Bodies! ps: Fat People Fuck

[Shankara20]

Recently kind words were posted to the pics thread I populate expressing "thanks for including lots of body types". This comment is deeply appreciated.

My ability to see beauty and sexuality in a wide continuum of body styles is an acquired taste, if I'm to be honest. As a young man I carried a rather traditional POV of what constitutes sexual beauty. This changed for many reasons, some of which we might explore here if there is interest. All are welcome to add their own stories.

For now I will mention a couple of examples from my history. In my 40's I visited my first brothel in Nevada. When presented with the ladies for my selection I was stunned to see so many unattractive ladies. So many were grandmothers, really, I can to find out in time are actual grandmothers that looked the roll.

My first BDSM parties were populated, to my discomfort, with many over 50 overweight players.

Well, if wanting sex in Nevada or a spanking in San Francisco, to paraphrase an old war-lord, you fuck the person you have not the person you want. (ps: I'm no prize in the looks department myself)

WOW! Who knew non-Barbies, and non-Kens could be such fantastic lovers!

The title of the thread point to a wonderful poem I head years ago in San Francisco, Fat People Fuck.

Now, years later, as I search to pics to post here I find myself getting all firm and drippy from a huge spectrum of naked sexy people.

Any stories or comments to add

 

[dora_salonica]

My ability to see beauty and sexuality in a wide continuum of body styles is an acquired taste, if I'm to be honest. As a young man I carried a rather traditional POV of what constitutes sexual beauty. This changed for many reasons, some of which we might explore here if there is interest. All are welcome to add their own stories.

Yes, I have seen the photos you have posted and I was actually impressed with the clear sense of esthetic beauty that came across. For each one of them possessed this fine element, which does not relate to perfect beauty or to a slim body per se, but is mostly an aura. And I firmly believe this to be the result of a trained eye in the real beauty of the body - man's or woman's.

I have noticed that younger people, like my children, who are about 21 - 22, consider someone handsome or beautiful when they fit the general consensus of what it is to be beautiful. But I have for the longest time set my own criteria and they are very similar to the aura that is present in Shankara's posted images.

Is this a coincidence? I wonder...

Could it be that something we do - something that perhaps is related to alternative sexuality and eroticism - has honed our sense of beauty so we have developed different criteria, that do not conform to the criteria of the majority?

It is possible, I guess.

I will only say that: I do not turn my head for a model. I do not turn my head for youth. I turn my head when the whiff of a worthy (erotic) personality - expressed in the most subtle body language - is present. I sense it with my sixth sense - and therefore I consider it an acquired taste, much as the appreciation of jazz is...

 

[MeekMe]

You're an inspiration! I love it! \(^_^)/

I have a very narrow spectrum of what I conceive to be pretty. I'll think on this some more.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

I love this topic - thanks, Shank!
Strangely enough, I have never been attracted by traditional beauty, or as I call it, the shell As a matter of fact, I learned very early on that the more beautiful a person is considered, the less likely they are to be interesting and fun, and the more likely they are to be shallow and selfish. Yes, of course this is a stereotype, and yes, of course there are beautiful people in beautiful shells. But I find the scale to be skewed slightly in favour of those not so beautiful people in my eyes. As SOO says, attractive personalities are where it's at!

 

[TamLin01]

I remember the first time I had sex with a skinny woman I was rather disappointed with it. To each their own.

 

[DarlingCunt]

I think there's definitely a preference for thinness in modern society. Maybe it comes down to wanting to be "better" than other people for something. It honestly took me a really long time to be okay with not being thin. There are days when I still struggle with it! But honestly, when it comes down to it, your body is no one's business but your own! Eat a cheeseburger, if you want! Eat a salad if you want! Just don't guilt other people for doing the same.

I know that personally, girls with thick hips make me swoon. It's my absolute favorite feature on women, and that's helped me love my own! It's so annoying to hear people give comments like, "well at least her face is beautiful," or "she's beautiful on the inside." Fuck that! Bodies are beautiful! They make oxygen, they run an entire organ system on instinct alone! Fuck anyone who makes others feel like they need to "make up for" their bodies with a shining personality or something. Body positivity all the way!

(Also, just a reminder, putting down thin girls as "not real women" is not body positivity.)

OWN YOUR BODY, YOU WHO ARE READING THIS! IT ROCKS!

 

[ecstaticsub]

I am attracted to smiles and happiness, wit and charm, compassion and friendliness. This is true whether it be in a man or woman.

That has not changed in my lifetime of dating and flirting. I am especiay attracted to people who are attracted to me.

As I have aged I have found that I find more beauty and comfort in bodies (and minds) that are more like mine. I am in my 50's, I have stretch marks, I have scars, i have a few extra pounds. But I also have a positive attitude, a quick smile and wit and am compassionate. I would date my clone if there was one.

Shankara , I love the pictures you post of people over 40 and 50. I see them as so beautiful, and sexy as hell. Honesty, I have had a crushing blow in self-esteem (it can happen when a dominant takes on a younger submissive) but the pictures you post of woman my age has really helped. I see them as sexy...and to use a word that originally offended me so many years ago but I have grown to appreciate.. fuckable. As in O.M.G...I want them in my bed!

They are some physical attributes that I find unattractive and are a turn off. These tend to be the extremes on either side of the weight scale. However, I know that if I am already in love with someone and they lose an exceptional amount of weight due to illness or gain a great deal for whatever reason I would still find them attractive.

A condescending, elitist, negative or unfriendly attitude is much much more of a turn off than rolls of fat could ever be.

 

[midwestyankee]

The best part of anyone's body is that it is attached to them (and not to someone else).

 

[AKS]

great thread, the title had me ready to attack .

 

[Shankara20]

Thanks for the great comments so far everyone! A few even got me a bit, err, turned on

Durring several of my sex-ed presentations before my retirement I have told audiences that "when I was 30 I found 30 year olds hot, now that I'm over 60 I find 30 year olds and 60 year olds hot!" Age does have its advantages.

To be truthful I tend toward the 60's much more than the 30's now.

I remember dear male friends who were single and unattached as 45 year olds lamenting the fact that they could find no lovers when they were surrounded by many available and interesting and sexy ladies their age. They were hung up on "having" (note the possessive term) 30 somethings under 125#. Too bad. So sad.

... I turn my head when the whiff of a worthy (erotic) personality - expressed in the most subtle body language - is present. I sense it with my sixth sense - and therefore I consider it an acquired taste, much as the appreciation of jazz is...

Sexual attraction can be acquired and developed and no-sexual aspects can be sexualized (sexually associated) and developed as well. As an example, in my late 40's I started to discover my bum as a sex toy. Eventually I reached the point where being fisted became a bit of an obsession. Ass training ensued Slowly focus of hand size in a lover developed . I have now moved away from ass play but to this day when I meet someone new I notice hand size and shape and once in a while I see a hand that makes me go weak in the knees.

I can see a beautiful hot young person and the moment they light up a cigarette they are dead to me.

To take this point of association one more step. How many here have the same feelings in the hardware section at Home Depot you had before you ever visited your first play space?

 

[Shankara20]

PS.... I don't see the relation between your latest question and the original topic... did I misunderstand you?

Fair point. I guess it more a rhetorical statement than an actual question. My bad, sorry.

The point I was attempting to make is that our tastes and desires can change by what associations and focus we apply. What body types we are drawn to can change by the experiences we have.

 

[LeoDecaturAL]

I remember the first time I had sex with a skinny woman I was rather disappointed with it. To each their own.

Women with meat on their bones are much better lovers in my opinion. I thoroughly love thick thighs and heavy breasts.

 

[intothewoods]

I am attracted to smiles and happiness, wit and charm, compassion and friendliness. This is true whether it be in a man or woman.

That has not changed in my lifetime of dating and flirting. I am especiay attracted to people who are attracted to me.

As I have aged I have found that I find more beauty and comfort in bodies (and minds) that are more like mine. I am in my 50's, I have stretch marks, I have scars, i have a few extra pounds. But I also have a positive attitude, a quick smile and wit and am compassionate. I would date my clone if there was one.

Shankara , I love the pictures you post of people over 40 and 50. I see them as so beautiful, and sexy as hell. Honesty, I have had a crushing blow in self-esteem (it can happen when a dominant takes on a younger submissive) but the pictures you post of woman my age has really helped. I see them as sexy...and to use a word that originally offended me so many years ago but I have grown to appreciate.. fuckable. As in O.M.G...I want them in my bed!

They are some physical attributes that I find unattractive and are a turn off. These tend to be the extremes on either side of the weight scale. However, I know that if I am already in love with someone and they lose an exceptional amount of weight due to illness or gain a great deal for whatever reason I would still find them attractive.

A condescending, elitist, negative or unfriendly attitude is much much more of a turn off than rolls of fat could ever be.

OMG - 40 year old fat people FUCKING??? WHAT IS THIS WORLD COMING TO????

 

[TamLin01]

I suppose it's tertiary to the subject, but it has in the past occurred to me that the way we gauge sexual attraction is a bit sideways. If we see a person who is good looking (by whatever standard we're applying) we may want to have sex with them, but being good looking does not make a person a good fuck. Being a good fuck makes a person a good fuck, and how you look is really no indicator at all in that regard. Though I suppose neither is much else.