BJ help needed!

[Vivacia]

I want to be able to please my SO to the best of my ability, and though I love to give him a BJ I feel physically sick when I think of him shooting his load into my mouth.

I know alot of it is phsycological (sp?) due to the fact one of my Ex's forced me to give him a BJ and held my head there till he had finished.

It kind of put me off all together for quite awhile, and though I can now give head again, I won't take chances on getting cum in my mouth or even being close enough where I may smell it as this makes me gag.

Is there anyway you can suggest that I can get over this? I really want to be able to learn to swallow again, as I know my SO gets a kick out of BJ's and I would like to be able to finish the job in a disirable manner for him.

 

[foxxxyred]

Hi sweetie

Maybe starting out just licking his cum off your fingers perhaps? Or licking it off his body after he masterbates?



(Or else i could come over and make sure you were nice and relaxed while you went down on him...i'm sure i could do something to take your mind off swallowing and you'll have done it before you've even realised!! )

 

[Vivacia]

Hi sweetie

Maybe starting out just licking his cum off your fingers perhaps? Or licking it off his body after he masterbates?



(Or else i could come over and make sure you were nice and relaxed while you went down on him...i'm sure i could do something to take your mind off swallowing and you'll have done it before you've even realised!! )

Hmm, Hiya sexy-thang!

Now that is an offer I could take you up on... <drools>

But I will give the other suggestions a go too!

 

[Igorovich]

How to finish a BJ

Vivacia:

What a delightful name for a sensuous woman and what sights it conjures up!

First, do not worry about not allowing him to finish in your mouth. I have had only a couple of women who really enjoyed the sensation of cum being shot into their mouths.

The suggestions of letting him come onto his stomach adn his cock are excellent. The resommendation to then lick the cum off him is fantastic. I have been told that this easier to do than the sensation of the hot cum exploding in your mouth. It is also a great turn-on for the man.

Take your time, become comfortable with the taste of cum which has cooled a little bit, then try letting him cum in your mouth. Or, let him finish his first spurts of cum then take his cock in your mouth and finish him thusly. Cleaning him up afterwards will turn him on, I guarantee. Then find out how he feels about it and kiss him with the taste of him cum on your lips and tongue.

And be sure to kiss him after he has eaten you, sharing the taste of your own juices.

whichever, you sound like you have the makings of an excellent fellatrice. Desire to please is the biggest part of any sex act, and you have that desire.

Igor

 

[Vivacia]

Re: How to finish a BJ

Vivacia:

What a delightful name for a sensuous woman and what sights it conjures up!

First, do not worry about not allowing him to finish in your mouth. I have had only a couple of women who really enjoyed the sensation of cum being shot into their mouths.

The suggestions of letting him come onto his stomach adn his cock are excellent. The resommendation to then lick the cum off him is fantastic. I have been told that this easier to do than the sensation of the hot cum exploding in your mouth. It is also a great turn-on for the man.

Take your time, become comfortable with the taste of cum which has cooled a little bit, then try letting him cum in your mouth. Or, let him finish his first spurts of cum then take his cock in your mouth and finish him thusly. Cleaning him up afterwards will turn him on, I guarantee. Then find out how he feels about it and kiss him with the taste of him cum on your lips and tongue.

And be sure to kiss him after he has eaten you, sharing the taste of your own juices.

whichever, you sound like you have the makings of an excellent fellatrice. Desire to please is the biggest part of any sex act, and you have that desire.

Igor

Thankyou for your sweet comments! And I will give the suggestions a try and see what happens...

Thanks to all that responded thus far!

 

[DeViLeD_AnGeL]

Hey

i feel ur pain. I kinda had the same experience..

I bought a wet lubriacant stuff.. cherry and watermelon flavored. Its easy to get. Make sure u get the kind that you can eat...
The smell wont be their anymore, and the taste will be much much better..
You will either taste cherries or it will be flavorless.


A lot of girls I know dont swallow it. They let the guy cum in their mouth and then spit it out either on penis or unto a towel or something.


Another suggestion is having him eat the right foods.. Eating greasy things or the first morning cum can be really nasty..


hope that helps?


good luck!!

-jen

 

[Javagirl]

ah my dear girl : )

First of all, can I kick that ex boyfriend's ass who forced you to stay down there to finish him off? his nuts would have been on a platter-- if any dude EVER did that to me I'd never be seeing his sorry again.

If you really dig this guy and if he completely and totally sexually arouses you, don't worry so much about the swallowing part. I never, EVER thought I'd like it and the first time wasn't too great (my first sexual experience wasn't so hot so probably why I didn't dig it). But then I had this little fling one summer and it was pretty much oral sex only and that's when I learned to LOVE to give BJs.
Go slowly, use your hands to stroke him, lick off his pre-cum...just make it really sexy and build it up...I love swirling my tip around the hard swollen tip and sucking off the precum and tell my lover how good he tastes...another trick if you don't like the taste..sounds weird but works ; ) try sucking a mint or chewing gum before and also my past lovers loved the icy mint feeling it gave them on their cocks : ) (my ex bfriend loved for me to suck a cough drop--menthol- and give him head--drove him nuts hah!) Don't feel like you have to SWALLOW...I have a lot of female friends who are grossed out on it also--but if you really do like him/love him...well you'll just get to that point where you are so turned that you HAVE to feel his creamy come shooting down your throat...but NEVER force yourself to do it just because he wants it...do what you want--compromise...there have been times when I haven't felt like swallowing so I came up with some other fun alternatives...like pushing his thick cock btwn my breasts and feeling/watching him come over my breasts..mmm now that's hot!! or just even stroking him into your hands...watching him come as he watches you stroking him is very hot also...just use your imagination and have fun--don't worry, hon : ) you'll do great!!!

 

[Vivacia]

Hey

i feel ur pain. I kinda had the same experience..

I bought a wet lubriacant stuff.. cherry and watermelon flavored. Its easy to get. Make sure u get the kind that you can eat...
The smell wont be their anymore, and the taste will be much much better..
You will either taste cherries or it will be flavorless.


A lot of girls I know dont swallow it. They let the guy cum in their mouth and then spit it out either on penis or unto a towel or something.


Another suggestion is having him eat the right foods.. Eating greasy things or the first morning cum can be really nasty..


hope that helps?


good luck!!

-jen

Where can I find the lube you mentioned? It sounds like a good idea (as do the others too)

 

[SailorC272002]

I want to be able to please my SO to the best of my ability, and though I love to give him a BJ I feel physically sick when I think of him shooting his load into my mouth.

I know alot of it is phsycological (sp?) due to the fact one of my Ex's forced me to give him a BJ and held my head there till he had finished.

It kind of put me off all together for quite awhile, and though I can now give head again, I won't take chances on getting cum in my mouth or even being close enough where I may smell it as this makes me gag.

Is there anyway you can suggest that I can get over this? I really want to be able to learn to swallow again, as I know my SO gets a kick out of BJ's and I would like to be able to finish the job in a disirable manner for him.

One rotten jerk, spoiled things for who knows how many guys.

 

[Guest]

bad taste

Another suggestion is having him eat the right foods.. Eating greasy things or the first morning cum can be really nasty..
hope that helps? good luck!!

-jen

I've heard things before about men being able to change the taste by eating the right things. You mention what he shouldnt eat, but can you suggest things that he could eat to make it taste better?

I'm having the same problem as Vivacia. I've been dating my boyfriend for many years and I've only been able to let him finish in my mouth twice. Both times I immediately ( and
violently) threw up. So now everytime I smell or think of his cum it makes me nauseous.

I hate it because I absolutely love to give him blowjobs and it makes me feel so horrible that he has had to train himself not to release until after my mouth is off of him. He says he doesnt mind, but I really wish I could complete for him. I know it would drive him insane.

I also think that because I've psyched myself out that it isnt just about the taste and smell anymore. Its also about the texture of it. I hate the way it feels in my mouth and I'm not sure if I could even lick it off of his finger or mine. Does anyone have any mental tricks that I could use to keep me from freaking out when it touches my tongue? Maybe something I could imagine instead or anything?

 

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