"Blonde is beautiful" mystique

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Yui and I have sort of had this conversation - about how when we were little we wished we were blonde, and pink, and "pretty."

Thoughts?

'Blonde is beautiful' mystique
By Sheryl McCarthy

"Is it politically correct for us to see King Kong?" a friend joked when the latest version of the movie classic opened. A movie clip that shows Kong staring mesmerized at the fair Ann Darrow, played by Naomi Watts, caused me some uneasiness because it's hard not to see the subliminal racism in a story about a big black beast falling tragically in love with a pale blonde beauty.

But lured by reviews touting the special effects and the dramatic story, I went to see the movie anyway. While it certainly has racial overtones, I was more disturbed by its gender message: that fair-skinned blondeness is the essence of female beauty, so powerful an aphrodisiac that it can tame a savage beast.

King Kong is just the latest ripple in a cultural tidal wave of celebrations of a certain kind of Caucasian beauty. Pick up a newspaper or magazine, or watch the entertainment shows on television, and you're bombarded with a profusion of blondes: Paris, the Nicoles (Ritchie and Kidman), Scarlett, Charlize, Ashlee, Gwyneth, Mary-Kate and Ashley, to name a few. Even the African-American hottie of the moment, Beyonce, has golden skin and flowing blonde hair, while Halle Berry, the African-American actress most celebrated for her beauty, is fair with white features. Even in movies with predominantly black casts, the female objects of desire are consistently fairer than their male counterparts.

A step backward

"We move forward on things, and there are ways we keep stepping back," says Kathe Sandler, an African-American filmmaker whose 1992 documentary, A Question of Color, explored African-Americans' hang-ups about skin color, hair texture and facial features. Lately, she has noticed the extreme sexual objectification of women in popular music videos and the "European premium" placed on the women of color in them. "They've got to have really long hair, and I've never seen so much wig-wearing going on," Sandler says.

Jean Kilbourne, who has studied female images in advertising for 30 years in her film series Killing Us Softly and her book Can't Buy My Love: How Advertising Changes the Way We Think and Feel, says the emphasis on being pretty and sexy, even for young girls, is worse now, the result of companies' desire to sell products and the media working in the service of the advertisers.

The images are impossible for most females to achieve, but they sell products and make girls feel negatively about their own looks. Researchers at Brigham and Women's Hospital in Boston found that the more adolescent and pre-adolescent girls read fashion magazines, the more likely they were to diet and to feel unhappy about their bodies. Researchers at the University of Michigan and Boston College found that while African-American girls ignored images of skinny white female bodies on television and elsewhere, they were concerned about their inability to match white standards of hair and skin color.

Decades after the women's rights movement expanded the view of a woman's worth beyond her physical appearance, and long after the "black is beautiful" movement asserted that African features were also attractive, we seem to be regressing.

It's politically incorrect to admit it, but to some extent we're still color struck. I think of my former colleague, a white blonde, who talked about feeling "rewarded" for her looks every time she walked into a room. I also think of Indian families who tout their daughters' fair complexions in marriage ads, of southern African women who are ruining their skin with bleaching creams, and of the little white, African-American and Asian girls, who despite their parents' assurances that they are beautiful as they are, long for long blonde tresses.

Values unchanged

"Just because you have this movement that expands the image of beauty in women and a 'black is beautiful' movement, doesn't mean people have necessarily changed their minds," says Beverly Greene, a New York psychologist who has plenty of African-American clients. She hears them talk about good hair and bad hair and express concern about their babies' hair texture and color. Nor do these messages all come from the media. They also come from family members, loved ones, trusted figures, who tell females about the extremes they need to go through to make themselves beautiful, and the consequences if they don't.

Beauty standards are driven by racial and gender politics, by Caucasian image-makers who promote their own physical attributes as symbols of their superiority to other groups, and by male fantasies of what makes women desirable. When women are being highly sexualized in the popular culture, it's not surprising that the old standards of beauty hold sway.

I'm glad Kong found true love with Ann Darrow, even though it ended badly. But I'd love to see media outlets promoting more varied images of female beauty, to see black actors and directors who have clout push for the casting of female love interests who aren't just brown-skinned versions of white women.

Parents certainly need to try to mitigate the messages their children get from the media, although they're hard to overcome. And while most of us probably can't do much to change Hollywood's beauty standards, we can talk about them, about how damaging they are, and how important it is not to buy into them.

Sheryl McCarthy is a freelance writer and columnist forNewsdaynewspaper in New York.
 
I'm lucky I'm such a contrarian that standard images of 'beauty' have a tendency to repel me.

Which is kind of prejudicial of me in a way. I have known 'beautiful' people who were also wonderful on top of that.

I sometimes wonder if our society will be the first to be destroyed by its media.
 
OMG...now we are accusing a classic remake of having racial overtones? I'm surprised its not bestiality....where the hell is PETA fighting for the unethical treatment of 50 ft apes?
I don't know where this chick is getting all her info, I have seen quite a few mags and stuff with brunettes featured on the cover.

I'm overtired now.
 
ABSTRUSE said:
OMG...now we are accusing a classic remake of having racial overtones? I'm surprised its not bestiality....where the hell is PETA fighting for the unethical treatment of 50 ft apes?
I don't know where this chick is getting all her info, I have seen quite a few mags and stuff with brunettes featured on the cover.

I'm overtired now.

yeah, that was a little over the top, I agree, but I still think the rest of the article has merit - especially about black women.
 
cloudy said:
yeah, that was a little over the top, I agree, but I still think the rest of the article has merit - especially about black women.
I love Oprah. :heart:
 
vella_ms said:
i was hoping she would adopt me.
i love her puppy dogs.
I'll send her a picture of you and a really, really heartwrenching note.
 
ABSTRUSE said:
I'll send her a picture of you and a really, really heartwrenching note.
seriously... dont laugh. well, ok, laugh if it makes you feel better.

once upon a time, when the world looked like a pit of vipers sealed with doom, i did send a letter to oprah.
i got a responce...
"...at this time, we are unable to use your story..."
hrm. how much more heartbreaking can you get than my past life, i ask you?
 
vella_ms said:
seriously... dont laugh. well, ok, laugh if it makes you feel better.

once upon a time, when the world looked like a pit of vipers sealed with doom, i did send a letter to oprah.
i got a responce...
"...at this time, we are unable to use your story..."
hrm. how much more heartbreaking can you get than my past life, i ask you?
Damn....rejected by Oprah. I don't know what to say....I would be crushed and then have to stalk her.
 
ABSTRUSE said:
Damn....rejected by Oprah. I don't know what to say....I would be crushed and then have to stalk her.
yes, but that takes so much energy and i need all i have just to drink my first cup of coffee each day.
 
vella_ms said:
yes, but that takes so much energy and i need all i have just to drink my first cup of coffee each day.
Understood.

Back on the Black women and asian women....I would jump Pam Grier in a heartbeat...and Lucy Lu as well.
 
ABSTRUSE said:
Understood.

Back on the Black women and asian women....I would jump Pam Grier in a heartbeat...and Lucy Lu as well.
Just list the ones you wouldn't jump, kay?
 
I prefer blondes... but I'd jump the green dancer from Star Trek in a heartbeat.

I find white girls are more likely not to be stuck on racial stereotypes; I don't fit into my racial stereotype too comfortably so for a long time I wasn't the kind of male women of my color found attractive.

Now, it's a question of socialization... each step of the way up the economic ladder there are more and more white girls in my social environment and less of others.

But I've found a comprimise... my present girl is majoring in Spanish.


ElSol
 
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Well if you want to see what those models look like before the photos are touched up...

Go here it will amaze you.
 
cloudy said:
yeah, that was a little over the top, I agree, but I still think the rest of the article has merit - especially about black women.
I agree with you.

I am a woman with strawberry blonde hair, tending to auburn. My figure is slender, but slightly rounded. When Lindsay Lohan went platinum and became an emaciated stick figure, I thought - My god! That woman just deliberately obliterated the identifying features of my own personal brand of attractiveness! :rolleyes:

In trying to think of sexy women with dark skin and African features portrayed in the media, the only one that comes to mind is a model who occasionally appears in my Victoria's Secret catalog. There is a picture of her here:

http://*******.com/b5cjs

To put this discussion in the content of erotic fiction, I would be interested to know how many females in each ethnic group may be found in the TopList stories here at Lit. And if non-Caucasian women appear in a tale, are they described with essentially Caucasian features?

But as long as we're on the subject of unrealistic standards of beauty, why not mention this culture's obsession with youth. How many popular Lit stories contain passionate and desireable females who are over 30 or (god forbid!) 40 years old? And among those, how many stories include a disclaimer such as: somehow, this 40 year old mother has retained the breasts of a 25 year old? :rolleyes:

That was an interesting article, Cloudy. Thanks for posting it.

Alice
 
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alice_underneath said:
I agree with you.

I am a woman with strawberry blonde hair, tending to auburn. My figure is slender, but slightly rounded. When Lindsay Lohan went platinum and became an emaciated stick figure, I thought - My god! That woman just deliberately obliterated the identifying features of my own personal brand of attractiveness! :rolleyes:

In trying to think of sexy women with dark skin and African features portrayed in the media, the only one that comes to mind is a model who occasionally appears in my Victoria's Secret catalog. There is a picture of her here:

http://*******.com/b5cjs

To put this discussion in the content of erotic fiction, I would be interested to know how many females in each ethnic group may be found in the TopList stories here at Lit. And if non-Caucasian women appear in a tale, are they described with essentially Caucasian features?

But as long as we're on the subject of unrealistic standards of beauty, why not mention this culture's obsession with youth. How many popular Lit stories contain passionate and desireable females who are over 30 or (god forbid!) 40 years old? And among those, how many stories include a disclaimer such as: somehow, this 40 year old mother has retained the breasts of a 25 year old? :rolleyes:

That was an interesting article, Cloudy. Thanks for posting it.

Alice

In my stories, you'll find very little physical description beyond "dark hair" or "tall." I don't find it necessary, and apparently my readers don't either. ;) I also have never mentioned age, now that I think about it.

I have one blonde in a story, and I made her blonde to deliberately contrast her with the protag, who is dark.

Culture is a funny thing. I gravitate naturally towards darker guys - dark hair, dark eyes - and if his hair is long, the lust meter goes way up. It's probably a cultural thing, for me, but I wonder about how much influence the dominant culture actually has. As I mentioned, Yui (who is asian) and I have talked about when we were little, and the "pretty" girls were all blonde and blue-eyed.

I'm over that, now, but it did have an effect at the time, and it wasn't a nice one.
 
cloudy said:
In my stories, you'll find very little physical description beyond "dark hair" or "tall." I don't find it necessary, and apparently my readers don't either. ;) I also have never mentioned age, now that I think about it.
In my opinion, what you have just described is a very smart strategy for a writer of erotic fiction.

This helps the reader imagine him/herself as one of the people in the tale. It also allows the reader to project whatever characteristics cause the "lust meter" to go way up onto others in the tale.

cloudy said:
Culture is a funny thing. I gravitate naturally towards darker guys - dark hair, dark eyes - and if his hair is long, the lust meter goes way up. It's probably a cultural thing, for me, but I wonder about how much influence the dominant culture actually has. As I mentioned, Yui (who is asian) and I have talked about when we were little, and the "pretty" girls were all blonde and blue-eyed.

I'm over that, now, but it did have an effect at the time, and it wasn't a nice one.
If one is constantly presented with an ideal of beauty that would be impossible to attain, a considerable amount of angst seems unavoidable.

Alice
 
I didn't want to be blonde...I just wanted straight hair.

I used to take half slips and put them over my curly, unruly hair and pretend my hair was straight...or wear my mom's wigs...

I will admit that I tend to wonder if the blonde walking in front of me is pretty....but on the same merit, I wonder if the redhead has green or blue eyes...


Alice...most of my stories deal with 40 year old women ~ and their characteristics are based on what I look like. Which isn't always a good thing....

There is a fascination in this world about being beautiful ~ and we all fall victim to it.
 
Honey123 said:
I didn't want to be blonde...I just wanted straight hair.

I used to take half slips and put them over my curly, unruly hair and pretend my hair was straight...or wear my mom's wigs...

I will admit that I tend to wonder if the blonde walking in front of me is pretty....but on the same merit, I wonder if the redhead has green or blue eyes...


Alice...most of my stories deal with 40 year old women ~ and their characteristics are based on what I look like. Which isn't always a good thing....

There is a fascination in this world about being beautiful ~ and we all fall victim to it.
The "straight hair" thing is a big one. Curly hair was in fashion for a while, but only a short while.
 
Honey123 said:
Alice...most of my stories deal with 40 year old women ~ and their characteristics are based on what I look like. Which isn't always a good thing.....
I haven't read your stories, but I will check them out as soon as I have time. (I am 45, btw.)

Honey123 said:
There is a fascination in this world about being beautiful ~ and we all fall victim to it
I was going to ask why you selected that avatar, but I think you just answered my question.

Alice
 
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