I didn't know whether this would fit better under 'BDSM' or 'How To', so I've put it in both and am trusting the mods to make the final choice.
The girl I am with right now has mentioned an overt interest in outside-the-norm sexual interests, among which is bondage. I ask her to go into more detail about it one night, and this is how it briefly went:
Me: Tell me more about the domination fantasy.
Her: No pain/sadism/masochism. Speaking generally, I suppose I'd have to say the whole Master/slave relationship, which goes directly hand in hand with domination/submission. And the idea of just being used for someone else's sexual gratification, particularly with males (I'm a bit more dominant with women). But nothing more than collars/leashes, handcuffs/ropes/being tied down...
Me: What do you want your master to do when you're tied down?
Her: Whatever he wants with me.
Now, I'm not especially sexually active, but domination has always been one of my interests, too -- hence the further questioning.
I'm going on a trip until the 1st of August, and when I get back, I plan on breaking into this activity, for both me and her.
This is where you (and your combined centuries of experience) come in. I need some help -- some ideas for how to do this for the first time. I'm also not very sexually aggressive, so some tips on how to better act the 'master' would also be appreciated.
As it stands now, I've been reading a lot of threads in the HT Blank Manual and the BDSM Library to get an idea, and posts #1 and #13 in this thread particularily interested me. I have also contacted her and told her that, while I am gone, she should compile her five favorite stories/videos/pictures/fantasies -- the ones that get her hot just thinking about them -- and e-mail them to me. When I come back, I will review them for a better idea of what to do.
Some final notes:
I intend to go further than just ropes/tying down. I want to make her beg to cum and then beg to stop and then cum again. I want to put her on edge the whole time. So let's not consider the ropes/tying down as an absolute limit -- I am sure that she will willingly go far beyond this.
She is a virgin, and intends to stay that way until marriage. While it may make this activity a bit more...creative...I can and will respect her wishes in this regard.
Finally, she already wears a collar on a regular basis.
Well, have at it. How do you think I should go about it?
The girl I am with right now has mentioned an overt interest in outside-the-norm sexual interests, among which is bondage. I ask her to go into more detail about it one night, and this is how it briefly went:
Me: Tell me more about the domination fantasy.
Her: No pain/sadism/masochism. Speaking generally, I suppose I'd have to say the whole Master/slave relationship, which goes directly hand in hand with domination/submission. And the idea of just being used for someone else's sexual gratification, particularly with males (I'm a bit more dominant with women). But nothing more than collars/leashes, handcuffs/ropes/being tied down...
Me: What do you want your master to do when you're tied down?
Her: Whatever he wants with me.
Now, I'm not especially sexually active, but domination has always been one of my interests, too -- hence the further questioning.
I'm going on a trip until the 1st of August, and when I get back, I plan on breaking into this activity, for both me and her.
This is where you (and your combined centuries of experience) come in. I need some help -- some ideas for how to do this for the first time. I'm also not very sexually aggressive, so some tips on how to better act the 'master' would also be appreciated.
As it stands now, I've been reading a lot of threads in the HT Blank Manual and the BDSM Library to get an idea, and posts #1 and #13 in this thread particularily interested me. I have also contacted her and told her that, while I am gone, she should compile her five favorite stories/videos/pictures/fantasies -- the ones that get her hot just thinking about them -- and e-mail them to me. When I come back, I will review them for a better idea of what to do.
Some final notes:
I intend to go further than just ropes/tying down. I want to make her beg to cum and then beg to stop and then cum again. I want to put her on edge the whole time. So let's not consider the ropes/tying down as an absolute limit -- I am sure that she will willingly go far beyond this.
She is a virgin, and intends to stay that way until marriage. While it may make this activity a bit more...creative...I can and will respect her wishes in this regard.
Finally, she already wears a collar on a regular basis.
Well, have at it. How do you think I should go about it?
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