Bisexuals: Gender-virgin?

[Ms_Lilith]

I am talking with a lovely friend of mine on msn right now, and I just said to her that it's been so long since I was with a woman, I feel like I'm girl-virgin again.

Do you ever get that? Like, you've dated a member of one sex for so long that you feel like you've forgotten how to please members of the OTHER sex? I just... I think I'd be useless with a woman right now, unless she was patient, and willing to re-teach.

 

[ohfaque]

I am talking with a lovely friend of mine on msn right now, and I just said to her that it's been so long since I was with a woman, I feel like I'm girl-virgin again.

Do you ever get that? Like, you've dated a member of one sex for so long that you feel like you've forgotten how to please members of the OTHER sex? I just... I think I'd be useless with a woman right now, unless she was patient, and willing to re-teach.

I have never had that problem, but again, I am not gay or Bisexual.

After looking at the board this is in, I really need to pay attention where I post.

 

[MzChrista]

But I AM a virgin with that other sex!

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

But I AM a virgin with that other sex!

YES!!!! (and i bet that most men are mourning their poor lil hearts out right now!!!) Hi!!!

As for me...most of the last year has been spent with a guy...so i am not sure if i would be good for the first female i run across. But, I know i would try like hell!!!!

PET

 

[SweetCherry]

I went 10 years without a woman. I found that I'd not forgotten anything. I remembered that better than I remembered how to ride a bike.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

It's not like I'm looking for a woman (though recently had the opportunity to be with one.... but the circumstances sucked, so I said no).... I just... when I wonder if I'd be READY to be with another woman again, my mind thinks that I'd be a sad failure at giving her pleasure.. *wry smile*... which creates this shitty cycle....

Not been with a woman for a while
afraid to be bad in bed
hide away from female-female contact
stay away from women, get even LESS experience
afraid to be bad in bed


etc.

*sigh*

I'm such a dork sometimes.

 

[seXieleXie]

vix, i don't think it's about experience. i mean, it helps but in general being good in bed doesn't come automatically after a requisite number of notches on your bedpost. it's an attitude, a willingness to listen to your partner and find out what she (or he) likes.

i think it's unnecessary to shy away from women because you're nervous you'll be bad in bed. something tells me that with the right girl, with the chemistry flowing, you'll find your way.

 

[Pyper]

*stalks lexie*

 

[Ms_Lilith]

vix, i don't think it's about experience. i mean, it helps but in general being good in bed doesn't come automatically after a requisite number of notches on your bedpost. it's an attitude, a willingness to listen to your partner and find out what she (or he) likes.

i think it's unnecessary to shy away from women because you're nervous you'll be bad in bed. something tells me that with the right girl, with the chemistry flowing, you'll find your way.

Thank you, Lexie... *shy smile* I just... I've been VERY good with women in the past.. never a complaint... and some screaming affirmation... but for example.. I've been giving head for almost two years now... and hope I'll be just as good at licking pussy when the time comes.

I'm just being a dork, as I mentioned earlier... *grin*

And I'm feeling lusty, so that doesn't help.

 

[James Blandings]

I have gone through long periods in my life where I went all one way or all the other.
It really has never been a problem to readjust when the pendulum swung in the other direction.

 

[april-wine]

It's all about listening, feeling, paying close attention....

 

[Etoile]

vix, i don't think it's about experience. i mean, it helps but in general being good in bed doesn't come automatically after a requisite number of notches on your bedpost. it's an attitude, a willingness to listen to your partner and find out what she (or he) likes.

So wait a minute, you mean I ruined a perfectly good bedpost?!

 

[seXieleXie]

So wait a minute, you mean I ruined a perfectly good bedpost?!

well, it'll make a good toothpick now

*stalks lexie*

hey there little lady. what's a sweet thing like you doing in a place like this?

 

[Etoile]

well, it'll make a good toothpick now

Aww, I'm only 22! It's still good for a popsicle stick.

 

[WhisperHaven]

Passion-virgin

Do you ever get that? Like, you've dated a member of one sex for so long that you feel like you've forgotten how to please members of the OTHER sex? I just... I think I'd be useless with a woman right now, unless she was patient, and willing to re-teach.

It doesn't really have to do with someone of the same sex for me, as much as I feel that if I ever got the chance again to be with someone who is passionate, I feel like I have forgotten how to have a passionate, intimate encounter; how to respond to passion; how to be passionate without shaking in my boots like a virgin.

 

[Pyper]

hey there little lady. what's a sweet thing like you doing in a place like this?

Watching for updates on the Hot Gay Sex thread.

 

[alltherage]

I am talking with a lovely friend of mine on msn right now, and I just said to her that it's been so long since I was with a woman, I feel like I'm girl-virgin again.

Do you ever get that? Like, you've dated a member of one sex for so long that you feel like you've forgotten how to please members of the OTHER sex? I just... I think I'd be useless with a woman right now, unless she was patient, and willing to re-teach.

Nope. I suppose I could fall off the bike but I expect that its true that once I learned I would never forget.

 

[BlueSugar]

I so feel the same way as your lovely friend. I just got out of a long relationship and the first thing I thought was, I miss women. Maybe I was being a little mean bc it ended rocky, and I'm sure I might take my curses to the penis back, but for now ::smiles:: I want to get reacquainted.

It doesnt' help that a friend's gf is leading me on by saying things like "my boi wont give me head, he doesn't please me in bed, i bet a girl would do better"

She doesn't know my situation, and I've been trying to help her out verbally (and him too) by being a mini sex therapist ...but OI is it wrong to want to dive into her pants and shut her up? lol