breaking in

[edgy]

Ok,

here is my question?

Have a somewhat prudish wife, however to some degree her non adventurous side stems in part to some midical problems.

We have lots of sex, just not much more than vanilla. the other night while playing she was open to me trying to fist her. we used lots of lube and i was able to get all my fingers and thumb into her up to about my top nuckle. just was not able to get past her pubic bone for fear of hurting her.

she seemed pretty darn receptive to this and was a big step for her getting a bit adventurous. was wondering if anyone had some tips on how to work her up to the whole fist safely. Dont want to hurt her and turn her off to her kinky side for good.

oh yeah first post here. been an avid reader of the lit for some time tho

 

[DuckLover]

Welcome to Lit!

And congratulations on having an active sex life. Before going any further, I should point out that there is nothing wrong with vanilla sex, even if you never do anything more.

Since your wife has recently shown some interest in becoming more adventurous, you should be supportive without being pushy. Trying to convince her to try other stuff quickly is almost certain to backfire. Instead, show appreciation for what she's already done, or even just tried. A lot of sexual activities take a few tries to figure out how to do right and how to enjoy. Fisting is probably the absolute epitome-- it takes a LOT of patience, trust, and relaxation, even more than anal sex. It's not even possible for some couples. I can tell you from my personal experience that even attempting fisting is an incredibly powerful experience for my gf and me, both physically AND emotionally.

As for how to do it safely and enjoyably, use the search function for threads on "fisting." There have been a few of them recently, and they should be able to answer your questions.

Good luck, and have fun!

 

[tigerjen]

Welcome to Lit!

Nothing wrong w/ having "vanilla sex".....just a few
sprinkles of chocolate and strawberry are nice from time
to time

It's definitely best to take things slow, esp. w/ a partner
who tends to be "prudish" as you've described. Patience
is a virtue, and open communication goes a long way
here......

Just curious but how long have you two been married
for?


tigerjen

 

[edgy]

about 9 yrs now. were together for a few before that.

 

[Different Guy]

Make her feel confident and definately discuss with her what sorta things you want to happen. My girlfriend was the same and now we're having all sorts of wicked sex, as it happened she wanted that but was far to afraid of what I'd think, or even what to do...