Climaxing During Intercourse

[Nellie60]

I'm lucky in that I can orgasm through penetration, but it's far from guaranteed even if the guy does everything right.

I need to be in a state of high mental sexual arousal. Yeah,yeah, I know, tonnes of stuff has been written about the importance of foreplay already, but for me, that long mental build-up is probably more important than the physical part of foreplay.

Position wise, missionary, prone bone, or standing positions do it for me. Doggy is enjoyable, but despite it's reputation I rarely orgasm in it. I know a lot of girls struggle with standing positions but for some strange reason there's a 50/50 chance I'll cum.

Alcohol seems to be a common factor. Not proper drunk, just a glass or two in my system. Whether it lowers my inhibitions so I can let go or just relaxes my muscles I don't know.

Can you describe your long mental buildup and sexual arousal?

 

[GoodnessO]

I'm lucky in that I can orgasm through penetration, but it's far from guaranteed even if the guy does everything right.

I need to be in a state of high mental sexual arousal. Yeah,yeah, I know, tonnes of stuff has been written about the importance of foreplay already, but for me, that long mental build-up is probably more important than the physical part of foreplay.

Position wise, missionary, prone bone, or standing positions do it for me. Doggy is enjoyable, but despite it's reputation I rarely orgasm in it. I know a lot of girls struggle with standing positions but for some strange reason there's a 50/50 chance I'll cum.

Alcohol seems to be a common factor. Not proper drunk, just a glass or two in my system. Whether it lowers my inhibitions so I can let go or just relaxes my muscles I don't know.

As far as I know doggy position "reputation" is mostly about male pleasure, & the female submitting with unreliable satisfaction at best. That's not to say I won't engage in it, but my trust for that needs to earned.

 

[hiker283]

As far as I know doggy position "reputation" is mostly about male pleasure, & the female submitting with unreliable satisfaction at best. That's not to say I won't engage in it, but my trust for that needs to earned.

My wife cannot climax when taken from behind and I prefer the face to face feeling.

 

[GoodnessO]

I can climax in other rear entry positions... such as reverse cowgirl, hot seat, & double-decker. Probably also by spooning but its been a while since I've tried that.
But in doggy position, I don't have sufficient mobility to participate fully, & large cocks can be especially dangerous. The guy has to demonstrate that he understands, & cares, what is pleasurble for me, vs. not.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

As far as I know doggy position "reputation" is mostly about male pleasure, & the female submitting with unreliable satisfaction at best. That's not to say I won't engage in it, but my trust for that needs to earned.

One thing we used to find is that I could finger her clit in that position in a way she liked. Joint problems have sadly taken that off the table.
But maybe one reason our marriage has lasted so long is that we figured out how to make intercourse work for her.

 

[andjac]

Absolutely, yes! It didn’t always happen for me, but now it’s pretty regular. Usually, I orgasm first from clitoral stimulation—sometimes multiple! before penetration even starts. But once he’s inside, if he’s deep (missionary, spooning and cowgirl are my favs), I can orgasm from intercourse too.
Honestly, the mental side is huge for me. Feeling really wanted, submissive, and even a little bit of that naughty taboo vibe makes everything so much hotter and more intense.
And when he finishes inside me? That almost always pushes me over the edge instantly.
it’s definitely a mix of mind and body. Embracing that has made sex so much better and orgasms way more powerful!

 

[irishblade]

I admit, I generally don't climax with just a moving penis inside of me. It takes more stimulation using other methods such as fingers on my clitoris to bring me to an orgasm. That's not to say I don't enjoy intercourse if I don't climax. I love the feeling of a man inside of me and the feel of his moving cock between my legs is a pleasure like no other. But still, unless he does other things I won't orgasm. But sex for me isn't always about an orgasm. Don't get me wrong, I want one or two or three. It's just that I recognize that sex isn't like porn movies where the woman climaxes after every tenth thrust. It just doesn't happen that way in real life. I have orgasm a few times with a moving penis, but that was after lots and lots of foreplay with someone who knew how my body worked. Strangley, my ex husband was one of the few men who was able to bring me to my peak with just his cock. Too bad he preferred having cocks inside of him as well and eventually thought sex with me was disgusting. But it was good for the first few years.

Sometimes staring a man in the eyes while he's on top of me moving between my legs is all I need to have a satisfying sexual encounter.

Anyway, what about the experiences of others?

I've made my wife cum from intercourse alone a few times, but not a lot at all. Like you said, usually with a lot of foreplay before hand and her really being in a good mindset, free of stress.

 

[Curious_2]

I can cum when I masturbate and once came from oral. Intercourse, not yet.

Hmmmm-H

 

[GoodnessO]

I recommended to everyone who requires clitoral stimulation for orgasm to include something like this to your bedroom play. Small enough not to embarrass your man like a big vibe might, but when sandwiched between you, will take PIV sex to a whole new level.

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We-Vibe makes a vibe designed for either solo or intercourse with a cock or regular dildo (sorry guys).

 

[GoodnessO]

We-Vibe makes a vibe designed for either solo or intercourse with a cock or regular dildo (sorry guys).

I've only used it solo. But I'd try it with a man, if he doesn't have a large cock.

 

[Sienna62]

Absolutely, yes! It didn’t always happen for me, but now it’s pretty regular. Usually, I orgasm first from clitoral stimulation—sometimes multiple! before penetration even starts. But once he’s inside, if he’s deep (missionary, spooning and cowgirl are my favs), I can orgasm from intercourse too.
Honestly, the mental side is huge for me. Feeling really wanted, submissive, and even a little bit of that naughty taboo vibe makes everything so much hotter and more intense.
And when he finishes inside me? That almost always pushes me over the edge instantly.
it’s definitely a mix of mind and body. Embracing that has made sex so much better and orgasms way more powerful!

Thanks for sharing , lovely to read

 

[NxtLvlHuman]

I admit, I generally don't climax with just a moving penis inside of me. It takes more stimulation using other methods such as fingers on my clitoris to bring me to an orgasm. That's not to say I don't enjoy intercourse if I don't climax. I love the feeling of a man inside of me and the feel of his moving cock between my legs is a pleasure like no other. But still, unless he does other things I won't orgasm. But sex for me isn't always about an orgasm. Don't get me wrong, I want one or two or three. It's just that I recognize that sex isn't like porn movies where the woman climaxes after every tenth thrust. It just doesn't happen that way in real life. I have orgasm a few times with a moving penis, but that was after lots and lots of foreplay with someone who knew how my body worked. Strangley, my ex husband was one of the few men who was able to bring me to my peak with just his cock. Too bad he preferred having cocks inside of him as well and eventually thought sex with me was disgusting. But it was good for the first few years.

Sometimes staring a man in the eyes while he's on top of me moving between my legs is all I need to have a satisfying sexual encounter.

Anyway, what about the experiences of others?

You should try a We-Vibe!
My wife doesn't cum from penetration alone; but this magical little toy in addition to penetration works 95% of the time!

 

[GoodnessO]

You should try a We-Vibe!
My wife doesn't cum from penetration alone; but this magical little toy in addition to penetration works 95% of the time!

I also have a Wee-Vibe, Chorus model... designed for use on it's own, or in addition to other penetration or play (such as a live cock, or even some sort of dildo, or oral). So far I've only used it solo, & with no other toys. I think it would be great to use if the male partner doesn't have a huge cock.

 

[ror5]

I also have a Wee-Vibe, Chorus model... designed for use on it's own, or in addition to other penetration or play (such as a live cock, or even some sort of dildo, or oral). So far I've only used it solo, & with no other toys. I think it would be great to use if the male partner doesn't have a huge cock.

I'd offer a hand

 

[cheney_dude_2022]

I also have a Wee-Vibe, Chorus model... designed for use on it's own, or in addition to other penetration or play (such as a live cock, or even some sort of dildo, or oral). So far I've only used it solo, & with no other toys. I think it would be great to use if the male partner doesn't have a huge cock.

Same here...

 

[Wanderg]

In my experience women who have the ability to orgasm via PIV sex have a larger clit (or one that gets bigger during arousal) or a clit that is closer to the vaginal opening than others.

My wife told me she had never cum during PIV sex and she knew that was statistically normal. I told her it was ok to rub herself or use a clit vibe during sex and she has a couple of times but stops before she cums, she’s not entirely comfortable with that for whatever reason.

With some other women I can feel their hard clit when I’m inside, and those are the ones that can cum during PIV.

 

[GoodnessO]

In my experience women who have the ability to orgasm via PIV sex have a larger clit (or one that gets bigger during arousal) or a clit that is closer to the vaginal opening than others.

My wife told me she had never cum during PIV sex and she knew that was statistically normal. I told her it was ok to rub herself or use a clit vibe during sex and she has a couple of times but stops before she cums, she’s not entirely comfortable with that for whatever reason.

With some other women I can feel their hard clit when I’m inside, and those are the ones that can cum during PIV.

There's some research on this. Very limited, as it's nearly impossible to get funding for sexology research. But I've read at least 1 paper on research that measured the distance from the glans clit to the vaginal opening. A strong correlation was found between shorter distance & a woman's ability to orgasm via PIV intercourse.
I don't recall exactly what the "magic number" was. I wanna say a distance of no greater than about 1 inch. I've never been properly measured, LOL, but my fingers tell me, my distance there is minimal.
Overall clit size (length) might be a factor, too, but I'd think it's more about how the clit's wishbone shape fits around the vaginal opening & how thick the clit is.
I personally also feel clit strength development has gotta be a factor. Of course, masturbation is an important part of that.
And as we all must surely know, PIV intercourse angle(s) & rhythm(s). are extremely important. Ladies need to the opportunity to be on top, or otherwise in the lead, to take control of their own pleasure.
I've read that there's no such thing as "making a woman cum". She needs to be sufficiently relaxed & pleasured, & then with a little luck, she'll cum.

 

[KimberlyG]

I'm fortunate in that I orgasm easily. My nipples are very sensitive and I can orgasm from just nipple play. I have found that with proper foreplay and getting me really worked up, then I will climax from penetration nearly every time, and usually more than once. I also, at times, can get rolling orgasms, where one just rolls into another one in a short amount of time. The intensity varies.

 

[Sgts19]

I've never gotten her off with penetration, but a couple others have. Someone different for a change? Bigger cock?? Who knows why

 

[cheney_dude_2022]

I've never gotten her off with penetration, but a couple others have. Someone different for a change? Bigger cock?? Who knows why

Maybe the angles at which you had your cock in her..

 

[GoodnessO]

Big mistakes men make (IMHO... for me, anyway):
1) Don't touch my glans clit unless I'm begging for it. Its super sensitive & easily becomes uncomfortable... kicks me right out of the pleasure zone.
2) Don't bend your fingers around in my vagina. That "cum hither" motion, the way most men do it, causes me pain. (And I'm not at all into pain.)
3) Just because you had a past girlfriend who claimed your oral skills were excellent... don't presume the same techniques will work with other women. We are much more unique from each other than men are.
4) Do not advertise yourself as "love giving oral" & then not give oral, or only give it very briefly. How'd you like a bj that started & ended with a quick kiss on the shaft?

 

[cheney_dude_2022]

Big mistakes men make (IMHO... for me, anyway):
1) Don't touch my glans clit unless I'm begging for it. Its super sensitive & easily becomes uncomfortable... kicks me right out of the pleasure zone.
2) Don't bend your fingers around in my vagina. That "cum hither" motion, the way most men do it, causes me pain. (And I'm not at all into pain.)
3) Just because you had a past girlfriend who claimed your oral skills were excellent... don't presume the same techniques will work with other women. We are much more unique from each other than men are.
4) Do not advertise yourself as "love giving oral" & then not give oral, or only give it very briefly. How'd you like a bj that started & ended with a quick kiss on the shaft?

@GoodnessO , I completely understand that each woman is very different from the last one as a man who strives to please a woman..

I am going to say sexy and erotic communication need to be talked about even before the guy gets past first base, MAYBE second base..

Now, having said that, I am definitely not a mond reader as to what feels GOOD/GREAT to you as the woman.. I feel a mutual masturbation session could help with some of that what feels good/great communication.

Am I on the correct track, GoodnessO??

 

[GoodnessO]

More mistakes men make:
5) Even when I'm dripping wet, doesn't mean I want your cock entering me all at once. Do not shove your cock into me. Let me move onto you, at my own speed. I like to feel every millimeter. Smaller cocks feel bigger that way. And with bigger cocks... it's necessary for comfort to let my vagina adjust a little at a time. When I'm ready, I might like you to go crazy.
6) Just because I sometimes love hard & fast fucking, doesn't mean I always do. The cervix actually changes position, moves upward, during arousal. But big cocks are still going to reach it, & having my cervix pounded is a painful thing.

 

[GoodnessO]

@GoodnessO , I completely understand that each woman is very different from the last one as a man who strives to please a woman..

I am going to say sexy and erotic communication need to be talked about even before the guy gets past first base, MAYBE second base..

Now, having said that, I am definitely not a mond reader as to what feels GOOD/GREAT to you as the woman.. I feel a mutual masturbation session could help with some of that what feels good/great communication.

Am I on the correct track, GoodnessO??

My advice (for everyone) is start slow, especially with a new partner, & pay attention to how they react. Alternatively, rip each others clothes off & fuck like crazy. LOL Depends on the mood.