BrettJ & NRSE's Beautiful Bistro & Lounge

[BrettJ]

Sorry to hear it ROGUES.

Hello to all and thanks for dropping by. I am going to trust NRSE to handle things here for a bit. Currently, I am not living at home and won't be much for this next week or so. Yes, it's that awful. With the stress and my health, I can't do it much longer. I have a few snippets of "up" but it's not much to live on. My illness either makes me weak or stress does.

I will check in as able. If / when I get to my new (temporary) place of residence, I will check back in.

BrettJ in Canada

 

[Dumpling]

Just stopping by for a quick drink, and to relax for a few because I am hurting something awful. My daughter is going as Wonder Woman.

uh hope your feeling better today
Good Morning "Everybody" wishing you all a great Halloween

 

[SCcouple1990]

Happy Halloween to all. A nice 80 degree fall day here today.

 

[BrettJ]

Looking like a nice day here today. I am HOME for now and heading for a long nap.

BrettJ in Canada

 

[SwtSassyNrse26]

Much too warm for this time of year. The ice rink opens in just over 2 weeks. I'm seriously contemplating moving North !

Hope everyone is feeling fit and sassy. Especially BrettJ I hope you are feeling much much better. And that idiot neighbor quietens down !

 

[BrettJ]

Hello to NRSE and our room-mates.

Sad to say, no, not better. I visited the oncologist today. I now know what I am facing. A year of chemo, radiation, surgery and other miseries. While the cancer may NOT be inoperable, it is serious. I am weak now and I likely will be weaker. I am sick and tired and lonely and scared. Those of you who face health crises, be glad for your loved ones. While I am glad of the support of my family, reality intrudes. My brother is some 6 hours away. My mom is 80. They can only do so much. I don't have a special someone to hug me and make me believe things are going to be fine. I am, in a word, terrified. Two weeks today is my birthday. Will it be my last? I hope not, but there is no way of knowing. All I can do is face this as best I can. Even still, I have the other realities weighing me down. Plus, winter is coming. To be sick and dragged back and forth to hospitals and doctors in the cold is awful.

Some friends are "supportive", but a hint of advice - don't OFFER advice. At times, all someone wants is a bit of sympathy and for you to listen. Most of you (save our friend above) aren't medical professionals. Everyone is different and even if you or "a friend" has been through something, it isn't MY something. Some friends offer platitudes, but little else. Some offer help of "get togethers" that never materialize. If that's want some wish to offer, that makes it worse. I need company and things to look forward to, not things that will never materialize. A simple "I will be thinking of you" can mean more than a promise of company that does not materialize.

Think about this for a moment - it's happened to me. If you offer to meet someone and don't follow through, how are you going to feel if you don't get another chance? My own brother missed an opportunity to say goodbye to our dad. "He who hesitates if lost" is no mere cliche.

I will accept all good wishes and thoughts and spare some for Mooch, my little guy. He's been so sucky since I got home yesterday, he knows things aren't right. I hope that whatever happens, someone will look out for him as well.

In the space of a week, I got hit with an ulcer, cancer and another heart attack. If this is my "baptism of fire", I sure as hell don't want it.

I hope the rest of you had a good day. I am making the best out of days as I can. I miss having boundless energy and being a writer.

Enough moping, moving on ...

BrettJ

Author / Fighting for his fucking Life / Sensualist

 

[Dumpling]

Iam sorry to hear about your poor Health Brett
to bad you dont have any close Relative or Friends close by for some Support
Good Luck and hang in there!
Good Morning "Everybody" its 37 F here Fogy and just another Work Day

 

[BrettJ]

I will do what I have to do to get by LING.

Hello to all - hoping your day will be a pleasant one.

BrettJ in Canada

 

[Titts4Tatts]

BtettJ that was so beautifully written. So thought provoking. I know I'm guilty of not looking out for my own friends better. Thank you for being so open and sharing that. I'm sending you a virtual hug. A really tight close one !

 

[BrettJ]

Thank you T4T.

Home again and idiot is already thrashing about. He was waiting for my return but the cabbie offered to interfere should he try anything. Good thing, because I am on a very short fuse right now.

Broke and facing tomorrow - long stretch ahead.

BrettJ in Canada

 

[Dumpling]

I will do what I have to do to get by LING.

Hello to all - hoping your day will be a pleasant one.

BrettJ in Canada

Good Morning Brett picked up a Coffee and some Donuts for you, just in case you dont have a chance to get out

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[BrettJ]

Thanks LING. Doctor's appointment ended early, so I am going out. Busy day.

BrettJ in Canada

 

[SCcouple1990]

I hop everyone has a good week.

Brett, I hope any appointments you have this week go well.

 

[investor]

Good morning, Bistro! Brought back your basic Italian breakfast for all to enjoy:


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[investor]

BrettJ, thinking about you, and sending good vibes out to the universe, my friend.

 

[Dumpling]

Just a quick Stop to say Hi to Brett & Mr. Investor and anyone else that comes and stops in to post

 

[Ask For More]

Brett! What a terrible run of luck. Hoping that your recovery goes as smoothly as possible.

 

[BrettJ]

Thanks to everyone. It all starts tomorrow, I am already so sick of doctors and medical stuff. I know I have a few years of this to deal with, but honestly ...

I will keep all of you posted, for good or bad.

BrettJ in Canada

 

[Dumpling]

Checking in and to say Hi Good Luck Brett & hang in there

 

[Rogueslady]

uh hope your feeling better today
Good Morning "Everybody" wishing you all a great Halloween

~~~Yes I am feeling better today.

Much too warm for this time of year. The ice rink opens in just over 2 weeks. I'm seriously contemplating moving North !

Hope everyone is feeling fit and sassy. Especially BrettJ I hope you are feeling much much better. And that idiot neighbor quietens down !

~~~ You could always move to Michigan!

Hello to NRSE and our room-mates.

Sad to say, no, not better. I visited the oncologist today. I now know what I am facing. A year of chemo, radiation, surgery and other miseries. While the cancer may NOT be inoperable, it is serious. I am weak now and I likely will be weaker. I am sick and tired and lonely and scared. Those of you who face health crises, be glad for your loved ones. While I am glad of the support of my family, reality intrudes. My brother is some 6 hours away. My mom is 80. They can only do so much. I don't have a special someone to hug me and make me believe things are going to be fine. I am, in a word, terrified. Two weeks today is my birthday. Will it be my last? I hope not, but there is no way of knowing. All I can do is face this as best I can. Even still, I have the other realities weighing me down. Plus, winter is coming. To be sick and dragged back and forth to hospitals and doctors in the cold is awful.

Some friends are "supportive", but a hint of advice - don't OFFER advice. At times, all someone wants is a bit of sympathy and for you to listen. Most of you (save our friend above) aren't medical professionals. Everyone is different and even if you or "a friend" has been through something, it isn't MY something. Some friends offer platitudes, but little else. Some offer help of "get togethers" that never materialize. If that's want some wish to offer, that makes it worse. I need company and things to look forward to, not things that will never materialize. A simple "I will be thinking of you" can mean more than a promise of company that does not materialize.

Think about this for a moment - it's happened to me. If you offer to meet someone and don't follow through, how are you going to feel if you don't get another chance? My own brother missed an opportunity to say goodbye to our dad. "He who hesitates if lost" is no mere cliche.

I will accept all good wishes and thoughts and spare some for Mooch, my little guy. He's been so sucky since I got home yesterday, he knows things aren't right. I hope that whatever happens, someone will look out for him as well.

In the space of a week, I got hit with an ulcer, cancer and another heart attack. If this is my "baptism of fire", I sure as hell don't want it.

I hope the rest of you had a good day. I am making the best out of days as I can. I miss having boundless energy and being a writer.

Enough moping, moving on ...

BrettJ

Author / Fighting for his fucking Life / Sensualist

~~~Brett If you need to rant or vent or just have someone who will listen that is about all I can do so that is what I can offer. Of course it goes without saying that you are in my thoughts as are my other friends who have passed away from cancer including my foster mom, my cousin's would have been mother in law and my friend. Yes it isn't the same thing as knowing what YOU are going through but I do know that it is hell on earth going through the chemo and radiation. My question is are you going to partake in Nature's pain relief that is normally prescribed in this type of situation or do you already partake in it?

 

[BrettJ]

I met with the cancer doctor today (the one at the hospital) My prognosis is not good.

I will not say much here, because I have got a lot to deal with. Suffice it to say, I will not be leading a long & happy life.

If anyone wishes more details, please feel free to PM me. Thanks for the good thoughts. Sorry I didn't have upbeat news. The last 2 days have been horrendous.

BrettJ in Canada

 

[SCcouple1990]

Brett, sorry your news was not better, I was hoping for good news for you. I'm also sorry that I don't have more to offer than positive thoughts and well wishes.

 

[BrettJ]

Thanks - I will take whatever I can get for now.

BrettJ in Canada

 

[Tallcajun]

BrettJ
I add my thoughts and prayers for you, as well. You've allways been a steady voice on the board and welcoming all who chose to come and participate. I wish the best for your situation. Such a pisser getting old. I think we should all visit the "Fuck You, Cancer!" Thread. Peace, brother.

 

[BrettJ]

Thank you Cajun.

I am now in the hands of ... whatever one's spiritual beliefs are, I won't get into theology. I have to live as best as I can and cope. I am sure my loved ones are not going to handle this well. Oh well, at least I didn't vote for Trump (yes, I can still make a joke)

BrettJ in Canada