains and clips, a nylon dog collar and a choke chain, two necklaces and an ankle bracelet to wear out of the house, and a sleep collar I made myself out of velvet rope. They all serve different purposes, and trigger different emotional responses when I wear them.

And I love them all.

 

[CrimsonDom]

Thank you for your insight eastern

 

[Oubliette123]

Perhaps an ornate choker? Depending on her fashion tastes of course, the steampunk outlets have some great period style chokers

 

[TomG1090]

Collar as gift

My wife was allowed to pick something nice from Tiffany for hers. But she had to earn it.

 

[_spellbound_]

my collar is nothing ornate, but a very close fitting chain that i can wear 24/7 in and outside the house. on the chain is a small charm that has symbolic meaning to us both, but nobody else looking at it would know. i like that aspect of it - it keeps a personal precious choice exactly that. maybe enjoy choosing it with her so you are both happy

 

[sereneone4u]

 

[CutieMouse]

Nice collar for you!

Stop spamming the forum.

 

[MeekMe]

since this was pulled back up I suppose I will ask my question here.

Recently a collaring announcement was made and it made me think. I had read about collaring and the ceremonies and I didn't give it much thought as I am already married to Mister. It seems, though, this is incredibly special. So I went back and started reading some more.

I read a few that felt cheated that collars were now some kind of fashion trend and that it detracts from actual BDSM relationships. :/ I'm not one to step on toes knowing I'm doing it so I was curious about how everyone feels about collars and the significance.

I mentioned to Mister the collaring announcement and we talked about it. I asked him if he was going to get me a collar. He said maybe, we're still exploring. Is it a good idea to try a collar? Or should we wait until we know it's the right thing for us?

 

[seela]

since this was pulled back up I suppose I will ask my question here.

Recently a collaring announcement was made and it made me think. I had read about collaring and the ceremonies and I didn't give it much thought as I am already married to Mister. It seems, though, this is incredibly special. So I went back and started reading some more.

I read a few that felt cheated that collars were now some kind of fashion trend and that it detracts from actual BDSM relationships. :/ I'm not one to step on toes knowing I'm doing it so I was curious about how everyone feels about collars and the significance.

I mentioned to Mister the collaring announcement and we talked about it. I asked him if he was going to get me a collar. He said maybe, we're still exploring. Is it a good idea to try a collar? Or should we wait until we know it's the right thing for us?

For some people collar is the equivalent of a wedding ring. For some it's just an everyday dollar store accessory item that makes them feel all kinds of sexy hotness and/or is convenient for bondage, leashes etc.

Wearing other rings doesn't, or shouldn't, diminsh the symbolic value of a wedding ring. Especially the value of someone else's wedding ring.

 

[Lrn_The_Ropes]

I have been married for almost 20 years. I was originally brought into this lifestyle kicking and screaming, but once I became more educated by some people on Lit, and a lot of reading I'm embracing my Dom side (side story, not relevant here). I did buy my wife/kitten heavy "formal collar" that she wears when the occasion is appropriate, she also has a simple single pearl one for everyday, and a one that was purchased prior to our journey that goes when the others are not so appropriate. Oh, also she has a slave anklet that the wears when we hit the beach. I have found from the people on Lit and other places. That a collar is to each couple, means what they want it to be. While our wedding rings mean so much to us, the collar she wears means so much more.

 

[hardtaskmaster]

since this was pulled back up I suppose I will ask my question here.

Recently a collaring announcement was made and it made me think. I had read about collaring and the ceremonies and I didn't give it much thought as I am already married to Mister. It seems, though, this is incredibly special. So I went back and started reading some more.

I read a few that felt cheated that collars were now some kind of fashion trend and that it detracts from actual BDSM relationships. :/ I'm not one to step on toes knowing I'm doing it so I was curious about how everyone feels about collars and the significance.

I mentioned to Mister the collaring announcement and we talked about it. I asked him if he was going to get me a collar. He said maybe, we're still exploring. Is it a good idea to try a collar? Or should we wait until we know it's the right thing for us?

I don't think a collar is something to 'try', in the sense in which you're thinking of it. You should wait until you're sure, and if you do both reach that point, then make it a true commitment, perhaps in a ceremony involving a pledge between dominant and submissive when you don the collar. But these things are very personal, and I can only speak from my own experience.

 

[MeekMe]

For some people collar is the equivalent of a wedding ring. For some it's just an everyday dollar store accessory item that makes them feel all kinds of sexy hotness and/or is convenient for bondage, leashes etc.

Wearing other rings doesn't, or shouldn't, diminsh the symbolic value of a wedding ring. Especially the value of someone else's wedding ring.

^_^ Thank you seela, our wedding rings mean a great deal! The D/s aspect of our marriage is new and so far a small part of our relationship. I think we will talk about it some more. I don't want it to be a meaningless piece hanging off my neck. I actually would like it to mean something, but I can say for sure there would be no ceremony.

 

[kimuk]

I have a red velvet and diamante collar I wear when were together ( when instructed to when were apart ) and 2 necklaces for general wear. One is blue stones with a silver heart on it. ( I love it ). I expect what they want to give/wear would be different for every couple. The most important part for me is the connection they evoke .

 

[Emergingwoman]

My pet has been with me for almost 4 years 2 years as my loyal pet. She has been collared for a little over a year. She is currently in training. Here is my question how many masters or doms would consider giving another collar as a gift? Something more fancy or decorative that could be worn outside the house or 24/7.

If I ever get the chance I would love this.

 

[Darkwagoner1969]

My sub/slave has a sold black collar for our play.. when she is at work or out, she has a beautiful silver necklace with a pendant that in Japanese means slave. She wears it proud and keeps her sane and happy all day long at work. so she does have two collars that i have given as gifts

 

[nicole001]

If I was in a relationship I would love to get a collar as a gift. For me it would be one of the most deep and strong commitments one can make. It is deeper than marriage.

 

[DappleDoxie]

Mine was a lovely gold chain and charm.

In the future, with another, I would welcome a gift of another 'collar' to wear in public

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Lol, it was probably my collaring that lead to some debate, so I will elaborate on how we did it.

Early on, Master instructed me to purchase a play collar. Something I could wear to events and during play sessions. It had a padlock on it. The very first time I wore it, I offered him the key, which he keeps.

When he asked me to be his, he purchased a silver necklace with a heart lock and key on it. This I wear every day as a symbol of his ownership.

We had a formal ceremony and made binding vows to each other (not in the legal sense, but full of meaning to us.
At the ceremony, Master placed my play collar around my neck. The act is symbolic, it wasn't the collar he placed on me, it was the act of me accepting him as my owner and Master.

I know over time I will wear different collars, but their meaning will all be the same. I am his.

 

[nicole001]

Lol, it was probably my collaring that lead to some debate, so I will elaborate on how we did it.

Early on, Master instructed me to purchase a play collar. Something I could wear to events and during play sessions. It had a padlock on it. The very first time I wore it, I offered him the key, which he keeps.

When he asked me to be his, he purchased a silver necklace with a heart lock and key on it. This I wear every day as a symbol of his ownership.

We had a formal ceremony and made binding vows to each other (not in the legal sense, but full of meaning to us.
At the ceremony, Master placed my play collar around my neck. The act is symbolic, it wasn't the collar he placed on me, it was the act of me accepting him as my owner and Master.

I know over time I will wear different collars, but their meaning will all be the same. I am his.

Wow, I am sooo jealous.... Just starting to get back in a relationship, I hope he will do the same