blow job problem

[Shoshi]

for some reason i cant cum from a blow job, and its really getting to my girlfriend who thinks its her fault... it really isnt cos she's got talent and it feels really nice but i can never go to the point of orgasm... anyone have any idea why that may be? it doesnt bother me as much as people would think, i take more pleasure in what i can do to her then what she does for me, but its upsetting her and i want her to feel more self esteem from it.

 

[cinnamonstick]

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[SweetErika]

Do you masturbate? If so, stop for a few days before you see your girlfriend. You could also ask her to add some hand action into the blowjob so you get a little more stimulation. The most important thing is for you to stop worrying about coming...focus on how wonderful it feels and how beautiful she looks pleasuring you. In time, if none of that works, you may just not be able to cum from a blowjob as CS said. That's okay and normal, and give her plenty of reassurance that she's doing an incredible job.

 

[BlueSugar]

its all in the variation of what could be done during a blowjob. Alot of men just can't cum because a little something is off. I've met two men in my life that said it just doesn't get them off ... I tried a few different things, and just worked with them.

too slow, too much pressure, too much saliva, too little tongue... everyone has something that works for them, ya just have to find it

I personally don't believe that it just can't be done ... but maybe that is just me, lol.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

I've received great bjs and some horrible ones too.

It normally takes me longer to cum when I am getting a bj then it does when I am masturbating but when i do cum it is far better then when I masturbate.

Find what you like when you are masturbating and have her include those things when she is giving you head.

Alot of hand action (jerking motion) and have her not do the same motion with her mouth all the time. What I mean is instead of going up and down, have her go down and when she goes back up have her stop at the head and play with it in her mouth while still jerking you.

I am going to say something that ALOT of guys think is wrong but have her take a finger and play with your asshole while sucking you. The area below the balls to the anal area is an erogenous zone. To put you over the edge, she might take the tip of her finger and insert it into your ass.

Trust me, that should put you over the edge!

 

[LadyJeanne]

I've received great bjs and some horrible ones too.

What makes a blowjob horrible?

 

[Halo_n_horns]

What makes a blowjob horrible?

Teeth.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

What makes a blowjob horrible?

Well teeth can be good but too much teeth is a bad thing.

To me what is not good is just a mouth. I like it when she gets into it, uses her hands, looks into my eyes, basically puts her heart into it.

Make any sense?

 

[Halo_n_horns]

for some reason i cant cum from a blow job, and its really getting to my girlfriend who thinks its her fault... it really isnt cos she's got talent and it feels really nice but i can never go to the point of orgasm... anyone have any idea why that may be? it doesnt bother me as much as people would think, i take more pleasure in what i can do to her then what she does for me, but its upsetting her and i want her to feel more self esteem from it.

If she's one of those really fun women that enjoys the her own flavor, then pull out just as you're about to cum and ket her finish you orally. Do this several times and each time pull out farther and farther before the point of no return.

Typically things like this are just a matter of getting to use to having an orgasm a certain way and needing to retrain your body to enjoy other means.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Well teeth can be good but too much teeth is a bad thing.

To me what is not good is just a mouth. I like it when she gets into it, uses her hands, looks into my eyes, basically puts her heart into it.

Make any sense?

Totally. If a woman is coming across as sincerely enjoying what she's doing then it makes it that much more excting for the guy who is getting the BJ.

 

[rimmy]

What makes a blowjob horrible?

teeth and lots of them

 

[south_florida_bicur]

Totally. If a woman is coming across as sincerely enjoying what she's doing then it makes it that much more excting for the guy who is getting the BJ.

EXACTLY!

Nothing is sexier then looking into her eyes during any type of sex.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Are there really that many women out there who bite?

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Are there really that many women out there who bite?

It's not so much biting as it is scraping their teeth on the head and maybe the shaft. We really don't want to see our dicks come out of a woman's mouth looking like a block of cheese that's been run across a grater.

 

[jradek75]

It's not so much biting as it is scraping their teeth on the head and maybe the shaft.

Exactly. Most woman won't chew it the same way a dog chews a bone. It's the scraping. The occassional scrape isn't that big of a deal. It just becomes really painful when your penis is being used as a tooth rest for a tired mouth.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

It's not so much biting as it is scraping their teeth on the head and maybe the shaft. We really don't want to see our dicks come out of a woman's mouth looking like a block of cheese that's been run across a grater.

ewww and ewww and ewww

 

[LadyJeanne]

Well teeth can be good but too much teeth is a bad thing.

Ok, so can teeth be good too? What feels good?

 

[south_florida_bicur]

Ok, so can teeth be good too? What feels good?

as i listed before:

Find what you like when you are masturbating and have her include those things when she is giving you head.

Alot of hand action (jerking motion) and have her not do the same motion with her mouth all the time. What I mean is instead of going up and down, have her go down and when she goes back up have her stop at the head and play with it in her mouth while still jerking you.

I am going to say something that ALOT of guys think is wrong but have her take a finger and play with your asshole while sucking you. The area below the balls to the anal area is an erogenous zone. To put you over the edge, she might take the tip of her finger and insert it into your ass.

Trust me, that should put you over the edge!

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Ok, so can teeth be good too? What feels good?

Another thing that guys love, that I alluded to earlier in this thread, is the sencerity and the degree of the enjoyment that the giver of the BJ is expressing.

If a woman is just down there to do her "duty" then the blow job is boring and it'll get mentally noted as "coulda been better" or something worse.

But, if the woman giving the BJ is truly enjoying herself, the pleasure she's getting from giving, and the act of doing a blow job, and more importantly if she's showing that she's truly enjoying it, then that will be a blow job to put on the "best of" list.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Almost forgot, the deeper the better, and from what I've been told by the women who I found particularly good at this, if she isn't going to swallow then why is she even there? He can splooge all over himself without you being in the room.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

Almost forgot, the deeper the better, and from what I've been told by the women who I found particularly good at this, if she isn't going to swallow then why is she even there? He can splooge all over himself without you being in the room.

Sorry, I too forgot - swallowing makes it 100 times better.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Oh dear! I must have misphrased my question...

Someone said teeth could be good, but not too much teeth. I was asking what sort of teeth action was good. I didn't realize teeth could be good at all.

But thank you for the tips. I'm happy to say I have most of them covered.

 

[SweetErika]

Almost forgot, the deeper the better, and from what I've been told by the women who I found particularly good at this, if she isn't going to swallow then why is she even there? He can splooge all over himself without you being in the room.

(that's my hubby's response to that comment)

So you'd rather have no incredibly good blowjob at all if the woman's not going to swallow?

 

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[grrrowl]

and her too...

...The most important thing is for you to stop worrying about coming...focus on how wonderful it feels and how beautiful she looks pleasuring you... and give her plenty of reassurance that she's doing an incredible job.

A few people have mentioned, but I'd like to stress the fact that the woman needs to be patient and enjoying the experience.

I've had a few partners who were more frustrated than I that they couldn't make me cum fairly quickly. One was quite an experienced gal, shall we say, and she was at times angry, asking what I was thinking about, and didn't I enjoy it, and what was she doing wrong, and what was wrong with me, and maybe I didn't do it for her... She would get exhausted, of course, and enjoy it less. Communication helped us learn that she really didn't have any hand motion in her technique (which gives the mouth and jaw a welcome rest, I'd imagine). She was still very frustrated if she couldn't give me release, no matter how many times I said it was really okay, maybe I couldn't with oral, or maybe we could hold off for awhile, or toys, or...

Sometimes then, I think it can be partly or largely a woman's attitude that the blowjob isn't "delivering." Like it's been advised in so many other threads, the orgasm should not be strived for so hard that the experience isn't fun for either person. (And I'll reiterate that the woman's attitude can often be a direct result of the guy's lack of communication.)