calling all transgendered

[Tymeless]

well i'm not dressing very often and my friends know about it and they accept it but i'm proving to them i'm still me. just a happier more fem me. i think they understand and are very supportive.

i was always understanding of transfolk even when i thought i would never be one. my hardest thing is the parents mom took it well but she doesn't want to believe it yet. the hard thing will be telling dad that his son is his daughter. my sister i need to tell her and her boyfriend since i live with them. and my best friend luke that i've known since before i can remember he is like a big brother to me. other then that i'm fairly out in the open about it!

 

[ShinigamiSama]

good for you hun
-hug-
I hope he takes it well
I hope they all do

and if they dont, to bad for them, I think you and everyone deserve to be happy
now if only I could live by my own philosphies...

 

[snowy ciara]

Tonight I had a real date with the lady mentioned above... We had a late lunch and went to see Grudge 2. The first was better than the second, but it still scared the snot out of me. The circulation in her hand should return by tomorrow, I hope. I was sort of freaked out still, so we saw Santa Clause 3. Again, another winner, but the first one is still my favorite.

Next week, we go to see the butterfly aviary at the University Gardens. I went a few weeks ago and saw the south asian and antipodean butterflies. They're releasing the south american butterflies this week.

 

[Tymeless]

sounds awesome hun! hope u have a good time snowy!

 

[ungenderless]

Next week, we go to see the butterfly aviary at the University Gardens. I went a few weeks ago and saw the south asian and antipodean butterflies. They're releasing the south american butterflies this week.

Ooh, the Buttefly aviary sounds fun!

Hello, my chosen name is Julia Winters. I'm still pretty new at being TG, having realized earlier this year. My partner, Wal, is also TG and has been aware for much longer than I. WE're both pre-everything. She's seen a therapist, but that person was not very qualified for TGs, and we haven't had the money to find anything else right now.

I know this is supposed to be about me, but I am putting her first. I'm more comfortable with myself than her, and I can use my creative works as an outlet.

 

[Gi_Venus]

Hello Tiffany, Shin, ciara, Julia and Fierte ((((HUG!)))) No time to post much...Wish you all a wonderful day.

Gianna

 

[Tymeless]

welcome to the thread julia!

 

[ungenderless]

Thank you!

Ever since I've taken my new name and have made an effort to be sociable, I have found thatr there are some wonderful people ouit there who are just like me. See, I live in the central valley (or, as I like to call it, the pseudo-bible belt), and the general consensus around here is that different is wrong. So it's a wonderful surprise to find others who are so accepting.

 

[Tymeless]

i don't think its the general consensus i think its more of a few speaking very loudly for the majority!

 

[ungenderless]

i don't think its the general consensus i think its more of a few speaking very loudly for the majority!

Perhaps...it's just that I rarely gewt out of town, and when I went to my first Gay Pride this year...well it was an entirly different world. A real eye-opener for me. You know, you spend your life in a certain environment, it doesn't occur to you to question it. Going to SF has shown me what open-minded communites can really be like. i guess that's why I started looking online for that same kind of community.

 

[ShinigamiSama]

Perhaps...it's just that I rarely gewt out of town, and when I went to my first Gay Pride this year...well it was an entirly different world. A real eye-opener for me. You know, you spend your life in a certain environment, it doesn't occur to you to question it. Going to SF has shown me what open-minded communites can really be like. i guess that's why I started looking online for that same kind of community.

I know that feeling
I moved out of a smalltown right into a big city only a few months after I graduated HS
and now I'm still here learning new things, most of which I thought were just bad racist jokes

hope ya find the right theoropist and such for each other
I do hear they can work wonders for people with any kind of problems
havn't been to one personaly but much of my family has
hope it helps

 

[saw_man1]

Good for you

Snowy! I was glad to read about your date. Anything that makes you happy makes me smile.

You're one of the very best people here. Congrats and good luck.

Tonight I had a real date with the lady mentioned above... We had a late lunch and went to see Grudge 2. The first was better than the second, but it still scared the snot out of me. The circulation in her hand should return by tomorrow, I hope. I was sort of freaked out still, so we saw Santa Clause 3. Again, another winner, but the first one is still my favorite.

Next week, we go to see the butterfly aviary at the University Gardens. I went a few weeks ago and saw the south asian and antipodean butterflies. They're releasing the south american butterflies this week.

 

[Pas_de_Fierte]

Sometimes small isn't bad, though, depending on the area in which you live. For instance, in my little state of Vermont, people are on the whole very accepting of GLBT folks all around. The only person, and I mean only person in my family who had a beef with my trans status was my father, and even he is coming around, after a year and a half or so. I think he's finally realising that it's not a phase, what with how astronomically more confident and comfortable I am with myself. I think the initial shock was the worst for him, and then it just kind of smoothed out after that. He still has trouble sometimes with pronouns and such, but I know he's genuinely trying, and his slip-ups are out of habit, not malice.

But as I was saying... All other (step)parents, brothers, aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents have been phenomenally supportive, as well as all my friends. Not a single one of them has said that I'm sick for doing this; they're all genuinely glad I've sorted myself out. They're a good indicator of the climate of our community around here; I love my lovely liberal state. <3

 

[Tymeless]

i've not had a negative reaction yet. not saying i won't get one but in general in the bible belt of ohio even we are as conservative as you get outside some of the southern states. i've yet to have a bad reaction.

 

[Gi_Venus]

Tonight I had a real date with the lady mentioned above... We had a late lunch and went to see Grudge 2. The first was better than the second, but it still scared the snot out of me. The circulation in her hand should return by tomorrow, I hope. I was sort of freaked out still, so we saw Santa Clause 3. Again, another winner, but the first one is still my favorite.

Next week, we go to see the butterfly aviary at the University Gardens. I went a few weeks ago and saw the south asian and antipodean butterflies. They're releasing the south american butterflies this week.

Sigh! I wish I was going. I have never been to a real butterfly aviary before. I have a butterfly garden at home.....I have been planting host plants for some time and in the summer it is lovely.

Hi everyone.

 

[Gi_Venus]

Sometimes small isn't bad, though, depending on the area in which you live. For instance, in my little state of Vermont, people are on the whole very accepting of GLBT folks all around. The only person, and I mean only person in my family who had a beef with my trans status was my father, and even he is coming around, after a year and a half or so. I think he's finally realising that it's not a phase, what with how astronomically more confident and comfortable I am with myself. I think the initial shock was the worst for him, and then it just kind of smoothed out after that. He still has trouble sometimes with pronouns and such, but I know he's genuinely trying, and his slip-ups are out of habit, not malice.

But as I was saying... All other (step)parents, brothers, aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents have been phenomenally supportive, as well as all my friends. Not a single one of them has said that I'm sick for doing this; they're all genuinely glad I've sorted myself out. They're a good indicator of the climate of our community around here; I love my lovely liberal state. <3

That is wonderful....smile

 

[bronntanas]

Snowy! I was glad to read about your date. Anything that makes you happy makes me smile.

You're one of the very best people here. Congrats and good luck.

Seconded! Or is that thirded? Is she the one who I talked to on the phone the other day? Cause her voice. ooooohhhhh.... I could listen to her read the phone book.

 

[ungenderless]

It's really great to read your stories about being accepted by all or most of your families. I haven't had any problems yet, either. Well, there's just my mom and brother who I tlka to in my family, but they haven't said anything negative. Ofcourse, they don't really ask about it or express desire to talk about it, but at leas tthey aren't ridiculing or being malicious, right?

My partner brought home an article of a FTM that was featured in TIME magazine. To us, that's huge! TIME is read be so many people! It's like people are starting to become more aware of what TG is. Not to mention that there's going to be a new FX original series that has the main character as an MTF.

 

[bronntanas]

It's really great to read your stories about being accepted by all or most of your families. I haven't had any problems yet, either. Well, there's just my mom and brother who I tlka to in my family, but they haven't said anything negative. Ofcourse, they don't really ask about it or express desire to talk about it, but at leas tthey aren't ridiculing or being malicious, right?

Right. It's cool to see what everyone's experience has been. I am not trans, just your basic bi guy, but the majority of my family has not been so welcoming. I moved half a world away to get away from it all.

 

[Gi_Venus]

Right. It's cool to see what everyone's experience has been. I am not trans, just your basic bi guy, but the majority of my family has not been so welcoming. I moved half a world away to get away from it all.

((((bronntanas)))) I am sorry. I hope things are better for you now.

 

[ungenderless]

Yes, it sucks when family is not understanding. I read about it so often. But how are things for you now? Do you have friends that support you?

 

[bronntanas]

Thanks ladies.

My situation was weird: I was living in Dublin and was outed in my very small home town by a source who should have known better. I ran into them at in GLBT section of a big bookstore in Dublin. He assumed I was gay, I assumed he was gay, but I kept my mouth shut. (Okay, so I did maybe open it after the fireworks started. Not that it did any good.) I'm actually bisexual, but my father had a heart attack anyway (literally) and my mother refused to acknowledge me (or my sexuality) for months. My sibs are pretty much split on the matter. The one who stood firmly in my corner was my Grandmother. She told my father he was being an ass and my mother that she was being a wimp.

Anyway, in the middle of all this, I got scouted by a Canadian university (I was playing semi-pro rugby at the time) so I packed my cats and books, kissed my Gran, and decamped for the further shore.

I had several friends who stuck by me. I actually live nearby to Snowy's parents, who're accustomed to taking in strays, and they sort of adopted me. Also on Lit (though we met elsewhere) were PaulUK and his submissive hottie pants, D's mariposa, and Blue Kat.

Things are going better now, but I do miss my mum. I miss my dad, too, but he's so angry right now, I try not to think of it.

 

[Gi_Venus]

Thanks ladies.

My situation was weird: I was living in Dublin and was outed in my very small home town by a source who should have known better. I ran into them at in GLBT section of a big bookstore in Dublin. He assumed I was gay, I assumed he was gay, but I kept my mouth shut. (Okay, so I did maybe open it after the fireworks started. Not that it did any good.) I'm actually bisexual, but my father had a heart attack anyway (literally) and my mother refused to acknowledge me (or my sexuality) for months. My sibs are pretty much split on the matter. The one who stood firmly in my corner was my Grandmother. She told my father he was being an ass and my mother that she was being a wimp.

Anyway, in the middle of all this, I got scouted by a Canadian university (I was playing semi-pro rugby at the time) so I packed my cats and books, kissed my Gran, and decamped for the further shore.

I had several friends who stuck by me. I actually live nearby to Snowy's parents, who're accustomed to taking in strays, and they sort of adopted me. Also on Lit (though we met elsewhere) were PaulUK and his submissive hottie pants, D's mariposa, and Blue Kat.

Things are going better now, but I do miss my mum. I miss my dad, too, but he's so angry right now, I try not to think of it.

That really sounds rough Bronntanas, Sigh! I can expect much of the same from much of my family. ((((Bronntanas)))) I cannot imagine such an experience.....well actually I can....I am terrified.

Smile....ungenderless I love your av. It has a nice softness to it.

Gianna

 

[bronntanas]

(((Gianna)))

When push comes to shove, I got some nice shoulders for cryin' on. If you can, sort of ease them into it. I think part of the problem was the way my parents found out. The asshat from the bookstore left a message on the rectory answering machine in my home church. One of the staff (not a clergy person, a staffer there) over heard it and spread it all over town. So my dad found out at the fuckin' hardware store. (Beggin' pardon for the language, ladies.) My mother found out from my Gran who found out from the Altar Guild who found out from someone in the office... It was a damned all mess. (Again, beggin' pardon for the swearin'.)

 

[Gi_Venus]

(((Gianna)))

When push comes to shove, I got some nice shoulders for cryin' on. If you can, sort of ease them into it. I think part of the problem was the way my parents found out. The asshat from the bookstore left a message on the rectory answering machine in my home church. One of the staff (not a clergy person, a staffer there) over heard it and spread it all over town. So my dad found out at the fuckin' hardware store. (Beggin' pardon for the language, ladies.) My mother found out from my Gran who found out from the Altar Guild who found out from someone in the office... It was a damned all mess. (Again, beggin' pardon for the swearin'.)

It is one reason why I have never wanted to live in a small community......shudder....I am so sorry you had to go through all that. My father passed away last year so I do not have to face him at least.....