Can Your Lover be Your Best Friend?

[juicylips]

Do you tell your lover everything? No secrets?

Or

do you have someone you go to with these things?

Can a friendship turn into a romance and be successful?

Tell me.
jl

Yes...I know this is a repeat thread of mine, too.

 

[Monazwx]

No, your friends are your friends and your lovers are your lovers.
Edit: You can share stuff with them, but not EVERYTHING.

 

[ExLimey]

Can a friendship turn into a romance and be successful?

I sure hope so.

 

[celiaKitten]

My lover is my best friend. He is the person I tell everything to, even those things that I don't like talking to people about. I've never had this happen with anyone before .. but I've never had so much in common with anyone, either.

As for the last question, I think so, yes. I think it's harder for a relationship to scale back to friendship. I don't know that I could do it.

(and some re-runs are good)

 

[JazzManJim]

I don't see any reason why it can't be that way. Some folks don't prefer it to be, and others want it to work. Sometimes both types of folks want what they want so badly that they'll screw up both friendship and romance so badly that the can't remember what either of them look like.

Me, I prefer that my lover be my confidant also. But I'm not going to fret if it doesn't play that way. I'll go with good friendship out of my lover also.

 

[Secret Pleasure]

Feeling kind of backwards here...

One of my best friends started out as just friends, we became lovers and then after a cool off period we're now best friends. Nothing in the world I can't share with him and he with me. We just choose not to step over those boundaries again. Our friendship means more to us.

 

[juicylips]

(and some re-runs are good)

Thank you, peaches.

 

[His_kitty]

My best friend was my lover for two years. I loved being able to tell him everything, and have him share all with me. I loved that on several occasions during intimacy one of us would say something and we'd both laugh, but it didn't take away from our sensual mood, just enhanced it in a way.

So yes you can have both and one day I hope to again.

 

[Lost Cause]

Yes, yes, and yes..

Your lover can be a best friend, sounding board, and advisor. It's up to you and them to agree on the relationship without jealousy towards others in their lives. Females sometimes think that if they let you inside, they fucking own you, and that will kill everything in a relationship immediately! That's the delicate balance you have to do, I have done this several times, and it tests who you really are, all talk, or a true friend & lover.

 

[Art.Donovan]

Yes, until someone's feelings get hurt.

 

[bknight2602]

If I had a lover I could give you an answer! hehehe

 

[Wiggles]

.

 

[bored1]

Do you tell your lover everything? No secrets?

Or

do you have someone you go to with these things?

Can a friendship turn into a romance and be successful?

Tell me.
jl

Yes...I know this is a repeat thread of mine, too.

I have never told anyone everything, And a friendship can turn into a romance and be successful, at least for awhile.

 

[ksmybuttons]

if has worked for me for 18 years so far...

 

[carrie-on]

I believe so, my best friend has been my lover and my husband for many years. I trust him completely and I tell him everything.

 

[juicylips]

if has worked for me for 18 years so far...

What's your secret?

 

[lavender]

I think any lover that is a partner is also your best friend.

 

[ksmybuttons]

What's your secret?

We like and love each other. What more is there?

 

[Sami78]

Do you tell your lover everything? No secrets?

Can a friendship turn into a romance and be successful?

I tell my lover everything. No secrets, except at Christmas and Birthdays. He is my bestfriend. We started out as bestfriends and became lovers. It's a perfect union.

 

[juicylips]

We like and love each other. What more is there?

True. That makes a very strong foundation.

 

[april-wine]

Yep..........Best friend, trusted confidant, and one damn fine lover.....I sure am lucky....

 

[tswyk]

Yes, I believe so. It hasn't always been that way in my life, but certainly, at this point, it is.

I'm not saying you should be REQUIRED to share everything, but that you should certainly feel comfortable sharing anything you want to share - knowing that you will be loved and accepted no matter what you open up with.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

yes I tell her everyting I can't

but comeone... some secrets are needed.
somthings you just cna't tell htem or ask them and need someone else to talk with right?

but yes your love can be your best friend.

 

[juicylips]

Yep..........Best friend, trusted confidant, and one damn fine lover.....I sure am lucky....

I think she's the lucky one.

 

[Desert Amazon]