Can chastity devices ruin a relationship?

[Dhabidommetrix]

Was at a wine tasting with friends and this question came up. Thought about it though and feel only if used without consent or understanding.

I believe If both partners are on board, it can actually strengthen emotional and erotic trust.

Inputs are welcomed.

 

[spawnofdavey]

Anything can ruin a relationship without open and honest communication. Setting expectations and limits with this kind of thing is key I would say.

 

[TheIntrepidBoyager]

There's a whole bunch of couples out there that will absolutely swear that it does the opposite and improves their relationship. My wife and I would be among them although I don't wear a cage.

It's all about the individuals involved, the motivations and the application.

I'm a reward-based individual and I feel like by surrendering full control of my orgasms to her, I'm making a major sacrifice and I like to get some form of recognition from time to time. No, it doesn't have to be an orgasm, but just good interaction of some kind. Even a nice spanking can be enough. When I don't get that, I can get snarly and fight the bit. But it's nothing that would amount to jeopardizing our relationship.

I often wonder if women underestimate how frequently their male partners masturbate and just what all it can mean to us beyond just the obvious sex act. I did a write up on my blog about male masturbation and how important it can be.

So if a woman insists on it without really appreciating what all it can mean for their partner that can lead to issues and I've read many reports of this. The same with realistic starting goals for denial time cycles.

If it is done just to be mean, and not the kind kind of mean, then I can definitely see it leading to trouble but it would only be a catalyst as there would be deeper underlying issues. Chastity would just be bringing those issues to the forefront.

Now, I absolutely do think that cuckolding can, and often does, lead to destroyed relationships. That one is very dicey.

Obviously I have no idea how any of this would impact a female placed in chastity.

 

[Mrs_and_mr]

I’m sure a lot of things can ruin a relationship. We have only been playing with Chasity for 5 months but we both enjoy it.

 

[Boat1]

Chastity devices used to be a turn-off to me, until one day offshore, my Domme Wife instructed me to not edge or touch myself... lacking self control, I got some fabric and bound my C&Bs to my inner thigh... this turned Her on so much, that it changed my perception on Chastity...
I've since, bought, made and am making another Chastity device out of leather... I've been in chastity twice last week at work, documented and sent to my Goddess in my slave journal entries...
We're both somewhat addicted to it now...

But as to your original question, as others have stated, anything misused can potentially ruin a relationship.

 

[pplwatching]

I read a post here some time ago (that I can't find now) from a woman who was at her wits-end because she was happy to play inside of the bedroom but her husband kept making it a part of their life outside of the bedroom. Some couples like it that way, but she really only thought about sex and chastity in the bedroom context, and his expectations, on top of everything else going on in her life, were overwhelming her. Consent isn't a one time thing. Communicating and respecting each others expectations and limits, and checking in as things go along, is the difference between 'healthy' and 'unhealthy'.

 

[Britva415]

It wouldn't be the device that would ruin it.

But if one person were to do anything which would result in a major change to the sexual expression in a relationship without actually talking about it and making sure their partner is on board, then yeah, that can ruin a relationship whether it's a cage or a condom or a choker or a cheat.