Burning Bridges

[DéjàNu]

Burning bridges is tricky. But I think that in some situation, if you want to go foward and never look back burning is a good solution.


As for me, I burn bridges but I assure myself that their is a safety way over before doing so


Wish you well RR

 

[Rambling Rose]

Thank you, DéjàNu. I just thought goodbye would hurt less than hanging on and waiting for a sinking ship to miraculously right itself in the water. I won't lie. I'm in a sort of mourning over these lost relationships and it's thrown me out of whack, but it still feels better than waiting and hoping in vain for God knows how long before what I felt was an inevitable loss.

Applications for new and improved friendships are being accepted.

 

[glamorilla]

hopefully you'll be better off

 

[sexy-girl]

i've never had to do this exactly ... i don't think i'd be very good at it

but i can see in some circumstances it being the best thing

 

[J.B.]

How do you handle a relationship that goes south? Do you just turn your back on it? Do you say your good-byes? Or do you just wait and see indefinitely, hoping for a happier outcome?

I cut all ties. simple as that. When I found out 2 years ago that my ex thought my coming to California for a few days was the perfect time to let some slut faced chick in our bed, I simply cut it all off. Call block, email block and I sent for all my stuff, no scenes, I didn't let him see me cry, just walked away.

 

[Olivianna]

RR,
I just wish you hadn't broken it off with me at the rolling skating rink. Now I'll never be able to do a happy shuffle.

 

[Rambling Rose]

I've got a brand new pair of roller skates - you've got a brand new key

 

[perks]

I've got a brand new pair of roller skates - you've got a brand new key

I was named after her.

 

[glamorilla]

I think that we should get together and try them on to see...

 

[Jim_Henson]

Applications for new and improved friendships are being accepted.

Bad friendship with mutual hatred and animosity here, I guess that makes another rejection.

 

[Rambling Rose]

Surprisingly enough Jim, the door is open.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

I'm not a bridge burner. I just stop doing any maintenance and let them collapse on their own.

 

[sunstruck]

Applications for new and improved friendships are being accepted.

Do old and pretty much the same friends have to reaply? cuz I hate paper work.

 

[aly*]

I officially did this twice. Said goodbye, I'm not feeling this and why etc. Thing is 4 years later I still wonder sometimes if i did so in haste. I think I hate that part the most. Maybe I didn't really say goodbye afterall. Hmm.

I really wish a couple friends that slipped away with out a "goodbye" had just been straight with me and put it out there. In honor of the connection we once had. But, i get that it just might not have been their "style". Maybe i am a masochist that way, but not knowing drives me crazy. Would it surprise anyone that I don't have many close friends? heh.

From what little I know of you from reading here I think you have much to offer as a friend and should be appreciated as such. I'm premenstrual, btw. This sounds so sappy. blah.

 

[Rambling Rose]

I'm not a bridge burner. I just stop doing any maintenance and let them collapse on their own.

I find that approach vaguely cruel. It leaves the other person in a void of uncertainty. They think they know but they dont' know.

May I ask what prompts you to be so lazy with a relationship? Why is something that was once worth your energies now not worth closure?

 

[lavender]

Burn, baby, burn.

I think I've been good at this a lot lately, even if it wasn't my intent.

 

[estevie]

What a coinkydink, Rose.

I've ended a relationship just recently. I sent my goodbyes and whatnot. And I felt better afterwards. Ya know, closure of some sort.

Well, 3 weeks later, I don't feel better. The email was never acknowledged. Perhaps I shouldn't have expected a response but I did. And not getting one has just about killed me, ya know.

Me thinks I would have been better off not saying anything at all.

 

[Minkey Boodle]

The easiest bridges to burn are thos made of wood. Steel and concrete don't catch fire too easily.

 

[sunstruck]

I find that approach vaguely cruel. It leaves the other person in a void of uncertainty. They think they know but they dont' know.

May I ask what prompts you to be so lazy with a relationship? Why is something that was once worth your energies now not worth closure?

See now you're scaring me. I'm still doing the paper work mind you.

 

[Rambling Rose]

Woman please. Did I not let you kick my ass in Scrabble just this week? If that's not friendship I don't know what is. Put your pen and paper away.

 

[honeylick]

The easiest bridges to burn are thos made of wood. Steel and concrete don't catch fire too easily.

nothing a quality accelerant can't remedy.

 

[Minkey Boodle]

Applications for new and improved friendships are being accepted.

I have recommendations. Or, I did until that fateful sock accident.

 

[hogjack]

As the ol' saying goes

A burned bridge gathers no moss.

 

[Rambling Rose]

hogjack, you nutjob. A burning bridge melts in your mouth, not in your hands.

 

[patient1]

I find that approach vaguely cruel. It leaves the other person in a void of uncertainty. They think they know but they dont' know.

May I ask what prompts you to be so lazy with a relationship? Why is something that was once worth your energies now not worth closure?

I was going to give Hamlet's answer myself- usually because if the relationship is broken, it 's only my efforts that keep it standing.

When I stop & the bridge falls, I thought they were left in a void of apathy, not uncertainty. If they are uncertain, or if they miss me, they can call. If they are apathetic, they won't. Apparently it wasn't worth their energy to conclude it.

I've burned a couple, but now it's more my style to wish them luck with their life, or thank them for their contribution mine, or let them know they are always welcome.

I ask myself if I never got another chance, what would I like to say?