lc69hunter
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Best answer I have read yetDuring our first 2 decades together if either of us had sex with someone else it would have contaminated our marriage with everlasting toxic doubts about whether or not we married the right person..
But now, after about 25 yrs of raising kids, supporting each other through numerous tragedies & health crises, forging lifelong shared friendships, travel, a planned retirement, etc.. it is clear that NOTHING is going to break up our marriage, or diminish our deep love for each other. That is how strong our bond is. So, several years ago I was very comfortable with telling my wife, “From now on, go ahead and have sex with someone else once in a while if you want to. I'm fine with it because I know with absolute certainty that the ties that bind us will hold strong - that your home and your future will always be with ME.” It felt very liberating tell her this.
I adore my wife. If being with a different man once in a while would allow her to experience "like young again" orgasms - especially since menopause has made them so elusive - why wouldn't I want that for her? My wife and I have had sex over 3000 times (>2/wk for >30yrs), so of course sex with someone else is going to be more exciting! It wouldn't be because he's a better lover. Indeed, I'm quite certain there's nothing he could do with his fingers, mouth or dick that I haven't done hundreds and hundreds of times already or would eagerly do if she asked. It would be more exciting for the simple reason that it's someone OTHER than me - someone new. I wouldn't take her enjoying it personally and I wouldn't feel threatened by it.
So tell me, why should I stand in the way of it?