Can you learn to like...

[Cirrus]

Do you think it's possible to "learn" to like BDSM? Or anything sexual for that matter that you weren't a big fan of before? How do you think that happens, if at all you think it can?

It sort of happened to me. I have never really liked giving head. I don't really know exactly why, but it's just kind of been a take or leave thing with me. It doesn't repulse me, mind you, but it's not my favorite thing to do.

My ex-Dom and I talked a lot about it though, and he told me exactly what he liked...when, why and how, and he made sure he was very clean beforehand (a plus...I have a hygeine "thing" myself) so knowing that I could do things that pleased him pleased me. And even though I never grew to love it, it did become kind of sensual for me too. There were even a few occasions where I wasn't really in the mood but he was, and I gave him head just...because. Because I knew he liked it, and because he was horny. He would have done the same for me.

Is there anything you didn't like at first but enjoy more now, even if it's not something you'd ask for on your own? How did you come to like it? Or do your dislikes remain dislikes even though you've tried to enjoy it?

 

[Justina123]

Learning to like...

I have always considered myself to be more into d/s than s&m. For the last couple of months, I have been getting more and more involved with a wonderful Dominant who, while he knows this about me, would like me to enjoy the masochism side of things a little more. So when we play he has been introducing a little more painful play each time...but always mixed with pleasure, so after a while, I am finding myself learning to like something I didn't think I would. For instance, when he uses these "nasty" little clamps on my clit while at the same time my favorite vibrator....so that now for some reason I am coming to "like" the clamps alone. Doesn't seem sensible to me, don't know why it works, but for me, it does!

- justina

 

[serijules]

I'm like this with bondage.

I never really did like bondage except perhaps having my hands tied above me on a bed. I had a Dom friend that kept gently nudging me towards agreeing to try some more intense bondage positions, and at first, I was very reluctant...I just never did enjoy it.

However, he combined the bondage with a lot of really sensual play, and I ended up feeling extremely submissive and really enjoying the helplessness of it. It's too soon to tell if I have learned to really LIKE it, but I can say I am much less likely to turn my nose up at it since that day with him. We tried a lot of positions too, so it kept me from getting too tired or bored with one position.

I wrote a story on that whole afternoon that pretty much describes how it made me feel...if anyone wants to read, it is in my stories link below, "This Moment, This Day"

However, he did bind my breasts too, and I have always hated that look with a passion and wanted nothing to do with it. He convinced me to just try it and see how it felt before I formed a judgement, so I agreed. I have to admit it really made my breasts wonderfully sensitive, but I doubt I will learn to love it...the sight of bound breasts still makes me sick.