Can chastity devices ruin a relationship?

[Dhabidommetrix]

Was at a wine tasting with friends and this question came up. Thought about it though and feel only if used without consent or understanding.

I believe If both partners are on board, it can actually strengthen emotional and erotic trust.

Inputs are welcomed.

 

[spawnofdavey]

Anything can ruin a relationship without open and honest communication. Setting expectations and limits with this kind of thing is key I would say.

 

[TheIntrepidBoyager]

There's a whole bunch of couples out there that will absolutely swear that it does the opposite and improves their relationship. My wife and I would be among them although I don't wear a cage.

It's all about the individuals involved, the motivations and the application.

I'm a reward-based individual and I feel like by surrendering full control of my orgasms to her, I'm making a major sacrifice and I like to get some form of recognition from time to time. No, it doesn't have to be an orgasm, but just good interaction of some kind. Even a nice spanking can be enough. When I don't get that, I can get snarly and fight the bit. But it's nothing that would amount to jeopardizing our relationship.

I often wonder if women underestimate how frequently their male partners masturbate and just what all it can mean to us beyond just the obvious sex act. I did a write up on my blog about male masturbation and how important it can be.

So if a woman insists on it without really appreciating what all it can mean for their partner that can lead to issues and I've read many reports of this. The same with realistic starting goals for denial time cycles.

If it is done just to be mean, and not the kind kind of mean, then I can definitely see it leading to trouble but it would only be a catalyst as there would be deeper underlying issues. Chastity would just be bringing those issues to the forefront.

Now, I absolutely do think that cuckolding can, and often does, lead to destroyed relationships. That one is very dicey.

Obviously I have no idea how any of this would impact a female placed in chastity.

 

[Mrs_and_mr]

I’m sure a lot of things can ruin a relationship. We have only been playing with Chasity for 5 months but we both enjoy it.

 

[Boat1]

Chastity devices used to be a turn-off to me, until one day offshore, my Domme Wife instructed me to not edge or touch myself... lacking self control, I got some fabric and bound my C&Bs to my inner thigh... this turned Her on so much, that it changed my perception on Chastity...
I've since, bought, made and am making another Chastity device out of leather... I've been in chastity twice last week at work, documented and sent to my Goddess in my slave journal entries...
We're both somewhat addicted to it now...

But as to your original question, as others have stated, anything misused can potentially ruin a relationship.

 

[pplwatching]

I read a post here some time ago (that I can't find now) from a woman who was at her wits-end because she was happy to play inside of the bedroom but her husband kept making it a part of their life outside of the bedroom. Some couples like it that way, but she really only thought about sex and chastity in the bedroom context, and his expectations, on top of everything else going on in her life, were overwhelming her. Consent isn't a one time thing. Communicating and respecting each others expectations and limits, and checking in as things go along, is the difference between 'healthy' and 'unhealthy'.

 

[Britva415]

It wouldn't be the device that would ruin it.

But if one person were to do anything which would result in a major change to the sexual expression in a relationship without actually talking about it and making sure their partner is on board, then yeah, that can ruin a relationship whether it's a cage or a condom or a choker or a cheat.

 

[XupremeTop]

Chastity is fun but consent and agreement is what bring out the fun in it and I'm talking about BDSM generally. Anything or other things done without consent and agreement is nothing but abuse

 

[9to5]

chastity needs to be agreed by both. unless your doing it to yourself

 

[XupremeTop]

chastity needs to be agreed by both. unless your doing it to yourself

Exactly but where is the fun in doing it to yourself without a Key holder idk

 

[9to5]

Exactly but where is the fun in doing it to yourself without a Key holder idk

so true, being caged is still fun and not being caged feels naked with my cock.
it is a lot more fun serving someone and not knowing when you might get release and even how it will happen

 

[XupremeTop]

so true, being caged is still fun and not being caged feels naked with my cock.
it is a lot more fun serving someone and not knowing when you might get release and even how it will happen

It keeps you in a good boy attitude and I love that!

 

[SmilingLez]

i maintain a no-touch celibate policy when single. The mental chastity is indeed a challenge. However, the greatest gift i can give to my next domme (can't give her my virginity) is to let her control all of me and the knowledge that i saved myself for her and her alone.

 

[9to5]

It keeps you in a good boy attitude and I love that!

yes it does and keeps me horny and not being able to do anything about it. Just have to go along with whatever happens.
of course being naked ,caged on on my knees would make for a nice day

 

[SlutAddicted]

Presumably if one is in chastity under duress that would be a problem for a relationship.

But me being in chastity has been great for our relationship. It was not under duress, but I was hesitant at first. However, my wife leads our relationship so it was natural to do as she says. I soon discovered that it helped channel my urges, focus my obedience and greatly improve the experience when I am permitted to ejaculate. Now one of the most severe punishments my wife can mete out (on the rare occasions it is necessary) is to decline to cage my cock. I feel like something is missing when I am not wearing it almost as if the presence of the cage indicates the presence of my Dom wife in my life.